• dude he’d probably meet you on social media when he sees you’re posting memes • but he’s like…that’s a girl and…she’s really pretty…so why is she posting about those damn Daniel memes still • he’s hella chill when you meet him, and is basically a walking, talking, breathing meme so you get along perfectly • him making you think he’s free before anything is set, and being upset at him bc Jackson decides to take them to Hong Kong the day you were supposed to hang out with Bam • “Sorry y/n, but he’s my hyung and I low key wanna see what his parents are like for him to be this way” • being extra af together • flexing on your ex’s together (flexing on everyone tbh, so much showing off) • laughing at memes together • both of you being giant memes and always try to get into whatever something new that’s trending • literally everyone thinks you’re dating but you’re just super close • jokingly calling himself your ‘man’ if another guy dares to get close to you • bc he’s hella protective and cautious when it comes to you, and thinks they all have bad intentions • trying to hook him up with some of your friends who think he’s cute • but aw poor puppy, he gets too shy and tells you he isn’t looking for a relationship • late-night drive thru adventures • where you’re eating nuggets and powdered donuts, talking about the universe • and how you must’ve been twins in another lifetime bc yall are so similar • him laughing at your lame jokes bc he always wants to be there for you (and your satisfied expression when you see someone laughing always gets him man, he’s emo) • sharing clothes • literally will rip your jeans or tear off one sleeve bc he thinks ‘this is the new trend’ • but he just wants you to act and look crazy with him in public so he doesn’t feel alone • *forgetting* his wallet so you’d always end up paying for his ice cream cone from the shop down the street • twerking with you and making you stop to record him looking hella aesthetic as he shakes his nonexistent booty to ‘bae bae’ • looking at pictures of cute guys and girls together, and stalking their instagram • him liking their post from like 2929393938383 weeks ago and you realize- • that’s your phone • and he’s logged in on your account • “I’m giving you a 2 seconds head start before I’m cutting all your Gucci slippers and breaking your Rolex, you little b-” • so reliable and his shoulder is always there for you to cry on • after teasing you for being sad lololol he’s just always happy around you and you sorta are the reason for that • he’d become v serious and talks about the hard work he goes through • and how sometimes it’s hard to not say “screw it” and give up • so you should cheer up bc you’ve got him and he’s not going anywhere anytime soon • “stop dabbing, you’re gonna get whiplash” • spoils you on your birthday and ONLY on your birthday • bc he thinks everyone should be treated like royalty on their birthday (esp him) • and probs buys you designer belts and turns up w/ you all night long • gets annoyed when the others get to know you better bc back off wth…she’s my best friend, get your own • giving you a dirty look when you compliment one of the members and tell him they look cute • gives you the cold shoulder until you apologized and tell him that he’s the only 'man’ in your life • crying together over movies and TV shows that you’re both watching • like he’d be on tour and you just finished this episode and you gotta tell him what happened… • “bam, she dies!!!! *sniff* her brother kills her-” • hangs up on you and doesn’t speak to you until he’s gotten over his grudge and gets caught up with the episodes • buys you hella makeup when he’s away, and hides it all over your house when he comes back just to see you struggle in excitement as he’s smirking • teasing you all the mf time, but he just loves you to death and only wants to see you happy • honestly…this is goals on so many levels, and we all need a best friend like this hamster 🐹
Could you write a post about INTJs and why they fail. Examine some of the popular INTJs and explain why they failed. For ex. Voldemort, etc. also maybe how they can succeed. I'm not evil,I swear.
Sure you’re not. But if you take over the world, I want in.
(Notice how my brain immediately switched to “villain” after you said “popular” simply because you used Voldemort as an example. I love my INTJ villains, so if you were hoping for something other than villains, it sucks to be you.)
Many INTJ villains fail because they have to; fiction usually dictates the good guys win (unless you are George R.R. Martin), so the INTJ has to make some stupid nonsensical mistake that their Te would probably not make in real life. Such as: leaving the hero alive (so he can cause trouble later) rather than shooting him in the face. Or stopping to boast about what a genius you are, which gives him time to figure out how to stop your maniacal plan.
If Te-using villains were like actual evil Te’s and had zero moral foundation, the movie or television series would be short, because they would simply “deal with the problem” (Te) and kill the heroes right out of the gate. Like, for example (because I love using him as one) – the cardinal in The Musketeers TV show. The series does an excellent job of establishing him as a solid Ni-Te thinking villain, where most of his decisions and evil actions are motivated through Te.
But then, there’s Lady deWinter.
As my INTJ friend pointed out, from a detached “villain” perspective, she is a loose cannon and if this were real life, and the cardinal really was a narcissist incapable of mercy (thus without any moral conscience), killing her would be the most rational solution (Te), because she endangers him at every turn. He cannot control her, she frequently screws up his plans, and threatens to ‘out’ him through association. She’s a psychopath, which means she could turn on him. Any evil INTJ would know this right out of the gate.
But because the screenwriters “like” her, and want her in the plot, the INTJ villain lets her live, in a colossal betrayal of his functional development.
That’s just an example of real life villainy vs. contrived writing. ;)
(If you want to avoid your villain murdering your hero, but still have an NTJ villain, make damn sure it’s not a “convenient” out unworthy of strong Te. Either he never managed to get his hands on your hero, or he has a rational reason for letting him live. Your hero has to be smarter than the evil NTJ villain.)
Anyway, side trip, back to the main point: INTJs fail because of poor Se.
Se is what grounds a Ni into reality. Unless an INTJ develops it, their futuristic vision or expectation lacks realistic expectations. Their perception about people, situations, or ideas will be wrong. They can become so obsessed with their dream of what the future will be, that they neglect to look around them and see what’s happening right now. And, a poor Se will make them “lazy” and “unmotivated,” so they may sit around and scheme or dream or plan and never actually get up and do anything to make those visions real.
(Example of extreme inferior-Se laziness: the cardinal telling deWinter to plant evidence in someone’s room, when he could walk upstairs and do it himself. :P)
OR… they will act irrationally and impulsively with Se, and ruin the entire thing, because FOR ONCE they didn’t think first and then can’t scramble fast enough (more poor Se) to cover their tracks (see the Musketeers season one two-part finale for a great example of the cardinal doing this).
Voldemort failed because of his arrogance. He was intelligent enough to assume he had covered all his bases and that no one could beat him. He failed because he could not adapt to his environment (bad Se). He failed because he was so fixated on making his personal vision of the future real (I will never die, I will be invincible) he did not look around or bother internalizing the meaning of Potter. He focused on the threat and missed everyone’s motivations. Because he is poor at Fi, he made a mistake common to Te users (good or bad): he underestimated how much people care.
Voldemort murdered Lily Potter, which turned Snape against him. He assumed it would not matter. He was wrong. That killed him long before his actual death. He was dead the minute he discounted Snape’s feelings.
You see this in a “good” INTJ character in the Wolf Hall books who makes the same mistake when he arranges a rational marriage for Henry VIII (a foreign princess, an alliance, everyone wins!) and then forced him to hold to it, due to diplomacy, even though Henry hated her. Cromwell signed his death certificate the minute he did that.
What is RATIONAL is not always good for people’s feelings.
Almost all INTJ villains fall into one of these traps: bad Se (misjudging situations, being delusional, failing to adapt in a dangerous situation, or acting impulsively at the wrong moment, because they cannot sense the right moment) or Te devaluation of others’ emotions (killing someone another person cares about, which causes them to turn on them later).
Non-villains still make these mistakes, but there’s nothing vindictive behind it.
Now, how as a sane, moral human being can you succeed?:
Develop your Se. Stop just trusting your hunches and look for evidence. Stop fixating on the future and engage with the present. Stop standing on the sidelines and physically engage with the world once in awhile. Stop being so intellectual that you are a physically lazy human being.
Develop your Fi. If you dismiss and belittle people, sneer at them, etc., they will not like you. To get anywhere in this world, people must like you. Healthy Te understands the world is “give and take” and unnecessary drama, insults, sarcasm, etc., is unprofessional and immature. You need not engage with people’s feelings, but you must respect them and the power they have over other people, even if they seem silly.
Don’t be afraid to take a chance. Sometimes, you have to stop thinking and try. If you fail, you recoup and try again. We are not defined by our failures, but by our willingness to keep trying.
Give yourself reasonable goals. Ones you can work toward in the short and long term, which will allow you to see you are moving forward. If you develop your Se enough, your goals will be achievable, because you will have a sense of how much you can do. Using Te too much will wear you out, so pace yourself.
This year I am comitted to journaling every day. To make sure I am inspired to write I’ve compiled a list of prompts using journaling prompts, list prompts and self-discovery questions. Feel free to use!
365 Days of Journaling
1. Your New Year’s Resolutions.
2. Personal fact file.
3. Review of 2014
4. How can you treat yourself more gently this year? Things you could lighten up on yourself about?
5. List 5 simple activities to nurture yourself.
6. What do you need to stop worrying about?
8. What do you repeatedly re-evaluate? Can you let it go?
9. List things you should be proud of.
10. What negative phrases do you say about your body? Can you replace them with positive affirmations about your body?
11. List 10 things your body does that is amazing.
12. How are you sleeping?
14. In my heart I know the one way I can nurture my bod more this year is ___.
15. What makes you feel loved and cared for?
16. How does social media affect you?
17. List your greatest comforts.
18. Book Review
19. Design your outdoor area/garden.
20. Who do you want to surround yourself with this year?
21. An artist that inspires you.
22. List current and future goals and dreams.
23. What’s something you do differently to other people?
24. List what you are grateful for.
25. What’s something you want to do but haven’t?
27. List things you do to procrastinate.
28. Do you feel worthy of nurturing and gentle care? How does it feel for you to say ‘I am deserving of loving care. I take time to take care of myself?’
29. List words that touch your soul.
30. I wish animals could…… If they could, then…..
31. Has your greatest fear come true?
32. Never have I ever list.
33. What’s holding you back?
34. List dream jobs.
35. Favourite recipe.
36. List fictional characters with whom you have fallen in love.
38. I am inspired by…
39. Your favourite flower?
40. Movie Review.
41. ‘If I won the lottery’ list.
42. In this moment are you happy?
44. List things you like to do when you’re sick.
45. Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend?
46. ‘If I ruled the world’ list.
47. Words to live by.
48. I wish I had one more chance to….. Then I would…..
49. 5 things you want in a relationship.
50. My overused words and phrases.
52. Recipe for a perfect weekend.
53. Make a table, 10 things you love and hate about your body.
54. List your greatest achievements.
55. Doodle here.
56. What’s your happiest childhood memory?
57. In ten years from now where would you like to be?
58. What’s your perfect trip?
59. When have you felt most passionate?
60. Your skills.
61. I wish I could forget the time I ….. because….
62. Book Review.
64. If not now – when?
65. Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil?
66. Do you feel like you’ve lived this day before?
67. Write a letter, Dear Past Me.
68. What would you wish for if a genie granted you 3 wishes?
69. The most disappointed I’ve ever been…
70. What scares you?
72. 10 television shows.
73. Nobody knows that I…
74. Your favourite scent?
75. Do you cope with stress? How?
76. List your essentials.
77. Plan a romantic evening.
78. Your saddest memory?
79. What’s the difference between being alive and truly living?
81. I wish I had a million… Then I would…
82. List books.
83. Decide upon a three course meal.
84. If we learn from mistakes why are we so frightened of making them?
85. What’s something you’ve learnt today?
86. What was your favourite school subject?
87. 10 celeb crushes.
