mother's day

So. Mother’s Day is Sunday.
There are a million posts out there about showing your appreciation for your mother and it can make a lot of people with abusive moms feel guilty.

So this is specifically for the people dealing with that guilt: it’s ok to Not buy her a gift, and it’s also ok to go out and buy something super nice for her. Your health comes first, and whichever option helps YOU feel best, then do it.

It’s ok if you cringe when/if she thanks you, if she hugs you and tells you she loves you. That sense of wrongness is hard to deal with, and I’m sorry you have to be one to bear it.

I’m sorry there’s so much mothers day shit out there. I’m sorry it’s all over facebook where she posts with her friends and they all tell her she’s a wonderful mom.

You deserve better. This weekend will be over soon.

Keep yourself safe the best way you can.

It’s okay to feel upset on Mother’s Day, and it’s valid to have mixed emotions about it. It isn’t selfish to wish you had a different experience with your mother than what you got, and feeling upset or angry with your mother doesn’t make you an ungrateful child. Not everyone had loving mothers who treated them right all the time, and it’s important to acknowledge that. It doesn’t make you a downer. Take care of yourself.

Shout out to all the people who are having Mother’s Day shoved in their faces even though their mothers were abusive, neglectful, or absent. I know it feels like everyone is forgetting you or leaving you behind, but please know that you’re not alone, and you have every right to hate or ignore this holiday.