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STORY – WHY WOMEN CRY

A little boy asked his mother, “Why are you crying?”

“Because I need to” she said.

“I don’t understand,” he said.

His Mom just hugged him and said, “And you never will.”

Later the little boy asked his father, “Why does mother seem to cry for no reason?”

“All women cry for no reason,” his dad answered carelessly.

The little boy, still wondering why women cry, finally asked the old wise shaikh (scholar). “He surely knows the answer”, he thought. “Ya Shaikh! Why do women cry so easily?”

The Shaikh answered: “When Allah made the woman she had to be made so special. He made her shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world, yet gentle enough to give comfort. He gave her an inner strength to endure childbirth and the rejection that comes from her children. He gave her a hardness that allows her to keep going when everyone else gives up, and take care of her family through sickness and fatigue without complaining. He gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all circumstances, even when her child hurts her very badly. He gave her strength to carry her husband through his faults and fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart. He gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, but sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him unfalteringly. And lastly, He gave her a tear. This is hers and only hers exclusively to use whenever she needs it. She needs no reason, no explanation, its hers.”

“You see my son, the beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the beauty of her face, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart - the place where love resides.”

The little boy got the answer and never asked the question again.

So I had a conversation with a girl who was convinced that its ok for non-muslim girls to wear hijab for a day as a ‘social experiment’. Before I say what I am going to say I understand that there will be differences in opinion, but heres mine. Religious appropriation is a thing and it happens just as frequent as cultural appropriation. If you want to perform a 'social experiment’ using hijab then you gather up a bunch of muhajabas and interview them individually. Not enough? Go find some MUSLIM women who don’t wear hijab and have them perform the experiment wearing hijab. I am tired of seeing a bunch of sorority girls in chacos wearing a hijab saying they have so much respect for women who wear hijab because it was difficult for them to wear it for the few hours they did. NO. You should have already respected women who wore hijab in the first place. Do I have to walk around in someone else’s religious dress wear in order to respect them? Nope, and neither do you. Yes I understand that hijab is one of the biggest forms of dawah, but giving someone a hijab to get the idea of what it is for us will never sit right with me. As far as I’m concerned no one will ever understand the past 12 years of wearing hijab like I do. And thats how it is for all muhajabas. We all have different experiences and most are willing to vocalize them. If a non-muslim woman is interested in hijab then you sit her down and explain the whole package to her instead of throwing a hijab on to her. She’s got to sign up in order to play on the team.

What is LOVE?

LOVE is when Khadijah (R.A) spent her entire wealth on this Deen (Islam) for the Man she loved.
LOVE is when Muhammed (SAWS) took the glass that Ayesha (R.A) drank from and put his lips on the exact place she put hers on and then drank.
LOVE is when Muhammed (SAWS) had a race with Ayesha (R.A) and teased her when she lost.
LOVE is when Muhammed (SAWS) would take a bone that Ayesha (R.A.) sucked meat from and would put his lips on that same place she chewed the meat from.

Real LOVE is not based on romance , candle light dinner and walks along the beach rather it is based On Respect , Compromise , Care And Trust…

Find your HALAL love here insha'Allah!

All about a wife.
When she is quiet, millions of things are running in her mind.
When she is not arguing, she is thinking deeply.
When she stares at you, she is wondering why she loves you so much in spite of being taken for granted.
When she calls you everyday, she wants to know how you are doing.
When she SMS’s you everyday, she wants you to reply at least once.
When she says I love you, she means it.
When she says I miss you, no one in this world can miss you more than her.
When she says I will stand by you, she will stand by you like a rock.
Wives are always special. She is said to be the 8th wonder. She is always a priceless treasure.
Never hurt her or take her wrong or for granted.
Share this with every woman to make her smile and with every man to make him realize a woman’s worth!

iammebeingme  asked:

Hey, I was just wondering whether you knew/could summarise the argument for the hijab not being sexist?

So here’s my thing: I’m terrible about holding onto sources for moments like this (which I guess I should work on), and I don’t want to speak for Muslim women and/or Muslim feminists. So I did some minor googling/tumblr searching and found some sources written by Muslim women, but I wouldn’t say these are my favorites or, like, classics. Some of them are kind of repeating each other, but in my experience sometimes when a person’s trying to get their head around a concept, wording can make a huge difference, so I figure offering similar ideas put in different ways can still be useful.

  • Hijab rejects the (white) male gaze.

  • Hijab rejects imperialist cooption of feminism and Western feminism’s participation in it. (This link isn’t about hijab, but it’s about how Western feminism becomes a tool of colonialism and imperialism; due to this partnership of ideologies, decrying Muslim womens’ clothing choices as inherently oppressive is itself participating in patriarchy.)

  • Wearing a hijab isn’t inherently liberating – but neither is baring one’s breasts. What is liberating is being able to choose either of these things. It’s pretty ludicrous to think that oppression is somehow proportional to how covered or uncovered someone’s body is…. Whether it’s a ban on niqabs in France or miniskirts in Uganda, or warped legislation on reproductive rights in the United States, these efforts send a consistent signal: that our bodies are not our own.”

  • “One of the many issues of being a Muhajaba is that, somehow, everyone feels entitled to tell you what to do: Be it bigoted lawmakers that try to regulate how people can dress, or supposed “feminists” that try to “liberate” us from our “oppressive” religion (never mind the fact that for most Muhajabas, wearing Hijab is a choice they made on their own), or miraculously enlightened male scholars that try to issue all sorts of Fatwahs pertaining to women, or the brothers that approach us and dictate how we should wear your Hijab, or the sisters that tell us that if we’re going to wear Hijab a certain way, we might as well not wear it at all, or the media that portrays us as some kind of oppressed little victims that need to be saved from the savagery of “Iz-lam” — everyone seems to have an opinion on it and few really know what it’s like…. We are fully capable and aware individuals who can make decisions for themselves and don’t need anyone to think on our behalf.”

  • When wearing hijab is a free choice, it cannot be antifeminist.

  • Emphasis mine: “But in a society where a woman’s value seems focused on her sexual charms, some wear it explicitly as a feminist statement asserting an alternative mode of female empowerment. Politics, not religion, is the motivator here. I am one of these women.”

  • Hard to sum this one up or pick a quotation, but, another woman’s perspective on why she chooses to wear hijab.

These links put together all represent my basic understanding of the argument for hijab as feminist. I hope they help! 

If you or anyone wants some more in-depth resources, you might want to check out A Quiet Revolution: The Veil’s Resurgence, from the Middle East to America by Leila Ahmed.