I just thought I’d share if anyone was interested. MTV South Africa produced a one-off documentary on teen pregnancy in SA. A lot more hard hitting than the US version, and definitely worth a watch for any 16 & Pregnant / Teen Mom fan!!
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SENDING THIS TO ME!! It was soo interesting to watch!
There is a LOT of misconceptions about 3rd trimester abortions. Apparently Summer is one of those people who think women just walk into a clinic at 8/9 months pregnant and say ‘hey I want an abortion because I don’t want a child anymore!!’ And the clinic will give them one.
Late term abortions are only done when the fetus/mother is dead or dying. The mother has to make a heartbreaking decision of whether or not her child will be born in pain and agony and die hours later, or if she gets an abortion and ends its suffering. This is not something that people do all willy-nilly. It is a terribly painful decision, probably the worst thing that has ever happened to the woman (and father).
A great example in pop culture of this was in *SPOILER* DO NOT READ FURTHER IF YOU ARE NOT CAUGHT UP in Greys Anatomy when April and Jackson found out their child had an incredibly rare condition that kills the fetus in the womb. They had to make the decision to abort and end his suffering immediately or give birth and watch him suffer in agony for a few hours before dying. That decision should be left up to the parents. It’s no one else’s business.
Can you even imagine having to go through something so traumatic? Comments like hers really make my blood boil, and I’m sorry if I’m offending anyone who has the same opinion as her. Just think for a second about how these situations occur in REALITY and not how uneducated or fanatical pro life people claim they do. Late term abortions are a terrible, terrible decision and they are not considered lightly. Let’s have some empathy for the poor people who have to deal with these awful situations in real life. Pray to your God(s) or thank your lucky stars every night that you’ve never been in this situation and probably never will.
Sorry for the rant, and congrats to anyone who read this far. This stuff gets me heated because so many people never take the time to get the real information or put themselves in somebody else’s shoes. Also, just because you choose something for yourself, doesn’t mean a woman who makes the opposite decision is wrong or bad.
Nikkole: I think the hardest thing about being a mom is comparing myself to others.
I see the moms who cooked their kids an all organic three-course meal for dinner & I look at the second pizza I’ve ordered this week, and I feel like I’m not good enough. I see the moms whose kids rooms are decorated top to bottom like something that came out of a magazine and I look at my kids rooms, furnished by craigslist, and I feel like I’m not good enough. I see the moms that stay home with their kids everyday as I go to work at a job I hate, spending 10-12 hours away from my kids, and I feel like I’m not good enough. I see the moms who take their kids on vacations to Disneyland, while I find it hard to fit even a day trip to a water park in my budget, and I feel like I’m not good enough. I see the moms who dress their kids in the cutest designer clothes and I look at the clothes I’ve purchased from second hand shops for mine, and I feel like I’m not good enough. I see the homes they live in, with big backyards and security systems, while I rent a home in a neighborhood that I don’t even feel safe in, and I feel like I’m not good enough. I feel so guilty. I feel like I’m not giving my kids the life they deserve. I look at them & they’re so beautiful and perfect and I feel like they deserve a life that’s equally as beautiful and perfect. I feel bad that they got ME as their mom and not the perfect stay-at-home mom with the big house filled with nice things.
But when I walk in the door after a long day at work, they treat me like I’m THAT mom. Like I’m the best damn mom they could ever have. It’s in those moments that I realize that being the best mom isn’t about the things you have, it’s about the love & care you give. As long as you take good care of them & love them with all of your heart, kids could care less about the big house or the designer clothes. I may not be able to take them to Disneyland but we make forts in the living room and watch Disney movies. I may not be able to provide them an all organic diet, but I’m sure they probably enjoy the $5 pizza just a little bit more. I may not be able to buy the nicest clothes, but my son adores his minecraft shirts we found at Once Upon A Child. I may not have Pottery Barn themed bedrooms for them, but my son seriously loves the posters we found at Walmart to decorate his room & my daughter is obsessed with her castle fort I found at a mom 2 mom sale.
So in the end, I’ve realized I should really stop comparing myself. I work hard every day to become a better mom & person. I strive to one day give them that “picture perfect” life but for now… this is our life. It’s just a part of our journey. I think it’s time I relax and enjoy all these moments instead of always worrying if I’m good enough. At the end of the day, they think I’m the absolute best & that’s all that really matters. ❤️