my friend is having a hard time with this

this a post (complete with links, pictures and other tips) dedicated to all of you struggling through what seems to be a hell they call high school. i get it. i struggled through it, all my friends endured it and you’re probably in the same boat of wanting to throw yourself down each flight of stairs that presents itself. but please don’t do that! i’m here to help, friend!! this is a comprehensive list of all the things i learned from my time in high school. i hope this helps at least one person out there! as always, if you guys have any questions, my ask box is open :)

before we get into it: this is a link to my study routine because some people have been asking for it and don’t have a section in this post to put it under so i’m just going to leave it here.

self-care advice:

okay so, i’m going to be completely upfront with you. high school is hard. it’s especially hard if you want to do well. i can honestly say that senior year took its toll in more ways than one when i didn’t take care of myself or pay attention to my body’s needs. so here are some self-care tips to keep you happy & healthy.

1. eat a lot & stay hydrated

when you’re trying to finish a 2000 word essay, or pretty much all but shoving toothpicks in your eyes to stay up studying for an exam the next day, food is your best friend. food helps your brain work better and you’ll find that your concentration levels increase when you study on a filled stomach. there are lots of brain foods out there like dark chocolate, nuts, vegetable sticks etc. but don’t forget to reward yourself with a food of your choice after you feel like you’ve done a lot of work. couple all of this with lots of water to keep you feeling refreshed.

2. pamper yourself

i am completely aware of the fact that high school students don’t have the time to go to a spa or sauna every other weekend. however, you deserve a nice long bath or a good face scrub every now and then. other things you can indulge in:

  • sheet masks
  • body lotion (especially the nice smelling ones)
  • scented candles
  • hand cream
  • nail polish
  • eye masks
  • a good facial cleanser
  • serums
  • bath bombs

and the list goes on. trust me, being physically relaxed plays a big part in how your brain performs. if you feel a bit gross, take a shower before you start studying. it’s little things like that that’ll make a massive difference.

3. sleep

everyone says it, i know. but it’s so important. if you don’t get sleep the night before because you were cramming for tomorrow morning’s exam, go home and take a nap in the afternoon. get some shuteye in one form or another. pls. 

4. believe in yourself

it sounds so weird, and it’s usually not included in posts like these but in my opinion it’s one of, if not the most, important factor in high school success. think about it. if you’re spending those years of your life doubting whether your answer is correct, whether your science report is as good as the next person’s or whether your friends truly like you, you’re using up a lot of energy that could be used for things that’ll actually benefit you in the long run. that’s why my blog is titled “breathe” - because that’s exactly what you have to do, and sometimes that’s the only thing you can do in order to keep going. chin up. you’re going to be okay. you’re doing great. i believe in you. and you should believe in you too. 

organisational tips:

1. plan everything

i’m telling you now, get some kind of planning system. whether you want to use a bullet journal, a planner, a diary, an app, a computer program or your grandma’s paper napkins, seriously just pick something. when you have seven different classes and you have assessment for each, i highly doubt you’re going to remember every task that goes along with them. so, just take my word for it and plan plan plan.

here’s a link to how i used my planner back in high school. 

i also recommend a whiteboard monthly calendar so you can keep track of all of the important dates you need to remember.

2. post-its

i love love love post-its. i honestly can’t stop myself from buying them - especially the cute animal ones. post-its saved my butt when keeping my books organised and easy to navigate. you can use them to separate different semesters, chapters, lectures, topics etc. i also use post-its to mark any questions, sections or subjects that i’m unsure of so that i can ask my teacher about it the next day. i then write down the answer or explanation on a separate sticky note and stick it next to the question so i can refer back to it when studying for exams.

+ look at all the different kinds of cute post-its you can get!

so you can obviously get all your standard, basic post-its.

buuutttttttt, you can also get all of these fun ones too! they make studying a lot easier and a lot more fun, trust me. 

