so so tired of seeing discussions about pansexuality (the definition of it, validity of it, why people id as it, etc.) being had by people who do not identify as pan. because more often than not, they aren’t discussing facts, they’re discussing misinformation and their own assumptions and biases.
let pan people lead the discussion about pansexuality. listen to our voices, instead of your own, when it comes to our sexuality.
i need to make a post about this because it’s really bothering me.
bisexuality = the attraction to more than one gender, or the attraction to two or more genders, or the attraction to genders same as and other than your own
pansexuality = the attraction to all genders or the attraction to people regardless of their sex and gender identity
bisexuality is not defined as the attraction to men and women. bisexuality does not exclude other genders. bisexuals aren’t any less open-minded and accepting than pansexuals or anyone else in the lgbtq+ community. bisexuality is a sexuality, not a way to reinforce the gender binary.
many people seem to think that bisexuals aren’t aware of non-binary people or that they think there are only two genders.
this is because
1. the term bisexual is older than the term pansexual, and at the time the word bisexual was first introduced, it was defined as the attraction to males and females, because the term non-binary wasn’t something people were aware of. fortunately, many people today understand what gender binary and non-binary mean and because of this, the definition and meaning of bisexuality have evolved. saying bisexuals are only attracted to men and women is the old way of thinking.
2. bi in bisexual means two, and people always like to rely on this and say that it literally means two, as in men and women. if you really have to use this as an argument, the two you’re referring to means same as your own gender and other than your own gender. that makes two groups without excluding any genders.
3. pansexuality is always thought of as the gender-blind label that includes everyone whereas bisexuality is seen as only including men and women, boys and girls, males and females. which, like i said, is not true, so please destroy this way of thinking. it’s not helping anyone.
you can identify as both bisexual and pansexual. you can identify as
bisexual but feel like the word pansexual could also describe your sexuality accurately. you can
identify only as pansexual.
the difference between these two is slight but it’s there. so maybe instead of trying to tell others what their own sexualities are supposed to mean to them or what they should identify as, give everyone the freedom to identify themselves however way they feel is right for them. especially people who are neither bisexual nor pansexual can stfu and stop defining our sexualities for us thank you.
“Sometimes, you do things and you do them not because you’re thinking but because you’re feeling. Because you’re feeling too much. And you can’t always control the things you do when you’re feeling too much.“
— Benjamin Alire Sáenz.