muslim-boys

anonymous asked:

I don't think anyone in Sanas family would have gone to Yousef and told him to back off from Sana, she's not related to Caroline Bingley. He could have overheard her mom saying something to her dad or Elias, tho, like "I'm worried about S spending time with Y"/"S said she likes this muslim boy the other day, do you think it's Y or someone else?"

that sounds VERy plausible !! but im sure no one intentionally ruined it between them. 

but i also think yousef’s explanation and reasoning wont be too groundbreaking, it could be more internal. like she gave all these signs that she doesn’t want him and he decided to give up bc he ‘realized’ she didn’t like him..

one of the beautiful things about this clip was the amount of respect these boys have toward sana, it’s something that you could just feel. it’s such a popular misconception people have, muslim and/or arab boys who completely disrespect girls, who think girls are inferior, not as worthy as them. people associate islam with sexism. but when sana’s brother at the end of the clip made a really clumsy and unintentionally offensive comment to his little sister, these boys were not having it, they immediately let their friend know that it was 100% wrong for him to say that, even as a joke, you don’t make that type of comment, these boys felt that it was wrong, they felt offended by elias’ comment 

these boys are the complete opposite of sexists. these boys are actually feminists. don’t you dare make a sexist comment in front of them, they’re not gonna let it slide

anonymous asked:

"ISIS isnt muslim" are you serious??? "ISIS" literally stands for "Islamic State of Iraq and Syria." Emphasis on ISLAMIC (=muslim)

radical islam ≠ islam BOI how are they muslim when they don’t follow the basics of islam?? if i call myself a vegan and eat meat then u wouldn’t consider me a vegan until i started acting like one yet ur dumb ass would be in my inbox saying “farha called herself a vegan so she’s vegan which means all vegans eat meat (VEGAN = Vmeat Eat Good A Nutrition) (FARHA = Feast A Real Hmeat Always = vegan)

things Sana had to deal with in the course of minutes:
  • noora blaming her for not telling her about william when all of the girls knew, not just sana
  • having to physically pull her brother off of mahdi so neither would get hurt
  • seeing that someone hurt isak which meant that the fight between the balloon squad and the boys was probably over what happened with mikael and even, a long-time friend of hers
  • having to deal with that plus knowing even’s history and realizing the implications of that friend for even’s mental health and isak’s physical health
  • knowing that whatever happened, happened due to a misunderstanding that she was busy with social stuff to help mediate and feeling overwhelmingly guilty for something she had no control over and for just having a life outside of what her family expects
  • washing isak’s blood off of her hands knowing that either her brother, her crush, or her long-time family friends caused, no matter who started the fight
  • hearing people assume that all muslim boys are homophobic and anti-norwegian culture to the point that they would start throwing punches
  • hearing people call her brother crazy and using how elias tried to save sana from her parents for the party she agreed to as evidence against elias’ sanity and feeling overwhelmingly guilty for that
  • hearing people say she was a bad representative for her religion for events that are out of her control when she is a seventeen year old girl who is true to her faith in every way possible and is just trying to have friends and be “normal” while being herself and being seen as different by everyone
  • feeling guilty for misrepresenting her religion when she hasn’t
  • dealing with the guilt from the text from her mother when she said she should have trusted sana and ten minutes later, elias is in a fistfight and she’s washing blood off her hands while hearing people say that she will never fit into a culture she tries so hard to hold onto while not losing her faith and her roots
  • hearing the girls say that she was off the bus that her friends put her in charge of initially by asking her to fix all their problems and realizing that everyone lied to her including her friends
  • hearing her friends spread untrue rumors about her and her family
  • realizing that vilde has been going behind her back time and time again when sana has given her nothing but chances
  • being called insane by association to her brother
  • and after all of that seeing one of her closest friends and her crush going at it just a week after yousef and sana’s Moment
  • seeing one of her closest friends kiss her crush just after sana had come to accept yousef’s way of faith and after she believed she had a chance with him, even after all the back and forth with her feelings
  • all of this only moment after everyone was happy and singing together under the umbrella of even’s struggle turned to joy
  • thinking all of the happiness was too good to last, yousef, 
  • thinking all of this was her fault for inviting the balloon squad to syng 

i will defend sana bakkoush with my life. she has been through ENOUGH. 

