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Originally posted by sickfuture

Why does everything Republicans do these days look like a poster or trailer from a horror movie about secretly crazy middle-class serial killers from suburbia?

A question we might need to ask at some point.

Christ. The way her face just falls. That is honestly unsettling.  

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the first conversation between a man & a woman

Ibn Abbas (رضي الله عنه) and a group of companions of the Prophet ﷺ narrated that when Iblis was sent out of Paradise and Adam was accommodated therein, Adam (alayhi salam) was alone in Paradise. He slept for some time and when he woke up, he saw a woman whom Allah had created from his ribs.

So he asked her, “Who are you?”

She replied, ”A woman

He asked: ”Why have you been created?“

She said: ”So that you could find comfort in me.“

taken from Stories of the Prophets [chapter: The Story of Adam and Eve] by Ibn Katheer (رحمه الله) [publisher: Dar-us-Salaam]

Now when God takes things away from me, I gladly push them away; I am quick to unscrew all bolts and undo all knots, like a man setting sail to escape from pursuing countrymen I rush to give what my God wants to take away. All because He has promised me something better in its place.
—  Faith, Eliot Knight.
My hijab story

When I first started wearing hijab it was around my head covering my hair and not my chest, and I was told “you’re not even covering anything”
When I first started wearing hijab everyone said “you probabbly take it off when you’re out on your own”
When I first started wearing hijab people said “it’s a phase”
When I first started wearing hijab, I still wore my regular pants with tops and people said “what’s the point of hijab if you wear pants”
Today my flowy abaya wearing self hears “Why do you dress like that? You’re too young to be dressing like that”

@ my hijabi sisters, I’m very proud of you for covering. May Allah accept your efforts, and reward you immensly.

I hate when Muslim guys share their stories about how difficult it is to be a man and to lower your gaze if you’re going to university in the West. They talk about all these “half-naked” women, and all this Fitnah, and then the male scholars and teachers agree and empathise with them. “Yeah I get you I’ve been there haha ;) ;)”

But then a Muslim girl states that it’s difficult for her to wear a Hijab in the west where Hijabis are being violently and verbally abused, and all she gets is “Sister avoid Jahannam and put on a Hijab. Don’t you know you are sinning??” 

I was in my youth and my family was striving hard to convince me to marry but I refused. A woman came to me and said: ‘O Abū Uthmān, indeed I am infatuated with you. I ask you, by Allāh, to marry me.’ So I went to her father, who was poor, and he married her to me and he was very happy with that. When she entered upon me I saw her and she was cross-eyed, cripple, and deformed. Due to her love for me she would prevent me from going out so I would sit with her to soothe her heart and I didn’t display to her any aversion, yet it was as if I was burning due to the aversion which I had for her. I remained like this for fifteen years until she passed away. There is none of my actions that I hope to preserve more than my (action of) preservation of her heart.
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Abū Uthmān Sa’îd bin Ismâ’îl An-Naysabūrī (d. 290 AH)

Sayd Al-Khātir pg. 132
Translated by Raha ibn Donald Batts

One of the most disturbing realities about the Day of Judgement, is that you will find yourself unable to hand over a single good deed to your mother, father, child, spouse or friend, despite your intense love for them, for you will be just as desperate for every good deed as they are.
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On the other hand, you will be forced to hand over your good deeds to people whom you’d despised, people whom you’d back stabbed, mocked, abused or oppressed in any way.
Isn’t it such a strange contrast?
All of a sudden, it becomes clear why one of the names of this Day is ‘Yawmul Hasra’/ ‘The Day of regret’
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‎وَأَنْذِرْهُمْ يَوْمَ الْحَسْرَةِ إِذْ قُضِيَ الْأَمْرُ وَهُمْ فِي غَفْلَةٍ وَهُمْ لَا يُؤْمِنُونَ
“And warn them of the Day of Regret, when the matter will be decided; and yet, they are in a state of carelessness, and they do not believe.”
Qur'an [19:39]
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From Michigan, USA:

