Calling somebody else fat won’t make you any skinnier. Calling someone stupid doesn’t make you any smarter. And ruining Regina George’s life definitely didn’t make me any happier. All you can do in life is try to solve the problem in front of you. - Mean Girls (2004) dir. Mark Waters
1. First, decide to love and believe in yourself, and to see your worth and value as a person. Don’t allow the rudeness or cruelty of others erode your personal respect for yourself.
2. Next, don’t allow the actions or words of other people make you feel as if you really don’t belong. It’s better to detach, and to choose to be with others, than to spend time with “friends” who are going to treat you badly.
3. Knowing that, decide not to treat them the way that they treat you. Don’t lower your standards – you’re more mature than that.
4. Don’t acknowledge their messages or answer their calls. Don’t take part in their plans, or do things that they suggest.
5. Make sure you have excuses to not hang out with them – but make sure your excuses are always plausible (For example, you have too much homework, you need to go to soccer practice, you need to do stuff with your family, or don’t have any time).
6. If you happen to see them: smile, say “hi” … then keep on walking. You don’t want to get pulled into some drama with them.
7. Ignore them if they’re rude, or sarcastic and mean. They want you to react, and to feel hurt and rejected.
8. Find a different group of friends who will value who you are – who will always treat you well, and who do things you enjoy.