Do not define yourself by things which you have no control over; define yourself by how you react to the situations you are placed into.
Be aware of your place in the universe, how small your life is, and how much the world has changed. Be aware that the other people you see in your life are, in fact, people.
Avoid the urge to dehumanize them for your own convenience or peace of mind. All you do is weaken yourself.
Don’t forget that dehumanization exists not only in the negative, but in the positive. Do not view people as their ideals selves any more than their most evil selves, all people are more complex than that.
Never lie to your significant other in private. Ever. In public, lie for them, not against them.
The above goes for best friends, as well.
Most people regret the adventures they have not undertaken more than the adventures they have. Few exceptions arise, and honing your gut’s sixth sense for danger will teach you how to walk closer to that edge without falling.
Seek, above all else, to obtain and maintain an easy confidence; not an arrogance of deed, but a humility in speaking and a boldness in action. Know when you can act, and when you should act, and when the time comes to act, do not be anything but explosive in your every move.
It’s sooo hot in Texas. And still, I decided to go walk out in that heat for about a mile to the nearest vending machine for a soda. On the way, a Planned Parenthood volunteer, standing out in the heat, asked if I was interested in signing a petition. I politely told her I wasn’t.
At the vending machines, though, I decided to buy two drinks. Believe me, face-to-face interaction isn’t easy for me, so even returning to talk to the volunteer was scary, but I thought if I must be hot, she must be melting, and that buying her one was the right thing to do.
On the way back to my office, I gave her the drink and told her that while I don’t support all of her organization’s initiatives, I appreciated her passion. I handed her a Gatorade and she thankfully accepted.
We get stuck in a mire of what we believe to be obviously right and obviously wrong, but sometimes we forget the complexity of life, the complexity of each of our situations, and the possibility that we don’t know everything. And most importantly, too often we forget to love. This wasn’t some big gesture on my part or anything, but more than anything it was a reminder to me to be love wherever I go. And I hope you all will try to do the same.