mixedness

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earlier today i felt too light skinned to contribute to #blackoutday. i looked at all this beautifully melanated skin and became 11 year old larry, not knowing anything about identity and wanting to be, but not feeling, “black enough” because of my hair texture & skin tone & mom. (tragic mulatto much? sigh.) thankfully i didn’t stay in that pit too long, it’s a really shitty and silly place to be.

i’m so glad i have friends with sense enough to remind me that blackness is diverse. yes! that blackness comes in all shades & textures & kinds and that black identity not just about complexion. (shout out to blackboyrising & aviaryblack!) today i loved being able to see all these different facets of blackness unashamedly on display and i absolutely adore the way my blog looks filled up with these beautiful faces. there’s something so celebratory about this whole occasion and i really hope this celebration keeps going. :) 

aphroditescurves asked:

What do you think and what would you recommend to half black Latinos who are white passing trying to embraced their black part?

Hey boo,

This is a tough and complicated question, but I appreciate you asking it because it’s really important to think about. Mixed identity is so fucking complicated sometimes, right? Are we talking about you? I’m going to assume we’re talking about you. My first inclination was to ask what you meant by white passing. I don’t think you’re white passing; you may not be perceived as being Black but I don’t personally perceive you as being white either (and the rest of the world, I’m sure, doesn’t either. You’re clearly a woman of color) and that’s an important distinction, especially when talking about privilege. You do not have the privilege of whiteness,  but you have the privilege of light skin and a non-Black phenotype. White people have created a societal hierarchy of race, and it is a fact that Blackness is socially racialized as being the most deplorable thing to be while other races that are perceived as being closer to whiteness and Eurocentric ideals are valued more. Of course as a Latina you have intersecting struggles with those that are Black. POC in general have intersecting struggles but they also have privileges that others don’t have. So you’re a bi-racial Latina who is also a Black Latina who also passes for being non-Black. It’s a complicated identity you have, don’t feel pressured to simplify it. The second thing I would ask is what exactly you mean by embracing your Black part. Embracing can mean many things and depending on what you meant it could illicit different answers. Embracing as in appreciating, or embracing as in claiming an experience you do not have? Those are important distinctions. First I want to say that your identity is yours and is individual to you. Remember that. Since all of our identities are so varied and intricate, I couldn’t possibly recommend a specific way to getting more in touch with your identity because everyone has their own journey and way of doing things and processing, but maybe I can offer some insight.

The first thing to always always always be remembering and stay aware of in your journey is the privileges you have. I think that’s a hard thing to do for a lot of mixed Black people (and I can imagine even more so for those who are passing) because we have converging identities. But the hard fact is that, whether we as mixed people want it to or not, society chooses our identities for us,and because of that, the way that the world identifies us also shapes our experiences. This is a constant. It’s so important to understand that this isn’t debatable, this is just the reality. So because the world identifies you as 1. being light-skinned and 2. being non- Black, you have an immense amount of privilege that you carry with you each day and your experiences (the oppression you’d otherwise face) are that of a non-Black Latina. You must always be aware of this, especially when embracing this other side of you, your family, etc. where other Black people (mixed and mono-racial) do not have that privilege. Many times I’ve thought about how hard it would have to be on an individual level to identify as something that people can’t see within you, how it must make someone feel like an outsider, like they’re always fighting to have their identity, this entire part of them, feel validated. I absolutely don’t want to invalidate that struggle, because that’s a hard thing. But it’s important to recognize the difference between individual feelings and societal privilege, and you have societal privileges that other Black people are marginalized and murdered for not having.  

I think the conversation of passing mixed people and their inclusion in spaces and conversations is an ongoing, controversial thing. I do not think that you having passing privilege means that you cannot learn more about and feel connected to your Black side (and who would I be to dictate that, anyways) but I’ve so often seen passing Latinxs take up so much space in conversations, etc. where they should be sitting down and listening. Always be aware of how much space you are taking up in places where other Black people who do not have the privilege of passing are residing in. Always remember to listen to others and respect what they’re saying and respect that some conversations and spaces will not include you. Understand that there are things about a Black experience that you will never be able to understand. Be gentle in your embracing of your own Blackness, and understand that there are going to be people who might not accept you. And understand the reasons for that and the vastly different experiences that shape and distance you from other Black people.

In your embracing of this other half of you, recognize that Blackness is not an identity that you just decide to put on like a coat—it is a permanent, dangerous thing for non-passing Black folks that brings on a whole other level of oppression and because you are passing, you are in an in-between where this identity and this oppression is not pushed onto you. So you embracing your Black side should mean you committing to ending Black oppression, to supporting Black people and combating anti-blackness in your community, your family and in yourself. Educate yourself and others as much as possible. Embracing Blackness should not entail only embracing the easy, beautiful parts; it is also holding yourself accountable and understanding the hard, terrifying parts that you yourself do not experience. There’s so much work to be done surrounding anti-Blackness in Latinx communities (and the rest of the world), and you can embrace your other side by being willing to put in the work that will help save and enhance the lives of the people on this other side. 

