surrounding myself with pretty faces and pretty colors, so i can be a bit happier while i’m studying!! got my schedule yesterday, and besides having two classes at the same time, it’s… okay. not ideal, but okay, i can manage it. last year, let’s go.
season 3 of skam was the most authentic, well-written piece of media i’ve seen probably ever. experiencing it in real time was like reading your favourite book, one you didn’t want to put down the first time you read; one you’ve re-read countless times and dog-eared, highlited, and scribbled in so much it’s almost intelligible.
season 3 taught me what it was like to see myself in someone else’s eyes through mainstream television. being gay is one of the hardest struggles i’ve ever faced, doubled with the burden of being trans. whilst season 3 doesn’t necessarily touch basis on the aforementioned, it sheds light on the lgbtq+ community as a whole, something we can all take from, straight or queer.
being pansexual and seeing straight cis boys discussing my sexuality like it’s not some made up, tumblr bullshit thing is so rewarding. hearing about bipolar disorder and how ugly it can be, how love doesn’t save you but the promise of a future certainly will is so rewarding. how depression isn’t fun or pretty and often leaves a sour taste in your mouth, something your lover will never rescue you from is so rewarding. seeing that, so raw and tender laid out in front of me, is something i’ll never forget, near into the future. mania is scary. mania is awful and ugly and pulses through your veins and bruises your skin. mania is manageable, though, and i never thought i’d see such split open love for queer, mentally ill people.
season 3 of skam was a ride. one that made my stomach sink and my heart twist and bend. one i didn’t want to get off of. the acting was the most phenomenal display of tangible emotion, and i quickly got addicted and sucked into it.
isak valtersen is one of the most developed characters i’ve had the pleasure of seeing. he’s flawed and ripped at the edges, but he’s also kind and caring and loyal. watching him go from a snotty, slightly misogynistic 15 year old boy blinded by love for his best friend to an out 17 year old living with his boyfriend and tackling the future for himself, his partner, and his friends was a wonderful experience.
gullruten or not, tarjei sandvik moe and his character isak valtersen are everything in my eyes.
why do we breathe air? because we love air? because we don’t want to s u f f o c a t e. why do we eat? because we don’t want tos t a r v e. how do i know i love her? because i can sleep after i talk to her.
*from someone that survived her own first year of university
university is SO different from high school; a brilliant student in high school can be just a mediocre university student, and this is simply how it is when people from all over the country come together in a class.
so it is okay to stress, but only if afterwards you’re just trying your best! it doesn’t matter how much you already know (though it helps), but how willing you are to learn! so, really, if you want to be there, you can make it!
make sure you eat properly; after a while, your body will start feeling gross and it’ll eventually show in your capacity to do your work. go out, buy that extra meat, extra salads, extra fruits, at least every once in a while. it’s not luxury, it’s a need
go the extra mile. no matter how optional a task may be or how tongue-tied you feel on a particular day, put yourself out there. write that essay, do that projects, speak about your ideas. your teachers really appreciate it when they ask for interractions from students and they provide, and it’s nice to have your teacher know you by face and by actions. it might prove useful when they’re grading you during the finals as well.
go to all (most) of your classes, no matter how optional the attendace is or how little you understand on the moment. in the long run, it will matter, and it’s super helpful to complete all your materials with the extra knowledge you got from the class. and no one and nothing will truly replace a teacher’s explanation.
try to make friends with those around you; most are probably just as lost and lonely as you are and it’s good to have people around you who can motivate you when you’re done or with whom to simply share the struggles of getting an education. sure, not everyone will like you, but those that will, make sure they can stick.
get involved in all the extra programmes that you’re interested in! you’re young and a student once! these opportunities are mostly a once in your lifetime thing! get out there and try everything: go to that book club, get your ass for the cinephile gathering, sign up for exchange programs, help out your teachers with their projects, do volunteer work! whatever floats your boat, but just do it!
also keep your eyes wide open to catch all the interesting lectures happening in your school. check those posters, check those subjects, check those dates and go. most of the times, you’ll leave knowing much more and having something to think on.
do your reading and assignments ahead of time! you don’t want it to be 2 dayss before your first exam, and you still have to finish essays and books.
the library really is your best friend! either as a study place or alternative to spending all your money on the source materials for your homework.
tidy up at least once a week; as school materials will start pile up, it will be harder and harder to find anything and you’ll only just end up frustrated
no one knows you better than you do, so make sure to take only the amount of work you know you can do. it’s okay if you want to keep your first year as free as you can, so you have time to acommodate, and just as okay it is to try all the available classes if you can.