3. figure out a system that works for you

so in high school, i liked having notebooks for each class and having an accordion folder to hold all my papers. that worked perfectly fine for me but there may be other methods that work better for you. i suggest, especially if you’re just about to start or just started high school, that you experiment with different organisational systems to find which one suits you best.

i’ve got a page dedicated to my favourite supplies and how i use them. i hope you can get some inspiration from it in some way. 

motivational tips:

1. quotes

go on google, tumblr, facebook, instagram, weheartit or whatever tickles your fancy and search up some quotes that inspire you. it sounds really corny, but i’m telling you that it works. i had three quotes above my desk and they always used to motivate me when all i could think about was crashing into the comfort of my blankets. i would pick quotes and write/draw them out myself so i could add my own spin on them. i used:

  • “make hermione proud”
  • “effort only fully releases its rewards to those who refuse to quit”
  • “you have galaxies in your head, don’t let anyone tell you you cannot shine”

ta-da!

2. studyblr

this community! it’s the best motivation in my opinion. whenever i was in a procrastination slump, i would scroll through the studyblr tag or scroll through studyblr blogs and before i knew it i’d be ready to study for another hour. it’s honestly one of the most helpful resources, and if it’s available to you then i deffinitely recommend that you use it!

3. music

get yourself a study playlist. it’s amazing what music can do for your mood. add a mix of songs that will get you pumped to blitz through that 5-star difficulty chemistry question and songs that will help you concentrate when you need to find the right word for that english essay. studying when it’s dead quiet is weirdly deafening to me and i can’t concentrate if there isn’t some sort of background noise. just add whatever helps you - whether it be panic!, classical or in my case, kpop hehe

i have a playlist suggestion on my blog if you want to try listening to some new songs. :)

that’s all, folks!

in all honesty, high school isn’t going to be a walk in the park if you want to succeed. it takes dedication, a lot of persistence and a consistent work ethic. you need to know what you’re aiming for, and you need to want it just as much, if not more, than the person who wants the same thing. my high school experience was stressful and anxiety inducing, but i can honestly say that the rewards on the flip side are very much worth it. you’ve got this. you’ll do a lot more than survive. you will succeed. 

you can do it! i believe in you! 

stay motivated x

Things are bad so they can be great and neutral. I was so depressed when I started college and devastated and hopeless for such a long time. And I’ve said it before: I used to wish on eyelashes, and on 11:11 and on stars and beg the earth for half of the love and support that I have in my life now. I got more than I could ever imagine, my dreams have come true so many times, I have the friends of my dreams, an apartment, so much support. I have the life I cried over for like decades. I can only be grateful. It’s just hard to remember that the dark brings light and whatever, especially with how bright my life has been. It’s hard to be stressed about my health AND school, AND work, AND money, AND YouTube, AND my future, AND my love life, and my family all at once and be in constant pain. It’s not something I’m used to, not even when I was wishing on the stars. I don’t know what’s happening right now but I think one time I wrote in my journal “something has got to give” while crying out a lot of hurt and everything changed

Paying the price

Chapter 13

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„Come on, Lexi! Just these two!” Avery whined, shoving two shot glasses into my face. I gave her a stern look, already having declined for three times but she was relentlessly in her tries.

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anonymous asked:

My fiancé broke up with me. I am trying to see the beauty in my suffering and how this can better connect me with Jesus and my community, but no matter how hard I try, I still feel awful. I know that God has the power to change his heart because he and I have resolvable issues. I really believe that he is in God's plan for me. I am having a hard time understanding how God's plan for me includes so much suffering and separating me from my beloved?

Hi friend,

Sometimes all we can do is feel–feel the hurt, feel the pain, feel the aftereffects of what feels like our world imploding. There’s nothing I can say to help what you’re feeling, but know that now is the time to lean into Jesus more than ever. He is right there with you, and He will see you through this. 

As for trying to understand His plan for you, it’s hard. And a lot of the time we don’t know what is and isn’t His plan. I was abused as a child, and while I know that God did not want that to happen (my abuser was human and a sinner and had free will and used it in negative ways), I also know that He is helping me to use that hurt and history to glorify Him, because He’s the one who saved me. He’s the reason I’m still here. He’s… everything

So keep in mind that we never know what His plan is for us. Maybe His plan does involve your ex, but also, maybe it doesn’t. It’s going to be hard no matter what happens, but know that everything you’re feeling will eventually lift. You will smile again, laugh again, love again. 

For now, though, talk to God. Talk to Him and read His Word and know that He will never leave you. Know that it’s okay to hurt. It’s okay to be sad or angry or confused. It’s okay. Just trust Him. He’s got this. One day, you’ll understand.

Jesus answered him, “What I am doing you do not understand now, but afterward you will understand.” - John 13:7

I’ll be praying for you, love.

All my love,

S. 

Lyric Prompts: Time Of Our Lives by Tyrone Wells

1. “This is where the chapter ends.”

2. “The hardest part is when you know.”

3. “I’ll always remember.”

4. “Now the page has turned.”

5. “I will not forget the faces left behind.”

6. “It’s hard to walk away.”

7. “Memories will come and go.”

8. “If it has to end, I’m glad you have been my friend.”

9. “We hold on tight to these memories.”

10. “The time has come for letting go.”

So, @berena-sapphic-angst-fest tagged anyone and I’m an anyone and I want more personal stuff on my blog so here we go.

11 facts about moi:

1. I’m a closed off person, I do not share personal stuff with people, I have one best friend that I do share with but other people. No. That’s mostly because it seems like for some reason people want to give you a hard time about things or make fun of you. So I find it easier not to share then to have to explain myself and defend every choice I make. Don’t laugh at me and ask me why I went to see the same play twice, susan, just let me live my life.

2. Nobody in my real life knows about my tumblr. I don’t want to censor myself in any way and I don’t want people to see all the shit I post here.

3. I really like tumblr. I can feel really lonely but here I see so many people who like the same things, struggle with the same things and find the same things important, and I need that to feel less lonely.

4. I struggle with being gay. I don’t wish I was straight but I wish society was different, at times I can get sad about it. It’s still weird for me to find women attractive in the sense that I never used to fancy anyone, at least not consciously, and now all the things about love make sense. I’m just finding so much stuff out about myself that have to do with me being gay.

5. After my parents got divorced me, my mom and my sister lived with my grandma for six years, starting from when I was twelve, my uncle also lived there. It was horrible, I love my grandma and she took good care of us but nobody was happy, my mom had to pay off debt and she told me about a lot of problems I don’t think I should’ve know about at that age.

6. I didn’t see my dad a lot in those six years, and really didn’t see him much until about four years ago. He cheated on my mom and didn’t make an effort to see me and my sister. But four years ago I started working in his bar and now I love to spend time with him, we have a great relationship and laugh about the same jokes.

7. I love theatre, I go as much as I can. I volunteer at our local theatre so I get to see plays for free in return.

8. I’m going to New York in May with my mom and sister. I’m really looking forward to it. We’re going to see Sunset Boulevard on Broadway, which is special to me.

9. You may not know this but I’m really into Berena, I’ve never been this invested in a tv show or a tv couple before.

10. I never regret anything. If I did stuff the way I did it then it was the best or only decision at the time.

11. I’m a chill person at work (theatre or bar), I don’t get stressed out when it’s busy, I thrive on it. I can put a lot of stuff in perspective, if something’s not going exactly as planned, whatever, it’s not that important, it’s not like we’re saving lives.

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What’s better than being cool? IS BEING HAPPY.. @taylorswift I can’t thank you enough for all the things you have done for me. You have been my best friend for 10 years even though we have never met. You have picked me up so many times when I’m broken or need cheering up. Your music has gotten me through a lot. You mean so much to me. Someday I hope to meet and hug you cause that has been my dream for 10 years. Also last month and this month have been so hard. My Dad had to have bypass surgery done on his heart. He has been in the hospital since the 7th of last month. He is finally waking up some but not fully. I’m so scared and worried. I could use some advice. He is still bad sick but I just wish things would get better. I’ve been praying a lot. I’ve been with him the whole time and I haven’t left his side.

anonymous asked:

I never had to detach a toxic person in my life before, and its been like 4 months and i still think about them sometimes. And its still really hard. Do you have any advice to help? I just want them gone forever.

im by no means an expert but make sure u have blocked them on all social media!! also i would throw away/delete any evidence of good memories u had with the person it’ll just trick ur brain into missing their presence. if u want to stop thinking about them, keep urself occupied at all times with either school, work, friends, or a hobby that keeps ur mind busy so ur thoughts won’t roam. as time progresses, it’ll get easier i swear!! n im so proud of u for doing what’s best for u

get to know me tag

i was tagged by the hoe @freakydeakytaeyonq

rules: complete the survey and say who tagged you in the beginning. when you are finished you have to tag people to do this survey. have fun and enjoy!!