As a mixed person myself (who has different experiences as someone who is not passing) I’m still navigating identity myself, so I’m no expert or anything. And identity is so complicated, and it will always be complicated, but I hope this helped some, and I wish you luck on your journey.

xoxo

On a side note: White American are liars...

If you a White American whose family been here since slavery. I am totally side-eyeing you if you think you got no Black people on that family tree.

How all these Black Americans get so mixed without ya’ll help. You fuckers just hide those children!!!!!!!!!

STOP. LYING.

You are not some pure White family who maybe has some Native American ( when you do not want to be White)

Get out of here. liars.

Things that haunt me
  • My girlfriend's friends upon seeing my Facebook page:Who is that thick white girl you're hanging with?
  • My girlfriend:Jaime, my girlfriend, and she's latin@.
  • My girlfriend's friends:oh, we didn't know.
  • ***
  • My girlfriend to me:well, I didn't know what to say. Some days you identify more with one side and some days more with the other.
  • Me:I know. Why "thick white girl" tho and not "fat white girl"?
  • My girlfriend:they're different. "Fat" is more sloppy. You're not sloppy.

at my uncles 50th last night our seating was racially segregated. my fam got there first and so we picked one of two long tables to sit at. by the time my cousins arrived with their (all white) family friends every single one of them chose to sit at the other table. including my cousin with her white boyfriend.

her younger sister tho, bless her heart, came to sit with my cousin an i, and she said to me the greatest thing.

“Isnt it funny how M____’s at the white table with her white boyfriend and i am at the brown table with you guys???”

“Lol, J, theres a white person in every brown family. AT LEAST ONE”.

she then went into an intense discussion about seeing Drake later this month with another one of my mixie cousins who IDs as brown over white or mixed.

and i realize so many things about race and family last night.

There is a whiteness you can assimilate to, and a racial otherness you can also choose to understand and identify with. The important thing is that we have a choice.

My two cousins who are half-white and sisters are so interesting because one of them clearly acts white like their mom and the other has mostly brown friends and dates MOC. They are like night and day its amazing to see.

also bonus points to my uncle and aunt who spent the evening apart from eachother each sitting at one table for a while before switching to make conversation with people at the other table. i dont even think they ate together. And i really appreciate my aunt for the efforts she makes.

LIKE THAT is a concrete depiction of how you make an interracial relationship work. You gotta put some serious effort into being present on both sides. You gotta make everyone feel welcome even if it puts you out a little. IT WILL MAKE YOU FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE.

but white dudes like some of my uncles (who sat with us) put up with that cause they love my brown aunties and our family. we are crazy and loud and unreasonable and so obviously brown it makes white acquaintences sit at another table.

I want a partner strong enough to be on both sides, like most POC already have to do because of white supremacy. I can fake nice and thrown down with white folks easy, some of my best friends are white!!

But i think in terms of building family what i really seek is people who are more willing to meet me in my end of the court.

So often i have to meet my white friends and lovers on their terms, under a set of rules most white folks downplay, dodge, or deny the existence of. It is exhausting to be a brown girl who wants her brown family in a white world. it will never happen. i have trrrrriiiiieeedd. I need folks who are willing to meet me where i am at. come to my house and wear slippers inside and smell the curry. meet my grandma, sat hi.

i have a white friend coming over to jam tomorrow and im stoked to take her upstairs to eat good food and chill with my cousin. it will be nice.

1st gen diaspora have a lot of feelings and shit to negotiate.

4 days of #pressure #stress #anger and I’m losing it…I’m working on my diet…hydration…now I need the right product…for my #mixedness Someone help me out here…help me get it back…where my #cosmetologist at? #longhair #LonghairdontCare #longhairDocare #braids #needhelp #blazian #blasian #hair #healthyhair #mixedhair #style

The term “white Hispanic” refers to someone who is phenotypically white (of European blood), but is of Latin American or heritage. There’s lots of people who fit the description out there. Take, for example, Ted Cruz, who is super white, but Latino nonetheless:

Zimmerman is probably not one of them. Race is not a science. In fact, there’s no genetic foundation for it at all. It’s a social convention.

But within the context of that social convention, white refers to skin color. Zimmerman, like most Latinos, is likely of racially mixed heritage – what in most Latin American countries would be described as “mestizo.”

The United States, with its comparatively rigid ideas about race and refusal to acknowledge racial mixing, does not have a word in popular use to describe it. (That’s also probably the reason why 18 million Latinos selected the “some other race” category on their Census form.) So it’s not surprising that CNN’s attempt to describe a non-white person as a “white Hispanic” grates on the ears of practically everyone across the political spectrum.

