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All about a wife.
When she is quiet, millions of things are running in her mind.
When she is not arguing, she is thinking deeply.
When she stares at you, she is wondering why she loves you so much in spite of being taken for granted.
When she calls you everyday, she wants to know how you are doing.
When she SMS’s you everyday, she wants you to reply at least once.
When she says I love you, she means it.
When she says I miss you, no one in this world can miss you more than her.
When she says I will stand by you, she will stand by you like a rock.
Wives are always special. She is said to be the 8th wonder. She is always a priceless treasure.
Never hurt her or take her wrong or for granted.
Share this with every woman to make her smile and with every man to make him realize a woman’s worth!

♥) RESPECT THE GIRLS (♥)

A GIRL is the most beautiful part of ALLAH’s creation

She starts compromising at a very
tender age…
She sacrifices her chocolates for her
brother..
Later she sacrifices her love for just a
smile on her parents face…
She sacrifices her Comfort and desires for her In-Laws…
She sacrifices her full youth for her
husband and children without complain… And finally her life ends up only by
compromising
for others happiness…
She is that creature of ALLAH
Azzawajal who no one can compete…
Respect every girl/lady in your life. You will never know what she has sacrificed
for you…♥♥

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A women in Hijab is like a jewel that is of high exceptional value and that which must be kept hidden. Wearing the Hijab is a choice that Muslim women make. To discard the Hijab or expose that part of her body ordered covered by the Divine Law is to disobey Islamic principles and a women’s basic Islamic belief.

Love which ends in marriage

Firstly: The relationship that develops between a man and a non-mahram woman, which people call “love” is a combination of haraam things that transgress shar’i and moral limits.

No wise person will doubt that this relationship is haraam, because it involves a man being alone with a non-mahram woman, looking at her, touching her, kissing, and speaking words filled with love and admiration, which provokes desire.

This relationship may lead to things that are more serious than that, as is happening nowadays.

Secondly:

Studies have shown that most of the marriages that are based on prior love between a man and woman fail, whereas most marriages that are not based on haraam relationships, which people call “traditional marriages”, succeed.

In a field study done by a French sociologist, the conclusion was:

Marriage is more likely to succeed when the two parties did not fall in love before marriage.

In another study of 1500 families, undertaken by Professor Isma’eel ‘Abd al-Baari, the conclusion was that more than 75% of love marriages ended in divorce, whilst the rate among traditional marriages – those which were not based on prior love – was less than 5%.

We can mention the most important causes of this outcome:

1- Emotion blinds one to seeing faults and dealing with them, as it is said: “Love is blind”. One or both parties may have faults that make them unsuitable for the other, but those faults only become apparent after marriage.

2- The lovers may think that life is an unending journey of love, so we see that they only speak of love and dreams, etc. They never speak about the problems of life and how to deal with them. This notion is destroyed after marriage, when they are confronted with the problems and responsibilities of life.

3- The lovers are not used to debate and discussion, rather they are used to sacrifice and compromise in order to please the other party. Often they have arguments because each party wants to compromise and please the other. Then the opposite happens after marriage, and their arguments lead to a problem, as each one is used to the other agreeing with him or her, without any argument.

4- The image that each lover has of the other is not a true image, because each party is being kind and gentle and trying to please the other. This is the image that each is trying to present to the other during the so-called “love” phase, but no one can carry on doing that throughout his or her life, so the true image appears after marriage, and leads to problems.

5- The period of love is usually based on dreams and exaggerations that do not correspond with the reality that appears after marriage. The lover may think that he is going to bring her a piece of the moon, and he will never be happy unless she is the happiest person in the world, and so on.

But in return, she is going to live with him in one room and on the ground, and she has no requests or demands so long as she has won him, and that is sufficient for her. As one of them said, “A small nest is sufficient for us” and “A small morsel is sufficient for us” and “I will be content if you give me a piece of cheese and an olive”! This is exaggerated emotional talk, and both parties quickly forget it after marriage, and the woman complains about her husband’s miserliness, and his failure to meet her needs. Then the husband begins to complain about having too many demands and too many expenses.

For these reasons and others, we are not surprised when each party says after marriage that they were deceived and that they rushed into it. The man regrets not marrying So and so who was suggested to him by his parents, and the woman regrets not marrying So and so whom her parents approved of, but in fact they rejected him because of her wishes. So the result is this very high rate of divorce for marriages which people thought would be examples of the happiest marriages in the world!

Thirdly:

The reasons mentioned above are real, and have happened in real life, but we should not ignore the real reason for the failure of these marriages, which are based on disobedience to Allaah. Islam can never approve of these sinful relationships, even if the aim is marriage. Therefore they cannot escape the just divine punishment, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“But whosoever turns away from My Reminder (i.e. neither believes in this Qur’aan nor acts on its teachings) verily, for him is a life of hardship”

[Ta-Ha 20:124]

A hard and difficult life is the result of disobeying Allaah and turning away from His Revelation.

And Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And if the people of the towns had believed and had the Taqwa (piety), certainly, We should have opened for them blessings from the heaven and the earth”

[al-A’raaf 7:96]

Blessings from Allaah are a reward for faith and piety, but if there is no faith or piety, or only a little thereof, the blessing will be reduced or even non-existent.

And Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Whoever works righteousness — whether male or female — while he (or she) is a true believer (of Islamic Monotheism) verily, to him We will give a good life (in this world with respect, contentment and lawful provision), and We shall pay them certainly a reward in proportion to the best of what they used to do (i.e. Paradise in the Hereafter)”

[al-Nahl 16:97]

A good life is the fruit of faith and righteous deeds.

Allaah indeed spoke the truth when He said (interpretation of the meaning):

“Is it then he who laid the foundation of his building on piety to Allaah and His Good Pleasure better, or he who laid the foundation of his building on the brink of an undetermined precipice ready to crumble down, so that it crumbled to pieces with him into the fire of Hell. And Allaah guides not the people who are the Zaalimoon (wrongdoers)”

[al-Tawbah 9:109]

The one whose marriage is based on this haraam foundation must hasten to repent and seek forgiveness and seek a righteous life that is based on faith, piety and righteous deeds.

May Allaah help us all to do that which He loves and which pleases Him.

And Allaah knows best.

▬▬▬ Story of beautiful woman who wish to marry pious husband ▬▬▬

There was this beautiful woman, who wanted to get married, but she wanted a very pious husband, so she said that she’ll marry the man who recites the whole Quran every single day, fasts for the whole year and stays awake and worships Allah all throughout the night.

She was a very beautiful woman, and a lot of suitors wanted to marry her, but they knew they couldn’t fulfil the conditions she set. Until this one man stepped forward and said he could fulfil them. So the Imam got both of them married.

After the first night of the marriage, the wife sees that the husband doesn’t recite the whole of the Quran, nor does he fast, nor does he stay awake in the worship of Allah, she decided to let it roll on for a few weeks to see if there were any changes, there weren’t, so she filed a complaint and asked for a divorce.

They are both taken in front of the judge, and the judge asked, ‘What were the conditions of the marriage?’ the man replied ‘They were for me to recite the whole Quran daily, keep fast for the whole year and to worship Allah all throughout the night.’

The Judge asked, ‘ did you fulfil them? The man calmly answered, ‘…yes.’

The judge answers, ‘you lie, your wife has said that you don’t, that’s why she’s asking for a divorce’.

But the man insisted that he had fulfilled the conditions, so the judge asked, ‘did you recite the full Quran everyday?’ The man answered yes. The Judge, baffled asked, ‘how? How can you do that?’ The man coolly answered, ‘I recite Surah Ikhlas three times a day and according to Prophet Muhammad (saw), reciting Surah Ikhlas three times is equivalent to reciting the whole Quran.’ The Judge was intrigued, so he asked, ‘how did you fast the whole year?’ The man answered, ‘ I fasted for the whole month of Ramadan, then kept another six fasts in the month of Shawwal, according to Prophet Muhammad (saw), keeping all of the fast of Ramadan then keeping six fasts in the month of Shawwal, is as if you have fasted for the whole year.’

The Judge remained silent, he couldn’t give a reply saying the man was wrong, so finally he asked, ‘ how did you stay awake all night and worship Allah, when your wife saw you sleeping?’ The Judge thought the man wouldn’t be able to answer this one, but the man, cool as a cucumber answered, ‘I prayed Salatul Isha with jamaat, then the next day prayed Salatul Fajr with jamaat, according to Prophet Muhammad (saw), the one who prays Salatul Isha and Salatul Fajr with jamaat, it is as if he had stayed up all night worshipping Allah.’

The Judge sat there looking at the man; the final verdict was about to be released…

He said to the man and his wife, ‘…go, just go, there is nothing wrong with this marriage’…

There are six keys to a GREAT relationship:

1-Friendship: Try to be your spouse best friend. No matter what happens, be a friend first, and a lover later.

2-Trust: The key element to any relationship is trust, so before starting this beautiful journey with your spouse, learn to trust in all circumstances.

