7 Childhood Issues that Affect our Later Relationships

1. Threats and fear of abandonment. These can lead to jealousy and feelings of insecurity.

2. Lack of emotional nurturing. This can lead to feelings of emotional deprivation – which can feel like a bottomless pit to fill.

3. Growing up with feelings of entitlement. This can lead to feeling as if you don’t have to live by the same rules as others – as you are special, and a bit superior.

4. Being told that you’re inferior or inadequate. This causes you feel like you’re never good enough.

5. The demand to be perfect, and to always get things right. This can leading to being driven – and incredibly high standards.

6. Being betrayed by those you trusted – so you won’t trust now, and you can’t get close to others, or let them get close to you.

7. Being raised is a way that your needs were denied, not allowed, disregarded, trivialised or ignored. This can lead to a doormat type of personality where other people matter – and your needs never count.


Okay so I understand that a lot of people use astrology to map their lives, which I personally love to do. Childhood environments and events are usually something that people look into a lot (so do I) and I think this can be a good thing because it helps you figure out where personal issues come from, which helps you control them. In the following post I’m going to outline some of the things that are useful to look at in the chart when mapping out childhood. 

Moon, Sun and Saturn Placements/Aspects: As you can imagine, looking at our parents influence in our lives can be a good place to start. The Moon of course represents the Mother, the Sun represents the Father and Saturn represents the authoritarian figure in the family which is usually stereotypes as the father but of course in modern society, things are different so Saturn represents the dominant parent/guardian.

The 4th House Cusp: The sign that is on our 4th House cusp or the IC, shows us a lot about our family situation/dynamic. It represents our childhood within the home and our relationships with our family as well as expectations we had to meet.

Planets/Aspects to the 4th House: Like the 4th House cusp, the planets that reside there (if any) can shows us some striking themes played out through the home while aspects will show you influences from other areas of the chart (your life)

The 3rd House Cusp: The sign on the 3rd House cusp is responsible for early childhood outside of the inner home, it shows you school, your relationship with your siblings and is also responsible for the amount of times you moved house (if any).

Planets/Aspects to the 3rd House: Again like the 4th House, planets here will show you the energy that prevailed in this time of your life and aspects will show you influences from other areas of the chart (your life)

3rd and 4th House Lords: For this you need to look at the sign on the cusps of these houses and then look for where their ruling sign is in your chart. This will show you what other areas of your life these houses have served. You can also do this the opposite way around if you have planets in these houses to see what other areas of your life these houses have served.

IC Persona Chart: For those of you who are quite confident with interpreting charts, the IC persona chart can give you a way more in depth look into your home life. It’s laid out like a normal chart but all the placements are interpreted as your home life/childhood’s personality.

*Bare in mind that your whole chart is a reflection of the person you grew up to be, these are just the main points to look at*

My sister and I grew up without extended family nearby, but we had these two bachelor cats who kind of took on that role for us.  We like to say that they were our gay uncles.  I finally drew them as the humans they were to us …