SKAM S04E04 Clip 4 - The Best Of Islam

NOORA: What is this again? We’re here for my sake?
SANA: Yes, of course we’re here for your sake.
NOORA: Just to look at muslim boys and stuff.
SANA: Aren’t you tired of white boys now? I thought we had to get out, meet new types of people, see that there’s plenty of fish in the sea. You know what I mean?
NOORA: But you said muslim boys just use Norwegian girls.
SANA: It’s good that you’re converting to Islam, then.
NOORA: Don’t turn around now, okay? But are those boys looking at us?
SANA: How shouldl I see if they’re looking at us if I can’t turn around?
NOORA: Oh my God, they’re coming over!
SANA: Stay cool.
NOORA: Stay cool? I’m really fuckign cool! Hi there!
SANA: Hi!
NOORA: Hi.
BOY1: Can we sit here?
SANA AND NOORA: Yes, of course.
JONAS: It’s okay? Great!
SANA: Sit down!
NOORA: Hi! Yes, hi.
ALI: Ali.
NOORA: Noora.
ALI: Nice to meet you.
NOORA: Noora, it’s a pleasure.
SANA: Sana, it’s a pleasure.
ALI: Ali, it’s a pleasure.
JONAS: Jonas. It was sana?
SANA: Yes.

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Appreciate Elias Bakkoush

i wanted to make this post because with all the drama i think we are ignoring the principal reason behind the Elias character, he is breaking the cliche/prejudice about muslim, north african/arab boys being rude, evil and authoritarian towards the women in their lifes.

Elias trust in Sana, we can see it when he defends her in front of their mom.

.

He knows apologize to Sana when he does something wrong or that hurt her.


Elias wants Sana to be happy no matter what.

He show support to her even when it´s about a love interest, this kind of topics are always represented as a taboo between muslim families, and i´m glad they show it like a normal conversation between siblings.

Elias Supports, cares, encourages and gives advice to Sana because he wants her to be happy.

He show respect for his mom and he tries to understand her point of view even if he doesn’t agree.

Elias is a good brother and an amazing representation of an human and not demonized relationship between a muslim boy and the women in his life, this kind of representation is so unique and we should apreciate it.

i’m upset at the fact that all of this is being ignored because of all the drama around the fight.

We don´t know what happened in the fight,but it remainds me when in the last season Isak started a fight with Mehdi because he was upset, and the rumor was that Mehdi started the fight because he is muslim and Isak gay, now is happening the same, the only difference is that the rumors and assumptioms are being made by the fandom.

Half of the skam fandom is criminalizing a character who is made for decriminalize muslim boys.

skam and the depiction of Islam : homophobia in islam

there’s a huge problem. a huge one.

in season three, when isak attacked sana on her faith, she reacted aggressively and had every right to do so. I would have done the same thing. she tried to show him how void his argument was.

by pointing out that by the standards of science, being gay was wrong.

sure, it was just a rhetorical device to get him to shut up and she apologized later on.

still, that entire scene felt really, really wrong to me. it didn’t feel like sana, the sana I knew and love. because sana would never, ever, embrace prejudices and hatred of those in pain just to shut up an ignorant white boy.

like… that’s the thing. it didn’t feel like she was playing pretend. it genuinely sounded like she was defending something she believed to be partially and at some level, true. or defendable. something she was ACCUSTOMED to hear. something she was okay with saying out loud.

I fucking hated that, seeing it. it made me upset for weeks, as a gay muslim.

and now, this.

I understand mikael taking his distance. I understand the guys doing the same. honestly, thats realistic.

what I don’t understand is why Julie and her team thought it’d be wise to picture them LAUGHING about even and what happened, in their channel. it makes no sense. they’re sweet, kind boys. it makes literally no sense.

and it gets worse because she felt the need to single out yousef, to depict him as the one not to laugh at even’s pain. as the one who feels compassionate and human enough to show some decency.

yousef. the one that renounced islam.

now, thats demonizing the faith. thats demonizing the boys as muslims. thats making a clear link between Islam and the hatred and oppression of gay people. it’s subtle, sure. but it’s definitely there.

and I’m not okay with that. at all.

