I’m getting really tired of the argument and ideology that transgender individuals being themselves is merely done to gain access to certain areas within society, transitioning to adhere to a sexual fantasy or as a predatory gain to “win trust” of individuals who they are attracted to.

I swear, risking our lives, facing daily discrimination, risk of unemployment, risk of homelessness (the detrimental list is quite extensive) on top of having to relearn a tonne of shit to adhere to societal norms of gender (which have actually worked against us and suppressed us for a period of our lives) to try so hard to gain acceptance from our peers, risking to lose everything in our lives….For sexual gratification? To please others? No. (Bitch, please.)

Scarily enough, I’ve actually spoken to extremely educated individuals (PhD holders, Professors etc within educational settings) on such matters and was horrified to hear these were their opinions and I think they were quite shocked to hear that the above “argument” wasn’t the case at all.

All I have to say is take your ignorant opinions and educate yourselves before opening your mouth. If you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all. If I wasn’t a strong willed person I dread to think what such conversations could have done to my mental health. There’s a difference between people who transition and transvestites. Respect is a basic human right. #ThinkBeforeYouSpeak

"How To Get Away With Murder (in 10 easy steps)"

1. When your daughter comes out to you as transgender, call her a boy, use her legal name, tell her it’s “just a phase”.

2. When your daughter develops depression, take her to Christian conversion therapists who offer biased opinions instead of help.

3. When your daughter courageously comes out to her school as gay, take her out of said school, take away every touchstone she has to the outside world. Your image is more important than her health.

4. Feed her the idea that she will never be a woman. She will be too old to transition when she turns 18. Watch your beautiful daughter disappear.

5. Bring her to church every Sunday, so she has to sit in a crowd full of people that hate her for who she truly is.

6. When she finally kills herself, say that your “baby boy” was hit with a truck while she was on a morning walk.

7. Watch as the world speaks about you, but some never blame you. “It was merely an accident” you keep telling yourself.

8. Don’t accept your daughter even in her death. Post her wrong age in your selfish ask for prayers. Bury your beautiful daughter in the wrong clothes. Bury her under the wrong name.

9. Threaten to take down her suicide note. Threaten to erase the final words that spoke to the world.

10. Take away your daughter’s voice one last time. That is how you get away with murder.

—  Bee (ijustwanttostop-juststop)
For all you beautiful transgirls, as requested

Foods that boost estrogen:
• Flax, such as in watermelon
• Soy
• Legumes like chickpeas (garbanzo beans) red beans, black-eyed peas, green peas and split peas
• Animal products, such as milk and beef

Foods that lower testosterone:
•Lima Beans
•Whole Grains
•Fast Food

I don’t understand why people are so against trans women being able to use the correct bathroom because they don’t want their girls to see a penis in the bathroom. Like, if your child child is crawling under stalls and peeping at other people’s genitals I think you have much bigger problems to worry about.


TW for suicide


It’s hard to look past the tragedy here - I’ve been in tears following this story - but if we want to honor her request, we need to focus on the solutions so that other trans and LGBTQIA kids don’t need to suffer as she did.

Here are the specific requests from Leelah’s note:

“When I was 14, I learned what transgender meant and cried of happiness. After 10 years of confusion I finally understood who I was. I immediately told my mom, and she reacted extremely negatively, telling me that it was a phase, that I would never truly be a girl, that God doesn’t make mistakes, that I am wrong. If you are reading this, parents, please don’t tell this to your kids. Even if you are Christian or are against transgender people don’t ever say that to someone, especially your kid. That won’t do anything but make them hate themself. That’s exactly what it did to me.

My mom started taking me to a therapist, but would only take me to christian therapists, (who were all very biased) so I never actually got the therapy I needed to cure me of my depression. I only got more christians telling me that I was selfish and wrong and that I should look to God for help.

As for my will, I want 100% of the things that I legally own to be sold and the money (plus my money in the bank) to be given to trans civil rights movements and support groups, I don’t give a shit which one. The only way I will rest in peace is if one day transgender people aren’t treated the way I was, they’re treated like humans, with valid feelings and human rights. Gender needs to be taught about in schools, the earlier the better. My death needs to mean something. My death needs to be counted in the number of transgender people who commit suicide this year. I want someone to look at that number and say “that’s fucked up” and fix it. Fix society. Please.”


(Leelah) Josh Alcorn

Here are sites with information on how you can support trans youth, and if you are a trans youth, how to get support.

The last screenshot above is of the tags that Leelah used for her note on tumblr. She asked us to build awareness around these topics. Let’s honor her wish.

Trans Youth Support Network


TransYouth Family Allies



Lambda Legal 

More resources, including state-specific resource links


"He" - Transgender Spoken Word Poetry

First attempt at this style of poetry, I hope you like it :)