mindful attention

I’m at that age now where I only want to associate myself with grown people and grown situations. People who play mind games, attention seek, guilt trip or other manipulative things need to stay clear away from me. I don’t care about social or financial statuses, or other irrelevant attributes, I seriously couldn’t give a shit, as long as your mentality is grown, we can vibe.

You being comfortable on my blog is important

If you want me to tag/trigger warn something: Tell me and send the link and I’ll do it

If you want me to answer something privately: Either message me directly or send me an ask with an ^ at the start. (I can’t not answer something privately on anon, so I will ignore it so it stays private)

If you want me to stop following you: Tell me

If you want me to block you: Tell me

If you want me to stop contacting you: Tell me straight away

If you want me to untag you in a post: Tell me, and send the link

If I send in an ask that makes you uncomfortable: Either delete it, ignore that part of the ask or use direct message to ask me to resend it without the part that makes you uncomfortable.

If you want me to delete a post: Tell me, I may do it if I find it offensive or problematic. This is the only case were I may not do as you ask. I’m sorry for that.

If I misgender you: Tell me

If I use the wrong pronouns: Tell me

If I reply to an ask that I clearly didn’t answer the question: I didn’t answer it for a reason, the reasons for not answering an ask properly or answering it at all will vary. 

If I say something that offends you or hurts you in any way: I am deeply sorry that my words have hurt you. 

If I say something racist, sexist, homophobic, transphobic etc or discriminate: Please tell me, and whats wrong with what I said so I can learn and grow from my mistake.

If I tag you in a tag game: It is totally up to you if you want to do it or not

If you want to unfollow me: Just do it, I won’t get offended

If you want to block me: Just do it, I wont get offended.

I use bro, dude, man, girl, gurl, bruh, woman, lady, mate and more all gender neutrally: but if I call you any of these and it makes you uncomfortable, please tell me and I will change it.

Trigger Warnings: If you have a trigger, please tell me (send an ask or message me privately) and I will try my hardest to tag any posts.
I’ll use food as an example to show you how I tag my posts. #food tw, #tw food, #tw. I already tag people with #body image tw and a few others that don’t come up very often, like abuse, death, knife, guns and food.

If I reblog something that wasn’t meant for me: Please let me know. Also by this I mean if I reblog a post about bpd, it wasn’t created for me to reblog as I don’t have bpd.

If you think that there should be something one this list: Please tell me as I want you to be comfortable and different people have different experiences meaning that they each have different things that make them uncomfortable.

A little side note: I edit this post a lot, I re-word stuff and add more to the list as well as other things. So please, every once and a while have a look to see if I’ve adding things. Also if the link in my description isn’t working, direct message me straight away please.

You being comfortable is very very important to me, do not be scared to tell me or do something that will make you feel better.

Treat your attention as a valuable thing – like golden arrows – because your energy flows in the direction of your attention. What you put your attention on grows and becomes a theme of your life – whether you mean for this or not.
—  Rituals for Living Dreambook & Planner
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12th Day, Month of Songs

I finally come to realize it ain’t enough just to have a tattoo. A tattoo is nothing but a pretty picture put in your skin. That’s all.

  • Baby: f-f
  • Father: Oh my god, he's gonna say father!!
  • Baby: f-f
  • Father: Come on son, let it out
  • Baby: f-finnick odair is such an underappreciated character who won the hunger games at age 14 was prostituted at age 16 and on top of that he couldn't be with the woman he loved and was reaped for a quarter quell with a woman who was like a mother to him and his friendship with katniss was truly important because he is truly the only one who can understand what she was going through they both felt like they had let down their loved ones down and honestly I hate that the movies cut down so much of their friendship and I hate in general how little we get of finnick odair in general like he deserves better and we deserve better and he's such a kind and selfless soul despite all that he's been through like he literally sacrificed his life for the rebellion so millions of people could be saved and the fact that he went though hell and back just to protect annie is so like he loves her so much and the level of love and intimacy the two share in their relationship is unreal and I'm forever disappointed that we didn't get a lot more of them in the movies because their relationship is so unlike any other relationship I've ever seen and the fact that he didn't even get to see his son or even find out that he was gonna be a father and he didn't get his happy ending with annie which is all he ever wanted and he deserved the freaking world and finnick odair is just really underrated, you feel me?
  • Father: ...
If you don’t pay appropriate attention to what has your attention, it will take more of your attention than it deserves.
—  David Allen
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Poly relationship with Namjoon, Jin and J-hope.

Concept: A dystopian novel where the government is able to read the minds of its citizens in order to spy on them. The protagonist is a person with ADHD and the mind-reading technology doesn’t work on them because their thoughts are too disjointed and change so rapidly that they’re impossible to read.

Just to be clear


You can be polyamorous and still cheat.
You can be polyamorous and still cheat.
You can be polyamorous and still cheat.
You can be polyamorous and still cheat.
Y O U   C A N   B E   P O L Y A M O R O U S   A N D   S T I L L   C H E A T

YOU CAN BE IN A POLYAMOROUS RELATIONSHIP AND STILL BE CHEATING

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Be conscious of yourself, watch your mind, give it your full attention. Don’t look for quick results; there may be none within your noticing. Unknown to you, your psyche will undergo a change; there will be more clarity in your thinking, charity in your feeling, purity in your behavior. You need not aim at these - you will witness the change all the same. For, what you are now is the result of inattention and what you become will be the fruit of attention.
—  Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj
Bare Attention

‘What is bare attention? It is the willingness and capacity to bring wholehearted attention to each moment without anything added to it, without trying to detract from it, alter it, or layer it with interpretation. With bare attention there is no sense of ownership brought to the moment; it is not “my” experience, not happening to “me” not am “I” making it happen. It is just happening…

Bare attention is cultivated in each moment without exception. The thought is just the thought, the sound the sound, the taste the taste, the feeling the feeling. There is no judgement or prejudice within this wholehearted attention - the pleasant and unpleasant are equally embraced, the challenging and the easy, the flattering and the unflattering. A life without judgement is a free life, an engaged, steady, receptive presence in the presence of all things. The countless burdens of history, projection, association, and fear are laid down. Through the encompassing nature of bare attention, we live in a world where we have no enemies, but instead an ongoing invitation to learn, to listen, and to understand.

Calmness is the fruit of bare attention. The mind is released from its agitation and preoccupation, free to see more deeply and simply. The world itself seems to calm down when it is no longer perceived as a combative arena. In deeper levels of attention the mind and body come to depths of calmness that are in themselves joyful, still, and radiant. Attention is our bridge to the simple truths of the moment. A Zen master was asked about the key to happiness. Reflecting for a moment he answered with a single word: “Attention.”

The quality of transforming attention is one of curiosity and interest. Burglars may have wonderful concentration, a soldier going into battle may be remarkably focused, and a stalker may have a highly developed single-pointedness. But there is a real difference between the concentration of obsession and preoccupation, and the attention of mindfulness. Mindful attention is light, gentle, warm; above all it is dedicated to understanding and freedom. It is both single pointed, and open and receptive in the same moment. The quality of bare attention can be likened to that of a mother cradling her child. Held too tightly the infant will complain; held too loosely and there will be unfortunate consequences. Gentle, devoted, caring attention embraces the moment.’

- Christina Feldman, The Buddhist Path to Simplicity.