Ok guys. I didn’t think this would ever be a problem to where it needs a formal recognition, but here we are.
My relationships are my relationships. My friendships are my friendships. My romantic relationships are my romantic relationships. I am allowing you guys to see into an intimate part of my life and if all I am met with constant scrutiny then I won’t anymore.
I have received numerous messages (as has Andy) about my relationship with Syd and Ara. And although I shouldn’t be having to explain myself as if I did something wrong, I will.
We are strictly platonic.
I don’t get along with people enough or care about certain relationships enough to be friends with them. I have many acquaintances, who I enjoy, but I don’t consider a lot of people I truly talk to friends. So when they come around I keep them close. I tell them I love them, I tell them how much they mean to me, I promise dates and adventures and baths and snuggles because that’s who I am and that’s how I show affection. And I will not stop verbally doting on my friends.
Syd is my friend. Syd is one of my closest friends and maybe in another life we might have been more, but we are not. Full stop. Syd is my friend and I love them dearly. I love them more then titles like ‘platonic’ or ‘romantic’ or 'familial’ and that’s it. If me and Syd (or me and Syd and Andy) were ever to make our relationship romantic that would be our business and not yours to know about unless we decided,. But what many of you ignore, is that Syd is also in a happy romantic relationship.
I have never met a person that I connect with moreso than Ara. We are similar in so many ways and I already love them very dearly and consider them one of my closest friends. They are such a fantastic and snarky person that I feel honored to have them in my life and to be allowed into theirs. I have never bonded with someone so quickly and I hope that I get to stay. But we are strictly platonic. Even if we rp as ships, we are platonic.
I’ve met some amazing people and I have grown close to a lot of them. And love some of them. But I am dating Andy.
Most of you have watched me and Andy meet, fall in love and move in together. Our 1 year is this week. The fact that you have the audacity to suggest I would ever cheat on Andy is so fucking hurtful and rude. How little do you think of me?
Yes I am polyamorous and if there was ever a second romantic person in my life that would be my business that I would allow you to be apart of.
You guys are allowed into my life as much as I let you, if you keep up with this insulting behavior then I won’t be sharing anymore of myself with you. Plain and simple.
My relationships are mine to have and yours to view from a distance. If you are not apart of the relationship you do not get to voice your opinion. I love my friends like Ara and Syd and I love Andy and a lot of that overlaps, but no matter what they mean a lot to me and everyone is very clear on where we stand in our relationships.
So don’t worry, we can handle our lives and me and Andy can handle our relationship.