giraudduloyallevriers asked:

Dear future me,

 {♠}“Dear future me,
                     today Daddy called me a Princess, when
                     I asked him not to call me a Prince. He smiled
                     at me and let me wear this pretty headpiece
                     Mommy has. I was so happy, when we were
                     playing together, he kept calling me a Princess,
                     then, when his guests came, he suddenly forgot
                     and said them I’m his son, again. And I felt bad, again.
                     Will we ever be the Princess for longer than a day?”{♠}

can we just talk about the fact 

that Mutsuki, a nervous kid whose family was murdered by ghouls, threw himself into a taxi that he thought was being driven by a ghoul to save a girl, and is then assaulted and misgendered by that ghoul in a horrific terrifying moment…
but still fights back and defends himself despite knowing that he is weaker than most of his coworkers. And even after getting the shit beaten out of him he gets out of the car and tries to will his kagune to appear so he can continue fighting and helping his team. 

I fucking love this boy so much. 

anonymous asked:

imagine trans girl bucky who keeps it a secret all through the war but one day post ws Steve makes a comment about how her "hairs getting pretty long, we should get you to a barber" and that's when she comes out to steve and he just smiles and says "well then lets see if we can get natasha to trim up those ends". Later she comes out to sam by telling him the story and his reaction is "you should get bangs, you'd look hot with bangs" and of course natasha knows because she knows everything

Natasha puts pretty much all her fears to rest immediately, smiling and squeezing her shoulder and telling her it’s all right, nothing’s going to change, come on, let’s find you something to wear that’s a little bit less Steve’s old baggy clothes. It’s almost too easy, and she’s on-edge for the first few days, especially when Nat gently asks if she can talk to Pepper about it. But when Nat and Pepper sweep her up, one on either side of her and linking their arms through her arms, and insist that they’re going to find something absolutely perfect for her to wear, she lets herself relax.

It’s harder with Steve, because she’s known Steve basically her whole life. So when he slings his arm around her shoulder, tugs a little on the ends of her hair, and laughs out a, C’mon, Buck, this is getting too long, you really gotta do something about it, she panics.

“I - I’m growing it out.”

“Really? What for?”

And the words tumble out of her in a rush, because she doesn’t know how to lie without making him ask even more questions, and Nat and Pepper have been so sweet and supportive and Steve - he’s Steve, he could never be anything but good to her. Still, she’s shaking by the time she finishes the explanation - almost a tirade in her efforts to make him understand - with a soft apology for lying to him. And Steve takes a deep breath and reaches out and hugs her, pulling her close against his chest and stroking her hair and making soft, soothing noises as he reassures her that, “It’s all right, you’re all right, I’m right here for you, and I’m always gonna be right here for you.”

And when she finally stops shaking and he lets her go, he tilts her chin up and smiles at her and says, “You’ll look so pretty with long hair, but you should ask Nat for advice on how to cut it in the meantime.”

She laughs because she and Nat have been discussing possible haircuts for nearly a week now and she has a small gallery of photos for when she finally goes to get it done.

From there, it’s a little easier. She doesn’t come out to Tony so much as he organically absorbs the fact from her changing presentation and the fact that every time he opens his mouth to say something, either Natasha or Pepper appears and stares him down until he starts using the correct pronouns. Bruce makes the switch with a smile and a, “Congratulations,” and the only question he asks is whether she’s changing her name. (She will, someday, once she’s decided on what she wants. She gives Bruce the one she was most considering, and he uses it consistently until she tells him that she’s not feeling it as much as she thought.)

When she comes out to Clint, he grins at her, gives her a rough, one-armed hug, and announces, “When you’re ready for it, I’ll hook you up with my endocrinologist! She’s great, you’ll love her,” just a little too loudly in his excitement.

She tells Sam over text-message because he works in DC during the week, and the wait for Friday, when he comes home for the weekend is agonizing. When the quinjet finally touches down, she meets him at the door in a sweater and skirt Pepper picked out for her, with Steve hovering a little anxiously behind her. His grin doesn’t waver as he leans in to kiss her on the cheek and says, “Hey, girl, you look beautiful. What’s for dinner?”

She doesn’t realize she was holding her breath until she sighs it out in relief and throws her arms around Sam’s neck.

anonymous asked:

Imagine tans woman Bucky who was totally comfortable with herself pre war and is trying to find her way back to that. (With Steve's support because that's what awesome boy friends do.)