1: ARE YOU NAMED AFTER SOMEONE : no?

2. WHEN IS THE LAST TIME YOU CRIED : about 3 minutes ago because i started laughing so hard from something i had tears streaming down my face

3. DO YOU LIKE YOUR HANDWRITING : hell yeah i have really neat handwriting

4. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE LUNCH TO EAT : idk ive never had a lunch and go “damn my fav lunch yum” ??? i kinda juss,,,,, eat

5. DO YOU HAVE KIDS : im a mother of 7 beautiful talented boys

6. IF YOU WERE ANOTHER PERSON, WOULD YOU BE FRIENDS WITH YOU : not unless i wanted to annoy myself with my own annoying meme antics (just ask @freakydeakytaeyonq or @365-l or @dreamteamnoona )

7. DO YOU USE SARCASM : All the fucking time,,, sometimes i get annoyed with my petty ass

8. DO YOU STILL HAVE YOUR TONSILS : yes but i need them taken out they are the size of alaska in my throat like omg

9. WOULD YOU BUNGEE JUMP : hELL NAW im afraid of heights

10. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE KIND OF CEREAL : fruity pebbles

11: DO YOU UNTIE YOUR SHOES WHEN YOU TAKE THEM OFF : yes because if i dont they get stuck cuz i have wide platypus feet

12: DO YOU THINK YOU’RE A STRONG PERSON : physically and emotionally yes 

13: WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE ICE CREAM FLAVOUR : cookie d- chocolate fudge.

14: WHAT IS THE FIRST THING YOU NOTICE ABOUT PEOPLE : eYES, EYEBROWS, SMILE, HAIR

15: RED OR PINK : red

16: WHAT IS THE LEAST FAVORITE PHYSICAL THING YOU LIKE ABOUT YOURSELF : my shoulders,,,, they are broad and im sometimes insecure about them but sometimes im like “hehehehe yeah bitch i can be a linebacker with these thangz”

17: WHAT COLOR PANTS AND SHOES ARE YOU WEARING NOW : im wearing black shorts and black socks,,,, its 12 am im not wearing shoes

18: WHAT WAS THE LAST THING YOU ATE : i had a clif bar from a 7/11

19: WHAT ARE YOU LISTENING TO RIGHT NOW : PRISM BY SHINEE OMG IM SUCH A SHINEE StAN YALL CAN FUCKING FIGHt ME

20: IF YOU WERE A CRAYON, WHAT COLOR WOULD YOU BE:  its called blast off bronze 

21: FAVORITE SMELL : i like the sell of paris hilton’s perfume “can can” or really old books

22: WHO WAS THE LAST PERSON YOU SPOKE TO ON THE PHONE : my friend eden,,,,,, i recited the lemme smash meme to her and she hung up on me

23: FAVORITE SPORT TO WATCH : so,,,,,,, volleyball or softball

24: HAIR COLOR : really dark brown kinda black

25: EYE COLOR : dark dark brown also almost black

26: DO YOU WEAR CONTACTS : no but i need to

27: FAVORITE FOOD TO EAT : my grandmothers lasagna

28: SCARY MOVIES OR COMEDY : HORROR i aint no pussy

29: LAST MOVIE YOU WATCHED : speaking of horror movies lol i watched the vvitch 

30: WHAT COLOR OF SHIRT ARE YOU WEARING : black……. im wearing all black wowowowo

31: SUMMER OR WINTER : autumn. i hate winter and summer.