88. The most fun I’ve ever had…
89. What are you looking forward to?
90. List places you want to go.
92. Describe each day of the week as if it was a person?
93. Are you a worrier?
94. The tattoos you have?
95. 10 things to do before your next birthday. (95)
96. Who was your best friend?
97. List favourite quotes.
98. Favourite colour combos.
99. Movie review.
100. Who do you admire?
101. I wish I could learn….. because…..
102. Look through a magazine – what images stand out?
103. The biggest lie I’ve ever told is…
104. Favourite animation.
105. Something out of reach…
106. A mistake you won’t make again?
108. List things that feel like home.
109. I am…
110. I’m not very good at…
111. List things you want to be known for.
112. What was your favourite toy?
113. Your character traits.
115. Describe your dream job.
116. Write a letter, Dear Future Me.
117. Make an A-Z list of things that you want to do.
118. Write about your first job?
120. List of websites.
121. Ways to waste time…
122. Table of Do’s and Don’ts
123. Your make-up bag?
124. What’s the most outrageous thing you’ve ever done?
125. What makes you miserable?
127. Things you find beautiful?
128. There’s no excuse for…
129. The most terrifying moment of my life was…
130. What was your first car?Design your bedroom.
131. In 25 years will you be proud of the things you did or regret the things you didn’t do?
132. Write a mantra.
133. Your bucket list.
135. A-Z list of words to describe you.
136. What makes you unique?
137. Your next tattoo?
138. Lyrics of meaning.
139. Movie review.
140. Collection of jokes.
141. What happiness means to you?
142. Doodle here.
144. List 3 things that went right or wrong today.
145. How do you deal with anger?
146. Are you forgiving?
147. Things I always did with my dad when I was young…
148. List things that remind me of a my childhood.
149. Favourite emotion?
150. What is magic?
151. Which is worse, failing or never trying?
152. When do you make excuses?
154. List bad habits.
155. Childhood games.
156. List family traditions.
157. Something you overheard today.
158. Choose a poem.
159. List things that motivate you.
161. Get a map and plan a route.
162. Qualities you look for in a boyfriend?
163. Your pet.
164. Your definition of beauty.
165. Plan a perfect date.
166. List things that happened on the day you were born.
168. List of questions.
169. Your perfume?
170. HTML colour codes.
171. List pet peeves.
172. Robert Frost write a poem titled The Road Not Taken. Name a road you’ve always wanted to travel. Where do you hope it takes you, and what might you see on the way?
174. Ways to relax…
175. Your favourite albums?
176. Authors whose work you enjoy.
177. The worst nightmare you’ve ever had?
178. 5 things you can’t live without?
179. Every child deserves…
180. What would you change about the world?
181. List things to collect.
182. Plan an exercise routine.
183. I wish I had enough money to……
184. Cocktail recipe.
185. List summer goals.
186. Best advice given.
188. Your favourite piece of classical music.
189. Your talents?
190. What 5 traits do people first notice when they meet you for the first time?
191. List of 10 boy names.
192. Designer inspiration.
193. How much will power do you have?
194. Your favourite place and why?
195. Place your playlist on shuffle, write the lyrics to first song played.
196. List people you love.
197. Think back to the toys of your childhood.
198. Choose some scenery.
199. Favourite days of the year.
200. Today’s horoscope.
201. I wish everyone loved……
202. Advice to your best friend.
203. What does your sleeping position say about you?
204. Is there a heaven?
205. Things I always did with my mam when I was young…
206. Who would you like to thank for something they did for you in the past?
207. Favourite holiday.
208. Design something.
209. What did you buy today?
210. Favourite colour palette.
211. Are you competitive?
212. Create a pattern.
213. Your pet.
214. Find a new poem.
216. What does love mean to you?
217. Ten ways to improve yourself.
219. Your karaoke song.
220. Here is what others see me as …
221. Your favourite weather.
222. What is your personal secret to happiness?
223. What does real success in life mean to you?
224. Things that happened ten years ago today…
226. Your blog.
227. Your favourite season.
229. Mission in life…
230. In three words, describe your life.
231. Dreams for someday…
232. What do you think of the saying YOLO?
233. Best advice received.
234. What are means to you?
235. Most valued idea.
236. Most fun day ever.
237. Are you brave?
238. Happiest moment lately.
239. Who am I really?
240. Yesterday, I was…
241. What kind of day are you having, and why?
242. Your wedding song?
243. In what areas are you optimistic, and in what areas are you pessimistic?
244. Describe your life in colour.
245. What do you see in the mirror?
247. Interior design inspiration.
249. The headlines today are…
250. Write down today’s stresses.
251. What is your earliest memory of home?
252. Qualities you look for in a friend?
253. A promise I must make myself.
255. Something you learnt the hard way?
256. Urgent challenges.
257. What would your superpower be?
259. How much self-control do you have?
260. Who do you talk to when you have a problem?
261. Paint a picture.
262. Where would you like to be lost?
263. How old were you four years ago? Describe some things you can do now that you could not do then.
264. Book review.
265. Choose a religion.
266. List of things to photograph.
267. A place you relax.
268. Favourite family photo.
269. Describe how university was for you?
270. A photo that makes you happy.
272. Use a newspaper for inspiration today.
273. Your house rules?
274. When I am old I will…
275. Who or what has had a strong influence in your life?
276. Write about climbing.
277. What’s the meaning of your name?
278. Make an emotional graph whilst listening to a song.
279. Doodle here
280. List places you would not visit.
281. What other profession would you do?
283. What does it feel like to be wrong?
284. Would you jump out of a plane?
285. What have you won?
286. Favourite brands.
287. Where do you feel most comfortable?
288. A woman who inspires you.
289. Which is least important to you–money, power, fame–and why?
290. Describe a dream that you had recently. Provide as many details as possible.
291. Why is it important to be honest?
292. A ridiculous law held in your country.
293. Why do you work where you work?
294. What’s your least favourite mode of transportation?
295. Place your playlist on shuffle and write the first ten songs that are played.
296. Where do you people watch?
297. Collect some wallpaper.
298. Movie Review
299. Draw optical illusions.
300. If you were an animal, what animal would you be?
301. What headline really got to you today?
302. Write about a difficult time in your life when you showed strength.
303. Best lesson you’ve ever learnt?
304. Something expensive you won’t buy yourself.
305. What historical events happened the year you were born?
307. Does Never Never Land really exist?
308. Favourite candles.
309. List of fictional places you wish you could visit.
310. Do you look after yourself?
311. Seven things I love to do.
312. How does the weather effect you?
313. What do you think of animal testing?
315. List five things you would buy if money wasn’t an object?
316. If you were a doctor, what kind of doctor would you be?
317. Open up a random book to page 33, and take the first sentence at the top of the page and start writing from it.
318. A-Z list of words that mean something to you.
319. Sometimes I pretend to be.
320. Describe your relationship with your grandparents.
321. As a writer, my dream come true would be…
322. List 3 things that went right today.
323. Trace your hand, write words on how you feel today inside.
324. Favourite superhero?
325. I promise to…
326. What effect does music have on you?
327. What can you see out of your window right now?
328. Name one thing you have always been good at doing.
329. What is your favourite form of exercise?
330. A festival you would like to experience?
331. The problem with being me is that…
332. Today’s fashion inspiration.
333. Families are important because…
334. Are you doing what you believe in or what you believe you should be doing?
335. What era inspires you?
336. A myth or legend that intrigues you.
337. What really moves you?
338. Take a walk, what did you think about?
339. What must I do tomorrow?
340. What’s making you mad today?
341. Write a letter to your future daughter about growing up.
342. List of 10 girl’s names.
343. Write down something no one knows about you.
344. Give yourself a pep talk?
345. When I was a child I didn’t realise that…
346. Your starsign.
347. List of your firsts.
348. What would you tell your future self to stay more positive?
349. Book Review
350. Words that mean something to you.
351. List of things you look forward to.
352. Was today a good day?
353. Something that helped to shape your outlook to life?
354. Write a description of a winter’s scene.
355. Your Christmas shopping list?
356. Events to remember this year…
357. What did Christmas mean to you as a child?
358. What does Christmas mean to you now?
359. How was your Christmas?
360. What’s great about today?
361. Would you change anything about this year?
362. What are you proud of achieving this year?
363. What I learnt this year…
364. Words to describe 2014.
365. What are your resolutions for the upcoming year?
Hello, my journalers! I am making another long list of bullet journal ideas. If you’d like to see my first list, click [here]. I had 30 ideas on that list, so be sure to check that one out!
1. Books To Read
There are so many cute ways to create this section.
2. All About Me Pages
These are some of my favorite pages to make. They can be simple and to the point, or colorful and complex. You do you and show off that you! Here’s a [link] to the post I made about my pages.
3. Future Log
Having a yearly spread of what you are planning, need to plan, or just simply feel organized will help you feel less stressed about the coming year. I’ve seen a few ways how to set up a future log, but I chose the one that works best for my life. Mine has gotten a bit messy and only has the rest of 2016.
4. Movies to Watch
There are so many good movies coming out soon, and so many movies I just haven’t gotten around to see. If you’re like me and love coloring in blocks to show progress, then I suggest to set up the page sort of like mine. (But you can also do it any number of ways as well.) Here’s a [link] to my post about creating a movie/tv tracker)
5. Skills to Learn
I imagine a simple checklist can work. If you like to be more detailed oriented, you can make it more like a progress log.
6. Important Phone Numbers/Addresses
Much like an address book, you can make pages in your bullet journal for the same function. Most people put numbers and addresses into their phones, but sometimes it’s just nice to have them written down someplace else.
7. Year In Pixels
If you’d like to see an explanation of this page idea, click this [link].
8. Fonts, Banners, and Frame Ideas
I think it’s convenient to have a few pages that act as a cheat sheet for your designing needs.
9. Snail Mail Log
This is something that I am totally going to do soon, and possibly even include you all in on it. I want to start a mailing list for sending letters to more people. I love getting mail from family and friends, but it doesn’t happen often enough!
10. Savings Tracker
This is such a lovely idea to keep in your journal. Be sure to stay on top of your finances! I like to keep an extra page for things I need to pay off or people to pay back.
11. Favorite Lists
This could also go in your “All About Me” section, but I decided it should be separate for me. You can list things like your favorite restaurants, meals, songs, classes, sounds, tastes, places, shoes, animals, colors, instruments, plays, games, etc. Get to know yourself better.
12. TV Series Tracker
This is for those people who want to feel like they just want physical proof of how many times they’ve watched that series on Netflix. Here’s a [link] to my post about making your own.
13. Monthly Challenges
These are so much fun to make for you all. If you want to add a challenge to your journal, click [here] for my master list of challenges.
14. Music Playlists
You can make playlists on your phone with various apps, but there’s something sweet about writing out your favorite songs. You can create a workout, relaxing, studying, writing, etc. playlists.
15. Timeline of Your Life
Use two pages for this one because it will be filled by the time you are done. You can even use this for what you want to do in the future.
16. Inspiration Page
Quotes, songs, people, pictures, charts, graphs, jokes, scripture, events, love, etc. WRITE THEM DOWN, BE INSPIRED, AND GO DO.
17. Self Care List/Ideas
Sometimes we don’t know how to make ourselves feel better. Write a list of things you could try to do to help yourself become a healthier you. Examples: take a warm bath, go for a walk, drink a glass of water, watch a sad movie, etc.
18. Monthly/Yearly Memories
It’s nice to have a page with all the memories you had that month/year. I tend to put a little doodle with each event/milestone in my life just to make it more memorable. (This was from my first journal. Please don’t judge.)
19. Sleep Tracker
I personally don’t use a sleep tracker because my sleeping habits are the worst and logging them might be upsetting to me. However, you can track the time you go to bed and what time you get up in the morning on a chart that is easy to read and compare with other nights.
20. Me Time Log
Sometimes we all need a little time to ourselves. You can use this with the “Self Care List/Ideas” pages to log specific activities you do with yourself. You can keep track of the activity, when you do to, and how long your me time was.
21. Tiny Adventures
Not exactly real adventures, but adventurous enough to get you out of your comfort zone. To see the original post about these adventures, click [here].
22. Word Tracker
For those authors and poets, keeping a goal sheet or tracker of your words helps a ton!