yes, a lot of muslims do believe being gay is haram. they won’t talk to me. they say I’m a tool of the western world, sick, wrong and going to jahannam. but guess what ? just like a lot of non muslims, christians or otherwise.

homophobia is not dictated by the qu'raan. the tale of Lut was interpreted as a cautionary tale about what shall befall those who practice it. INTERPRETED. it’s not what it says.

a lot of muslims are gay, bi, trans. we exist. we’re not haram. we’re not a paradox. we have lives in our communities.

and for julie to take it upon herself to depict islam as inherently homophobic like that…. she has no right to do that. it’s not her story, not her community, not something she has had to live with. she’s coming at them from a place of power and it’s very, very wrong.

edit : this post is gaining way too many notes so I’m just gonna specify that I’m obviously talking about a western context of things, from the point of view of someone residing in the west. this is a show written by a white woman and it is very much about islam seen through the lens of europe. I am not attempting to defend the stance that islam in its general and global practice is devoid of homophobia because that’s simply false and that would be an insult to non straight muslims living outside the west and what many of them endure. I am very much aware of it and is not at all trying to erase them or to dismiss it for the sake of fighting the islamophobia I face here.
SKAM S04E04 Clip 2 - Remove friend

[SARA: Buss stuff (:

Hi Sana. I Just wanted to thank you for the meeting on Friday. All the girls were very pleased. You seem like a very good bus boss. Hope you didn’t get any stress from your parents? Here are a few things we have to get through:

1.       How are we going to do it with the payment of the bus? Should we pay from our account? That’s ok with us, as long as you pay for the other expenses. We should perhaps get a joint account.

2.       You talked about calling the group leaders in for a meeting, when will that be?

Hugs Sara]

[YOUSEF: Someone is missing this]

[IPRAYER: It’s time for Asr.]

[Remove friend]

MOM: Hello!

SANA: Hello.

MOM: Are you doing homework?

SANA: Yes, I have a biology assignment that’s due in two days.

MOM: Biology? What are you reading about?

SANA: I’m gonna write about the human immune system.

MOM: Yeah. Does Elias have visitors?

SANA: No, but you never know with those guys. It’s like they live here. They show up all the time.

MOM: I have to ask you about something. Do you think Elias has started drinking?

SANA: Huh? Why do you think that?

MOM: No, I don’t know. I just thought because Yousef drinks alcohol and.. I’m a bit worried.

SANA: You don’t have to worry. I really don’t think Elias is drinking.

MOM: You don’t think so?

SANA: No.

MOM: Okay. I just have to trust you, habibiti. Have you talked to the handsome, muslim boy?

SANA: No, I haven’t.

MOM: No.

Fjern som venn
  • Clip opens with Sana listening to 2pac’s Dear Mama: the song is an ode to mothers. The following lyrics, I find, very fitting for Sana:
  • ‘Cause through the drama I can always depend on my mama
  • And when it seems that I’m hopeless
  • You say the words that can get me back in focus 
  • We see, once again, that Sana is very into science. This time, we can see scientific articles in the background of her Facebook instead of basketball ones.
  • I love playing “spot the NRK employee” on the social media pages. We can see about three during the whole clip but this guy, in particular, looks like a very cool artist (and he has an Instagram displaying his work).
  • While she smiles fondly at Yousef’s message (that contains alcohol), she’s surprised with a call to prayer which I think she sees as a confirmation that focusing on an atheist boy will distract her from her faith.


  • She mutes the call. (I’m not so sure but I had feelings Sana will struggle with her faith this season and maybe deviate from how she usually practices it a bit, in her struggles. Like maybe she’ll start missing prayers? I’m not sure though, it’s more of a “what if”. If that’s the case: the lingering on the muted call to prayer could be the start of her “straying”.)
  • She unfriends Yousef. Our hearts break.
  • The reference to biology, to me, is another reinforcing of her link with Isak. It immediately reminds us of him and his dynamic with her.
  • It’s funny how she talks about studying the immune system, seeing as it’s the system that protects your body against harm. I think it might be a nod to her trying to protect herself from heartbreak re: Yousef.


