@mpuzzlegirl It isn’t that my mother would disapprove of my having a toolset. After all, it was my mother who taught me all about how to use power tools and repair things.
It’s really more that she would disapprove of my having such a girly set of tools. She would tell me I should have bought “real” tools. My mother’s brand of feminism said that all men are evil and out to get you, but also that being a girl was wrong. You weren’t allowed to like pink or wear dresses or do anything “girly”. I distinctly remember my mother telling me when I was about 11 that she was going to “beat the girliness out” of me.
My mother had serious body image issues, coupled with 21 years of verbal abuse from my father. She projected all of her insecurities onto her daughters. I spent years wishing I had been born a boy because being a girl was such a horrible thing. It was like…being a boy was the default, while being a girl was an unfortunate accident of nature.
Now that I am older, I embrace my “girliness”. I love pink, I wear it all the time. I love skirts and dresses and I look dxmn cute in most of them. I feel comfortable in my own skin, which is something my mother never had.
My brand of feminism says that it doesn’t matter what gender you choose to identify as. All of them are valid, and you should pursue interests or careers in whatever skill sets you feel naturally inclined to use. The gender binary is a social construct, and I very much enjoy giving it the middle finger. So yeah; I will buy the girliest tool set I can find. I love the juxtaposition of a traditionally masculine item being dressed up in a very feminine package.
Just because I am a girl doesn’t mean I can’t repair or build some shxt. No matter how you identify, you are just as capable as anyone else in learning new skill sets.
Anyways, this reply got a bit long… XD;;