L’Officiel Hommes April 2017; Chanyeol’s interview (Part 1)
L’Officiel Hommes: EXO has since outgrown their previously cute and naive personas, to adopt the current “High Profile” celebrity status that we know of today. What are your
personal sentiments about holding such a title? Chanyeol: I believe everyone has had that particular dream about being able to stand proudly above all the legacies that they have built for themselves. However, personally i feel that albeit having yet acquire that level of prestige as a group, i’m able to find solace and confidence beneath our ability to put up an impressive stage performance that everyone will enjoy. Having said so, there’s also an underlying sense of unease along with it as well. Hence in order to prolong and maintain our current statuses, no actually, a better way to put this would be to call this the driving force towards our desire to constantly show you the improved and better sides of us, which explains the need for us to find ways of improving and developing ourselves. Another way to go about it would also be to spend whatever personal free time I have fruitfully, by engaging in activities that would not only be solely for the sake of enjoyment, but also be able to aid the process of further developing myself as a person.
L’Officiel Hommes: What type of role do you think you play in EXO? Aside from the usual roles that you associate yourself with during your introductions, or the Chanyeol that the fans identify with. Instead, talk about what you personally think your role is inside of EXO. Chanyeol: An interesting person. To put it nicely, i’m the mood maker/ happy pill of the group; acting as my fellow members’ source of energy. Because i want the members to thoroughly enjoy the times we share together. Moreover, we all started off aspiring for the same goals and dreams, even going as far as being fated to be debuting in the same group is something i really feel should be deeply cherished. Which is why i’m constantly cracking jokes with my members, as this is also one of the ways i feel i’m secretly able help the leader manage the group better behind the scenes. An advantage i have would be both my age and training period, as i’m mainly in the middle when it comes to these aspects, hence it makes the task of getting along with my fellow members a lot easier. L’Officiel Hommes: You’ve recently displayed your television personality to us. How has the overall experience with regards to acting been for you so far? Chanyeol: Prior to embarking on the television series “Missing Nine”, i have had previous exposure, having previously given the opportunity to star in various online drama series and even a Chinese movie production. Having said that, i still received the support from my fellow casts members. I felt really comfortable with the role assigned to me, hence i was hoping for a positive reaction (from the viewers). To conclude it simply, i find acting very interesting. Coming from a background where when it came to the aspect of acting, i didn’t have exceptional skills per say, neither had i previously undergo any vigorous trainings for acting, i made sure to always clarify my doubts with the director whenever possible, even going down to the nitty gritty details of my fellow senior’s expressions and the way they orchestrated their dialogues. I’m gradually realizing the charms of the acting industry as i’m exploring it. L’Officiel Hommes: Who is your favorite actor then? Also, what would be your “Life” movie? Chanyeol: My favorite actor would have to be Jack Nicholson. I’ve pretty much watched almost every single one of his movies. In the movie “One Flew Over The Cuckoo’s Nest” where he portrayed the character Randle Patrick McMurphy, Melvin Udall in “As Good As It Gets”, Warren R. Schmidt in the movie “About Schmidt”. He has greatly displayed his outstanding ability to portray each and every single one of his roles distinctively. Although my favorite actor is the former, my favorite movie is one that he unfortunately did not star in, it’s “School Of Rock”. I would go as far to say that this movie bears a great influence my decision towards my current life path. I started learning more about music back in my high school days, but back then, it was purely out of interest. But during my 6th year, i watched the aforementioned movie, which became the decisive factor towards my choice in pursuing music as a career. The movie’s main protagonist, Jack Black, is seen having the time of his life whilst balancing his career as both a musician and actor. Upon watching this movie during my younger days, it fostered the dream of my desire to become a singer in the future. L’Officiel Hommes: Amidst starring in movies, participating in variety shows, being a singer, composer and performer on stage, what sort of activities do you often engage in during your period of short breaks in between? Do you continue participating in activities or do you just completely lay off everything temporarily to take a good rest? Chanyeol: To me, composing serves as both a form of entertainment as well as relaxation. I would describe it as my ideal form of healing time. I particularly enjoy composing in hotels when i’m overseas. When i have some extra time off in the dorms, i’d usually spend them by playing computer games with Baekhyun. I would always have a particular activity that i’ll be engaged in at any given span of time. By that i mean that i would devote my time and effort to being able to really grasp, hold and master the task at hand or until i reach the standard of my personal expectations. Recently, snowboarding has become one of my favorite forms of past time. I remember being exposed to snowboarding back when i was a toddler, but i was never truly able to experience snowboarding during the winter back then. I’ve even been on a midnight snowboarding escapade before. In fact, this past February, i was at one of Hokkaido’s skiing resorts (Kiroro). Not long ago i had the same passion for both pool and bowling. L’Officiel Hommes: Well then, amongst all of them (his hobbies), which one still holds a special place in your heart? Chanyeol: I’d still have to give this to composing. I’ve always harbored a strong, underlying passion for lyrical composition. I’m constantly engaged in a cycle of experimenting with various forms of music, through the process of success and failures. Through this repetitive process, i think i’ve developed and found my own personal style of music. Although i’m always striving to compose something great, as of now, even if it falls short of that, i’m cool with it. I enjoy the process of learning and exploring whilst i’m self-composing. I find the process of venturing into various genres of music that i’m previously not familiar with, thoroughly refreshing. I find the conversations i have with the new people i meet extremely precious. Hence, i’m always carrying a small notebook (laptop) around, so that i’m able to jot down any inspirations that i may have along the day, which explains why it’s always an essential item i always carry in my backpack. Even with a short period of 10-20 minutes of spare time, i’m always looking to brainstorm about new lyrics. L’Officiel Hommes: Amongst all of EXO activities, which, in your opinion, left the deepest impression on you? Chanyeol: I still vividly remember our very first debut showcase back in 2012. That was my first time experiencing the true feeling of nervousness. History was our very first song, and i remember we had our backs facing the stage in preparation, as we heard the loud screams of many. The loud screams coming from a group of 3000 people, really overwhelmed me with the feeling of nervousness from head to toe. After the performance, i asked the members about how they felt and they all felt the same. That experience was truly memorable, and has since been engraved in my memory.
Translation by Soojung @ fyeah-chanyeol (Please take out with full credits)
Hello! So I was scouring the Internet for advice today but I couldn't find any on this topic. My problem isn't that I don't have any ideas (I probably have too many) but the problem is that I don't LOVE any of my ideas. I like them. I think they're all fine ideas. But liking them isn't going to motivate me long enough to finish a novel. How can I give my ideas that extra uumph to make me love them? How can I figure out what's missing or why I don't feel this way about any of my ideas?
Hello, nonny! What a challenging question…
This one’s been in my inbox a couple days, just because it’s such a big
question. But I’ve thought it over and I think I have some ideas for you
The Thrill Is Gone – How to Find It Again
So generally, there’s no one answer or
cure-all to this problem. I’ve had this issue multiple times, with
different causes. My first novel didn’t have enough meat to the plot; my
second novel had been over-planned in my head to the point that it no longer
excited me. My third novel had way too much plot, so
that by the time I got ¾ the way through, I’d written over 200K words and
felt sick of the idea. I started my fourth novel way too soon, and am now
going back and planning it more! So there are obviously many different
reasons that a story doesn’t take off (or dries up eventually).
The first step is to figure out what’s missing, like you
said. There are a few aspects of your story to assess…
I’m discussing plot first because, to me, it’s the most important
part of fiction. Plot, conflict, and stakes are foremost to my stories.
You could have the most complex and sympathetic characters, but without
plot, they’re static and become boring. But for some reason, this is the
part of story ideas that new authors neglect most!
So if your story has great characters and an immersive
setting, but you can’t get into it, try asking a few questions about your plot:
What is the point of the plot? What’s the message you’re conveying in the story? Even if your story isn’t an allegory or a metaphor or the next Chronicles of Narnia, there should always be a conclusion to which all plots arrive – otherwise, the story can feel aimless. The best way to find your message is to look at the conflicts involved (e.g. Man vs. Man, Man vs. Nature, etc.) and find the “winner”. What worldview, belief, or concept “defeats” the other concepts? It can be as simple as Good vs. Evil, or more complex, like Loving the Sincere Drug Addict vs. Settling for the Selfish Dentist (provokes the question “Is love worth danger in relationships?”).
Does the plot have ups and downs? And really consider both ends of the spectrum here. Stories become dull if they are made up of victory after victory – or if they’re made up of nothing but loss and tragedy. No matter the genre, you have to strike some sort of balance, lest the story become predictable and emotionally non-engaging. Find victories and failures, even in unassuming places, to keep readers invested and hopeful.
Do you have a satisfactory ending? Or do you have the ending
planned yet? I’ve found that I can’t really commit to an idea unless I see a resolution – otherwise I feel too nervous to start. If you do have an ending planned, make sure it’s the right ending. It can feel like there’s one possible conclusion, and once you’ve found it, you stick to it – but question it, brainstorm it. It may not be a happy ending every time, but when you find the right one, you’ll know it.
Do you have the right plot at all? Look at your story as a whole. Does it start too early or too late, relative to the real meat,
the real action? Is it told from the most impactful POV? Does the plot cover too much ground for one book, or is it not enough to fill the pages? Consider all the characters, backstories, and subplots you have, and ask yourself if any of them are more interesting than the main plot. If so, shift your focus. Use them instead.
Maybe it’s not your plot that’s going sideways. Maybe
you have it all worked out – the head, the tail, the whole damn thing – but
it still doesn’t feel right. It doesn’t feel like it’s coming to
life, somehow. It feels flat.
That can be a character problem. It would be like
sitting by the campfire and hearing the most fascinating, horrifying story,
except it’s told by a man with The Most Boring Voice Who Talks So Incredibly
Slowly and Takes All the Fun Out of Everything. An example: The
Hunger Games. Those books bored the crap out of me.
Unless someone was being killed or Haymitch and Effie were interacting, I
just didn’t care. And those books had a great plot behind them!
So here’s what you need for a good cast of characters:
A solid protagonist. Solid = three-dimensional,
empathetic, and relatable; having a goal, an internal conflict, a self-image,
and fears or shame. They should have different facets of themselves –
their head and their heart, their desires and doubts, and that little voice in
their head that says, “Give up on that. Be realistic.” Give
them strengths, weaknesses, and a couple of bad habits, for kicks.
A variety of supporting characters. You don’t
have to have thirty characters + six secret characters stuffed under your
trench coat; but with however many characters you have, make them as different
from each other as possible. Give them some similarities, of course, so
that they can relate to each other – but never make them so close together
that you have to decide, “Who should say this line? Character A or
Character B?” Make them unique enough that the words come out of their mouths,
instead of you having to decide where to put the words, yourself.
Relationships, relationships, relationships. And
I’m not talking about romantic relationships. I mean, sure, those too –
but there are many different kinds of relationships to explore.
Friendships, enemy-ships (?), parent relationships, sibling-ships, silent
alliances, “annoying friend-of-a-friend”-ships, “my-ex’s-little-sister”-ships, “you’re-the-ruler-of-the-galaxy-and-a-Sith-lord-but-also-my-dad-please-stop-being-evil”-ships…
You get the idea. Make them unique, make them strong, and allow
them to evolve over the course of the story.
Diverse morals, interests, and personalities.
My first short stories focused on white middle-class people who were culturally
and politically identical. They lived in one house, usually, and watched
the same TV shows and made the same references. They had the same sense
of humor. They rarely disagreed on anything that wasn’t clear-cut
(e.g. “You drank the last Pepsi!” “I was thirsty!”). So do
yourself a favor and don’t make my mistakes. Give your characters unique
ethics, cultures, backgrounds, personalities, goals, appearances, and
conflicts. You’ll be more invested by then, I’m sure.
