Generation stress: #Millennials more stressed than baby boomers

The American Psychological Association (APA)’s 2014 “Stress in America” survey found that money is the top source of stress in America. Lower-income adults – defined by the APA as making less than $50,000 a year – were twice as likely as those making above $50,000 to say they feel stressed about finances all the time, 36 percent to 18 percent.

Average stress levels overall are down — coming in at 4.9 on a 10-point scale as opposed to 6.2 in 2007. Yet recessionary impacts remain, as “stress is not going down as much for women, for people with low incomes, for young adults, or for people who are parents,” said Norman Anderson, APA’s CEO.

Surprise, American millennials are falling behind the rest of the world 

A new study from Educational Testing Service, a nonprofit dedicated to policy and assessment research, found that American millennials fell behind their international peers in “literacy, numeracy and problem solving in technology-rich environments” — a disparity that puts the United States’ position as a global leader at risk.

But wait, there’s even more bad news

In the “Singles in America” study that I do with Match.com, we ask them, ‘What must you have in a relationship?’ And, ‘What’s very important?’ And they must have somebody they can trust and confide in. They must have somebody who respects them. They must have somebody who makes them laugh, which actually is very important biologically. Because laughter drives up the dopamine system. It’s very good for you. Laughter’s very good for you. They must have somebody who gives them enough time. And they must have somebody that they find physically attractive.

We are turning inwards. We are trying to build now the most important relationship. And when I ask the questions, like, they’re very in favor of marriage without children. They’re very in favor of children without marriage. They’re very in favor of living together. What they will not tolerate is commuter marriages, people living in separate homes, people living in separate bedrooms. They want total transparency in the relationship. They want to have access to the person’s cell phone. A great many of them would walk out even on a date who hides what they’re saying on their phone or their texts.

I think they’re looking for a really special kind of relationship. 100 years ago, sure, you had a nice husband and that was great. But you also had very profound relationships with your — with all your other people in the local community. And so, the partnership didn’t have the same profound intimacy. Because it wasn’t all you’ve got. Now your partner’s really all you got. And so we want everything in that partnership. So rather than being less serious about that primary relationship, I think we are profoundly more serious about it.

— Helen Fisher busts a lot of myths about love and millennials in this week’s show "Love and Sex and Attachment."

Evan Zhou, 24, Web-Developer, Co-Founder of STEEZY (thatsteezy.com)

"I studied mechanical engineering [in college], but I just kind of did it just to do it. I had the vague idea that I wanted to make something that people enjoyed. But to be honest, I was a terrible student, didn’t study hard enough, danced too much. So because of that, I didn’t get a good job. I worked for a lighting company, and I fucking hated it. They weren’t even the cool LED lights you see at raves, they were like, street lights. I wanted to create something people would actually use. So I started looking into startups and thinking of things I could make and put on Kickstarter, and that eventually led me to coding and front end web development. I figured, if I’m going to have all these ideas, I should at least have the ability to prototype them, otherwise they’re just going to stay ideas.

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Are you a Millennial, Generation Y?! 👽 DO YOU WANT TO MOVE FROM HOME?! 🙋🙋🙋 Well watch this video that’s literally titled “A Millennial’s Guide To: Moving From Home!” 💃 ✨👏😎

Things I'd like to know based on the help of personal experiences from millennials & not google searching
  1. What are the best ways to wake up without feeling so tired/grumpy the next morning if your schedule fits less than 8 hours of sleep a day?
  2. Explorers and travel hackers, HOW DO YOU GUYS FIND THE TIME AND THE MONEY TO TRAVEL.
  3. Would you rather be making $20/hr doing something that has nothing to do with your degree/career goals or making $12/hr as an intern at an office with rude baby boomers and snooty ex-interns that is relevant to your degree/career goals?
  4. What cleansing or diet or whatever has made your body & mind really feel at peace & not all heavy & shitty?
  5. Do you guys see me living in New York or Seattle?
  6. What’s Seattle even like?
  7. Is it actually smart to invest in stocks?
  8. If my girlfriend and I announced we were starting an online art culture magazine, would any of you be willing to help if we said we were willing to pay you a small fee?
  9. What’s the best way to self-publish a book?
  10. What’s the cool jams? What’s the hot gossip? Need a condom?

Feed my knowledge and please don’t make my prideful, Scorpio ass regret actually trying to have a human connection/asking for help.