It’s far from the only lie that Hydra ever told her. Far from the worst thing they ever made her do, but it has burrowed in under her skin, seeped into her bones - everything is wrong and she can’t remember how to make it right, can’t remember what it felt like to look into a mirror and be satisfied with what she saw.

It’s far from the only lie that Hydra ever told her, but it’s insidious.

-

The others are trying to help, she knows that. Bruce buys her expensive perfume and Pepper recommends an experienced dysphoria counsellor and Natasha offers to do her makeup, and it drives her crazy - there is no room for perfume in the life she leads, soaked in the smells of sweat and blood and gun oil. She will not trust a stranger - a doctor - with these intimate truths about herself, these painful secrets that can so easily be weaponised. She does not need to paint her face. 

She crops her hair short, like it was in the photos, and tells herself that progress is supposed to hurt.

-

But through the haze of confusion and wrongness there is Steve - Steve who used to trade his lacy frocks for her pleated trousers, who used to cup her jaw with its shadow of evening stubble and remind her she was beautiful.

Bucky does not find herself beautiful now - she is corded muscle and cold killer instinct, a select-fire weapon jammed on automatic, lost in a sea of memory she barely recognises.

But Steve is still afloat beside her. And with Steve, she knows, she can find her way back to shore.

anonymous asked:

I think you don't understand autogynephilia. When a real lesbian describes her fantasies, she talks about how hot her partner is. When a trans lesbian describes his fantasies, the focus is on himself and how sexy he is. His partner becomes a faceless prop, an abstraction who's only purpose is to reinforce his femininity. This is scientifically established, look it up. Transgender sex is inherently narcissistic, and it can never be healed until he turns his libido outward.

I was hoping you’d take me up on my encouragement to direct your passion towards the plight of endangered fish. But okay. 

As a “real” lesbian, um, I do in fact have sexual fantasies that are about me and how sexy I am? ‘Being sexy’ is a really common sexual fantasy for people of all genders and sexual orientations? I don’t want to share private information but of the other cis gay women whose sexual fantasies I know, “being intensely attractive” is in fact the most common one and there are plenty of women who pretty much exclusively fantasize about it. 

And don’t most peoples’ sexual fantasies feature faceless props? I will confess that I don’t usually invent a college major and crippling personal doubts and complicated home life for the imaginary people who feature in my sexual fantasies. I pretty much start with ‘so imagine there’s a person and she wants me’. Most women, cis or trans, want to feel sexy and fantasize about the desirableness and attractiveness and femininity of their bodies. It’s just that when cis women do it you don’t care and when trans women do it it’s ‘autogynephilia’. 

I’m not sure why I bothered, but I did go look it up. I assume you are referring to Blanchard’s transsexualism typology, which proposes that all trans women are either Straight Trans Women who can be dismissed for one stupid reason or Lesbian Trans Women who can be dismissed for another. I’m not even sure where to start with that, but for one thing the majority of the trans women I know are bi or pan. I’m also super not sure why we’re asking people who aren’t trans to explain what motivates trans people. Maybe we should get our understanding of an experience from the people who actually have it? 

Admittedly the psych community sucks at that. But even within the scientific community Blanchard isn’t taken very seriously, let alone reflecting a consensus. This is literally a couple of transphobes taking something both cis and trans women do and telling the trans women that when they do it it’s because they aren’t women, and counting on our culture of silence around women’s sexual fantasies to not contradict them.

Ive been saying Mutsuki was trans since the beginning and it looks like i was right hell ya trans rep! 

Buuuut now that means im going to have to deal with: 
1. Ignorant people using cissexist language and misgendering them
2. Transphobic people misgendering them and making gross transphobic jokes and comments. 

*sighs* 

basically if you don’t want to be either of the above: 
1. Don’t use cissexist language. Dont say “they’re a girl??” or “haha I knew they were a girl!!” or similar statements. So far Mutsuki has been identifying as gender neutral or a guy (considering pronouns usage). Respect that. Don’t misgender them because we found out they use a binder.  

2. Don’t make jokes about them “actually being a girl”. Thats gross as hell don’t do that. 

3. Don’t say that “they are female but identify as ___”. Mutsuki is just whatever Mutsuki is. Whether they are nonbinary or a trans guy thats what they are. Just because they have breasts doesn’t make them female. It makes them a nonbinary person/a guy with breasts. 

4. Don’t suddenly change your pronouns usage for them to she/her pronouns. So far we have seen gender neutral and masculine pronouns used for them. Keep using those until told otherwise by canon (aka from the characters mouth themselves). 

