mother's advice

Please, study.
Fulfill yourself.
Realize your ambitions.

I wish somebody told me that, when I was young, when I had my future in my hands; but nobody did and I failed to follow my dreams. I gave up.
But now it’s up to you. This is your moment. Don’t let it go, it will be gone in a blink of an eye.

—  My mother, almost everyday.
  • Hermione: So you're not going to tell Theo?
  • Pansy: Well, sometimes, when people are in love, they don't tell someone everything for a reason.
  • Hermione: That's like lying.
  • Pansy: No, it's just... it's a little editing.
  • Hermione: Who told you that?
  • Pansy: My mother.
  • Hermione: Your life make so much more sense now...
Don't be a parent...

If you can’t handle the fact that your child might come out gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgendered.

Don’t be a parent if you can’t handle
the fact that your child may have a mental illness.

Don’t be a parent if you can’t handle your child following a dream that you’re not too fond of.

Don’t be a parent if you can’t handle your child dating someone outside your race.

Don’t be a parent if you can’t handle your child being different.

Don’t be a parent if you can’t handle your child looking different.

Don’t be a parent if you wont have family time with your child.

Don’t be a parent if you plan on not being in your child’s life forever.

Don’t be a parent if you have doubts.

Don’t be an abusive parent, mentally and physically.

Don’t be a parent if you get mad when your child opens up to you and tells you the truth yet you punish them only for at least telling you the truth.

Don’t be a parent if you’re going to end up being a horrible parent.

Don’t be a parent if you can’t handle being a parent, don’t be that weak ass parent to not love your child the right way they deserve to be loved.

Don’t be selfish.

OCTOBER 2016 update: Reminder: Don’t be a parent if you can’t handle the thought of your child being LGBTQ+, Don’t be a parent if you’re not going to show your child the importance of manners and respect. Don’t be a parent if you’re not going to show your child how to be grateful & humble. Don’t turn your child into a rude and spoiled little brat. Don’t be a parent if you’re going to raise it to become a jerk. Don’t be a parent if you can’t accept your child following a dream you’re not too fond of. Don’t be a parent if you can’t handle your child dating someone outside your race or religion. Don’t be a parent if you can’t handle your child being different. Don’t be a parent if you can’t handle your child looking different. Don’t be a parent if you can’t handle the fact that your child may have a mental illness. Don’t be a parent if you can’t handle your child having a disability or health condition. Don’t be a parent if you wont talk and try understanding your child. Don’t be a parent if you won’t have quality time with your child. Don’t be a parent if you’re not going to teach them, inspire them, and provide them with support. Don’t be a parent if you won’t put your child before you. Don’t be a parent if you won’t teach your child good values and behavior. Don’t be a parent if you plan on not being in your child’s life forever, on purpose. Don’t be an abusive parent. Don’t be a parent if you can’t handle the idea of being a parent. Don’t be a parent if you’re going to be selfish. Just be a parent that loves their child unconditionally.
You know,“ said Arthur, "it’s at times like this, when I’m trapped in a Vogon airlock with a man from Betelgeuse, and about to die of asphyxiation in deep space that I really wish I’d listened to what my mother told me when I was young.”
“Why, what did she tell you?”
“I don’t know, I didn’t listen.

No fucking apologies. Seriously. It doesn’t matter what cowardly, weak, inhuman abusers say. Your life isn’t theirs; it’s YOURS.

Tips For Parents
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Tip #10: Build a Masjid in your home

Delegate a room, part of the basement or the living room as the home Masjid. You can do this for less than $25.

Make this Masjid entirely the responsibility of the kids. Get the eldest to be in charge and to delegate responsibilities for younger siblings. Responsibilities include keeping the Masjid clean, waking people up for Fajr, calling the Adhan, etc.

How to talk to your daughter about her body.

Step One: Don’t talk to your daughter about her body, except to teach her how it works.

Don’t say anything if she’s lost weight. Don’t say anything if she’s gained weight.

If you think your daughter’s body looks amazing, don’t say that. Here are some things you can say instead:

“You look so healthy!” is a great one.

Or how about, “You’re looking so strong.”

“I can see how happy you are – you’re glowing.”

Better yet, compliment her on something that has nothing to do with her body.

Don’t comment on other women’s bodies either. Nope. Not a single comment, not a nice one or a mean one.

Teach her about kindness towards others, but also kindness towards yourself.

Don’t you dare talk about how much you hate your body in front of your daughter, or talk about your new diet. In fact, don’t go on a diet in front of your daughter. Buy healthy food. Cook healthy meals. But don’t say, “I’m not eating carbs right now.” Your daughter should never think that carbs are evil, because shame over what you eat only leads to shame about yourself.

Encourage your daughter to run because it makes her feel less stressed. Encourage your daughter to climb mountains because there is nowhere better to explore your spirituality than the peak of the universe. Encourage your daughter to surf, or rock climb, or mountain bike because it scares her and that’s a good thing sometimes.

Help your daughter love soccer or rowing or hockey because sports make her a better leader and a more confident woman. Explain that no matter how old you get, you’ll never stop needing good teamwork. Never make her play a sport she isn’t absolutely in love with.

Prove to your daughter that women don’t need men to move their furniture.

Teach your daughter how to cook kale.