“Now, a common thing with most brown kids is that the relationship with our dads isn’t really there. And the relationship that is there is usually a superficial one that relies on education and grades. It makes sense, considering our parents went through a lot to get to the position they are in today in the U.S., but that means they didn’t have a lot of time to focus developing emotionally. So honestly I was never really expecting my dad to ‘get it’ and I didn’t plan on telling him ever. I told my mom back in 2015 to stop her from getting some poor girl to marry me. And of course, she told my dad. But…he took it surprisingly well. He was worried about me because my behavior had been changing recently and he noticed. He let me know that he still loves me and that nothing has changed for him. It was a really shocking moment because as a queer person who lives in a pretty conservative, rather strict Muslim household, I never even remotely thought that an open reaction like this was even in the realm of possibility. But, alhamdulillah, people surprise you.”

Asmaa bint Abu Bakr رضي الله عنها

source: ‘ad-Da’wah ilallaah’ (The Call to Allaah), The magazine featuring Women’s Issues. (UK) Vol-1 Issue-5

Asmaa was a woman of great nobility, wisdom and patience. She was among the early converts to Makkah and being the daughter of the great Companion Abu Bakr, she was brought up in an atmosphere of purity and devotion and shared close ties with the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam.

When the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam was about to secretly leave Makkah for his emigration to Madeenah with his close friend Abu Bakr, it was Asmaa who prepared the provisions for the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam and her father. She said: “I prepared the provision bag for the Prophet in the house of Abu Bakr when he wanted to emigrate to Madeenah. We did not find anything with which to tie his bag or waterskin. I said to Abu Bakr: “By Allaah, I cannot find anything to tie with except my belt.” He said: “Tear it in two and tie the waterskin with one and the bag with the other.”” So that is what she did and since then she became know as ‘Dhaatun-Nitaaqayn’ [She of the two belts]. (Collected in Sahaah al-Bukhaaree (eng. Trans. Vol.4 p.141 no.222))

Asmaa was married to Zubayr Ibn al-Awwaam, the cousin of the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam. He was a very poor man, nevertheless Abu Bakr knew him to be a man of great piety, so despite the huge difference between their financial status, Abu Bakr married his daughter to him. In the initial stages of her marriage, Asmaa has to face a lot of hardship due to the extreme poverty they suffered. Suddenly, this daughter of a rich merchant found herself tending to the animals, kneading, grinding, fetching water and carrying huge loads on her head. She said about her situation: “When az-Zubayr married me, he had neither land, nor wealth, nor slave, nor anything else like it, except a camel to get water and his horse. I used to graze his horse, provide fodder for it, look after it and ground dates for his camel. Besides this, I grazed the camel, made arrangements for providing it with water and patching up his leather bucket and kneading the flour. I was not very good at baking the bread, so my female neighbors used to bake bread for me and they were sincere women. And I used to carry on my head, the date-stones from the land of az-Zubayr which the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam had endowed him and it was a distance of two miles from Madeenah. One day, as o was carrying the date-stones upon my head, I happened to meet Allaah’s Messenger sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, along with a group of his Companions. He called me and told the camel to sit down so that he could make me ride behind him. I felt shy to go with men and I remembered az-Zubayr and his Gheerah (Gheerah is the sense of pride that a man has which causes him to dislike his wives, daughters or sisters from being seen or heard by strangers. It is this gheerah which makes a man protective about his women) and he was a man having the most gheerah. The Messenger sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam understood my shyness and left. I came to az-Zubayr and said: “The Messenger of Allaah met me as I was carrying date-stones upon my head and there was with him a group of his Companions. He told the camel to kneel so that I could mount it but I felt shy from him and I remembered your gheerah.” Upon this az-Zubayr said: “By Allaah, the thought of you carrying date-stones upon your head is more severe a burden to me than you riding with him.”

