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Ways to Cheer Yourself Up (When wanting to be alone) - 50 top things to do
  • 1. Go ON Tumblr, believe it or not, we don't care where you're from, what you do, how you're being you, as long as you are being you, you're pretty much welcomed on here. That's why i love it. Unless of course you are homophobic or judgemental or ignorant - then the people will speak for themselves, we look out for each other here.
  • 2. Read Books; escapism is a wonderful thing
  • 3. Listen to music; and no - not the sad, 'ALL BY MYSELF' type music, but the kickass songs like 'I will Survive' or 'Loser Like Me' just celebrate yourself for being awesome, because we know you are; even if others don't; especially then actually.
  • 4. Become your own superhero. Every single one of you have a talent or a dream. Follow up on that talent/dream. YOU ARE WORTH IT, and you can be whoever you want to be.
  • 5. DISNEY MOVIES. Unless you absolutely hate bursting out into song - better cut of highschool musical and glee while were at this, then Disney is the best pick me up ever.
  • 6. Watch your favourite TV shows. Remind yourself why life can be awesome. Watching your fav characters usually means you can relate to them.
  • 7. Go on walks - it's very pretty outside, and sometimes our heads can be overloaded with information or stress, I advise calming music and a nice walk outside in comfortable clothes.
  • 8. Have a diary. A friend of mine recently bought me one, and it's a godsend because all the anger, or emotions I feel, I try to put in the diary rather than putting it out on others. It also calms you down. I feel better when I write.
  • 9. Speaking of writing...if you enjoy it- WRITE. Writing is a wonderful way to escape. You can put all your emotions into your characters and they just come to life. I tend to do that when I'm stressed.
  • 10. If writing is not your thing then bake. I've actually ironically read in a fan fiction where a character would bake when stressed and try out new recipes, this character tried making butterbeer; maybe be adventurous; have a food blog or something to keep you occupied.
  • 11. Be With Your Pets - Pets are loyal creatures, and they love you, even when you're being a pain in the ass, and I hear they're very good listeners.
  • 12. Now I don't know about you, but I LOVE Musicals. If you are a musical fanatic like me and you're feeling a little down, my dears; listen to those awesome voices, because sometimes we just - need - a break (Also, if you haven't watched RENT, watch it - NODAYBUT TODAY...or Starkid...Starkid make the most funniest musical parodies, even if you don't like musicals I suggest it, and if you're not enjoying their YouTube Channel, then I'll eat my own hat).
  • 13. ASK ME ANYTHING. If you really want to talk to somebody but you don't want to talk to people you know and you just want to get things out, my ASK box is always open.
  • 14. Find a hobby. If you don't really want to talk to anybody, that's okay, sometimes we need to just have some 'me time'. In my me times, I usually deactivate from Facebook, and just focus on things that make me happy. Like; Puzzles, Sudoku, Games, writing, cooking, singing, whatever it is...travelling even. Enjoy yourself.
  • 15. Travel. Maybe being stuck in the same place is the problem, maybe you're head wants to be in a place where it can ACTUALLY THINK.
  • 16. Go Hiking. I suppose Hiking is similar to walking but if you're an outdoor person, this is a great way to clear your head and to feel fresh.
  • 17. Hit The Gym. Or even do your own exercises. I like to walk - do crunches, and I love Zumba. I love dancing. If you love being active, this is also another way to clear your mind from negative things.
  • 18. GO SEE A MOVIE!!! When was the last time you had fun? Even if it's just by yourself. You're allowed to treat yourself. Go, enjoy, be surrounded by people, even if they're strangers.
  • 19. If you like coffee, treat yourself for one at a local cafe. Who knows, you might meet your coffee soulmate in a cafe one day.
  • 20. STOP thinking Negative. Have a Pros/Cons List. Try not to outweight the Pros list with the Cons. Please?
  • You are good enough.
  • 21. Write down a bucket List, and start ticking them off. Having goals and dreams is healthy. If you have dreams, then you have a direction of where you're going.
  • 22. Get help. It's okay, if you're head is in a really bad place to reach out to people. It really is okay.
  • 23. Help others. If you're not sure what to do with yourself at all, be useful to other people less fortunate than you. Volunteer! Work with Charity, Feed the homeless, help the guide dogs association.
  • 24. Smile more. It looks good on you, believe me. Spend time with your guilty pleasures, my guilty pleasure is binge watching glee
  • 25. Please DO NOT go to a pub to drink to ease your mind, if you are going to do that, do it with a friend, or somebody close.
  • 26. Eat Chocolate. Okay yes while society says NO DON'T EAT THE FATTY FOOD. Hey; screw them. If you feel better eating a bit of junk go for it. There's nothing wrong with eating a whole pizza or tub of ben and jerry ice cream when feeling upset - just try not to make TOO much of a habit : p
  • 27. REBLOG YOUR FOLLOWERS POSTS, you might be surprised that you aren't the only one feeling the way you're feeling, you might be surprised by how much you're forgetting that hey - it's gonna be alright.