Hello! My name is Gerardo ‘Gary’ Lopez Zárate , i was born and raised in mexico  but im half spanish on my dad’s side,  ive always struggled  with my ethnicity , as i want to embrace lmy spanish side , but all my relatives look down on me and the mexican members on our family that arent white, as soon as my parents got married  they disaproved their relationship and made my mom’s life impossible.Plus my own dad is Racist as hell and calls me Ind*a and everytime i do something wrong he blames it on my race

I also had the chance to study in spain during two years which was a harsh experience,  i had  several  friends  who made fun of my accent and  classmates who in all seriousness  asked me if i was  a drug dealer as soon as they found out i was mexican . and teachers and counselors that called me ‘Exotic ’ .

Im very insecure about my mixedness as i feel like i dont fit anywhere , i  feel  too 'pale’ to be brown, yet too brown to be white some im always stuck somewhere inbetween , but  thats just who i am, I am Mixed , i am Latinx, and i am proud of it

my mom never wore a weave | ANTI-BLACK SENTIMENT

“the boy is mine” video with monica and brandy came out when i was in elementary school and i would argue that brandy was better than monica because her hair was real. yes, i decided that brandy was my fav because her long braids grew from her scalp and monica was 2nd best because her silky tresses were some kind of weave.

my mom never wore a weave so i thought weaves were gross. my mom’s hair was long and real and black ladies were jealous so they gave her nasty looks whenever she wore her hair down in public with my dad. to get back at them, i made fun of their weaves. i don’t remember exactly when i developed an aversion to weaves, but one time a girl’s braid fell out in class and i spent the rest of 2nd grade laughing at her about it. (and after months of denial i was devastated when i discovered that brandy’s braids were actually extensions.)

my black friends cherished and praised and exalted good hair and so did i. so much so that in middle school, i decided that my own mixed hair wasn’t mixed enough and i needed an s-curl. i got one. all it did was straighten my hair and i never ended up looking like those men on the boxes with the great skin and perfect fades and sexy gazes but that didn’t keep me from trying again. and again. and again.

 

i didn’t feel black enough. i was too young to understand that the blood in my veins couldn’t be revoked no matter what music i listened to or what clothes i wore, so i performed. i chose black music and black clothes and black entertainment television and these things made me blacker. and somewhere in this quest for authentic blackness i developed an undue adoration of the things my black friends unduly adored me for. the same things that made me not black enough became my black card: light skin, good hair, and mixed-with. i had my girbaud jeans and my timbs and my fade and i was mixed-with so you couldn’t tell me nothing. 

i don’t remember exactly when anti-black sentiment became a part of my blackness, but it did.

and it still never protected me from being called nigger. 

To anon asking about mixed therapists

(I accidentally deleted your ask)

I recall reading about one therapist is specialized in mixed issues. I think the therapist is mixed to but I can’t remember their name or where they’re located.

It’s great you’re looking into therapy. It can be tough but you start building an improved and truer version of yourself.

I’ve been seeing the same therapist for a few years now. She’s great but we don’t talk about mixed things. I spend so much time on this blog that I don’t feel the need to talk to her about anything related to mixedness plus I’m not sure she’s qualified to help me out. I don’t know about you but A lot of my “mixed issues” stemmed from feeling like the only one dealing with “mixed issues”. I didn’t really know other mixed people and racial topics are social taboos. Plus it’s a whole arena of vulnerability. There wasn’t anyone or anywhere to go. But that’s why I wanted to be a mod for this blog when it started. I’ve realized that people aren’t always going recognize our needs or make space for us so we’ve had to carve out our own space.

We’re not professionals but this blog is a community. We’re here to help each other out.

I really hope you can get the support you need. Sometimes you can’t get it all in one place or in the same way and that’s okay.

– Jay

im super excited about university but also terrified as hell about getting my identity taken away as a black woman because people are dumb and ignore my mixedness ….

[ Authors ]
O. Marty, M. Cramer, M.B. Plenio
[ Abstract ]
We present practical methods to measure entanglement for quantum simulators that can be realized with trapped ions, cold atoms, and superconducting qubits. Focussing on long- and short-range Ising-type Hamiltonians, we introduce schemes that are applicable under realistic experimental conditions including mixedness due to, e.g., noise or temperature. In particular, we identify a single observable whose expectation value serves as a lower bound to entanglement and which may be obtained by a simple quantum circuit. As such circuits are not (yet) available for every platform, we investigate the performance of routinely measured observables as quantitative entanglement witnesses. Possible applications include experimental studies of entanglement scaling in critical systems and the reliable benchmarking of quantum simulators.