Teach your daughter how to bake chocolate cake made with six sticks of butter.

Pass on your own mom’s recipe for Christmas morning coffee cake. Pass on your love of being outside.

Maybe you and your daughter both have thick thighs or wide ribcages. It’s easy to hate these non-size zero body parts. Don’t. Tell your daughter that with her legs she can run a marathon if she wants to, and her ribcage is nothing but a carrying case for strong lungs. She can scream and she can sing and she can lift up the world, if she wants.

Remind your daughter that the best thing she can do with her body is to use it to mobilize her beautiful soul.

—  Sarah Koppelkam
If Pixar were to make a 'dark' film, what should it be about?

A teenage boy and his girlfriend. They are happy and very in love, but tragedy strikes; the boy gets drunk at a party, drives home with her, gets in an accident, and she is killed. He feels horrible, naturally.

But the girl isn’t gone; she returns to the world as a ghost, not willing to pass on and be without her love. Unfortunately, he can neither see or hear her. She can whisper things in his ear and be perceived subconsciously, move small objects when he isn’t looking, but never make her presence really known.

For a while she is content to simply follow him around and comfort him as best she can. It even seems she may be having a positive effect; she is able to subtly influence him to quit drinking, clean up his act, and turn his life around. All seems well in a bittersweet way.

Things start to change as time passes. The boy gets older, the ghost does not. He starts to move past her death, no longer gazing longingly at the pictures of them together, not visiting her grave as much. While the ghost wants to see him happy, she is miserable that she is being forgotten, as she is unchanging and still feels love for him.

A few years pass, and the now young adult man starts dating other women. The ghost is upset and jealous. She starts to sabotage his dates, causing little accidents, using her ability to be subconsciously heard to make him say awkward things, basically being a bitch and ruining the young man’s relationships.

Unable to find happiness, the young man begins to backslide. He starts drinking again, he gets in fights, he loses his job. His life is turning to shit. Ghost girl feels terrible…until one night the man takes too many sleeping pills and almost dies. A horrible plan occurs to her; if he commits suicide then he’ll be dead too and they can finally be together.

She starts to egg him on to more and more self-destructive acts, whispering poisonous thoughts in his ear, trying to make him hate himself. He shuts out family and friends. He buys a gun and doesn’t really know why. The girl hates to do this, but it’s the only way…

Throughout the film, we’ve seen other people haunted by ghosts. At first this seems harmless; there’s a man whose father still follows him and gives advice. A mother who lost her daughter, but the girl still walks around holding her hand. The spirit of a young boy’s dog still romps behind him. These ghosts can see each other, and are the typical Pixar cast of quirky side characters.

At last the young man seems to hit rock bottom and is ready to end it all. Not wanting to watch her love die, the ghost departs to leave him to it. She heads to the park, and sees some of the other people with ghosts. But now she notices things she hasn’t before. The ghostly father’s advice, always critical, seems downright abusive, constantly berating his son for his failure and inadequacy, and the son looks miserable. The little girl’s mother can’t look at a child playing without tearing up. The ghost dog is gone, however, and the now older boy has a new pet and is happy. The girl realizes that what she is doing is wrong.

She rushes back to the man, who is moments away from shooting himself. She begs him not to go through with it, pleads and cries, but is unheard. Eventually she is just barely able to direct his attention to the neglected photos of them together as happy teenagers and he puts the gun down, picks up the phone, and calls a suicide hotline.

Man enters therapy, joins a group to quit drinking again, takes medication. It’s long and hard but he makes it. The girl is happy, but she seems to be fading slowly as the months pass. She thinks she might be finally letting go and crossing over, her reward for having saved him. Eventually she departs with a smile.

Twist ending: there was no ghost. That was his guilt and depression personified. It was always his own subconscious, the part of him that hated and blamed himself for the girl’s death. Sure, the guilt drove him to quit drinking once, but the fact that he couldn’t move on drove him into ever deeper despair. All the people with “ghosts” are the same way, haunted by their pasts. Last shot is him walking down the street, content, but as we zoom out we see just how many of the people around him have ghosts, and how widespread the problem is.

TLDR: Bittersweet ghost story is a metaphor for depression.

🗨Dua Of The Angry Mother‼️

• Shaykh Al-Kalbaani, former Imam of the Ka'bah, at a conference in London told this story:

When he was young, he was a very naughty boy. He would make his mother angry.
But his mother, May Allah bless her, was a very righteous woman and she knew the power of Dua. She made it her habit that, in her anger at him, she would say this Du'a:

“May Allah guide YOU! And make you the IMAM of the Ka'bah!”

Imam Al-Kalbani told us,
“So Allah answered her du'a and I went on to become the Imam of the Ka'bah!”
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✨SubhanAllah!!✨
Never underestimate the power of dua and the dua of the parent is not rejected, so make a good dua!

10 things to stay away from when having a disagreement with your Husband

1) Never threaten divorce.
2) Never tell Him how to react to a given situation.
3) Never accuse Him of lying.
4) Don’t be passive aggressive.
5) Don’t test or question His love for you.
6) Never make Him feel inferior.
7) Don’t overuse “I” statements.
8) Don’t insult His family.
9) Never bring up past relationships.
10) Don’t be overly sarcastic.