keep your facebook name your real one so people can find you. make sure you’re in every possible group within the first week of university, so you know what’s going on. use said facebook groups to ask about teachers and classes, or find offers on used textbooks that are much cheaper than if you would have bought them yourself.
talk with the upperclassmen if you have questions, or simply for tips! really, it tickles our ego to have people actually interested in the experiences we have to share and most of us are more than happy to clear any misunderstandings or help you guys get a classroom right.
carry pills and proteine bars with you, especially if you spend a long time away from home! you never know when pain or hunger hits you, and it is better to be prepared than sorry.
it became a running joke at this point, i know, but right during the exam period you’ll want to do everything you haven’t done ever. so make sure you nurture your hobbies as well as your studies, and hopefully your interests are not too time consuming or at least require frequent/long breaks.
literally no one cares about how you look; so wear that make-up and nice clothes if you feel up for it, but if you don’t, that’s fine as well.
it will be done in the blink of an eye. so be true to yourself and your wishes, enjoy what you’re studying and, remember, you can do it!
“Playing Spongebob has improved my life in so many ways. The biggest one probably is just, you know, his inherent optimism has changed the way I wake up in the morning, and it sounds sort of cheesy to say, but it’s really true. Maybe it’s because I’m fulfilling a life-long dream of being on Broadway, but I like to think it’s also because every night I get to inhabit this character. It’s made me more optimistic and more joyful and appreciate my relationships more. Actually, something really cool that my fiancée said to me the other day was, she said: ‘It’s really special that you get to save the world every night. Because this is a world that often feels like it needs saving, for different reasons,’ and it’s a really special thing, not just for me, but also to be able to share with this company and with this audience, is saving the world through this message of love and community eight shows a week. It does change my outlook on life, and it does change the way that I feel, and I like to think that I can share that with people now. Which is really special.” 🍍💛
since everyone is moving into dorm, i thought i could share from my 3+ years of experience of sharing my living space with someone else:
okay you pups always keep some extra batteries and lightbulbs; you don’t want it to be 11pm and have no stores open anymore
put things on your walls, it’ll automatically make you feel more at home
change the locks on your drawers
always, always check with your roomate(s) if it’s okay to bring people over; even if it happens spontainously, sending a text when you’re on your way means the world
don’t ever, ever let cooked food out for longer than an hour; it just gets super gross and no one wants to deal with that
make sure to discuss with your roommate(s) the details regarding the quality of both of your lives: plan a cleaning/washing dishes schedule and stick to it
headphones will save your ass ~
ask your roommate(s) out from time to time; they’re probably as lost, homesick and new to this as you and it doesn’t hurt to just be… nice
have at least 4 cups and extra pillows (throw pillows are OK)!! you never know when you’ll spend lazy afternoons with your friends and you will want to make their stay as comfortable as possible
don’t keep your lamp open after 10-11pm. it’s common sense
extension cords are the bomb!! have one with you
don’t go anywhere without slippers; dorms are dirtier than you might think
sharing food is everything, we’re all hungry and broke students
don’t bottle things in, you’ll only turn bitter. if something bothers you, talk it out with the person.
dry shampoo is a must; it’ll save so much time when you’re in a hurry and don’t want your hair to look gross
keep in touch with the people you left behind; skype sessions with people you didn’t even realize you’ve missed are healing the soul
air freshener might seem like an unneded addition, but it’ll help so much in making the room feel more put together; especially if all you’ve done in the past days was study. related to that: open your windows
have an extra alarm clock! no matter how reliable your phone may be, at some point it will fail you
folding is tricky and the only way to make it better is to practice. or, if you want to save space, you can just roll your clothes
it won’t be only about what you want anymore, but more about what you need; weigh carefully if you need another phonecase!!
if dorm is too loud, most buildings come with a study space that you can use almost anytime. really, go there
your college cafeteria might as well be your cheapest resource when it comes to a proper, warm meal, try to eat some soup at least once/month
bedding costs A LOT. okay, there’s nothing shameful in using some old ones, even if it features the most colorful cartoons
don’t borrow anything without asking. ever.
everyone seems nice at the beggining; make sure you don’t plan your whole life around the roommate who might turn out to be an asshole
any more tips added are appreciated! send me in any question that you mgiht have or tell me about your dorm experience!!