I have a question: So I'm struggling with my sexuality. Someone said I am bisexual, but I don't think it's my right label. I mean, I like girls but I want a male partner more than I want a female partner. Am I biromantic or just confused? (my friends say I am confused)
You know what? Having a preference doesn’t mean you’re not bi. You might just prefer men, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Some bi people have such strong preferences that they only prefer to date one gender, but they still feel attracted to multiple. There’s no wrong way to be bi. If you feel attracted to more than one gender, even if you don’t plan on acting upon it? You’re still just as bi.
And you sound like you’re probably attracted to both men and women! But the label is entirely up to you. If you don’t feel like bi is right for you, there are other options (which I can talk about if you want to know!). Or if you don’t want to use labels at all? That’s perfectly valid too. Some people simply say “I’m not straight” or “I’m queer”, or some people just don’t say anything at all.
But sometimes the discomfort from the label bi can be down to internalised biphobia, for example the idea that bi must include equal attraction to men and women, or that you must be with/be attracted to men and women physically and emotionally to be bi, otherwise you’re “actually straight/gay”. A lot of bi people struggle with being able to use the label at first because of thoughts like these, so please note that even if you only ever liked 1 girl, and the rest were all guys? You can still be bi. Same if it was 1 boy and the rest were all girls. Preferences don’t negate your orientation.
If you think your attractions are romantic to men and women but you only feel like engaging sexually with men, you’d be no less bi. And if the term “bisexual” is uncomfortable because of the clinical sounding -sexual prefix, “bi” is perfectly okay too (or biromantic if you prefer!) Just know that the -sexual part doesn’t actually require sexual attraction. It’s an outdated way of referring to gender (it once was used to mean “attracted to 2 sexes” but bi communities reclaimed the term from clinical use and rewrote the definition to mean “attracted to multiple genders”).