Lastly, I’d like to add that while your characters and plot could be well-developed, there’s always a chance that they’re placed in the wrong setting. This is why many story ideas can seem great, but won’t get off the ground – maybe they’re set in a pre-made universe like Middle Earth or Panem when they could be their own story. Maybe your tragic romance is set in the middle of apocalyptic war, when instead, it should be drained down to a period piece. Maybe your story is perfect, except you’re writing it too close to home – in the real world, in the present year. There are a million factors to picking the right setting, including:
Applicable history and culture. If you’re writing a story about someone who’s oppressed, or someone who’s a politician, or someone who’s a witch, you’re going to need to back that up with history. Develop a history for the oppression or politics or witchcraft – where these things began, how they developed over time – and a culture for them now – how oppressed people survive and how witches in your world interact, etc.
Imaginative scenery, influenced by the characters. Even if your story takes place in New York City in 2017, allow your characters’ living spaces and workplaces to have a unique touch – colors and quirks that your readers can see in their mind. If even you can’t see what you’re writing, inspiration is going to be difficult to find.
A lifelike background. Just because the plot focuses on your characters does not mean everything going on behind it should be quiet and dead. Anyone who looks out a window in a city building can see other people living – people on the highway will see other cars taking other people other places. Everyone who has a friend will hear a little something about their friend’s siblings, their friend’s friends, their friend’s neighbors. Life and stories exist outside of your plot; make sure you’re not writing about a ship in a bottle.
An aesthetic. That sounds gross and teen-tumblr-y, but let me tell you personally: I don’t feel truly ready to write (and love) my story until I can hear the music for the future movie adaptation – until I can see the kind of clothes the people wear, the games they play, the places they eat and shop. I think of the colors and themes in my scenes (e.g. my first novel was set primarily at night in a grunge/city setting; my current novel is very green and outdoorsy and gives me that feeling of bonfires just after sunset). Once you get that “feeling” from your story, you’ll know it.
Anyway, this reply took me like three days to write because I really wanted to get into it. I hope some of this helps you to fall in love with one of your ideas, so you can get started :) If you have any more questions, be sure to send them in!
(I have 26 questions in the inbox, though, so be patient with me…)
You’ve heard Lea Michele sing! You’ve seen her Scream! Now, watch her travel through the cosmic planes of space and time, sort of!
Michele is the surprise star of the premiere episode of Hulu’s Dimension 404, a new science-fiction comedy anthology series premiering Tuesday on the streaming service. The show, which takes decidedly more tongue-in-cheek cues from Black Mirror and The Twilight Zone, has cast Michele as the seemingly perfect match of a lonely music blogger (Robert Buckley) in the hourlong premiere devoted to the malicious secrets behind a fictional dating service.
Yes, Dimension 404 marks the actress’ first foray into all the glorious adjectives that come part and parcel with the sci-fi genre, but as Michele tells it, the fantasy turn might mark her most realistic role in some time after years spent in the heightened playgrounds of Glee and Scream Queens (the future fate of which, by the way, remains undecided).
There’s a giddy momentum behind the 30-year-old as she floats ahead into the next stage of her career, which includes a buzzy new ABC pilot from Hamilton star Daveed Diggs (in which she plays a political staffer opposite a rapping mayor) and her second studio album, Places (out April 28), which could be her biggest passion project yet. Consider Michele’s Hulu experiment in Dimension 404 to be but the first in a string of upcoming projects that will challenge the dimensions (sorry) of the Michele fans may have come to expect.
Since last year’s 365 days of journaling was so successful here’s a new one to complete in 2016!
Feel free to share and tag me in anything you upload for me to have a nose at - although this is not necessary. Enjoy!
1. Do you believe in New Year resolutions? If so what are your resolutions for this year? 2. Review of 2015 3. How could you help others this year? 4. How can you help yourself this year? 5. What do you want to achieve this year? 6. List ways to succeed personally this year. 7. Your personality traits. 8. List ways to treat yourself this year. 9. Describe your sense of humor. 10. Is your family supportive? 11. List 6 things you love about Winter. 12. Compare your present self to your past self. 13. Would you want to live in a city, suburb or in the country? 14. How would you like to be remembered? 15. Your star sign. 16. Write about a recent adventure or travels. 17. What are your three largest priorities? 18. Write a letter to someone you need to forgive. 19. My goal tomorrow is… 20. My strengths are … 21. Technology – good or bad? 22. What’s your motto? 23. List words you most overuse. 24. What have you sacrificed? 25. Spirit animal? 26. What makes you unique? 27. List the worst books you’ve read. 28. Would you want to grow up in the public eye? 29. How much self-control do you have? 30. What are your best character traits? 31. List ten simple short goals for this month. 32. What emotion dominates your life lately? 33. Who made you feel good this week? 34. I want to always remember…. 35. Do you believe in ghosts? 36. What hurts today? 37. In your imagination, what will the world be like in 50 years? 38. List of flowers. 39. List five acts you feel guilty about. 40. Walking in the rain is… 41. Did your parents sacrifice for you? 42. The things that make me laugh the hardest are… 43. How do you feel about your appearance? 44. How do you feel about Valentine’s Day? 45. List of favourite drinks. 46. Have you ever lost something valuable? 47. Ten ways I show those I love that I care are… 48. Do you like exercise? 49. What does forgiveness mean to you? 50. Dream job. 51. Recipe for a perfect night in. 52. List 10 things you love about yourself. 53. What you know about the day you were born? Tell any family stories that were told to you. 54. Summarise today using no more than forty four words. 55. A memory you wish you could forget? 56. Favourite colour? 57. Receipts of things you’ve bought this week. 58. List ten things that scare you about getting old? 59. Where do you escape to? 60. ‘I wish I could’ list. 61. Describe visits to your grandparents’ home. 62. Books or E-Books? 63. How do you feel about commitment in general? 64. What do you think is the greatest invention? Why? 65. List 5 actresses. 66. Describe your parents’ philosophy of raising children: discipline, rules and outlook. 67. I wish there were no more….. 68. Favourite family story? 69. Do/did you like school? 70. Your proudest moment. 71. 10 television shows. 72. If you had only one wish, what would you wish for? 73. Where is home for you? 74. Favourite restaurant? 75. Five Things I’ve Forgiven People For and Why. 76. List 6 things you love about Spring. 77. How do you like to be romanced? 78. How do you indulge yourself? 79. What is your favourite Saturday activity? 80. What famous world festivals would you like to attend? 81. Are you a wallflower? 82. How well do you take criticism? 83. Did you have a favourite blanket or toy? Tell about it. 84. List 5 actors. 85. Describe a typical day in school. 86. List 3 things that went wrong today. 87. How would you describe yourself? 88. What do you like best about your home? 89. What makes you a good person? 90. What did you most enjoy doing this week? 91. Do you let people in? 92. Tell about your favourite aunt or uncle. Were you close? What do you remember most? 93. How do you stand out from the crowd? 94. Which quality best describes your life–exciting, organised, dull–and why? 95. I want to forget… 96. Write a fan letter to your favourite actor/actress. 97. What historical figure do you most identify with? 98. My worst experience today was … 99. Whose advice do you seek in times of need? 100. Something you have always felt was missing in your life 101. Name one thing you always wanted to do, but haven’t. What has prevented you from doing it? 102.
Helplessness: that dull, sick feeling of not being the one at the
reins. When did you last feel like that –- and what did you do about it? 103. Favourite activities. 104. Do you feel lovable? 105. Review a book. 106. Today I overheard… 107. You karaoke/shower song. 108.
Explore the room you’re in as if you’re seeing it for the first time.
Pretend you know nothing. What do you see? Who is the person who lives
there? 109. A list of questions you would like to ask future you. 110. Go to the nearest window. Look out for a full minute. Write about what you saw. 111. Write about your school life, your grades, what you wish you had done differently. 112. List favourite desserts. 113. How important is loyalty to you? 114. List 15 characters from movies. 115. Your most embarrassing moment. 116. What’s on your calendar for tomorrow? 117. Best decision you’ve made? 118. ‘Things to try’ list. 119. Rainy days or sunshine adventures? 120. What would you do if money were no object? 121. Who do you relate with the most – your mother or father? 122. I’m thankful for… 123. Write about regrets you may have. 124. Create a moodboard that reflects today’s feelings. 125. Ten things you hold most dear. 126. Who was your first crush and what made them special? 127. When have you felt lonely? 128. Your most satisfying victory. 129. Something you have always felt was missing in your life 130. Write a letter to someone who believed in you even when you didn’t believe in yourself. 131. What does being a friend means to you? 132. How would you change the world to make it better? 133. What’s the most surreal experience you’ve ever had? 134. Favourite childhood memory? 135. Are you an emotional person? 136. A-Z list of favourite things. 137. When was the last time someone gave you butterflies? 138. Write about turning points in your life – what would be different now if you had made a different choice. 139. Is physical attraction important to you? 140. Is money important to you? 141. Explain why you chose your blog’s title and what it means to you. 142. Do you have/want any tattoos? Their meaning? 143. What did you learn this week? 144. Who are your heroes? 145. List 3 things that went right today. 146. How do you feel during a thunderstorm? 147. Do you forgive things easily? 148. Write about lost friendships. 149. My weaknesses are … 150. Favourite emoticons. 151. Are you more like your mother or father? 152. Night or day? 153. List of countries to visit. 154. Describe the area you live in. 155. A secret no one knows. 156. List of favourite languages. 157. List of favourite designers. 158. What qualities do you want in a romantic partner? 159. Research and find a new poem today. 160. List 5 things you hate/dislike. 161. Write something inspired by a recent dream you had. 162. What excuses keep me stuck? 163. Your lucky number? 164. List 5 animals. 165. Tell us about something you know you should do … but don’t. 166. Favourite animation movie. 167. Do you apologise too much? 168. List of things that stress you. 169. Favourite recipe? 170. When was the last time someone told you they were proud of you? 171. Favourite places visited. 172. Write about your childhood. 173. If your life had a soundtrack, like a movie, what songs would you include? Why? 174. Optimist or pessimist? 175. Take any poem or short story you find anywhere. Rewrite it in your own words. 176. How do you feel when you’re leaving home on vacation? 177. Open up a dictionary to a random word. Define what that word means to you. 178. List restaurants to visit. 179. Choose an animal. Write about it! 180. Write a celebrity crush list. 181. What are you afraid of? Why? 182. Five things I love about relationships… 183. Close your eyes and imagine the kind of world you would like to see. What is it like? 184. My best experience today was … 185. ‘Books to read’ list. 186. What does religion mean to you? 187. ‘Rainy day’ list. 188. The biggest challenge you’ve faced? 189. Your favourite instrument (to play/listen to)? 190. List of fears. 191. List of everything you’d like to say yes to. 192. Favourite pieces of art. 193. My worst experience today was … 194. Ten things that scare you about getting old? 195. List the cheesiest jokes you know. 196. When you look in the mirror, what do you see? 197. A character that you relate to. 198. List toys from your childhood. 199. What talents do you have? 200. List of unhealthy habits. 201. What is your favourite sound? 202. List things that make you feel safe. 203. Find an image in a magazine that reflects your current emotional status. 204. List 8 music artists. 205. When have you experienced heartbreak? 206. I feel most energized when… 207. List things that make you laugh. 208. Choose – Harry Potter, Twilight, Hunger Games or Maze Runner? 209. List the 5 most expensive things you’ve bought. 210. Receipts from today. 211. If you could become an expert in any subject or activity, what would it be? 212. List of rituals. 213. Favourite authors. 214. List hobbies. 215. So far I’ve learned these lessons about life … 216. What’s the funniest thing that happened to you this week? 217. A moodboard of patterns. 218. Using 10 words, describe yourself. 219. Movie review. 220. What are your thoughts on camping? 221. What’s one thing you’d change about your appearance if you could? What’s one character trait you’d change? 222. What would your perfect day be like? 223. A fictional place you wish you could visit? 224. List of websites. 225. Favourite menu. 226. What are things you can do in 15 minutes or less that improve your mood? 227. Favourite fast food. 228. If you could get the answer to any question, what would you ask? 229. List things you find beautiful. 