3-Understanding: Try to figure out each other and work out on our differences. There are going to be many differences, but it’s mutual compromise and sacrifice which makes this relationship beautiful.

4-Communication: Try to talk and convey your message to your spouse. Let your spouse know about how good/ bad your day was along with remind them how you feel for them.

5-Honesty: Always speak the truth, never lie or hide things in fear that your spouse won’t understand. Give your spouse a chance to understand you.

6-Freedom: Give your spouse space and freedom to decide for themselves. Don’t take away the personal time of your spouse.
When you have practised all of the above, then trust Allah and you will see how beautiful life gets.

★ Ya ALLAH, give me death while I am in Sajdah.

★ Ya ALLAH, let the last words of my life be the Shahadah.

★ Ya ALLAH, If I die in my sleep let my heart beat the dhikr of Allah.

★ Ya ALLAH, the guider of the lost soul forgive the entire Ummah.

★ Ya ALLAH, forgive My Parents, My Family, and My Brothers & Sisters In Islam.

★ Ya ALLAH, guide entire humanity to the righteous path…!!!

When you feel all alone in this world
And there’s nobody to count your tears
Just remember, no matter where you are
Allah knows

When you carrying a monster load
And you wonder how far you can go
With every step on that road that you take
Allah knows

No matter what, inside or out
There’s one thing of which there’s no doubt
Allah knows

And whatever lies in the heavens and the earth
Every star in this whole universe
Allah knows

When you find that special someone
Feel your whole life has barely begun
You can walk on the moon, shout it to everyone
Allah knows

When you gaze with love in your eyes
Catch a glimpse of paradise
And you see your child take the first breath of life
Allah knows

When you lose someone close to your heart
See your whole world fall apart
And you try to go on but it seems so hard
Allah knows

You see we all have a path to choose
Through the valleys and hills we go
With the ups and the downs, never fret never frown
Allah knows

Every grain of sand,
In every desert land, He knows.
Every shade of palm,
Every closed hand, He knows.
Every sparkling tear,
On every eyelash, He knows.
Every thought I have,
And every word I share, He knows.
Allah knows.

Dear sisters in Islam…,

We know its hard. We know you look at the pictures of the models and the celebrities and wonder why you can’t look like them?

We know it hurts to sometimes refrain yourself from plucking those brows or to put on that hijab & abaya.

We know it gets hard to walk outside with no make up on, with your natural face, thinking it’s not good enough and all of your flaws are showing.

You know what else we know?

We know you’re beautiful, regardless of what you think of yourself.

We know that even the slightest inclination of pleasing Allah in yourself increases that beauty ten-fold and we know that when Allah finds you beautiful, it’s all that matters. You’re not doing this for the world, remember?

You’re not even doing it for yourself.

Imagine your beauty on the Day of Qiyamah when your face would be glowing and radiant with noor, when you would enter Jannaj & be more beautiful than the hoor and you would realize that it was this world really wasn’t worth the drool.

Lovely sisters, we are proud of you!

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A muslim man proposed to a muslim woman

Muslimah: me? If I do not know how to sew, or cook, or iron.. How am I going to marry you?

Man: Do you know how to pray? Do you worship Allah Subhana wa ta'ala without associating with anyone? Do you give the zakat? Are you afraid of Allah?.

Muslimah: Yes, I pray every day, I love allah and no one else, I give charity whenever I can and the one I fear is Allah Subhana wa taa'ala.

Man: *smiling* That’s enough for me, I want you to be the half of my Deen, not my maid

Dear Sisters

Why is it so important for a Muslimah to choose a righteous husband who doesn’t only practice his Deen but also lowers his gaze from Haram ?! because the one who doesn’t lower his gaze from what Allah forbade, it will be so normal for him to look to non Hijabi girls in the street, it will be so natural for him to enjoy watching actresses in movies
He will be filled with Haram glances until the beauty of his wife won’t satisfy him anymore, until his desire towards her decreases with time because inside of him, he will always compare her beauty with the fake one of actresses or top models who appear on tv or even meet at work or street or public places, etc…
This is why Prophet Mohammad (sallAllahu alaihi wa sallam) said:“The furtive (lustful) glance is one of the poisoned arrows of Shaytan. Whoever forsakes it for the fear of Allah, will receive from Him (Great and Gracious is He) a faith, the sweetness of which he will find within his heart.” (al-Haakim.)
But the one who lowers his gaze from what Allah forbade, won’t see any other woman except his wife, she will always be enough for him. For lowering his gaze, Allah will reward him with the sweet pleasure of Halal with his wife

If you will wear Hijab you will not get Married.
If you will wear Hijab you will not get any attention and the boys will like your classmate, who is with out a Hijab.
If you will wear Hijab you will not get Job.
If you will wear Hijab people will not call you Beautiful.
If you will wear Hijab your Friends will Leave you.
If you will wear Hijab you will Look Old.
If you will wear Hijab you will be considered Out Dated.