  • I have no idea if this next detail is purposeful but I spat my water when I noticed it: we see a display of A DOZEN EGGS which, frankly, reminded me of Yousef’s 12 kids
  • (a bit like the scene in the kitchen in s1 where Chris breaks an egg and just after we have Vilde confess that she thinks she might be pregnant…but we later learn she was never pregnant: broken egg/no children)


  • We get another example of how much mother trusts daughter. I feel like that trust is bound to be broken badly. What with how much we’re reminded of its existence.
  • It’s a common thread in growing up actually, when I think about it. You used to tell me all your secrets but we barely talk anymore.” You grow up and your mother is not your best friend anymore. You feel like your secrets are too big now to be shared. You feel like there are some things she could never understand. Maybe we’ll learn something about Sana’s parents’ relationship later in the story. Something that will surprise Sana (and us) and help renew her relationship with her mother. Relate again.
  • And then we get an interesting transition:
  • “Have you talked to the handsome Muslim boy?” No.
  • Because Yousef is not Muslim.
  • Because the handsome Muslim boy has yet to come.
  • “Remember There Isn’t Just One Person Out There For You”

if Icarus was a Muslim boy, I imagine
his wings would rustle as he knelt to pray. I imagine,
in the pomegranate pit of sunrise,
he would fly towards God as the world
yawned awake beneath him. not knowing
that some truths ache. not knowing
that brown burns best.

in my Icarus’ city, dawn’s quiet
stretches for years.
in the elbow’s bend of his home’s ruin,
the hour before sunrise is most sacred and
also most sword — silence is relative
to booming,
to blast.
clean sky is relative
to spark,
to smoke.

when we talk, my Icarus and I, I wonder
if his mother still calls him her olive, still
wakes him with lips to forehead for fajr, still
feeds him dates out of the good silverware.

when we sleep, an entire unkempt ocean apart, I wonder,
as the world yawns awake around him,
if he asks God for salvation. I wonder,
as rooftops shed their nightgowns and
mango trees cast slow shade,
if the salvation is me.

—  Fajr | Ramna Safeer

i appreciate isak AND ALSO, it is fucked up to look at a group of girls, call them fake, and then go ugh, girls like this is how all girls are. it’s misogynist. especially as a white, gay man who has a crew of dudes for friends – it’s fucked up! last season, first season, anytime other than now apparently, we would have had someone confront isak about ~generalizing~ but instead, we get this compounding casual misogyny that is literally just being allowed to fester and get uglier both in our minds and sana’s mind and i! AM! NOT! HERE! FOR! IT! i BEEN unlearning patriarchy and self-hatred and i don’t fucking need it back, y’all!!!!!! BYE!!!!!!

4

Trust me, You don’t want a muslim boy. Why not? Because, just trust me, they… They’re together with Norwegian girls just to take advantage of them. And as soon as they’re serious, when they actually want a woman in their life… They marry a muslim girl and ditch you. Don’t you think that’s generalizing a bit? It’s not generalizing. Muslims can only marry muslims. It says so in the Quran.

like, honestly, maybe i’m being so positive i’m delusional but, to me, that clip can also be interpreted as noora trying to ask sana if she likes yousef

like, this is sana’s pov, and sana is feeling ignored by her friends (for real reasons, i don’t blame her, i think the squad is being shitty too), and she caught noora and yousef talking and immediately felt that that meant they were romantically interested in each other (except that, plot twist: not every boys and girls talking to each other are crushing on each other, just saying).

and now you have noora who, for all we know, might be trying to be like “hey, sanasol, your brother’s friends seemed really nice and charming, do you fancy any one of them maybe? i want to know about you” but sana was hurt and on her guards and saw it as a sign that noora is actually interested in yousef and immediately goes “you don’t want to date him”

so noora is taken aback, obviously. what prompted this? “why not?” what’s happening?

and then sana goes on and on about how muslim boys are no good and don’t want non muslim girls and noora is still a bit taken aback by this sudden change in tone…but she has no chance to clear the misunderstanding sana had about her intentions because sana then changes the topic to willhelm

so yeah, like. idk maybe i’m being too optimistic? but i see everyone freaking out and, honestly, to me, the infos we’ve been given so far do not scream “love triangle”.
it’s sana’s biased view of everything that’s going on and, because this is her season, we’re sharing her bias.

smh we’re back to the good old days of s3 again, aren’t we?