230. Describe your alter ego — someone who is your exact opposite. 231. 3 pieces of advice for past you? 232. What is your mission in life? 233. If you could go back and relive one day of your life, which day would it be and why? 234. What would you do if you could travel into the past? 235. What is the one thing you feel always brings out the good in people? 236. A quote that inspires you. 237. What relationships matter the most to you? How can you maintain and improve them? 238. What is your favourite room in your home and why? 239. Do you believe in the afterlife? 240. ‘Inside my bag’ list. 241. How often do you leave your comfort zone? 242. I am happiest when… 243. Cold or hot? 244. Do you believe one person can change the world? 245. Describe a time when you were brave. 246. Favourite Games List. 247. I’ve been putting off… 248. List ways to relieve stress? 249. When do you feel underappreciated? 250. Define your personal style. 251. List 8 things that you enjoy. 252. Did a teacher ever have a profound effect on you? 253. Three things I value about myself are…. 254. Random Facts About Me List 255. What role do you play in your family? 256. List sports you love/hate. 257. What would the title of your biography be and why? 258. A promise you have broken? 259. List the emotions you’ve felt today. 260. What effect does music have on you? 261. Favourite poem. 262. Doodle here. 263. Favourite piece of jewellery. 264. List 15 characters from books. 265. Are you hard on yourself? 266. Summarise the day in one sentence. 267. If and when I raise children, I’ll never… 268. Write about your first kiss. Was it everything you wished or hoped it would be? 269. Book review. 270. What does family mean to you? 271. Your favourite photo of you. 272. List of things that annoy you. 273. How productive are you? 274. What was the title of the last book you read? 275. List 6 things you love about Summer. 276. Doodle here. 277. What would you do if you knew you could not fail? 278. What did you learn today? What did you learn yesterday? 279. Shuffle your iPod, list first 10 ten songs. 280. Make a list of 30 things that make you smile. 281. I couldn’t imagine living without… 282. What would you do if you could travel into the future? 283. Quotes that ignite something in you? 284. I really wish others knew this about me… 285. Your biggest achievement? 286. I feel happiest in my skin when… 287. Organised or organised chaos? 288. List of everything you’d like to say no to. 289. Who inspires you? 290. List your top 10 movies. 291. Write the words you need to hear. 292. List your responsibilities. 293. What is your favourite holiday? What makes this holiday special? 294. Why you get up in the morning. 295. Tea or coffee? Why? Favourites? 296. What do you want to know about yourself? 297. List of House Rules 298. The biggest headline of today and your feelings on it. 299. My best birthday was… 300. List of things that make you worry. 301. Land or Sea? 302. My imaginary friend growing up was… 303. List 10 songs. 304. What is your passion? 305. What kind of day have you had, and why? 306. List of favourite subjects at school. 307. Most romantic date you’ve been on? 308. Tell about an event in your life that has caused a change in you. 309. Best thing that’s happened this month? 310. What’s the Most Memorable Thing You Ever Got in the Mail? 311. List of friends’ names. 312. What are your most prized possessions? 313. Favourite type of weather? 314. Who has had the most impact on your life? 315. List of favourite snacks. 316. What song have you listened to today? 317. List 6 things you love about Autumn. 318. Your feelings on war. 319. What are all your thoughts on god? 320. Make a list of 15 escapes you would like to indulge in. 321. What is a mistake people often make about you? 322. What makes you a bad person? 323. How your parents met. 324. What kind of day are you having, and why? 325. Favourite family photo? 326. I was most angry when… 327. List 10 skills you bring to a work environment. 328. What were your favourite picture books when you were younger? 329. A-Z list of things you’d like to try. 330. If you have brothers or sisters, how are you similar to them or different from them? What about with your friends? 331. What song was No.1 when you were born? 332. List of favourite childhood shows. 333. Do you follow fashion trends? 334. Your favourite season? 335. Can you be alone with yourself? 336. List of favourite magazines. 337. Your beliefs about Karma. 338. What’s something you disagree with about the way you were raised? 339. Growing up, what did you really want but never received. 340. Favourite lyrics? 341. Is love at first sight possible? 342. List 12 shops. 343. Have you ever been in love? 344. Favourite month of the year? 345. Do you have any family traditions? 346. Is Christmas a big holiday to you and your family? 347. Favourite Christmas images. 348. Who is someone you miss? 349. List of names you will by buying gifts for this year. 350. What are you planning to buy as a gift this year? 351. What’s the best gift you’ve ever given? 352. What’s the best gift you’ve ever received? 353. When did you stop believing in Santa? 354. Favourite Christmas song? 355. What are your initial thoughts when you hear the word ‘Christmas’? 356. Your Christmas shopping list? 357. Favourite Christmas song? 358. Favourite Christmas memory? 359. What does Christmas mean to you now? 360. How was your Christmas? 361. Do you celebrate Boxing day? 362. Would you change anything about this year? 363. List things you’ve learnt this year? 364. What have you achieved this year? 365. What do you want to achieve next year? 366. Things I am looking forward to next year…
It’s almost time to travel back to the Enchanted Forest! (Well, a wish version of it, that is…)
Once Upon a Time’s sixth season returns this Sunday, March 5, and the one-hour winter premiere is guaranteed to make you scream with surprise and swoon with delight.
As usual, we called up Once’s co-showrunners Adam Horowitz and Eddy Kitsis, and after chatting all about the highly anticipated musical episode, we snagged the inside scoop on what’s next for Emma, Regina’s adventure in the Enchanted Forest and the “surprising” details of what’s to come.
Plus, only ET has your exclusive sneak peek of Regina and Robin’s intense reunion in the clip above!
ET: What was your goal for this second half of Emma and Regina’s adventure in – what I’m calling – “Wishland”?
Adam Horowitz: Well, in the wish realm, what we wanted to do was find a way to bring Emma back and to have Regina kind of confront what she has been really concerned about with regards to Robin and the death of Robin, which is, would he have been better off without her?
Eddy Kitsis: I think one of the things [Regina] found in the winter finale was – when she went back to this alternate wish world, where she did not cast the curse – she started to feel like, “Wow, would everyone have been better without me?” It was kind of an It’s a Wonderful Life situation. So I think the question going into hour two was, “Well, would that have happened with Robin Hood?” And I think once again what we’re going to see Regina facing is if she can move on or does she move back? When her first love [Daniel] died, instead of moving on and moving forward, she resented Snow White and became the evil queen. Now that she’s got Robin Hood, and even though she worked so hard to move forward and split herself, once again she’s faced with a new test.
I loved learning so much about Emma’s origin story! What can you tease for the fans ahead of the premiere?
AH: I think what you can tease is after almost six seasons, we finally get the origin of why she’s called Emma Swan.
EK: Sometimes we like to do full Emma flashbacks and sometimes we like to just drop into her life and see what was motivating her, and I think we’re going to see that a few times in the second half of this season.
In Wishland, we get to see Emma reunite with two very important men in her life: August and a very chubby Captain Hook. How would you describe her dynamic with these alternate characters?
EK: [Chubby Hook] is my favorite moment of the year! [Laughs] She and August have always been tied together since we found out they went through the wardrobe together. August was supposed to look out for her and didn’t, but in the same respect, he helped her believe in season one and helped her break the curse. We’ve always said they have a really strong friendship and I think what we’re going to realize is that even though Pinocchio abandoned her and maybe didn’t always watch out for her, maybe he watched out for her more than we thought.
I’m pleased to hear that Ariel is returning once again later this season! What kind of trouble is she going to splash into this time?
EK: Ariel is going to be returning like she always does – in a surprise way – but she is going to have a very surprising connection to another Disney princess.
EK: It could be…
No, I know it is.
EK: Well, then it is. [Laughs] You’re going to get a Jasmine-Ariel buddy cop movie, but in the Enchanted Forest.
Belle and Rumple’s son is proving to be quite the formidable villain. What should the fans know about that family’s struggle before tuning in on Sunday?
EK: Well, we know that Rumple has admitted that he likes the darkness. We know that he reverted and that it caused a huge rift between the two of them, but I think what we start to see in the winter premiere is something that we’ve really long forgotten, which is that Rumple really was a great father. And even though he messed up with his first child, he worked really hard to redeem himself. I think what you’re going to see now is that this is a Rumple who puts his child before anything. In doing that, I think a child can bring two people together if they both want the same thing, which is happiness.
And as for Henry, it was so sweet to see him step into his knighthood in Wishland. What’s coming up for him in the second half of season six?
AH: There’s more Henry coming! Henry, we can’t forget, is The Author and that comes back into play in a very important way.
EK: Henry is also the heart and soul of this show and has the heart of the truest believer. It all started with Henry knocking on a door, so we’re going to see a lot of Henry. I think one of the things that I’m most excited about is in this second half, we’re really going to see that Henry has grown. He’s grown up before our eyes and he’s a little, young man now and we’re going to see that.
Upon a Time returns Sunday, March 5 at 8 p.m. ET/PT on ABC and be sure to check back to ETonline immediately after the episode for exclusive scoop on the episode’s biggest moment!
hi! im hoping to become a storyboard artist but im not sure where to start learning... any tips? love your art btw💕
Hi! Thank you!
First of all I’m sure many people have taken different roads in storyboarding so there’s no RIGHT way to become a storyboard artist - these are just things that help me all the time.
REAL ADVICE: JUST START BOARDING. You can read all the books and tips in the world, but there’s no better learning tool than just going for it.
Rule number one - Have fun! If you don’t like it, its fine. One of the first boards I did was in high school as my part in a group book report just because I wanted to and it was awful, but it was fun! :)
If you’re looking for drawing tips I would say just start keeping a sketchbook and draw in the free time you have - observe from life, if you can go figure drawing that is also amazing for seeing and analyzing form. Be a sponge!
For drawing and storyboarding - the goal is to not show a series of pretty drawings, the goal is to draw well enough so your drawing skill level doesn’t restrict you from telling the stories you want to tell. Storyboarding isn’t really a drawing job, its a filmmaking job that uses drawings.
Good draftsmanship is just the tool to convey the ideas in your head, whats really going to make a good story artist is your attention to the filmmaking. Here are some quick bullet points I can think of for that sort of big “filmmaking” blanket term.
1. Characters and character relationships are key. Study screenwriting and take note of people in your life that have specific things about them that convey their unique personality! Your mom always taps her fingers on something when she’s thinking? Small things like that make characters feel real. They need to feel real to you when you’re drawing them! :)
2. Try to make your boards clear, concise and pay off whatever story you have set up. Show them to your friends and ask their opinion “Did that make sense?”.
3. Learn the language of film. What is a close-up? Whats the difference between a “pan” and a “tilt”? Why does that cut work or not work?
4. Watch movies and do film studies. Studying film is important. A lot of people will leave a movie and think “Hm. I didn’t like it.” yet not be sure how to articulate why, but they felt it. Start asking your self why.
5. Vary your shots and try different tones (esp when starting out!) Comedy, drama, action, romance etc. It not only helps you become a diverse storyteller, it also points you in the direction you like best.
6.Technical tip. Pay attention to geography in the shot, the 180 degree rule, making sure the space you’re drawing is convincing (this is where I’m trying to improve the most right now). You can draw a beautiful character, but if the space doesn’t feel right, then that’s going to distract from your storytelling. Remember to have the characters interact with the environment occasionally, it grounds any scene more!
7. LOOK UP TO THE PEOPLE storyboarding now! There’s so many incredibly talented artists working now that are literally a Google search away. Check out their blogs (Mark Kennedy’s is particularly a treasure trove of knowledge) and just stay excited! Whatever storyboarding job you aspire to whether its independent, TV or feature animation - set your bar there!
Jane: There is a perception of you as a very private person. What is that you love enough, what is it that you get out of it enough that makes continuing being a public person even though you don’t love that part, worth it to you?