I led this life of hardship until Abu Bakr sent me a female servant who took upon herself the responsibility of looking after the horse and I felt as if she had emancipated me.” (Reported in Saheeh al-Bukhaaree (eng. Trans. Vol.7 p.111 no.151))

Look at the sense of dignity and modesty of Asmaa. See how she felt shy in front of men? See how careful she was about refraining from what displeased her husband? She knew that az-Zubayr had a lot of gheerah, so she didn’t want to upset him by accepting the Prophet’s offer of assistance, even though that meant bringing hardship upon herself. And what did az-Zubayr say when he heard of what had happened that day?…’By Allaah, the thought of you carrying date-stones is more severe a burden on me than you riding with him!” so even though az-Zubayr had a lot of gheerah, he did not wish for that to cause inconvenience to his wife. Isn’t this what the marital relationship should be like? One of mutual concern, corporation and compassion? Asmaa could easily have said: “I am the daughter of the noble Abu Bakr and so I shouldn’t be doing these jobs!” but she didn’t. she was patient and respectful towards her husband throughout her difficult period.

It is reported that once when she complained to her father about her hardships, he advised her, “My daughter be patient. When a woman has a righteous husband and he dies and she does not remarry after him, they will be reunited in the Garden.”(Reported in at-Tabaqaat of Ibn Sa’d)

And az-Zubayr was indeed a righteous man, as the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam himself testified when he counted him among the Promised ten of Paradise. (See Musnad Ahmad, Abu Dawood and others. Authenticated in Saheehul-Jaami’ (no.50)) He also said of him: “az-Zubayr is the son of my paternal aunt and my disciple from my Ummah.” (Saheeh – Narrated by Jaabir & collected in Musnad Ahmad. Authenticated by al-Albaanee in his as-Saheehah (1877))

In addition to her being the wife of such a righteous man, Asmaa was also the mother of ‘Urwah Ibn az-Zubayr, who became one of the scholars of Madeenah. His teachers included his parents as well as him maternal aunt, the Mother of the Believers, ‘Aaishah radhi’allaahu anha; from whom he learnt a great deal. ‘Umar Ibn Abdul Azeez said about him: “I do not find anyone more knowledgeable than ‘Urwah Ibn az-Zubayr, and for whatever I know he knows something which I do not.” (Reported by adh-Dhahabee in Siyaar A’laamin-Nubalaa’)

His son Hishaam reports that his father’s leg had to be amputated at the knee and was adviced to drink a narcotic, but he refused saying, “I did not think that anyone would drink something which would take away his intellect to the point that he did not know his Lord.” So they took off his leg with a saw and he did not say anything but “Ouch, ouch.” And in the same journey his son Muhammad was kicked to death by a mule and ‘Urwah was not heard to say anything about it but: “We have suffered much fatigue in this, our journey.” [Soorah Kahf 18:62]. O Allaah, I had seven sons and You took one and left me with six, and I had four limbs and You took one and left me with three – so if You have tested me then You have saved me, and if You have taken – You have left (more) behind.” (Ibn ‘Asaakir (11/287))

Her other son was of the Khaleefahs of the Muslims, ‘Abdullaah Ibn az-Zubayr, who was the leader of the Muslims during one of the most turbulent periods in Islaamic history. He was killed in Makkah at the hands of al-Hajjaaj on the 17th of Jumadaa al-Ulaa in 73H. a few days after the death of her sin, Asmaa bint Abu Bakr – ‘She of the two Belts’ – also died – radi’allaahu anhaa.

So many benefits in this narration الله اكبر!

Umar bin al-Khattab heard a person saying: ‘O Allah, make me among the few ones.’

Umar asked him: ‘What is that?’

He replied: Commander of the faithful, Allah, the Exalted said:

‘’… and did not believe with him but afew.’’ (11:40) ‘’Only a few of My servantsare grateful.’’ (34:40) ‘’Except those whohave faith and do good deeds; and theyare very few.’’ (38:24)

Umar said: ‘You are right.’.

Imam Ahmad Source: Imam Ahmad, Az-Zuhd, 142