WHAT ELSE DOES THE SHAITAN WHISPERS IN YOUR EARS, MY SISTERS??

Surely, Shaitan (Satan) is an enemy to you, so take him as an enemy. He only invites his followers that they may become the dwellers of the blazing Fire" (Faatir 35:6)
….

A women is so much more
beautiful when she is modest.
She is respected, and her body
is not flesh to be leered at. She
has style, good character and
etiquette. She’s not seen for her shape but for her mind. Her true
essence is shown, and she
acknowledges her value and
importance as a woman.
Modesty is beauty..
…………..

Ya Allah! I turn to you and ask
you to grant me a spouse that
will lead me to Jannah and
please make me the same for
him ..

Ameen ya Allaah

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‘Abd-Allaah ibn Mas’ood (may Allaah be pleased with him) who said: I heard the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say: “Allaah has cursed the woman who does
tattoos and the one who has
them done, the woman who
plucks eyebrows (al-naamisah) and the one who has it done (al- mutanammisah), and the one who files her teeth for the
purpose of beauty, altering the creation of Allaah.”

(Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5931; Muslim, 2125)

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“Allah amaldiçoou as mulheres que modificam as sobrancelhas ou pedir aos outros que o façam.” (sahih Bukhari e Muslim)

A heart touching message….. by a woman…“

Some one asked her…….

Are you a working woman or a house-wife ??
She replied : Yes I am a full time working house-wife.

I work 24 hours a day…..
I’m a "mum”,
I’m a wife,
I’m a daughter,
I’m a daughter-in-law…..
I’m an Alarm clock,
I’m a Cook,
I’m a Maid,
I’m a Teacher,
I’m a waiter,
I’m a nanny,
I’m a nurse,
I’m a handyman,
I’m a Security officer,
I’m a Counsellor,
I’m a comforter,
I don’t get holidays,
I don’t get sick leave,
I don’t get day off……
I work through day and night…..
I’m on call……
all hours and get paid with a sentence…..

“what do you do all day”

A story is told about a King in Africa who had a close friend that he grew up with. The friend had a habit of looking at every situation that ever occurred in his life (positive or negative) by remarking, “This is good, Allah Almighty knows best”

One day the King and his friend were out on a hunting expedition. The friend would load and prepare the guns for the King. The friend had apparently done something wrong in preparing one of the guns, for after taking the gun from his friend, the King fired it and his thumb was blown off.

Examining the situation the friend remarked as usual, “This is good! Allah Almighty knows best.”

To which the King replied, “No, this is NOT good!” and ordered his soldiers to put his friend into jail.

About a year later, the King was hunting in an area that he should have known to stay clear of. Cannibals captured the King and took him to their village. They tied his hands, stacked some wood, set up a stake and bound him to the stake.

As they came near to set fire to the wood, they noticed that the King was missing a thumb. Being superstitious, they never ate anyone who was less than whole. So after untying the King, they chased him out of the village.

When the King reached his Palace, he was reminded of the event that had taken his thumb and felt remorse for his treatment of his friend. He went immediately to the jail to speak with his friend.

“You were right” the King said, “It was good that my thumb was blown off.” And he proceeded to tell the friend all that had just happened. “I am very sorry for sending you to jail for so long. It was bad for me to do this.”

“No,” his friend replied, “this is good…Allah Almighty knows best“

“What do you mean, ‘this is good’! How could it be good that I sent my friend to jail for a year?”

The King’s friend replied: “Remember that the Almighty knows best and if I had NOT been in jail, I would have been with you on that hunting trip.”

“He knows what is before them and what is behind them: And to Allah go back all questions (for decision)”
Qur’an: Surah Al Hajj 22:76

Do Not Judge Things or Events by its Immediate Outcome!

Although the decisions of Allah Ta’alah may seem harsh to us, they are full of wisdom

O Allah, if there is hatred in our hearts,
change it to love.
O Allah, if our hearts are dirty, make them clean.
O Allah, if our hearts are broken, heal them.
O Allah, see our tears.
O Allah, change the sorrow of anyone reading this prayer into
happiness.
O Allah, reserve Your mercy for us, Your servants who love You so much.
O Allah, Forgive our sins.
Share and say ameen