David: I don’t mind going to parties. I like parties. I think that’s a correct assumption about me, but what’s always attracted me about acting, or writing, directing or even music is just kind of just an idea of self-expression or being involved in a creative endeavor that is always kinda of reaching for some kind of perfection and always falling short necessarily because there’s no perfection in any of this. I really like the collaborative. All of us reaching towards some kind of a goal to make this the best show or the best movie or the funniest thing, best scene, funniest scene, best song, whatever, great song, and move on. I’m like a perfectionist in the moment and I can easily move on from something. So I feel like I’m always playing different games and that’s what I like and what I’ve always done and wanna keep doing. In terms of being a public person, I feel like recently politics is dominating everybody’s consciousness. It’s a really tough time, in a way, to be an artist. I feel more pressure now to be more public because I feel like there’s so much more at stake socially so I’m kinda wrestling with that idea.
David: The thing is that art and politics are opposed to one another. When politics goes into art it becomes propaganda. That’s exactly what it is. That’s why it’s strange for me when I see artists talking politics because as much as I understand the desire to have an effect and to help, to me politics is kinda what kills my art. If I wake up in the morning and I have to think about Trump one more time, it’s hard to write a song. It’s hard to think of beauty. So I’m kinda westling with that right now because, I, like everybody that I know, is kind of obsessed with what the hell is going on in the country right now so how do you make art right now? Is it stupid, is it silly of me to go and sing some *bleep* songs in San Francisco when the country is going to hell in a hand basket. I don’t know. Is it? Maybe. I don’t know. These are questions that are hard to answer right now.
Jane asks him if music was always something he was doing.
David: No, no it really kind of came out of… well, I’ve had a life long love of music and I’ve always played music and I’ve always had music playing wherever I lived, but never played guitar or any instrument really. Never sang, never wrote music, but about 6-7 years ago I decided to make better use of all the down time an actor has in a trailer and I was also going through a divorce at the time so I had a lot of time that I would’ve been with my kids, I had alone, and I had a lot of emotion, I had a lot of unresolved kind of stuff going on and I just found that strumming a guitar, as cliche, it’s like the guy in animal house, I gave my love a cherry. Well luckily I was alone because I certainly deserved to have the guitar smashed.
Jane asks if he hired a teacher or watched YouTube videos.
David: What I did was I would look up songs that I liked and then I’d look up the chord progressions and then I would learn those chords and I did a very, very actory-tricky thing where, this is probably the 5th or 6th year of Californication, I came back to the producers and I said, “Hey I think Hank Moody takes guitar lessons.” So they had to pay for me and this wonderful guy named Carlos Calbo started teaching me cause he had taught my daughter, my TV daughter on the show Madeleine Martin, he taught her to play guitar so I starting with him and the cheap actor that I am, I did the same thing on Aquarius. I said, “Sam Hodiak plays guitar.” So I continued to get free lessons. I should’ve said something like Sam Hodiak drives a Lambourghini, but I didn’t. Would’ve been smarter. But I didn’t.
David: I love the Bay Area. I love it. I wished I live there. My daughter, who’s going to Dartmouth next year, we visited Berkley cause that was a choice, but she got an early decision Dartmouth so she’s going there. But I was smitten with Berkeley and all of San Francisco really. I hope you make it to the show.
For @vavieddfan Enjoy! My fingers are dead now cause the babe does talk a lot. But we love him for it. :D <3
(That’s setting aside the other way it’s dangerous: once you start to see these patterns, you see them everywhere and become much harder to surprise as a reader/viewer. Can’t help you with that one. Welcome to Media Studies, kids.)
That said, you don’t have to learn the site inside and out to find it useful. Here are a few tricks that can help you get in and out and back to your writing.
You know how they tell you never to go grocery shopping hungry because you’ll just wander and toss a bunch of stuff in your cart you don’t actually want or need? Same concept applies here. This, beyond anything else, is the golden rule for research, especially on TV Tropes. We’re gonna be referring to this a lot.
Are you writing a film paper and just can’t remember in which movie James Bond has a nice dinner with the bad guy so you can reference it properly? Are you starting to dip a toe in a new genre and want an idea of some of its prominent works? Are you trying to determine if there’s a historical basis for a certain trope? Set a goal before going in, even if that goal is just, “I have an hour to kill and want to read something interesting.”
When researching, you have to continually ask yourself, “This is fascinating, but is it relevant?” If the answer is no, set it aside.
A few site-specific techniques for doing just that:
-> Don’t read the examples. I recently directed an asker to the page on The Masquerade (where there’s a magical world hidden within the mundane one). The description and discussion of the trope is about 850 words. The entire text of the page including examples is 20,000 words. Obviously this represents a very different level of time investment! The first section of a trope page will usually give you a pretty good grasp of the concept and how it relates to other tropes. If you do need examples, observe the Golden Rule. The examples are organized by medium and collapsed under headers, so only open up the headers relevant to you. For instance, if you want to find a real world example of a trope, just click the Real Life header and leave the rest alone.
-> Set a timer. This is critical for if you’re just poking around, because it is appallingly easy to look up and discover that about eight hours have passed. But even if you’re going in on a mission, still determine how long you’re willing to give yourself on a session and set some sort of reminder to bump you out when it’s done.
-> Be wary of tabbed browsing. I’m not saying I’ve crashed my computer with the combination of TV Tropes and “Open link in new tab”, but I’m not not saying that, either. Here’s my trick: I open up the site in a separate window, so it’s easier to tell which tabs are TV Tropes and which aren’t. Then, if I still have tabs I haven’t hit by the end of my session (or if my tabs have just spiraled out of control), I’ll go to Bookmarks > Bookmark open pages… (this is for Chrome, other browsers likely have similar functionality). This lets me create a new folder in which I can dump all those tabs, and then I can close that window without fear of losing something potentially important. Along those lines…
-> Use bookmarks. I find bookmark folders extraordinarily robust for organizing information for later reference, especially if I’m juggling a couple of different projects. It’s particularly helpful for all those “fascinating, but not relevant” chestnuts, so you can peruse them at your leisure when you’re not on a mission.
-> Look for definitions. So you’re reading up on a trope that’s relevant to you, and it references some other trope you’re not familiar with and you don’t quite understand the point they’re making without that knowledge. Congratulations, you’ve just rolled out the red carpet to the entrance of the rabbit hole. If all you need is a quick definition and want to avoid tangent temptation, look for a bubble at the top of the page that says Laconic. This provides a 1-2 sentence description, which may be all you need. If that bubble’s not there, the first paragraph or two usually provide a general overview, so you can read those and bounce back to what you were doing without getting into greater detail. If you’re brand new to the site, I’d recommend looking over the Tropes of Legend page, which provides brief definitions for many of the most commonly referenced tropes. Otherwise you might find yourself making a whole lot of detours just to be able to finish one sentence in an article!
Assorted other tricks
Individual works usually have their own pages! The level of detail can vary (because wiki), but popular ones usually have a plot synopsis and a listing of tropes used in the work. This can serve as a sort of reverse lookup for trope names; if you don’t know what a trope is called but can think of an example, you can check the page for that movie/show/game/what-have-you and see if you can find the trope listed there. (You can also try the You Know That Show… link in the sidebar to get help from other site users.)
Many pages have a bubble at the top that says PlayingWith. This leads to a page that discusses variations on a trope: the different ways it can be subverted, invoked, deconstructed, reconstructed, and more. Can be very helpful in getting the creative gears going.
Like many other wikis, pages usually belong to various indexes, which are listed at the bottom. Indexes provide a bare-bones listing of related tropes without additional descriptions, so they can be useful for trying to navigate quickly.
Finally, if you create an account on the site, you can utilize the default display options in the sidebar. I’m particularly fond of night vision, especially if you find yourself in the rabbit hole at 3am.
There we have it! Now you can go forth and explore with confidence and pride. If you need further advice/help on using TV Tropes, feel free to drop me an ask on my personal blog. Happy troping!
Reading is one of my all time favorite past times and one of the ways I practice self-care. I regularly get questions asking how I read so much, or how to read more. Here are some tips and tricks for making time to read in college.
1. I recommend that all college students own an e-reader. Books on e-readers are cheaper than hardbacks or paperbacks. Also, you can keep a larger amount of books in your room by keeping them on an e-reader, and they are lighter and more portable in an already heavy backpack. As far as e-readers I recommend Kindle over Nooks, Kobos, and other brands. Kindles are virtually indestructible, have relatively good battery life, and kindle books are cheapest.
2. Learn to use your library, and maximize your library memberships. Let’s face it, College kids LOVE free stuff. There is a magical place where everything is free (other than printing :P)!! I belong to two different county libraries back home, and I use my school library ALL THE TIME. Also, you can get library books on your kindle! Which is awesome because then you don’t even have to leave your room.
3. Most of your favorite tv shows and movies are more than likely based on books. 13 Reasons Why, Pretty Little Liars, Forrest Gump, Mean Girls and so many more!! If you have a tv show or movie you particularly enjoy, I recommend looking it up and trying the book out.
4. Get a reading buddy (or buddies). It is great to read books with a friend because then you can discuss them together. A great way to do this is by joining a book club, but if you don’t have time or access to one, you can always read a book with a friend, family member or S/O. Also, you can set up “households” on amazon and share books with your “husband/wife” on their kindles with no additional charges. My boyfriend is listed as my “husband” so we can read books at the same time without both having to buy them!
5. Join Goodreads. There is something soo satisfying about tracking your reading progress. Also, Goodreads helps me discover new books, and connect with fellow book lovers.
6. Read books before bed! This is the BEST way to fit in extra reading time and it helps ease your body to sleep. Just make sure if you are using an e-reader, you use blue shade or turn down the brightness to the lowest possible setting.
7. Read books mentioned in other books and movies. Whenever I see/hear a book mentioned inside another book or media source I like, I always take note.
8. Set numeric goals for how many books, chapters, or pages you want to read.
9. Keep a variety of books on hand. It’s ok not to finish a book, or put it down for a while if you don’t like it or it’s boring you. Don’t get discouraged. Pick a different one.
10. Join and participate in read-a-thons. Read-a-thons are like marathons where you read as much as possible. Some have themes. Some don’t. Some are one day. Some are weeks. Dewey’s 24 Hour Read-a-thon is next Saturday (4/29).
THIS IS THE ASK OF MY LIFE. I could spout a million quotes at you, show you examples of great drabbles I’ve read both in fanfiction and outside of it, but there are a few things I’ve learned since starting my 100 drabble writing journey earlier this year that could help:
GIVE YOURSELF A WORD LIMIT
I try to keep myself above 300 and below 1,000 words for a drabble. If it wants to climb above that, then it wants to be a short story or ficlet and should be posted on its own. Sometimes I break this barrier by 100 words or so, and other times the drabbles HAVE demanded more form me (see Chaos (Sirimione) and Never Tamed (Draco x Charlie) as two prime examples). This will keep your mind on the end goal, to keep the little prompt as just a drabble.
THINK OF IT AS A SCENE IN A TV SHOW OR MOVIE
You don’t have to give the audience ALL of the details here. Is it important to know what color the walls are? How long her dress is and who designed it, or the color of her lips? Not always. Some things are better left to the imagination, for the reader to fill in, which makes the drabble all the more appealing.
When you take a single scene out of a movie, it is expected you won’t know all the facts of the plot. Build on what we can infer. (actually this is also my advice for novellas and novels as well, don’t kill me with the way the drapes make you feel, unless it is IMPORTANT, as explained below.)
What we have here is a scene in the near middle of the movie. Take it out and it is STILL A GOOD SCENE even though we don’t see any of the character development before or after. Here, we have a drunk pirate, with an accent that tells us what his life before may have been like growing up in the bowels of a ship, where hers is all high society and well-bred manners. Tell me about his tattoos, how his skin is tanned compared to Elizabeth’s showing his life at sea. Talk to me about her hair, unbound and waving in the wind, and her prancing around in her underwear (yes that is her underwear) to explain how she’s still from good breeding but right now none of that good breeding has really prepared her for getting marooned on an island with a drunk scallywag so she’s going on instinct. They talk about life, they sing a well-known song, we get a little information on their history, and a LOT OF ANGST lot of interaction between the two characters. There is still a definitive beginning, middle and end, and if I really tried, I could probably write out what happened here in less than 1,000 words. And it would still make sense.
