There's cat that lives in my backyard. How do I become friends with the cat?
Yo…so you gotta respect that cat. Give it its space. Let the cat come to you first. Help it out by providing a warm, sheltered place for it to sleep and eat. Earn its trust, but don’t pressure it.
Work on the cat’s terms. Let it approach you first. Learn to read the cat’s signs. Soon, if all goes right, Cat will recognize you as an asset and friend and trust you, in which you can reap all the Cat Friend benefits like pets and cuddles and the occasional offering of a dead mouse or two
So yesterday I postedthis manip and encouraged people to come up with their own ideas for a possible story behind the scene. So many of you wrote in (both publicly and in private) and I had such a blast reading all the cool ideas you came up with. :D
But there was one pitch that really stuck out to me:
“In the time period, magic is completely forbidden. Cinderella, the last of her kind, is caught using magic to resurrect a dead mouse. She is apprehended and sentenced to death in the presence of the prince, but, rather than allowing all magic to die out with her, she transfers her powers over to the prince. They wont be allowed to kill him, after all” - Secretly-a-geekynerd
So now I have this whole story in my head about this mage who had to sacrifice her powers in order to survives, and a prince who all of a sudden is filled with magic that he cannot control. So in order for the prince not to accidentally kill himself with this new power, he is forced to work together with the mage.
But the mage was a healer and volunteers in the poorer villages to help the sick and injured when nobody else could help. So she manages to convince the prince to help her travel the land, and on this journey he will learn the truth about this country, his citizens, magic and true friendship.
((In the shot above I imagine the the prince finally having conjured forth a type of healing spell. The mage is delighted because this means that they will now be able to save the life of a sick child.))
PS: The reason why the prince now has blue hair is because I like the idea of magic affecting hair and eye colors. It is also the reason why it has been so easy to always spot magic users whenever they are born.
what kind of offerings are good for gathering graveyard dirt? Should you leave an offering even if it isn't from an actual grave (just a cemetery)? Should you leave an offering at a crossroads if you take dirt from there? I'm genuinely curious
Let’s start from the end and work backwards here. X3
Firstly, crossroads are different from graveyards and cemeteries in that they might not have spirits that need to be appeased. However, if you choose to leave or take something from a crossroads (such as dirt), leaving a little something is probably a good idea. Hedging one’s bets is usually wise when it comes to such things (translation: always cover your ass).
Secondly, if you take dirt from anywhere inside the gate of a graveyard or cemetery, whether from a grave or not, it is likely considered consecrated or “hallowed” ground and thus, it’s a good idea to leave something as a thank-you. There are some unconsecrated burial grounds, such as potter’s fields and possibly some family burial plots (not a good idea to take earth from there unless it’s your own family, since these are usually private property), but most of the public ones you see have been consecrated. If you see a chapel or a church anywhere on the property, it is DEFINITELY consecrated ground. And as graveyards go, the older the grave, the more oomph in the dirt.
Before you go about collecting your graveyard dirt, you may want to make a quick obeisance at the gate. Let the dead know what you’re there to do, that you intend to make payment, and that you mean no harm or disrespect.
If you take dirt from a grave, it’s a good idea to know something about the person who’s buried there. You don’t have to look up their life’s story, but it’s good to know who you’re dealing with. Generally, saving the name and dates from the stone will give you something to go on. Some stones will also list professions.
Whatever grave you pick, make sure you ASK PERMISSION FIRST. Call the person by name, ask politely if you may take some earth from their grave, state what you want it for and what you’ve brought them in return, and then WAIT. If you don’t get a prickly go-away feeling after a minute or so, you should be all right. Manners count for so much when you’re dealing with the dead or with spirits of any kind, especially since taking dirt from a grave is asking for the assistance of the person buried there. As in life, a good first impression can make a big difference.
Thirdly, there are lots of offerings you can leave in exchange for graveyard dirt. Here are some of the most common:
Coins (preferably silver-colored and reasonably shiny)
Bread (any kind will do)
Fruit (apples are preferable, but most any kind will do)
Milk (any kind, and local is nice if you can get it)
Liquor (some spirits may like wine or beer, some may like hard liquor like whiskey; use your best judgement)
Incense (a cone or stick burned graveside; practice fire safety)
Tobacco (especially in the American South)
Flowers or Potted Plant (any kind will do; you can dig a hole and plant the potted item and use the pot to carry the earth away if you’re concerned about strolling off with a baggy of dirt)
If you can’t afford anything listed above, you can leave your own saliva. However, if you choose to do this, spit into your palm and lay it gently down on the earth. Spitting directly onto a grave is incredibly disrespectful and will more than likely garner a bad reaction if the occupant takes offense. Also, any bargain where your own bodily fluids get involved is a much more binding one, so be sure that you’re up for that beforehand.
For addition information, raven-conspiracy has an excellent post here detailing how best to approach the gathering of graveyard dirt.