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‘Open When…’ Letters!

Here’s my stack! I saw this idea on pinterest and thought it was super cute and an easy way to do something special instead of just making another care package. I only sent ten this time around and I sent them in a larger manila envelope. At my post office, sending these in my own envelope was actually less expensive than sending them in one of the flat rate envelopes!

Here’s what I put in each:

Open When…

First- I explained the letters and mentioned that, knowing him, I didn’t expect him to wait to open each one. I’ll know he’ll open all of them at one time! (and then go back to each one)

You are Bored- I found a website where I could create my own word searches, crosswords, word jumbles, and hidden codes and made them all about us, our favorite things to do together, and inside jokes. I think he’ll have a lot of fun with more personalized puzzles to keep him entertained.

Mad at Me- I wrote and apology letter telling how much I loved him.

You Need a Trip Down Memory Lane - I wrote a letter telling the story of our first date and a picture of us on that date!

You Can’t Sleep - A letter telling him to think of good things and what it will be like when he comes home.

You are Feeling Under the Weather - A funny 'get well soon’ card from the store and a packet of Emergen-C

You are Feeling Frisky - Ladies (and gents), you know how it is trying to keep the romance alive from a distance!

You are Feeling Homesick - A Florida postcard with a small note on the back and a ziplock bag with grass from my backyard!

You’ve had a Terrible, Horrible, No good, Very bad Day - An encouraging letter along with a rubber band to remind him to be flexible, a paper clip to help him keep it together, and a penny for good luck!

You Need to Know Just How Much I Love You - I put on some lipstick and filled a sheet of paper with lipstick kisses and wrote reasons why I love him on each one!

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Package No. 2: St. Patty’s Day!

This is the second care package I’ve sent to my husband. I doubt it’ll get there in time for St. Patrick’s Day (he hasn’t even received the Valentine’s Day box yet!) but it’s the thought that counts, right?

Anyway, in this package I sent a lot of green things and I tied funny little notes around each. Below I’ve listed the items and their notes:

  • Irish Spring Shower Gel & Deodorant - “In case you’re getting stinky”
  • Lucky Charms - “You’re my lucky charm!”
  • Green rubber duck - “I’m one lucky duck to have you”
  • Mini jar of Jif - “Choosy wives choose Jif”
  • Mint M&Ms - “Sweets for my sweet”
  • Turkey Jerky (wasn’t creative enough for a note on these!)
  • Mini boxes of craisins - “Crais-y for you!”
  • Mini scope - “I miss your morning breath”
  • Pistachios - “I’m nuts about you!”
  • Slinky - “I love you oodles!”
  • Advil - “Pills for when someone’s being a pill!”

Around the box, I cut out little shamrocks and wrote funny puns on them like “Leprechaun’t wait to kiss you!” and “You’re my pot o’ gold!” In the bottom of the box, I added a little note that said “I hope this box is Dublin your happiness!" He and I love puns, which is why I used so many!

As always, I put a letter in there, too. But I also had my mom, dad, brother, and grandmother write him little notes to him. I think he’ll like that!

I hope this box inspires you to make a box for a service member you know! I’ll be posting again once the Easter care package is sent out :)

Confession #850: Just because you know I’ll wait forever doesn’t mean you should make me. 

Photo found on google, all rights to the respectful owner.

The Five Biggest Difficulties of Deployment and How To Deal With Them.

1. The Time Difference: it can be killer. There are times when you either sacrifice sleep and get to talk to him, or you sacrifice talking. Good rule of thumb? If you have school or work early, maintain your priorities. Love understands.

2. Jealousy: On both sides. Whether he is deployed to Afghanistan and a particular girl commented on his Facebook or he is in Japan and going to bars, jealousy can creep up on you. Remind yourself of all the promises you’ve made each other. Let it go. Also be mindful of his mindset- posting photos of you and guy friends is a no-no.

3. Loneliness: Remind yourself why you are going through this deployment. Push yourself to call a friend or family member that makes you feel good. Just not in the mood? Try a hot bath, your fav movie, and a rockin’ self pedicure. Taking care of yourself can work wonders.

4. The Rut: Everyone hits it. Remember to see friends, work out, maintain obligations and responsibilities, stay loyal, and take care of yourself. Many women that successfully get through deployments pick up a hobby or skill while he is gone. Try learning a new language, geocaching, learning an instrument, or taking an art or kick boxing class. You need to continue to love and grow when he is gone.

5. Not Knowing What To Talk About: This may sound odd to some of you, but this one is very important. We all hit a point when we just don’t know what to say anymore. “It sounds monotonous”, “he probably doesn’t care what I ate for breakfast”, “I don’t want him to feel bad about not being here,” blah blah blah. Say these things anyways. Write to him, even if it is an email, while he is offline. Ramble. Letting him know that you think about him even when you aren’t talking and keeping him in the loop with your life and thoughts will make him feel included.

Stay loyal.
Keep your head up.
Keep your heart strong.

Xoxo

ALMOST Balled my eyes out today. Someone saw the ring he gave me and asked me about it. I told him it was a promise ring from my soldier. Lots of questions were asked and each one made it harder to hold back the tears. Don’t ask me if i miss him, cause that just feels like an understatement. Of course I miss him immensely. You don’t know how I do it? Its this thing called love, distance doesn’t matter with that. You know just how I feel? I gaurentee you don’t unless your man is in the army as well. Am I excited he is coming home? Words can’t describe how excited and happy I am. <3

Confession #1079: He’s been gone for boot camp for over a month now and everyone thinks I’m doing ok. But I’m not. I cry myself to sleep almost every night. And I’m pissed cause this is only basic. How will I handle deployments. Im scared.

To all you uppity little Military Wives:

Just remember you were a girlfriend once, too.

So chill with the marginalization of  wives from fiancees from girlfriends. This is partly why so many people cannot stand us [the MilSo community as a general aggregate] in the first goddamn place: they see us hating on each other over ridiculous issues that mean absolutely nothing. Wives are no more important than a girlfriend or a fiancee’. The only difference is a few additive dollars in your soldier’s paycheck and some tax changes. The consecrated aspect depends on your faith, so I won’t go there. But none of us are omniscient to the dynamics of another couple’s relationship. We cannot presume we understand, regardless of what we think we do or do not see, how anyone’s relationship other than our own functions. And there is nothing more inspiring than to see couples proving and dedicating their body, mind, and soul to one another before vows and rings are exchanged. Because that’s the stuff you know will never change after a marriage.

A ring is merely symbolic, ladies! Simply because you do not yet have one does not mean you are any less committed and loyal to your soldier than a woman who does wear one. We’ve got to stop putting each other down based on the trivial things [i.e. our soldier’s rank, marital status, children, etc.] and start holding each other up for the true issues that matter. 

We all talk about from time to time how we aspire for the support and understanding our fellow MilSos during the good, bad, and trying times. Let’s be the change that we want to see!

C'mon, ladies. Let’s get it together.