PICK WHICH QUESTIONS YOU WANT TO LEAVE THE AUDIENCE TO ANSWER
Again - is it important to the plot? Yes?? Good! ADD IT. If not, leave it be. Understand what questions you want the reader to ask themselves, and here are some examples to get you going:
What era? (Regency, Medievil, Victorian, Future, Present, etc.)
Is this an alternative universe where magic exists? If so, how does that work? Wands? Is everyone magic?
What kind of building are they in?
Is it day or night?
What does the air smell like?
What are they wearing? (IT IS IMPORTANT TO NOTE: sometimes explaining each detail of an outfit is important. Sometimes we just need to know if they are wearing pants, or goggles. One item of clothing is usually enough to build a whole picture - short skirt, high heels, leather pants, wallet with a chain, button down shirt, baggy sweater, ripped jeans, pajama pants, slippers, cargo shorts…)
Are they blind? Hearing impaired or totally deaf? (You would be amazed at how long you can go in a story without revealing these things, and they can be a GREAT plot twist, same as revealing gender or age.)
How old are they?
How long have they known each other?
Do they get along or is this a relationship of convenience?
What ethnicity are they?
What country is this?
What religion do they practice, if at all?
How would they react to a gunman entering the building they’re in? A late train? Seeing an ex from ten years ago? The snack machine not taking their money, it keeps spitting out their wrinkled bill, so they can’t get that candy bar?
Has this happened to them before?
What is their favorite food?
Do they come from money? Do they come from humble beginnings?
Did they grow up an only child or one of a dozen?
Are they street or book smart?
What are their fatal flaws?
Which of the seven deadly sins works most accurately to describe them?
How do they feel about murder?
There are so. Many. Questions. You can ask yourself these with EVERY story, but understanding what is important to tell the story you’re telling RIGHT NOW, is vital.
LEAVE THEM WANTING MORE
I cannot stress this enough. I CANNOT STRESS THIS ENOUGH. I CANNOT STRESS THIS ENOUGH.
THIS WILL MAKE PEOPLE COME BACK TO READ MORE OF YOUR STORIES LIKE LITTLE ADDICTS.
This may sound harsh, but really, do you go back and read a book again because you understood everything the first time you read it? No? It works the same for a 750 word drabble someone posted on the internet. You go back to answer those questions, to interact with the author however you can, to revisit the characters and fall into what is comfortable about them or what about them makes you question your own personality or life.
Anon, I truly hope this helps, and if you have any more questions, feel free to ask.
Tom HiddlestonxReader and reference to Sebastian StanxReader is the future perhaps?
I’ve been reading too many imagines on @theartofimagining13 and some of my own silly brain … Here’s Chapter Two :)
Chapter Two - Whirlwind
It was a whirlwind from there. You knew that this was going to be your big break, a major role in a broadway production opposite a famous leading man, it would take a lot of screwing up to not get at least a small career bump from that much luck and good press, but you had no idea just how big. It didn’t help matters that the internet had practically exploded with rumors about you and Tom since the pigtail selfie incident. This was almost too much too fast, but you did your best to take it in stride. Thankfully, when you’d feel overwhelmed, Tom was there with kind words of support and advice.
Your agent, however, was about to kill you. After the limited run ended, you had gone from being a fairly unknown stage actress with a loyal, if tiny, band of fans, to one of the hottest new stars, the word “Tony” has even been bandied about but you were not holding your breath. There were offers upon offers for shows, movies, even a couple tv pilots, and you were taking your time trying to decide what was next. You agent just wanted you to pick something before the heat died down.
You didn’t want to be a movie star or famous, that was never your goal, you just liked living someone else’s life on stage in those fleeting personal performances that were gone as soon as they happened. It was truly living in and for the moment when you were on stage. You didn’t need to live in posterity on the silver screen, you were happy in your presenium. It was Tom who talked you into finally doing an independent film, a story that felt very real and close to your past. You felt a connection to the character so deeply that it ended up earning you a Golden Globe nomination. You took Lou as your date and had a fabulous night with her and Tom, even if you went home empty-handed.
The more you thought about how this all came into being, the more you realized it was all with Tom’s help and that made you smile. He really was a wonderful friend.
You were out in L.A. doing some press for the post globes wide release of your film when a sweet-faced and delightfully nerdy interviewer asked, “So, you’ve really become Miss Popular since your nomination, there are rumors you’re on the path to join your friend Tom in the Marvel Universe, is there any truth to the rumors or is Sebastian Stan just getting his hopes up?”
You covered your face and laughed, “I’ve heard that rumor too, but sadly, I can’t really say.”
She laughed along, “Awe, poor Sebastian, he’s been campaigning for you at every interview I’ve seen him do for the past two months.”
You giggle and wink at her camera as you say, “It’s good to know I have fans, Hey, Sebastian, call me.”
A week later, as you’re packing up to head back to New York, your phone rings.
“(Y/N), you’re staying in L.A.” your agent never bothered with pleasantries, “I got the call.”
You stop mid-packing, “What call?”
It was about a week later when you laughed as Tom crushed you in a hug. He had decided to celebrate you joining the “family” by surprising you when you got home from L.A. “Dear Lord, man, I need to breathe eventually.” He gave you an overly noisy kiss on the cheek as he keeps a hold of you but takes some of the boa constrictor out of the hug.
“I’ve missed you, hugging simply cannot be avoided.”
You laugh as you slowly if a bit reluctantly pull yourself out of his hug. “You saw me a week ago, Tom. Don’t be so dramatic.”
“Just telling the truth. Welcome home.”
You dropped your bags in your bedroom and flop down on the couch next to Tom as he handed you a glass of wine. He seemed so at home here that you had a brilliant idea.“Tom?” You lean your head on his shoulder and smile at him.
“Hmm?” He smiled back and took a sip of his wine.
“Move in with me.”
He chokes a bit and laughs, “I think you skipped a few steps there, (Y/N), you should at least ask a man out to dinner first.”
You lightly punch his arm and he feigns grievous injury as you say, “Don’t be weird, I just mean that if you’re in New York anyway either for work or to hijack my Netflix, you may as well stay here, seems silly to keep living out of hotel rooms when you spend your time, whenever you are not asleep or working, here anyway. You’re one of my best friends, Tom, so, yeah, move in with me.”
The warm and genuine smile makes his eyes crinkle. “I’d love to.”
Jean is terrified of his new team. With the Ravens, he knew what to expect, how to act, what to do in any situation… He was an actor on his own life, always having to behave in a certain way. He always knew the script.
So when he meets the Trojans damn he is terrified. His new team is loud, and scandalous, and love to touch each other (and not with punches wtf) and hug and kiss and he is just paralyzed at this.
He has been taught he only have to talk when required, emotional connections are worthless and never show your feelings.
But with the time, he finds himself being less scared.
Because his team knows. He hasn’t talked to them that much but they know.
They know that if you want to give an exy advice to Jean you have to do it kindly. They know that Jean likes to stay at the court after practice to be even better so they take turns to stay with him so he doesn’t have to be alone. They know Jean doesn’t like going to parties (too much people, he tried once and had a panic attack) so they tried to found something to connect with him that wasn’t exy. Jeremy discovered he liked to stay late watching old French movies on TV so Laila searched for any cinema that played something like that and all of the team started going with Jean. Sometimes, it isn’t even all the team. Sometimes, it gets too loud and full so once a month it’s only Jean and Jeremy in the cinema (date goals tbh)
It’s not going to be easy to adapt. Sometimes, Jean thinks he is never going to fit with them. But he discovers, it’s so easy to be happy with his team.
He smiles more. He almost laugh (Jeremy discovered him trying not to laugh at his team being silly so Jean stopped, Jeremy was smiling all the day because of this). He try to do nice things to them as they do with him. He tries new things because he knows that make them happy. He starts opening more to the Trojans.
Next game, when Jeremy is doing a stupid dance bc they won, Jean laughs. It’s a quiet laugh but still. Everyone notices but doesn’t want to make him uncomfortable so they ignore it. Except Jeremy, who does visual contact with him. Jean smiles and Jeremy smile grows even more.
In that moment, Jean is not terrified anymore. He is happy.
Genre: movie reviewer!phil, actor!dan, wrong number AU
Warnings: none :) just some talking to strangers on the internet but you’re all familiar with that
Word Count: 6k
Summary: based on this prompt
Dan’s a famous actor who gets a text from an unknown number one day, and Phil’s a movie reviewer who just wants to find his Adventure Time sweater, and has trouble connecting the dots when the unknown number continues to reply to him.
(phil’s less like ‘shit’ and more like ‘….sHiT’at the end but otherwise :))))) THANK YOU)
A/N: this was a Fun Time and i should technically be doing culminating tasks and exam review but that can wait. super duper close to 1k by the way wtf how did that happen thank you
(bolded text = phil’s text messagese // non bolded = dan’s just mini psa)
Distress Tolerance: Big List of Ideas and Examples for Practicing the Self-Soothe Skill
When using the Distress Tolerance Skill of Self-Soothe, the goal is to create small, physically pleasurable or calming or stimulating experiences for your senses. Here is a substantial list of some examples of pleasurable or engaging experiences for each sense:
a lot of your breakdowns happen at night, go outside and look at the
stars. Sometimes it’s nice to be accompanied by a stargazing app on your
phone that helps you identify constellations and other astral
features. This is a personal favourite of mine because you also get the
benefit of fresh air.
Look at pictures you like in a book of
illustrations, a book of artwork by favourite artists, look at the
complex designs of adult colouring books (and colour them!)
and compile a tag on your tumblr or a board on pinterest of calming or
visually stimulating images/gifs (or a photo album of good memories or
images that remind you of good moments)
Go to a craft store and
buy one (or many!) beautiful silk flower(s), or, go to a florist/flower
shop/grocery store and buy an interesting live flower or plant.
Terrariums make particularly calming things to look at.
Light a candle and watch the flame.
up a glitter jar or snowglobe and watch the glitter or snow swirl and
settle (there are many different “recipes” for making a glitter jar so
if you’re interested in learning how, just google it and try different
methods until you get a result you’re happy with. You can also probably
buy one on Etsy if you don’t want to do the DIY thing).
Walk in a pretty part of town or a nice park. Look closely at any interesting architecture or beautiful nature.
Watch a sunrise or sunset.
Watch the clouds, notice shapes they form that may look like animals or objects.
Watch a fireworks display.
During holiday seasons like Halloween or Christmas, drive or walk around your area to look at the decoration displays. Look up images or videos of impressive and ambitious and extravagant Christmas light displays.
Go to a nature park, bird or butterfly sanctuary and watch the creatures.
Watch dance performances on YouTube (there are SO MANY good ones in all different styles, solo or with a partner or in a group, dance battles, street performances or TV performances like So You Think You Can Dance… you can find incredibly amazing things)
Watch YouTube videos of martial arts demonstrations (Tai Chi is soothing to watch, Capoeira is really visually interesting, HEMA/WMA rapier or longsword or sidesword drills can also be rhythmic and the repetition can be enjoyable to watch) or some practice or tournament sparring (NO MMA bloodsport, that’s not soothing!)
Watch YouTube videos and clips of gymnastics competitions, or figure-skating performances/competitions.
Watch sports highlight reels on YouTube or on a sports TV channel like SportsNet, TSN, ESPN, etc.
YouTube tutorials: make-up tutorials or hair tutorials, cosplay
tutorials, drawing or painting tutorials (or speedpaints or timelapses),
Watch cute animal videos or gifs (another personal favourite of mine).
Read comics, graphic novels, or manga.