32: HUGS OR KISSES : idc either or

33: WHAT BOOK ARE YOU CURRENTLY READING : eternal ones by kirsten miller

34: WHO DO YOU MISS RIGHT NOW : a whole bunch of ppl

35: WHAT IS ON YOUR MOUSE PAD : i dont have one

36: WHAT IS THE LAST TV PROGRAM YOU WATCHED : bobs burgers

37: WHAT IS THE BEST SOUND : my soul’s cries from crippling and disintegrating 

38: ROLLING STONES OR THE BEATLES : both.

39: WHAT IS THE FURTHEST YOU HAVE EVER TRAVELED? across u.s.a

40: DO YOU HAVE A SPECIAL TALENT : um i can draw, sing, and i dance so ??? those???

41: WHERE WERE YOU BORN : the usa

42: PEOPLE YOU EXPECT TO PARTICIPATE IN THIS: @365-l idk if she’s done this but oh well

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Hey gorgeous,
I hope you’re having a great break and relaxing a bit! I just wanted to tell you that I love you so much and am so thankful for you. Thank you for always making me happy especially when I’m having a shitty day. Recently I’ve been going through a really hard time and I’m so thankful I have your music to turn on and listen to. I love you more than you will ever know Taylor and can’t wait until the day I get to hug you and thank you in person. I’m so lucky to have you in my life.
Love your friend,
Allison💗
@taylorswift

i’m afraid i’m missing out on life like when i grow older the only stories i’ll have to tell my children are about how my parents have an irrational fear of me doing hard drugs and having orgies and getting raped, and my mom wrecking my room and spilling used tampons on my desk when i don’t clean up and how when everyone discovered i was suicidal they got mad at me as if they weren’t the problem and them LITERALLY STALKING ME whenever i went out with my friends and now i have so many problems holy shit. i have problems with authority and i’m paranoid of someone watching me all the time and they didn’t even socialize me as a kid i had no friends and i never ever talked in school and now when i’m finally comfortable and happy with my friends they don’t let me go out. anyway that’s just. what’s been happening the past fifteen years. anyone i talk to about this kinda stuff gets tired or mad or like uwu drink tea take a bath! so. great.

my texture issues with food make me feel really childish and silly a lot and i feel wrong cause i like cant go out to eat anywhere cause i eat like a 5 year old and cant stand anything. it’s so hard to eat with friends nowadays because none of them eat like i do (they all have varied diets)… i don’t know how to fix this either. I try all the time and i just can’t get over a lot of stuff (a LOT of stuff)

[TRANS] SPRING DAY - BTS

Miss you
saying this makes me miss you more
i miss you even though im looking at your photo
time is so cruel, i hate us
seeing each other for once is so hard between us

it’s all winter here even in August
my heart is running on the time alone on the snowpiercer
i wanna get to the other side of the earth holding your hand 
wanna put an end to this winter
how much longing should we see snowing down to have the days of spring, friend

like the tiny dust like tiny dust floating in the air
will i get to you a little faster if i was the snow in the air 

snowflakes fall and get away little by little
i miss you i miss you
how long do i have to wait
and how many sleepless nights do i have to spend
to see you to meet you 

passing by the edge of the cold winter
until the days of the spring 
until the flowers blossom
please stay, please stay there a little longer

is it you who changed or is it me?
i hate this moment that this time flows
we are changing you know, just like everyone you know 
yes i hate you, you left me 
but i never stopped thinking about you, not even a day
honestly i miss you but ill erase you
cuz it hurts less than to blame you

i try to exhale you in pain like smoke, like white smoke
i say that ill erase you but i cant really let you go yet

snowflakes fall and get away little by little
i miss you i miss you
how long do i have to wait
and how many sleepless nights do i have to spend
to see you to meet you

you know it all, youre ma best friend
the morning will come again 
no darkness, no season can last forever

maybe its cherry blossoms and this winter will be over 
i miss you i miss you 
wait a little bit, just a few more nights
ill be there to see you, ill come for you 

passing by the edge of the cold winter
until the days of the spring
until the flowers blossom
please stay, please stay there a little longer

My friend learned the hard way to not answer the door to late night trick-or-treaters

by reddit user manen_lyset

We all have that one friend who’s not into the holidays. You know the one: won’t decorate, won’t dress up, won’t wish you a happy -whatever day it is-, and, though he’ll reluctantly agree to come to your themed party, he’ll stay in the back and scowl the whole time. In most cases, the hate is directed at just one holiday, whether it be Valentines, Christmas, Easter, or, hell, even arbor day. My friend Patrick? He hated Halloween with every fiber of his being.