people have started to already dehumanize even and make him a villain and become islamophobic and racist because clearly he has a past that involves muslim poc boys from the balloon squad, coupled with the fact that their biphobia is so transparent because even is bi/pan, that their insecure lil ass feels the need to label him as a serial cheater because they think even will cheat on isak causing evak to breakup, and the fetishizers can’t have that happen now, can they? otherwise what else will they wank and jerk off to and fantasize about?

i wanna know why some people feel the need to think in such a narrow minded way that “isak must be protected at all costs from all harm” and wrap him in cotton wool, but “it doesn’t matter if any other character gets hurts idgaf about them”. my buddy, then why are you even watching skam in the first place?

newsflash: skam isn’t all about isak. skam is an ensemble cast show. y'all treat even with such disrespect and disregard him, and have become downright ableist in doing so too, by not giving a single fuck that he has bipolar disorder.

it pisses me off when i read stupid shit like “as long as my isak doesn’t get hurt by even or the balloon squad!”, “as long as even doesn’t get hurt by sana and the balloon squad (notice how they LEAVE OUT isak here … so isak can get hurt by even, but even can’t get hurt by isak? mhmm sure jan!)”, “i will riot if evak break up they need to be together 5eva!!!”.

because? i hate to break it to you son, but, they are gonna get hurt. a lot of people in this are gonna get hurt. it’s disgusting how dimissive people are to anyone else getting hurt though, as long as their white gay ship is all smiles and happy go lucky. y'all can’t stand the other characters, especially when those characters are poc muslims connected to even with a backstory to tell about him and his past (which, around dec 2016/jan 2017 all y'all were THIRSTING over), and how those poc muslim boys, especially mikael and yousef, were hurt and upset just like how even was, by whatever went down.

as long as y'alls agenda of seeing evak pda-ing, seeing them be horny teens, seeing them make out against windowsills, seeing them kissing here and kissing there, is met, y'all are fine. lol, as soon as that agenda isn’t met, and we finally get to see them as individual characters, which they are first and foremost, with a rich history and connections with other people, hmmm, suddenly y'all are feeling “a little bit 👀 uncomfortable 👀”?

lol. this season has bought out all the ugliness these people harbour. you know what y'all are? let me tell you what y'all are:

islamophobic.
racist.
ableist.
biphobic.
fetishizers.

and all y'all can literally gtfo of this fandom tbh. we don’t need y'alls “thirst” and ugliness lurking, anyway.

Stop getting angry at Julie.

Have faith in her for crying out loud. The clip was not sexist… it’s trying to show us that despite the fact we thought the girl group was strong, from SANA’S POV there are problems and sometimes there’s drama and fighting.

Also, those girls assuming the fight was because of evak being gay and the boys being Muslim is Islamaphobic… you’re right. BUT JULIE IS TRYING TO SHOW HOW OFTEN MUSLIMS ARE DEMONISED FOR NO REASON AND HOW DAMAGING STEREOTYPES CAN BE!

Seriously guys, calm down and stop throwing accusations at Julie. She hasn’t failed us before and she won’t now, she’s trying to show us how deep racism and problems like this can run in everyday life. The issues with the girl squad haven’t just suddenly come about, they have always been there (especially from Vilde) and we’re only now seeing it clearly because only Sana sees the true nature of the group.

STOP ATTACKING JULIE AND THE WRITING WHEN YOU DAMN WELL KNOW THAT SHES DOING ALL OF THIS FOR A REASON AND TO PROVIDE HER VIEWERS WITH AN EVENTUAL LIFE LESSON. CALM DOWN.

okay, hi. it’s me—the annoyance in this fandom. and i’d like to talk about something, so bear with me.

there’s a problem in this fandom that doesn’t need to be discussed. why not? it’s not up for discussion, basically. it’s up to you all to sit back and learn that this shit you all are pulling needs to be stopped. period.

i’m breaking it up to a couple of core parts so you all know what i’m talking about.

first of all, let’s talk about the islamophobia and racism in this fandom.

here’s the deal: shut up and listen. is that too hard? then just shut up and close your browser. delete your blog. take a walk. go on with your shitty life.

i don’t know why this needs to be explained—seriously. i don’t understand it. it’s not physics or the study of runes. it’s the basic thing called logic thinking and common decency at the least.