Watch a visually intricate, interesting, calming, or stimulating TV show or movie. Animated movies or shows are particularly nice, like Miyazaki films or some Dreamworks films or the Legend of Korra series are some examples that come to mind. Movies with a lot of well-done visual effects are also nice, or movies and TV shows that have excellent costume or set design, like the Lord of the Rings trilogy or period movies/shows. If you download movies and TV shows, perhaps keep a special folder of go-to calming or visually engaging shows that appeal to your sense of vision.
Watch nature or science documentaries like shows on the National Geographic Channel (or website), the Discovery Channel, Animal Planet, the BBC, etc. My top recommendations are anything narrated by David Attenborough, and Cosmos narrated by Neil deGrasse Tyson.
Watch educational YouTube channels (personal favourite is TheBrainScoop, a natural history channel out of the Field Museum in Chicago). I know some people really dislike the vlogbrothers, but SciShow and the various field-specific incarnations of SciShow are also interesting to watch and are visually engaging because of high production quality.
Put up Christmas lights in your room but keep them there all year around and turn them on/plug them in when you want something pretty to look at.
Decorate an area of your room, or make one area of your room pleasant to look at.
Re-read letters or kind messages people have sent you over the years. If they’re online or on your phone, take screenshots of them and keep them in a folder so that you can look through them when you’re feeling down about yourself. For especially special ones, print a few out and either pin/tape them up on your wall where you can see them regularly, or fold them up and put them in your wallet or your bag (purse, backpack, briefcase, etc) so you can read them anywhere you go if you need to. (You can also put these in your Self-Soothe Kit)
Listen to soothing, invigorating, or empowering music. Create specific playlists for this purpose. Don’t include music that makes you feel negative emotions or brings up negative memories.
Listen to ambient noise makers, especially ones that are customizable. If you’re having too much of a breakdown to play with customizable ambient noise makers, you can always find 3-10 hour loops of ambient noise videos on YouTube.
Pay attention to the sounds of nature (waves, birds, rainfall, leaves rustling, etc).
Pay attention to the sounds of the city (traffic, human chatter, street performers, the sound of the wind whistling down streets or around buildings, etc)
Sing to your favourite songs and blast your music super loud. If you have a good sound system, lie on the floor and feel the bass.
Listen to the discography of your favourite band or musician or artist
Listen to audiobooks
Listen to lectures or podcasts (iTunesU is a great place to find free lectures of full university courses or lecture series on a particular subject. TedTalks is also a good place for this stuff.)
Listen to (and watch) educational YouTube channels (my favourite, as previously stated, is TheBrainScoop, a natural history channel out of the Field Museum in Chicago, and previously a zoological museum in Montana)
Watch/Listen to documentaries narrated by David Attenborough (his voice is incredibly soothing, seriously, if you watch the Life documentary series, watch the version he narrated, not Oprah’s version because Attenborough’s is much more soothing). The documentaries are also usually a very high quality so they’re visually soothing as well.
Listen to musical soundtracks, or watch the shows on YouTube, or watch YouTube-specific musicals like the musicals created by StarKid (Starship is particularly good).
Hum or whistle.
Call/Skype a friend or loved one to listen to their voice.
Play an instrument or learn to play an instrument (you can watch tutorials for this on YouTube too)
Make playlists for different emotions or ones that achieve different effects. One that’s relaxing, one that’s upbeat and happy and makes you want to dance, one that makes you want to rock out or pumps you up, one that’s instrumental (movie and video game soundtracks are good for this), etc.
Make playlists with certain themes, like traveling, or city life, or the sea, or songs that remind you of someone you love. Include songs that inspire you or comfort you (three of my go-to songs for that are I Stand Alone by Van Canto, Good to be Alive by Skillet, and Battle Cry by Angel Haze, for example) and songs that remind you of your goals, things you want to accomplish, things you still want to do and experience because that can really help you look past the pain of the now and look towards the possibilities of the future.
Note: when making playlists, try to only include songs you really like and would want to listen to all the way through. You don’t want to be skipping a lot of songs, or skipping any at all. The ideal is to be able to put on a playlist that is at least a couple hours long and be able to just continuously listen.
Use your favourite soap, shampoo, aftershave, cologne, lotions, body wash, shaving cream, body spray or perfume.
Light an aromatherapy candle or just a scented candle.
Make a cup of a particularly aromatic tea.
Open a container of loose tea and inhale the scent, or open up a new bag of coffee and inhale the fresh coffee.
Put lemon oil on your furniture (I’ve never done this, I dunno what it smells like, but this is listed in the Manual so obviously some people find it beneficial).
Bake something, because baking always smells good. Baking bread is really nice and could be fairly easy if you have a bread-maker.
Cook a particularly delicious smelling meal (personally I’m partial to the smell of cooking turkey bacon, but also the smell of onions being cooked always smells good to me).
Put potpourri or an aromatherapy oil in your room. You can get those air freshener/room scents that plug into the wall and put one of those in your room.
Rub an aromatherapy oil on the insides of your wrists (I do this and have a few different scents and I keep some in my self-soothe kit)
Wear a scent locket necklace (a necklace with a locket that has a piece of fabric inside that you dip in a scented oil so the locket continuously gives off this scent).
Boil cinnamon or heat up vanilla.
Go to a flower shop and literally smell the roses! (or your favourite flower or herb or choice)
Keep dried herbs in your house, ones you particularly like
Buy a small spice kit or a travel spice kit and carefully smell them (don’t inhale too deeply because otherwise you might get powder up your nose!)
Open a window, walk outside, get some fresh air.
Go to a wooded area or a park or a garden and mindfully breathe in the fresh smells of nature.
Buy a special soap or face wash or body lotion or body spray just to be used for the times when you need to self-soothe, as a treat for yourself.
Eat some of your favourite foods.
Drink your favourite soothing drink, such as a special tea, a particularly rich or flavoured hot chocolate, a fancy latte, or a smoothie (JugoJuice is particularly good on the soothing smoothie front).
Order a very special and extravagant drink at Starbucks or your coffeeshop of choice. Make sure it’s an order that you only get on rare occasions so that it remains special. As for extra whipped cream, be completely indulgent. This is one of my favourite things to do. Make a list of special drinks and flavour combinations that you enjoy that are not on the standard menu, keep the list in your wallet or your bag so that you’ll be able to remember a more complicated order at times when your memory might be failing you due to too much distress.
Go to a fancy bakery (or the bakery section in your local grocery store) and get a slice of cake, or treat yourself to a similarly special dessert.
Go out for dinner to a place you enjoy, either a place that’s a special treat for you, or a place that is comforting and familiar.
Eat a food or candy that is strongly associated with your childhood (like fruit rollups or dunk-a-roos or gummy bears, or cereal like Froot Loops or Lucky Charms or Cinnamon Toast Crunch, for me).
Go to your local convenience store and indulge yourself with a chocolate bar.
Sample flavours of ice cream at an ice cream parlour.
Buy a special ice cream cone with more than one scoop or flavour, with toppings like sprinkles or crushed nuts or chocolate drizzle. Give yourself permission to have something special and out-of-the-ordinary. Alternatively, go to the grocery store’s ice cream or frozen yogurt section and buy yourself a tub or box of ice cream in your favourite flavour. Try to get small containers so you don’t end up eating too much and feeling sick afterwards. That would be counterproductive.
Suck on a piece of hard candy.
Eat a very chewy candy that takes a long time to eat.
Chew your favourite flavour of gum. Go out and get a special flavour of bubblegum and blow bubbles. The repetitive motion of chewing gum is also soothing and can prevent you from clenching your teeth and jaw.
Brush your teeth and use mouthwash.
Drink a carbonated, fizzy drink or put fizzy tablets in your drink and notice the sensation of the bubbles in your mouth.
Eat slowly, to savour and enjoy what you’re eating. Try to eat Mindfully, using the skills Observe, Describe, Participate, and One-Mindful. Make sure you’re being Non-Judgmental of yourself for eating a treat or something special. If eating can be triggering for you or affect your self-esteem or will make you feel guilty, then it would be best to not choose this sense to stimulate.
Take a long hot bath or shower, or sit in a hot tub.
Pet your dog or cat. Cuddle with them close, feel their heartbeat, feel their chest expand as they breathe. Pay attention to the texture of their fur or coat and how it feels on your hands.
Have someone give you a massage or a back rub.
Massage your own hands and feet, shoulders and calves, neck and forehead/temples.
Rub a lotion over your entire body, feel how soft your skin is.
Put a cold compress or damp cloth on your forehead or the back of your neck.
Wash your face, either just with water or with a special facial scrub.
Follow all the steps of a skincare routine.
Brush your teeth, paying attention to your gums, the insides of your cheeks, and your tongue. It can be surprisingly soothing if you do it methodically and take your time and do it Mindfully.
Sink into a comfortable chair in your home.
Lay down, comfortably in bed, surrounded by pillows (maybe make a pillow fort?), and pull the covers up to your chin or over your head, and tuck yourself in or have someone else tuck you in.
Put fresh, clean sheets on your bed. Alternatively, buy special, high-thread count sheets for you to put on your bed on special occasions like when you need to self-soothe and feel comforted.
If you’re going to be out in public and may need to self-soothe, wear an article of clothing that is particularly soft or silky or pleasant to touch (like a scarf, for example), or wear a really soft or crisp shirt, a snuggly hoodie, a very smooth blazer of fine wool, a satiny or silky blouse or jacket, or a garment that has an interesting texture that you can run your hands over (I’m a huge fan of textured fabrics so most of my clothes are made of fabrics with interesting textures precisely for this purpose).
NOTE: Make sure every part of your outfit is comfortable and not itchy or constricting, make sure the tags on the garments don’t irritate you and that the seams are also not irritating or abrasive.
If you’re at home, put on your comfiest, softest pajamas or fuzzy socks or fuzzy/cushioned slippers.
Take a drive with the car windows rolled down (or, if in a convertible, with the top down), and feel the wind blow through your hair and the feel of the wind on your skin. This is another personal favourite of mine.
Run your hand along smooth wood or leather, or feel the details of a wood or leather object that has been carved or embossed.
Run your hand over a worry stone.
Grip a stress ball/toy.
Play with a fidget toy (like a spinner ring) or a stim toy.
If you’re a crystal person, hold a crystal in your hands and feel the energy within it, along with its smoothness and sharpness.
Hug someone. Feel that physical closeness, notice and feel their heartbeat and the rise and fall of their chest while you’re hugging them.
Cuddle with someone.
Cuddle a stuffed animal, especially a particularly comforting one from your childhood.
Hold someone’s hand. Notice the feel of their skin, the texture, the temperature, how you’re holding hands (are your fingers interlaced? If they are, how so? Etc)
This one is kinda weird, but put liquid glue on your hand, let it dry, and then peel it off. It’s an interesting sensation.
I don’t know if this counts as touch, but paint your nails. Do your makeup. Style your hair. Experiment with your makeup and your hair, do something different or wacky or straight up wild, for the tactile experience of working with your hair and the make up.
Pluck your eyebrows. Some people may not find this pleasant or soothing, but I do. Maybe I’m just weird.
Go for a run and concentrate on the feeling of your feet connecting to the pavement or the trail or the treadmill, feel the sweat accumulate on your body, if running outside feel the wind in your hair and on your face.
Go for a swim, feel the water on your skin as you move through it.
There are other senses like your sense of pressure.
Using pressure like a weighted blanket or a heavy quilt of comforter
laid over your body can be a very pleasant and calming sensation and is
commonly used by people who experience sensory overload, such as
Yet another sense is our perception of temperature.
Here you could basically use the T in the TIP skill, or a milder form
of the T skill which could be putting a cool, damp cloth on your
forehead or the back of your neck. You could also take a warm bath or
sit in a hot-tub.
While there are many more, the last sense I’ll mention is our sense of motion.
It is soothed by repetitive motions, like tapping fingers or feet,
bouncing your knee, or sitting in a rocking chair. I personally find
rocking chairs to be especially soothing.
This list is far from exhaustive, so you might come up with something that isn’t on this list that really works for you.