5. And finally: If they are nonbinary/a trans guy DONT and I repeat DONT decide that “nah im just gonna say they are a girl”. Dont do that. Its misgendering and its gross and if you do that to a fictional character then you’d probably do it to a real trans person to and just. Dont. Do. That. 

And finally things to do: 

1. DO continue using they/them or he/him pronouns for Mutsuki. 
2. DO continue to call them a guy or nonbinary until we are told otherwise. 
3. DO recognize the fact that having breasts does not automatically make you a girl. 

Thats about it. Thank you. Keep being cool TG fandom! :) 

One of the things I absolutely HATE is that trans women are expected to perform to this much higher level of femininity in order for our position as women to be considered authentic

If we don’t do this, we face more transmisogyny and misgendering and it’s fucking awful. I hate being bound into this expectation, especially because I’ve internalized it so much that I have a hard time rooting it out.

anonymous asked:

"I can have the most beautiful wife in the world, and I do; and I can have the most beautiful children in the world, and I do. But they would mean nothing if I couldn't be true to myself" Bruce Jenner, quoting Kanye West. Doesn't this show you how deranged transgenders are? A dude literally says transition is more important than his family and it's hailed as a revelation.

Oh, it’s you again.

1) “living authentically is more important to me than having the (externally) perfect life” seems like a really valid and important realization? people get taught to pursue a life that looks maximally happy and idealized (“beautiful wife”) instead of actually trying to be happy.

Be happy. It’s what matters.

2) “a trans person said something I disagree with therefore all trans people are deranged” do you apply this reasoning to other groups? 

3) You are cis. So am I. That means we actually probably just cannot understand what it feels like to be trans. There isn’t a thought experiment that will make either of us go ‘oh! now I have had the internal experience that trans people have!’ That means our only source of understanding about the trans experience is listening to trans people. If we decide (based on not understanding trans people) that we shouldn’t listen to trans people because they are clearly wrong according to our confused understanding of what they are experiencing -

- well, it seems like we’ve failed some basic logical principle pretty badly.

4) did you really read through Jenner’s whole interview trying to find something that could be interpreted as ‘trans people are delusional’ and just mentally filter out all of the discussion of what this means for her and why she chose to be public about it and what it’s been like to live her life? Because that’s some impressive mental gymnastics.

5) You don’t seem to think trans people are wrong about what will make them happy. So why are you angry at her? The nerve of doing what will make her happy, when instead she could prioritize her family? If it’d even be good for them to have a closeted and unhappy mother? I kind of doubt you get upset about people prioritizing their own happiness in other contexts. 

Like, I really seriously wish you’d take all the mental energy you’ve devoted to being really upset with trans people and spend it being really upset with everyone who eats endangered fish. See, endangered-fish eaters actually are destroying civilization and demanding you respect their life choices despite those choices being environmentally destructive and exacerbating societal ills. You should be all over this.

Regarding Alluka's gender:

If you’re one of the people who bring Illumi and Milluki into the discussion about Alluka’s gender, please remember that at no point in canon either of them is even implied to be correct or in the right. As opposed to Killua.

So … keep that in mind the next time you feel like saying ‘Alluka’s a boy because [any one of the adult Zoldycks] says so!!!’.

If you do find yourself giving into the urge, remember that it says a lot more about you than it does about Alluka.

anonymous asked:

(Urgent) Okay so I came out about being trans last night to my parents. And they were very negative, granted I am 13. But they told me to be myself and to not put labels but at the same the same time they said a lot of "you can't be this way" and I have a friend who is a few years older who is trans, and most all of my friends are fully supportive! But my parents keep calling me their daughter despite it being wrong. I have always felt more like a guy and don't know how to explain it.Help please

Ren says:

Honestly? I’d send them here. We’re willing to talk to parents, and it doesn’t sound like they’re going to kick you out…just that they’re skeptical, yanno?

Here’s some resources for parents you can take a look at and offer them, along with the link to our askbox (when it opens again):

I mean…if you’re gonna be yourself, you’re gonna have labels. And your transness is valid and good and a part of you that deserves respect, and I hope that your parents can come to see that in time.

Follower thoughts?

anonymous asked:

I hope one day you meet a nice woman and then discover she's really a man so you'll know how fucking disgusting it is.