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Hamilton characters as things my friends and roommates have said at college
  • Washington: Every time you don't keep your side of the room clean, god kills a puppy.
  • Angelica: Honey, if that boy talks to you again and you don't like what he's saying, send him to me and I'll kick him so hard in the ass, he'll need my foot surgically removed from his mouth.
  • Maria: I look like a hooker in this dress, but not a cheap one. Like, a really expensive one. For the guys who wear nice cologne and suits.
  • Laurens: I don't know if I'm gay. Or straight. Or bi. I don't know what I am. I just know I have to pee now cause I'm so stressed about this.
  • Hamilton: I want to have a party just about me. Like, no music, no dancing, nothing. Just an empty room and me with a mic, so that everyone will come and have to hear me talk.
  • Eliza: I feel so guilty, I ate sugar before lunch. My mum always says it's unhealthy to eat sugar before noon. What have I done? I'm a horrible rebel. I need to go call her and apologise.
  • Peggy: DUDE IM NOT A GARBAGE CAN STOP THROWING YOUR FUCKING GARBAGE AT ME AM I THAT UNNOTICEABLE JESUS I HATE YOU ALL
  • Jefferson: Everyone here is so goddamn stupid.
  • Burr: Either I'll kill myself or my dorm-mate before summer break. I don't know which yet.

Writers: So, we’re ending the episode with Kara almost kissing Mon-El. We want that to kind of set the pace for next week. That means Katie…Katie?

Katie blinks, returning attention to room.


Katie: I’m sorry, I never listen when you’re talking about forced heteronormativity.

Writers freeze for a beat: Right…well, we’re gonna need you to kind of tone down the gay in the friendship scene with Kara because we’re having a hard time making karamel’s chemistry seem real.

Katie: Friendship scene? (flips through script) Don’t think I have one of those.

Writers: At the end, when you’re thanking Kara.

Katie: For risking her life to save mine and then carrying me out bridal style?

Writers: In a friendly way.

Katie: But I filled her office with flowers…

Writers: Yes, platonically

Katie: I tell her she’s more than a friend and basically called her my wife

Writers: I believe the line says family, we were thinking more like cousin

Katie: She says ‘Always.’ J K Rowling has immortalized that line as a declaration of undying love.

Writers begin to show exasperated bafflement.

 Writers: Look, Katie, just stick to the script with as much ‘no homo’ as possible

Katie: Right

Writers: Why are you winking?

Katie: I don’t know what you mean, this is just my face.

Writers: So we understand each other?

Katie: Oh yes, subliminal message received. You now have deniability.

Writers: What??! Katie, we’re serious. KATIE…

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“For the last eight years I’ve been the head of communications for the UN Refugee Agency. My job is to make people care about the sixty million displaced people in the world. I wish I could tell every single one of their stories. Because if people knew their stories, I don’t think there would be so many walls. And there wouldn’t be so many people drowning in the seas. But I don’t think I anticipated how difficult it would be to make people care. It’s not that people are selfish. I just think that people have a hard time caring when they feel insecure. When the world is unstable, people feel vulnerable. And vulnerable people focus on protecting what they have. They focus on their own families. They focus on their own communities. It can be very hard to welcome strangers when you’re made to feel threatened. Even if those strangers are more vulnerable than you.”

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This is my friend Melissa Fleming, who I think is one of the most important people in the world, and who was so instrumental in helping organize the HONY refugee series. Tomorrow at 7pm we will be in conversation at the Union Square Barnes and Noble, to celebrate the launch of her new book: A Hope More Powerful Than The Sea, which tells the powerful story of a young woman who survived a shipwreck while fleeing the war in Syria. If you can’t make the signing, you can get the book here: http://amzn.to/2kb9Ga8