  • 28. Do something nice for your neighbour. Ah who knows, have you ever actually talked to them? Maybe they might be lonely too.
  • 29. Have a GAMES Night. A very good friend of mine loves Games. If You LOVE Games, then hell have a marathon of them. Play the sims, be in control.
  • 30. Speaking of marathons...dun dun dun - MOVIE MARATHON, I Don't Know About You Guys, But Having A Harry Potter Movie Marathon always cheers me Up. WITH FOOD Of course, and good company, but this is about cheering yourself up, so if you don't want company, that's okay.
  • 31. Draw. I love drawing too. I suppose I'm more of the creative person. There are a lot of different types of people out there, maybe you like solving things - do those fancy cube things Idk what they're called. If you are like my brother and you love Maths, then maybe you can tutor someone. On one hand you're helping someone, and doing something you like doing, just like I'm drawing because I like drawing.
  • 32.Be with kids. believe it or not, kids are the most innocent little munchkins, and they honestly don't care what you look like, if you play hide and seek with them they'll be thrilled, so long as you're nice to them, they're generally nice to you... but be warned, they tell it how it is too. I talk a bit different. The most popular thing they've said to me was "Is that why you talk funny, because of the things in your teeth?" (They've also never really seen braces before) I even had one kid determined to get me to sing 'Everything is awesome' I'll never forget that because this kid clearly didn't care how I sounded, and just wanted me to sing with her. I felt great.
  • 33. If you're into Fairy Tales, Please Please Read Chris Colfer's The Land Of Stories series 1-4. It's an amazing series, and you almost forget what world you're in once you start reading. Plus, there's more coming (I'm a little excited)
  • 34. Watch Pixar Movies. You can't go wrong.
  • 35. GO TO HOGWARTS. Harry Potter Fan? Visit - Platform 9 3/4s in London, or go to the Harry Potter World, or if you can't actually visit these sites, go on Pottermore.
  • 36. Read Fan Fiction, you might not be a harry potter fan, but whatever fandom you are in, believe me sometimes Fan Fictfion Cheer me up. I adore Glee *Don't Judge Me* and Dalton is the best thing ever. Or Little Numbers...or Both. They cheer me up big time.
  • 37. Role play. If you like superheroes or characters, go be with the crowd. I believe they have events like Comic Con, and on Facebook they even have Events for such things, go be with strangers! So long as it's safe of course.
  • 38. Write a letter to the person who inspires you most and send it. You might be surprised by an answer.
  • 39. Pick up your instrument. Don't ignore your musical talent if you do have a musical talent. Remember, you're worth it. I don't care what you've done. Pick, It Up.
  • 40. Maybe go visit your family? I know this is about 'quality me time' but if you haven't seen your family in such a long time or are at a distance. Maybe being surrounded by something familiar is what you need.
  • 41. Change Careers. If you're not enjoying what you're doing or studying, change it. I remember in highschool a teacher said you might change your job 10 - 12 times before getting it right. It'okay, you just haven't found where you're meant to be yet.
  • 42. Enter a competition - Who knows what will come from it, take risks.
  • 43. If you're a risk-taker, challenge yourself. IDK how you're going to do that, but google has some pretty good answers. Even ask your tumblr followers, they follow you for a reason after all.
  • 44. Go on a boat. Go Fishing! I don't know, it's not my thing, but if you like fishing, then hell - go out there and fish.
  • 45. Find time for yourself, are you working too much? Maybe you are working too much. You know life doesn't stop for nobody, and if you keep pushing yourself so hard, time will go so fast and you won't realise how much of that time you could have spent on your own self.
  • The world is not going to end if you treat yourself.
  • 46. You ARE Good Enough. Listen to my words. Sometimes encouragement is all we need, when people feel hopeless, or like everything's gone wrong. It's gonna be okay. I promise, just hang in there.
  • 47. Write Down Quotes that Inspire You. I have a wall of these, and of people that inspire me too, and it reminds me of the good things in life when I'm in a crappy mood.
  • 48. Find something to do. If you're not doing anything, go take up a course, research things that interest you, you might be surprised by what comes from it. Join a community that enjoys doing things you do.
  • 49. Go To The Beach - If you live in Australia like me, visiting the beach is actually really calming and me and my best friend always would go on a random drive, and drive up to a beach or a look out, and it was always calming. Enchanting too sometimes. Maybe we forget about the place we live in, and what's exciting about the place. If you're in New York, visit Broadway or The Statue Of Liberty, or if you're in London, go to the London Bridge, or the Eye, visit the Eiffel Tower if you're in Paris...just go Anywhere.
  • 50. Take a random journey. Go on a train to somewhere new, go on a road trip. You never know what's around the corner.

