To everyone who asks why there isn’t a straight pride
Pride wasn’t born because of a need for validation or celebration, it was not born for simple reasons. It was not born for the simple idea of being proud, the lgbt+/saga community is not saying ‘straight people cannot be proud of who they are’. No, you should be proud of your sexuality and every other part of who you are. But you should also know that you do not need a parade, because by being straight you automatically get a pass saying ‘congratulations you have always, and remain completely accepted by society regarding your sexuality’. And you get multiple other passes that I won’t go on about now, but all these benefits of being 100% accepted: you have them. Why does this mean you don’t need a straight pride?
Because pride was born of a fight for acceptance and respect, and all the things you have had handed directly to you and take for granted. Pride for the lgbt+/saga community is about being proud of who we are after being continually told we shouldn’t be and that we should hide who we are. Being proud of who we are after everyone told us not to be, our own families, friends, society, even ourselves. It’s about finally winning a battle and saying ‘you know what, I deserve to love myself, I deserve to be proud. Fuck what anyone thinks.’ Pride is about being told you shouldn’t exist or don’t exist and shouting out that you do and you’re proud of that. That you are happy to be completely yourself.
It’s about acknowledging a history of violence and hatred towards people like you, and showing them how far they have gotten the world, how far everyone has come thanks to their fight. Showing that you are still fighting. It’s about a community all bonded by this one thing: a need to be accepted and respected and a need to love- no matter what gender. It’s about a community who all had to learn to love themselves and each other, because they are worth it. And who had to fight for their place in this world.
So, pride isn’t about showing off or saying ‘we are better than you’. It’s about all of this, it’s about, after all we have been through saying ‘I’m proud of who I am and I’m happy to be alive’. And yes of course you can join in on this, of course you can be proud. But do it alongside us, do it with respect towards our past and what we are still fighting for. Be someone who fights with us so one day lgbt+/saga kids won’t even know how it feels for a world to not want them to merely exist. So that all those benefits will be extended to everyone and pride can finally be a ‘we made it’ celebration. So don’t be ignorant and laugh off everything we stand for, don’t diminish all our hard work in one simple sentence. And be glad that you don’t need a straight pride.