Hello, I was wondering if mirroring is a problem for people w BPD? Because I have this thing where as SOON as a friend is sad, I will mirror it but multiply it by 500. I like I could be in the best mood ever and if they seem slightly off, even if they aren't, I go into a full blown panic attack within seconds. I mirror everything. I do have problems with being afraid when a friend is sad because I think something bad will happen if they are, so maybe that's why I get so upset? I dunno, wondering
Hey, I experience something very similar to what you are saying. Part of BPD can be having rapid mood changes and many of us can be hyper aware of others feelings so I imagine these two can overlap.
From the diagnostic criteria (Section I and II):
I have a heightened sense of empathy and am hypersensitive to the feelings and needs of my peers, although my perceptions are often biased towards negative attributes.
I have affectivity problems and difficulty controlling the range and intensity of my emotional responses.
I theorise the “something bad will happen if they are” might be part of the biased perception towards negative attributes. Which often can be from past experiences.
For example I was often punished with silence from my mother when I was growing up. So now if my partner is sad and quiet I will perceive that as something bad, something I’ve done wrong, something I should atone for. It really doesn’t mean anything in reality- he just needs time alone to process things. But it’s hard sometimes for me to feel that because all I experience is the crushing feeling that I’ve done something wrong.
For some of us with BPD we have heightened empathy and that in combination with our intensity of emotional response might mean when a close one is sad we will feel that, possibly more than even they do. It could be something mundane like they are annoyed about a bus being late but we will feel that annoyance to the extent that even when they’ve gotten over it we might not have!
So in conclusion I think this very much could be a part of BPD. I think it could be due to a number of symptoms, and possibly negative past experiences. And you certainly aren’t alone in feeling this.