When was the last time you beamed at your spouse or saw your spouse smiling lovingly at you? Okay, I shouldn’t have asked that question because you’d probably need to time travel back into the ancient past. Smile when you open the door to your tired husband, smile when you get to see your wife after a long day at work, smile at the mother/father of your child for giving you such a beautiful gift; let your smile be the last thing your spouse sees before they close their eyes to sleep. Smile because there’s no reason not to.
The Best Love Is When You Find Someone Who Makes Your Imaan Rise, Who Makes You More Pious, Who Makes You More Humble Towards Your Loved Ones, Who Makes You Understand To Be Always Grateful To Allah For All The Blessings He Has Bestowed Upon You Despite Of All The Tests And Trials You Must Be In, And Who Helps You In This Dunya To Improve Your Hereafter, Hand In Hand, Because That Person Wants To Meet You Again In Jannah In Sha Allah.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّ فِي ذَٰلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ
And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.
Marriage is so much more than love and romance. It HAS to be.
A couple struggles together to cope when there is a miscarriage, and the loss of love, dreams, and excitement they had for that child.
A couple struggles together when the bank account is low, hospital bills from a sick child are stacking up, and more work or a higher salary is hard to come by.
A couple struggles together when one of their parents becomes ill, and after years of care, finally returns to our Lord.
A couple struggles together through the tantrums of the toddler years, and the storms of trying to keep a close hold on their kids in the teens and young adult years.
A couple struggles together when facing the loss of their home, or car, or job and how to recreate stability at a time when there seems to be none.
A couple struggles together when one spouse’s iman is low, and their faith is teetering on the edge, while the other strives hard to keep them both at a safe distance away from that same sharp edge and dramatic fall.
Marriage is not just about love and romance. It’s also about fulfilling this ayah:
“And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find *tranquillity* in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.” Quran 30:21
Love and romance are what surrounds the marriage to make ease in hard times, laughter in the midst of stress, passion at the most ironic times.
But it’s depth, the meaning of love, and even romance, should be given so much more depth and value. Hollywood romance doesn’t even come close to this kind of beauty.
Love is worth the struggle, and the struggle is beautiful.
You can marry a Woman for her Wealth but money will Perish. You can marry a Woman for her Beauty but beauty will Fade Away. You can marry a Woman for her Power /Family Prestige, but power won’t Last. But If you marry a Pious Righteous Woman who Fears ALLAH and Loves our Beloved Prophet Muhammed (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) She will Honour you, will be Affectionate with you and Help you to get Closer to ALLAH.
And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought. Surah 30. Ar-Rum, Ayah 21