HEYO STAR WARS FAM! it’s me, calling from the other side. Lmao, I am so funny, rip. ANYWAY, there has been a LOT of negativity in the fandom lately and meanwhile, I am more than HAPPY that I do not have any part in it, I do see some of it on my dash. It makes me SAD &&. makes me think about how we used to be ( wow, cheesy ) when I joined, the fandom wasn’t like THIS but well, time never stops ( *fight the urge to athlete student meme this —* ). So, I know, I know - this post won’t change ANYTHING but I just wanted to do something to maybe cheer us all up a little. Negativity should not take over a fandom and should not be the reason people neglect their blogs. Have your Clique, have your faves as long as YOU feel comfortable because THAT is all that matters. And now, something bright &&. nice so yes, under the cut are some Positive Callouts!! happy reading and spread the positive vibes! 

xoxo Antonia

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After The Final Problem, I’ve seen that part of the fandom is reacting very strongly and negatively to it and I just wanna say that honestly you are being offensive and abusive.

You are offensive when you say that now that Johnlock was not made canon, you feel like your identity as a queer person is delegitimized, a thought which is often expressed in ways such as: “I was proud of my identity but now I am not anymore/I don’t know who I am anymore because of the last episode” or “Before Sherlock I thought I had to be straight my whole life but now I don’t know what to think” - as if being gay or lesbian or bi or pan or whatever could be something that happens on and off in one’s life. As if a tv show should be invested with the power and the privilege and the burden to become an advocate for… what, exactly? Lgbtq+ rights? People are literally blaming showrunners for not wanting to throw a gay storyline into a crime drama that has never truly focused on and dealt with sexuality - of any kind - partially excluding A Scandal in Belgravia, and even then it was just Irene’s profession, it was just a job, it was never the centre of the show. 

Supporting LGBTQ+ rights and representation does not mean shoving queer characters and a queer romance into a show just for the sake of it - as Gatiss and Moffat beautifully and eloquently said last summer at Comic Con.

Representation matters, of course it does. Representation needs to be done properly. In order to represent a category into your story, it needs to be consistent, it needs to feel natural. Romance - of any kind - has never been natural in Sherlock. For crying out loud, John and Mary got married and still very little romance was shown. It’s just not the style of the show. Why should it have been any different if we were considering a gay couple instead of a m/f one?

