A lot of LGBT teens get asked if they are gay. Sometimes this can be a relief if you have been waiting for an opportunity to come out.
But it can also be nerve wracking or startling if you are taken off guard, or asked in front of people or by someone you don’t want to come out to.
If you are queer, you might not want to flat out deny it, but you might not want to get into the details of your personal life either.
Here are 5 good ways to answer the “Are you gay?” question.
1) Use humor
You might want to think of a good quip that you can break out if you are asked about your sexual orientation.
It might take a little panache to pull these off but here are a few lines you can try: "Gay? Yes, I am feeling quite happy today!“ "Am I gay? Maybe you should ask my girlfriend?” "Why? Are you asking me out?“
2) Throw the question back at the asker
Now this might not work if it is say, your mom or your cousin who you know is hetero. But in some situations, you could turn the question around.
“Funny you should ask! I was wondering the same thing about you.”
Who knows, you might actually find out that the person asking the question is also queer!
3) Keep them guessing
Just because someone asks you a question, doesn’t mean you have to answer it. You could try saying something like, “Wouldn’t you like to know!” Or, “What would you say if I was?”
Another way to reposed to the “Are you gay?” question is to ask “Why do you want to know?” If the person says, “I was just curious,” or “I was just wondering,“ you can say, "You know what I was wondering? Where you got those pants?”
If they say, “I don’t know, you just seem kind of gay,” you can respond, “You know, you seem kind of nosey, let’s go get something to eat.”
5) Be honest
Yep, I am.
Telling someone you are gay is a pretty big decision. Here are some reasons you might decide to just go for it: