This is something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately, and something I really wish others had warned me about. Then again, how could they? I’m in the first ‘wave’ of the Millennial generation, and I don’t know if other generations have been through this before or not.
So here’s the deal:
Around the time you hit your mid-20s, you’re probably going to have a quarter life crisis. It’s gonna happen. You’re going to look at yourself, a 25 year old with few prospects, and you’re going to compare yourself to others that have come before you, and you’re going to feel like a failure.
I don’t have any advice on how not to have this happen. I just know that it happened to me, it’s happened to others I know, and it’s probably going to happen to you. You’re going to question everything, re-evaluate your life, and maybe you’ll end up wanting to do something completely bonkers.
I don’t have any advice on how to deal with that part.
But here’s the thing: I’m on the other side of it now. I got through it. I kept pushing. It was hard. I felt like a loser, and I went through a period of really having to unlearn all the expectations I’d grown up with for what your mid-to-late 20s looks like.
Just know that you’re not alone, you’re not a fuckup, you’re not a failure. You’re in the same place as everyone else in our generation. In fact, you’re in the same place as many young people in 1400′s Italy, who were also basically shit-outta-luck throughout their 20s. This is a natural thing that occurs when older generations effectively shut out younger generations from having any voice or any economic power and then expect the younger generations to keep up an act anyway.
So when you hit that crisis point and you’re convinced you’re a fuckup, know that you’ll be able to ride it out.
I’m not out of the woods yet myself. All I can do is warn you that those feelings are going to come, and assure you that those feelings don’t last. You got this.