It’s offensive when you hint at the fact that the lack of canon Johnlock makes it unsafe/problematic for you to be queer - what the fuck. Queer people have made history by fighting against prejudice and violent repression, queer people have died and queer people still die, in some parts of the world, simply because they are queer. And you are honestly going to complain about a tv show and claim that it has such an impact on your environment that it will make it unsafe for you to be gay? Oh, please. If you live in an accepting or neutral environment, it doesn’t change anything. If you live in a repressive environment, my heart goes out to you (it truly does), but a gay couple on a crime drama is not going to solve your situation.

Tv shows are just fiction, entertainment. Of course they can become very important in one’s life, they can come to mean so much just like any other kind of fictional narrative - but still, at the end of the day, tv shows have no obligations other than that of provinding quality material in terms of narrative. They certainly have no moral obligations towards anyone. You cannot blame two showrunners because you feel they have not represented the category you identify with, ina  show that has never made it its mission to deal with sexuality. It just deals with other stuff - a ton of equally relatable stuff, if you ask me. It’s a narrative choice and it’s always been made clear that Sherlock would never become a that kind of show that openly focuses on sexual orientation and/or identity and all that. A show cannot deal with every possible sensitive topic, and it should not be expected to do that. So everyone makes their choices. They don’t owe it to you to do that. They owe you nothing but a good story well written and well delivered. (Again, I suggest you listen again to that interview from Comic Con I linked before.)

Of course, you can say you didn’t like the episode, the season, the show, whatever. Of course. Honestly, I don’t give a crap about whether you did like it or not. What I care about is that this tidal wave of offensive comments stops. I’ve seen people publicly insult the writers, especially Gatiss, because you somehow feel entitled to pick on him due to him being gay. Let me tell you, that’s not only unbelievably rude, that’s discriminating and homophobic. To think that his sexual orientation means he owes you anything, to think that his sexual orientation determines what kind of person he must be - to think that since he’s a gay man he must write a gay story, otherwise he’s not doing his job properly, otherwise he’s not a “good gay”? Let me tell you something. We (as a community) have had to endure centuries of people having this same attitude towards us: slapping labels on us and imposing a certain behaviour on us. Every gay man must be like this, every lesbian woman must be like that. A gay man cannot play football, a lesbian woman cannot wear feminine dresses. “Who’s the woman/man in your relationship then?”. Over and over and over. Stereotypes upon stereotypes, building a stinking pile of shit. I am very grateful that this pile of shit is being torn down bit by bit, I am grateful that we are all actively living to fight against these stereotypes, day by day. That’s why I am so furious to see that these same stereotypes are used in the same way they have always been, against a gay man to dictate his choices and judge them when you disagree, and by a community that claims to be equalitarian and inclusive, made up for the vast majority by queer people.

Ultimately, it is unbelievably offensive (and sad) that you feel this all consuming urge to romanticize and sexualize a relationship in order for it to be valid. John cannot love Sherlock and Sherlock cannot love John unless it is in a romantic way. I suggest we remember that we are talking about two men that, for very different reasons, have huge difficulties in connecting with other human beings; they find each other and they develop a very deep bond and ultimately, for the most part of the narration, they only have one another to truly rely on. But why does it have to be romantic at all costs? I have nothing against the ship, mind. That’s why I liked the way they ended things: because it’s open. A breath of fresh air, truly. No need for labels or restrictions. Everyone can read their love as they prefer. That’s why, if you ask me, I think they did after all represent, and in a very delicate and natural way. Anyway, maybe that’s just me. But that’s beside the point. The point is that friendship and non-romantic love is as valid as romantic love. It is as deep, it can make you as happy and it can hurt you just as much. It doesn’t have to be romantic in order to be deep and meaningful. It doesn’t have to be romantic to intimately move you. If anything really bad happened to my best friend, I would be devastated. I would not recover easily - arguably, I would not fully recover at all. I think that is something we can all relate to, if we just stop and try to be a little bit empathic.

P.S.: If queer characters and lgbtq+ representation is what you are looking for, there are a lot of shows that do that and they do it well. Queer as folk (UK original version and US version), Black Sails, Spartacus, Looking, The 100, Sense8… Just look for them. Don’t stop at the first and most popular show only to waste your life complaining that it’s not what you want. Dig deeper. Always dig deeper.