I hope one day you meet good people in whose company you learn courage and compassion, so that some day you’ll look back on anonymously trashing vulnerable people on the internet and know how fucking disgusting it is. 

god the hunter x hunter wiki article on alluka is so awful transpobia cw

There is considerable confusion about Alluka’s gender. Two of Alluka’s brothers, Illumi and Milluki, refer to Alluka as their brother. But Killua, the closest brother of Alluka, specifically states that Alluka is a “girl" and refers to Alluka as his sister multiple times.This inconsistency can be explained by Killua’s intimate and understanding bond with Alluka, hence he would know and care that Alluka is mentally female, versus Illumi’s cold and dehumanizing attitude towards Alluka. While Alluka is most likely biologically male, Killua’s interactions show that Alluka’s psyche may be female.

For the purposes of consistency and convenience, in this article, Alluka shall be referred to as being male until there is any concrete evidence to the contrary in the manga.

the…

what?

even beyond the transphobia, that makes no fucking sense from a "there’s not evidence either way” standpoint. You’ve literally outlined  that the only evidence for her being male is people who HATE and DEHUMANIZE her that refer to her as brother

And the evidence for her being a girl is Killua, the person who canonically knows her best, as his sister.

SO YOU ARE LITERALLY ADMITTING YOU ARE USING THE TERMINOLOGY OF SOMEONE WHO IS “COLD AND DEHUMANIZING”

FOR “CONSISTENCY”

BECAUSE THERE’S “NO EVIDENCE TO THE CONTRARY

WHEN THE EVIDENCE TO THE CONTRARY IS THAT SOMEONE WHO ACTUALLY INTERACTS WITH AND CONSIDERS THE CHARACTER HUMAN CALLS HER A GIRL

Like even if I’m not aware enough to pick up what’s happening here is an abusive family misgendering a trans girl while her brother doesn’t, which is, you know, is the absolute only way to interpret the text that makes any sense…

Even when you even throw that fact away,  it’s literally Illumi and Milluki’s word vs Killua’s.

That the only evidence you have either way if you’re not taking Alluka’s presentation into account (which would be valid and also commendable since presentation doesn’t always correlate to gender identity and ideally what you wear or how you look shouldn’t be gendered. But if you DO take it into account, it doesn’t even go against anything- it only weighs more in Killua’s favor because Alluka's presentation is very much what our society perceives as "feminine”. She wears a dress and uses what are considered “feminine” speech patterns in Japan,)

Even from the totally bullshit “well the manga isn’t being concrete about what her gender is” argument Killua is objectively the more reliable source of evidence here. His perspective makes the most sense as concrete evidence, as he is a protagonist of this manga (therefore someone we are supposed to typically side with) who actually spends time with the character in question and doesn’t dehumanize her. There is no evidence pointing to Illumi and Milluki’s word being more reliable.There is evidence for the OPPOSITE since they are presented as UNRELIABLE CHARACTERS.

So it would be more “consistent” and more backed by “evidence” to take the world of Killua. If you were actually worried about consistency and evidence.

But you are not are making the decision to go with the “evidence” of a perspective of  canonically unreliable, abusive and dehumanizing characters, even though the opposing perspective is from a more reliable character.

Because it’s somehow more “convenient” to dehumanize the character as well. (it’s not, all you have to do is use a different pronoun).

If you used “they” for Alluka because there were conflicting pronouns within the manga from different characters and that’s just *SO CONFUSING*, that would still be a shitty and incorrect decision, but it would at least be consistent with this whole fake “WE’RE JUST DOING THIS BECAUSE OF LACK OF EVIDENCE IN THE MANGA” spiel. But you couldn’t even do that.

Because the fact is, logic has nothing to do with this. Evidence have nothing to do with this. Neither “logic” or “evidence” or “consistency” or “convenience” back up a “he” pronoun. Only a deep and abiding fear of calling a trans person by the correct pronoun does. So at least be honest about why you’re doing this.

anonymous asked:

Several trans* students were tired of being misgendered by some people so they worked together to come up with a spell so that whoever they use it on is physically incapable of calling them by the wrong name/pronouns.

“Don’t call me sir!”: an Old World Blues mod

In the Fallout: New Vegas DLC Old World Blues (the DLC where they try to be funny, to rather varied effect), there’s a computer in your house which acts as your valet.

For reasons known only to the game’s developers, they wrote its lines so that it is constantly addressing you as ‘sir’, regardless of player gender (it is handwaved as being hardcoded into the computer’s programming if the player character is female). Obviously this is not much fun for trans women playing the game.

vacantvisionary asked me if I knew of a mod to change this, but there weren’t any. So I made one!

You can download it here.