Would you say you're over your break up? I know you made some big changes post break up in your life which is great. I just don't know how to do the same or what that looks like for me. I broke up with my ex about two months after you did and I just don't feel completely okay like you seem. I don't cry about him or anything but I do miss him, I guess I don't know how to forget five years worth of history.
Every single break-up and how people handle it is different and there is no “correct” approach to doing so– people take their own time in their own ways and that is different for everyone :) Some days I still find myself wondering how things could have turned out differently but this is where my faith comes in and I have to believe that better things lie ahead, no matter what they are. Things have a funny way of working out and falling into place and we just have to believe in that. We don’t have to be 100% okay right away (or even months after), but we just have to know that we WILL be okay. You were happy before them and you will be happy again without them :) Missing them is so, so normal– they became a big part of your life and that doesn’t just go away, especially five years!!!!! Give yourself time babe. You will heal– but yes yes yes yes it will take time!
“I am trying to see things in perspective. My dog wants a bite of my peanut butter chocolate chip bagel. I know she cannot have this, because chocolate makes dogs very sick. My dog does not understand this. She pouts and wraps herself around my leg like a scarf and purrs and tries to convince me to give her just a tiny bit. When I do not give in, she eventually gives up and lays in the corner, under the piano, drooping and sad. I hope the universe has my best interest in mind like I have my dogs. When I want something with my whole being, and the universe withholds it from me, I hope the universe thinks to herself: Silly girl. She thinks this is what she wants, but she does not understand how it will hurt.“ – THEORIES ABOUT THE UNIVERSE by Blythe Baird