you’re all doing something incredibly harmful and it’s not okay. when you started calling a brown character a rat i—i thought it was a joke. and when it was pointed out it’s racist, by people of colour in this fandom, you kept doing it. why? do you take enjoyment in calling brown people rats? do you think you can get away with it? guess you can, but you can stop doing it to people of colour. it’s disgusting.

next. the idea of this season is: please don’t let me be misunderstood. the reverse of this? please don’t let me be understood. just so we’re clear. there’s no reverse. the song was in reverse, the message was clear. so you can shut up about that.

so when the fight broke up, and sana was hiding in the bathroom stall, what did we hear? the two white random, irrelevant white girls talking about how they thought (assumed, didn’t know but talked anyway) it was about homosexuality, and how muslims are homophobic. was it there for the lols? no. it was there for us. to know. that it wasn’t about that.

my point: shut the fuck up about it. it’s tiresome, getting old, it’s toxic. if you keep talking about this, you’re spreading harmful messages to others. what messages? that muslims are homophobic. which they can be, i’m not saying some aren’t. i’m saying that that’s not the point of this season and that non-muslims are equally likely to be homophobic. don’t believe me? wow, i guess it’s something that has been fed to you by media representation and… dare i say it? people talking shit of shit they don’t know on social platforms. precisely what you’re doing right now.

second thing we need to talk about: the series. yes! let’s talk about what content we have right now and why us people of colour and why muslims are upset, shall we? (note: we have all the right to be upset.)

let’s first get this out of the way: we know it’s written this way to prove some point later on in the season. probably something along the lines of muslim and brown boys not all being homophobic and shit. you know. that thing you keep shutting your eyes from. we understand that, we know that.

we’re just. not. happy. about how it’s written. it’s kind of doing a lot of damage right now. look at some of the messages some people (people of colour, muslims, muslim people of colour) receive. and what we should be getting is much more healthy scenes between muslims, muslims and people of non-faith, people of colour and white people, to weigh up to the damage its doing. we don’t get that much of that. and it’s frustrating, because we understand why (sana’s lonely) but there are so many ways to portray loneliness than completely erase healthy interactions between people on the fucking screen.

don’t bring up the hei briskeby videos, because they don’t count. i’m talking about the real episodes here. the real clips. the clips that the casual viewer will watch.

so yes. the series itself is… partially at fault here. the writing, i would say. especially filming only the people of colour in a fight and—wow. that chokehold they had on the only black guy? yikes.

what’s worse is that they surely know—or at least have a slight idea—of what outbreak their clips will give. and they keep doing it. keep feeding this shit to us, and leave us to either deal with it, or completely shut down our inboxes. which results into people thinking we’re selfish, because we don’t answer their wish to learn more about culture and islam and the experiences people of colour have.

third thing we need to talk about: vilde and noora. yup. i’m putting them on the agenda.

i, as a lesbian of colour, wholeheartedly believe that vilde’s character is poorly written this season. she’s obviously not too different from earlier seasons, but she’s definitely had more emphasis on her ignorance, and how that ignorance is dealt with is—less acceptable. i do believe, on top of that, that she will be “redeemed” (i’m just not sure i’ll buy into it) and that she will learn, apologise and maybe grow the last episode or something, since we won’t be getting any more.

but what bugs me the most about the way they’re writing her this season is that, she’s coded as possibly lesbian (or bi, if you prefer, but i’m gonna talk about her being lesbian, and you can make your own post about her being bisexual). and she’s literally the only character fully coded this way. if you’re interested in why, just… google it. believe it or not, we aren’t google. but the key point is that she is doing a lot of what us lesbians perceive as compulsory heterosexuality. and they completely villainised a potential lesbian this season which is just falling into the same shit people have done over and over again. lesbians are bad, lesbians are racist, lesbians are this and fucking that and that pisses me off. if, by the off chance, she eventually is canonically declared as lesbian, i’m not sure i will rejoice or throw my phone through my computer screen. they ruined her character to me, they ruined a (coded) lesbian to me, a lesbian, simply because they wanted to put her to be the ignorant girl who keeps shitting all over sana.