"My generation has inherited a big huge mess. It’s not our participation trophies’ fault. The world would be even more screwed if we didn’t grow up with programs where everyone was rewarded for their success, rather than just winning. We had the chance to learn a lot of things that you can’t display on a medal, without which we’d be even more messed up. "

Hey kids!  This book might benefit a lot of you in high school and college!  It’s written by a girl I went to college with, and judging by the first few pages, looks like it’s pretty spot on.  And, for a few days, the digital version of the book is also FREE, so go check it out!!!  (As one of the first Gen-Yers/last Gen Xers (depending on how you look at it) and raised by late Boomer parents, I could totally see myself and my parents in her first few pages…)

But I Tried So Hard: A Millennial’s Guide to Making It In the Workforce - Kindle edition by Alexis Rhodes

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A Letter from the Millennials

Dear Older Generations,

To be honest, we’re over you. We’re over you calling us “lazy” and “self-entitled.” We’re over you criticizing our work ethic, our passion, our morals, without ever looking at your own. You complain about the state of the youth but never look back at the state of your generations. We understand that each generation wants the best for the next, but it is time for you to understand: that maybe millennials know more about what they want they you do.

You say that you are irritated because you believe millennials don’t value our opportunities, that we take them for granted. For some this may be right, but for most millennials we are doing everything in our power to make something out of this world that we are inheriting. We live in a society where a four-year degree is outrageously expensive and is valued the least. We work our as*es off and fall deeper into debt every day just to enter a job market that is not hiring college graduates. You have created an almost unwinnable game and then dismiss us when we ask for change.

But now, we will no longer be silent. We know better; you have taught us better. We are too aware of the world around us to just let other generations handle things. We, the millennials, are growing up and we’re taking what is ours.

From Ferguson, Missouri to Hong Kong, China, millennials are fighting for true equal opportunities for all. The reigning generation will no longer be content with the status quo. For us it won’t be acceptable for women to make 78 cents to a man’s dollar (the figure is even less for women of minorities). We will no longer discourage love just because it is not in the form of a man and a woman. Instead we will celebrate our differences and push each other towards a society for all, not just the few.  

read more at: http://www.hercampus.com/school/fsu/letter-millennials

Sometimes my mother’s friends treat me like an equal. And sometimes they treat me as that great, mysterious gap that bridges our generations, the person “adult” enough to drink wine with them and “child” enough to explain their teenagers.

So today, when they glanced sidelong at me while they laughed about how their children texted their friends rather than talking to them, I simply nodded and said “yes”.

Their teenagers, they don’t have time to “hang out” nearly as often as teenagers used to. Their teenage children are bogged down by schoolwork. Their teenage children text in-between assignments and studying and everything else life wants to require from them.

And for myself, for the children of my mother’s friends, it’s compounded by our status as “military brats”. We don’t stay in one place. We don’t live near our friends. We are constantly moving, jerked around by circumstance, settling down just long enough to make a few connections, and then we are ripped away.

So yes, we text. Yes, we try to keep up with the friends we have. Yes, we spend time in virtual communication, because when you know you’ll have to start over again in two years, why even bother? Cell phones, the internet—they allow us to make and KEEP friends, rather than making some superficial, easily-forgotten relationships of convenience.

Yes, Mom and friends, your teenagers - and your adult children - text their friends. Stop thinking about the keypad, and start thinking about the communication.

I didn't get the job...

I am so sad. People keep saying that there is a job out there for me. But no. 

I am a non-EU citizen in the UK. And due to the effects of upcoming elections, visa regulations are so tight. Tier 1 - highly skilled worker visa, which was how I worked in the UK before, is cancelled. Apparently it attracted wrong type of people to the country -_- I can only be hired by companies that are Tier 2 sponsors. It means that they need to agree to sponsor me for a visa. But even those companies don’t want to hire non-EUs at the moment. 

I had a chance with this interview and now I don’t even have that. There are absolutely no jobs back in my country. It is hell. As “developing” countries go, it is hell to live there as a woman. And I don’t know people, which is the way to find a job there. I don’t have the money to bribe people to give me a job and yes, that’s how it works there. But I have to go back to that hell hole when my visa expires.

I have an engineering degree, an MSc with Distinction, another Master’s on the way and a few years of job experience.And I can’t find a job. I am so tired.

I don’t have any options left. I can’t breathe.