September 1st, 2015 22 weeks today! So I am pretty sure that Amelia is taking after Jon already. I’ve stopped feeling her move very much during the day and it’s all happening at night, lol. She’s gonna be a night owl just like dad.🌙
After months of changes, anticipation, and excitement it’s finally here — the third trimester!
When I reached the final leg of my pregnancy, I was ecstatic. I could see the finish line and it felt so good. Sure, my back was on fire and I was tipping the scales at numbers I didn’t think I could ever reach, but who cares?! WE’RE ALMOST DONE!
Being in my third trimester means hard work is ahead and every day a new body part aches or seemingly falls apart. But it also comes with its share of really fun and exciting things too.
First on the list was a major baby prep, otherwise known as nesting. This is when your motherly instincts kick into high gear due to a cocktail of hormones causing you to become the master of almost any DIY project. I could be seen carrying almost everything we own out to the street to be thrown away. I needed less clutter and an entirely new decorating scheme, STAT.
I spent days washing everything in the baby’s room and closet, putting together chairs, strollers, and crying to my husband that we needed a new “vision” for the backyard. “I’m thinking one giant pink flamingo in the pool.” (See Instagram post below.) Ryan was great during all of this and even got in on the nesting action himself, taking on a huge re-staining/painting project for our entire backyard.
Once I came down from my nesting high, I turned my attention to the baby shower. A baby shower is one of those events that a girl dreams about her whole life, or at least I did. The planning of this event was usually fantasized about with my best friend while also planning our future weddings.
“I want to have someone hand deliver the invitation as a message in a bottle … get it?!” We would make lists of who we would invite, and things we would veto. “How do we feel about the game where everyone eats shit (candy) out of a diaper?” Of course times change and I didn’t stick to any of my childhood plans, but instead enlisted the help of a fabulous party planner, Sharon Sacks, and together we planned the most perfect day to celebrate baby Dorsey.
On a side note, let’s be honest, baby gifts are the best! The absolute overload of cuteness that comes with baby clothes, gear, and toys is enough to make you forget that the heels you’re wearing at the shower are leaving 2-inch deep indents in your skin.
But seriously, I’m so grateful that not only is our baby already surrounded with so much love, but that we are fortunate and able to provide a great life for the little one.
So hats off to all of the strong, powerful women and mothers in the world, baby or no baby, you’re all amazing! And to all my third trimester mamas, we’re almost there!!!
Here are my favorite preggo products I’m loving right now:
i post a lot of mom stuff. i read a ton of parenting crap. i subscribe to certain methods and blow off others, but generally speaking, i’m basically clueless about how to make this tiny person grow into a strong, smart, kind human being.
but of all the things i read about and hear and see discussed, the one that comes up time and time again, no matter where i look or who i talk to, is breastfeeding.
before having Jude i knew i wanted to try, but i also knew that it takes a big up-front effort and doesn’t come easily to some babies and moms, so i told myself that if it would be ok if it didn’t work after giving it the ‘ol college try.
it ended up working fine for us, and i still nurse Jude every day. i love holding him close and smelling his baby smells and feeling his (ever increasing) weight in my arms, but i know i these moments would be special to us even if he wasn’t on my boob.
i found this photo while sorting through a bunch to try to find “a good one” for our Christmas card (an exercise in futility if ever there was one). i don’t know if you can tell, but i’m nursing Jude. our friend who took the picture didn’t realize it until afterwards, when he was scrolling through all the shots on his roll. he apologized for taking it, but i told him that i didn’t mind, that i would have gone somewhere else to nurse if i cared about him seeing anything. but in reality, you can’t see anything, can you? i mean, he didn’t even know what i was doing and we were joking and chatting the whole time.
i think i’m pretty modest and am definitely no exhibitionist, but i never cover when i’m nursing. it’s just one more extra step/thing to carry/distraction that i’d rather not deal with. when Jude was a wee babe and we were still getting a hang of things, i planned outings around nursing and would go to another room if people were over (as much for their comfort as for my own), but these days i just do it when and where we need to. i’m much more comfortable, Jude is much more efficient, and i’ve found that if i don’t make a big deal of it others won’t either (if they even notice). Chris, unsurprisingly, has been a supportive partner from Day 1.
i guess this is just my $.02 to all the breastfeeding conversations i see (the ones about nursing in public, not the ones that try to dictate whether a mother should or should not breastfeed and shame those who don’t for whatever reason - that’s a whole other shitshow). i think breastfeeding is wonderful. i’m glad i have this photo. i think that when and where and how to do it is up to mother and child, and i think that everyone who says otherwise should fuck off.
here is a photo of me nursing my baby. isn’t it scandalous?
Today was the special day for the girls, their birthday party was today. We celebrated their birthday today because it would have been kind of awkward having a party on Sunday and plus kids are going back to school on Monday so I know parents were going to do last minute shopping (like us with Aiko).
Getting this party together was a pain in the butt though lol. We had to get the big slide up, put water in the pool and make sure no little kids were eating cupcake before they ate their pizza. The birthday princesses at first didn’t know what the heck was going on but like thirty minutes later they were having fun with the kids at the party.
I glad that everybody had a fun time. Their next birthday party will probably be when their five because this was just too much work lol.
We made it! We’ve officially had the pleasure of having Addie for one whole month. She has brightened our lives in so many ways. Honestly, it’s hard to remember life without her.
Every day a little bit more of her personality breaks through. It makes me extremely excited to see what kind of person she’ll grow up to be. It already amazes me how quickly this month went by, I don’t want to think about how quickly eighteen years will go.
The other day, an elderly lady at the supermarket asked if she was our last and I had to stop and think about it. Would I really want to finish off our family with any one other than Addie? The answer is no. For now, maybe even for forever, our family is complete and Addie was the perfect gift to tie everything together.
So, happy one month baby girl. I can’t wait to see you at two months!
Marshall John .
Born on the 12th of April 2015, a little after noon time.
8 lbs 13 oz, 21 inches long, full head of hair, tiny nose like mama and perfect big lips like daddy. He is the love of my life. He’s in the nursery right now and I’m going to sleep but I miss him deeply already. Can’t wait to wake up fully rested and bring him home! Goodnight all!