mothers with stretch marks

actually, if you bothered to do research on what stretch marks actually were, you’d know the vast majority of us get them when we go through early or late growth spurts.

you’d know your mother probably got stretch marks after carrying you for nine months and pushing your ugly, pruney body out of hers.

that being said, being fat isn’t something to be ashamed of. being an insensitive, ignorant asshole who just wants to make girls feel like shit? that’s something to be ashamed of.

Don’t tell thin women to eat a cheeseburger. Don’t tell fat women to put down the fork. Don’t tell underweight men to bulk up. Don’t tell women with facial hair to wax, don’t tell uncircumcised men they’re gross, don’t tell muscular women to go easy on the dead-lift, don’t tell dark-skinned women to bleach their vagina, don’t tell black women to relax their hair, don’t tell flat-chested women to get breast implants, don’t tell “apple-shaped” women what’s “flattering,” don’t tell mothers to hide their stretch marks, and don’t tell people whose toes you don’t approve of not to wear flip-flops. And so on, etc, etc, in every iteration until the mountains crumble to the sea. Basically, just go ahead and CEASE telling other human beings what they “should” and “shouldn’t” do with their bodies unless a) you are their doctor, or b) SOMEBODY GODDAMN ASKED YOU.
—  Lindy West

My Flaws & Me

Stretch Marks. Although there aren’t exactly any uses for stretch marks, these lines that accessorize thighs and arms and bellies are a sign of significant growth in that area. Only recently have stretch marks been something people are told to be concerned about and since then, lines of scar lightening creams and laser treatment have made their way into instagram pages and facebook ads globally. Luckily there are groups of mothers defying society and posting their stretch marks proudly under the title of “Tiger who earned her stripes” but these women are few and making these simple body processes normal is still strongly needed. Like many people I know, when I hit puberty, it hit me like a freight train. All of a sudden my chest was filling out (well, barely, but still) and little purple marks started showing up on the outside of my thighs. At the time I didn’t think anything of it but as I grew older and saw my friends covering theirs up or using special creams to lighten them, I started questioning why it isn’t something I worry about. With that questioning came the worrying and then came the skin lightening research and then came the self hate. If people I deem beautiful are worrying about this sort of stuff, I should be too, right? I started using Bio Oil religiously on the outsides of my thighs and bum every night for years. Seeing some results wasn’t enough and I went as far as looking up local laser treatments who could finally help get rid of these tiny purple scars that gave me more reason to label myself as “unworthy”. Luckily for me, I didn’t have the money to afford treatment. I call myself lucky because this gives me an opportunity to find self love in another place I was against loving. This gives me a chance to apologize to my body. My body does this amazing thing where it grows exponentially in places that need to take up more space and yet in this process, we find a new reason to dislike ourselves. So I say no more! Stretch marks show once again that my beautiful home knows what it’s doing. It shows I am alive and healthy and growing. I will not fall behind in self love when my body is showing that it needs more. I will honour the beautiful decorations my body covers me in as I grow and age and I will defend it against all my negative thoughts from here on out.

Dear Boys,

If you ever say you won’t date a girl or put her down to the point where she believes she’s ‘disgusting’ because she has stretch marks, just remember how you gave your mother stretch marks and not one of them was worth it because you’re an ungrateful piece of shit. :))

growth marks

white lines wrap around my hips and thighs
intertwining like vines
mother nature paints intricate patterns on my skin
true symbols of growth
i refuse to cover her masterpiece because some people are unable to appreciate the true value of art

- zw

if u don’t like girls with stretch marks think abt how many stretch marks u gave ur mother when she carried u in her womb for 9 months and how none of them were worth it cus ur a piece of shit lol