and noora. man. i’m not too mad about noora as a character herself. she’s flawed, she has her good moments and shit. but she takes up so much of her own storyline from sana’s. it’s a mess. she’s talking about herself, her problems with dickhelm, and sure, that’s what friends do—talk about what bothers you. but we’re so frustrated that she’s once again on the screen, talking about the same old thing, and rip the minutes that could’ve been spent on sana from our hands.

don’t get me wrong. we all know that sana is a listener. but there’s a line. and they jump over it, time and time again.

and then there’s the misogyny in this fandom that needs to be addressed. and this is a harder one, because it’s hard to spot.

during the course of season three—up to this day, i see this shit—people keep shitting on sonja and emma for no other reason than them being girls who got hurt in the process. sonja? remember her? she got cheated on. and while even kept saying he felt controlled by her you somehow got the idea that she’s toxic. she isn’t. a toxic relationship would not end with isak thanking sonja for the help she’s given. she knows even and—well, at the most, she might have been a bit controlling because she doesn’t understand that even is his own person with or without his bipolar disorder.

and emma? she outed isak, which is fucked up and there’s no excuse. but stop thinking she’s the absolute villain to isak’s life because she’s a girl, who got hurt, in the process. accept that, move on, because isak sure did.

you thought i’d end there? really? nope. ain’t gonna happen. i’m gonna bring up vilde specifically again.

you think she’s just a dumb ignorant islamophobe? partially true. she’s islamophobic and is not a good friend to sana. she’s ignorant, yes. but you’re reducing her character to something she isn’t. you’re reducing her to the blonde dumb girl, which is just as shitty as people defending her islamophobic behaviour. her islamophobia does not correlate to her dealing with whatever she’s dealing with (compulsory heterosexuality, if you will), but if you reduce her to a two-dimensional character it’s quite misogynistic itself. if you’re woman and doing that—check yourself in the mirror.

same goes for noora, basically, but i don’t think anyone is genuinely despising her for anything else than the shitty line here and there and the serious screentime she’s clocking.

we also had a run in with the lovely subjects of biphobia and ableism too. you all can’t stop anywhere, can you?

since we aren’t discussing, let me just point out these things:

bisexuality does not equate to cheater. a cheater can be of any sexuality. the stereotype is that bisexual people are cheaters is harmful and it ends here. whether a bisexual person/character has cheated can be discussed without bringing in their bisexuality to the conversation.

and mental illness… it seems it’s harder for you to grasp this part. so let me put it this way: think of the most embarrassing shit you’ve done. called your teacher mum and everyone laughed? peed yourself in public? pretended to talk on the phone and your phone ended up ringing? whatever. the most embarrassing shit you’ve done. think of that. feel what you felt at that point. oh my god, what did people think of you?

do you want your crush or your partner of a few months know… that? say it involved a second person. say you… shat yourself on your best friend’s expensive, newly bought couch, felt so embarrassed you left the house and deleted all your social media and never answered their calls.

say your partner brings them up.

would you… tell them that?

i don’t mean to trivialise mental illness here (i’m struggling with my own). it’s much more complex (guilt, self-blaming, embarrassment, sadness) than what i’m saying here. i’m just breaking it down to a point where hopefully even the most abled person can understand.

you’re expecting someone who deals with this every day to just tell their partner. it’s not that easy. it’s a lot of compartmentalising that needs to be done, so you can tell that story without breaking down completely. what happened to even broke him enough to switch to a new school. that’s not something you just tell someone, regardless if you’re together with them, without having thought it through for weeks—even months—and analysed each possible turnout and reaction. that’s not something you tell someone unless you really, really, really need to.

that’s not to say that it’s… bad. that even and sana weren’t honest with isak from the start. but it’s what it is. even isn’t perfect. sana isn’t perfect. isak isn’t perfect. none of these characters are completely perfect. why not? because they’re supposed to be realistic, human and resound to us. we’re supposed to be able to relate to them, in a way.

lastly, but most importantly: stop thinking you’re so bloody entitled to send shitty asks to people, especially the muslims, people of colour and disabled people of this fandom.

now that i’ve said my piece, kindly don’t find your way into my inbox and think it’s time to discuss. as i said, it’s not up for discussion.

don’t understand what i’m talking about? congratulations, you just won the prize: read this post again until you get it.

peace the fuck out.