military girlfriend

Your boyfriend belongs to you, mine belongs to the military.
You complain you haven’t seen him in a few hours, I will go months on end without seeing him.
You haven’t heard from him in a couple hours, I will go weeks without hearing from him.
You get mad and ignore his calls, I would do anything for just 5 minutes.
You take him for granted, I don’t.
—  Military Girlfriend
Well-intentioned questions:

“When will he get leave next?”

“Where will he be stationed next?”

“Will he be able to come back for my wedding/Christmas/birthdays/holidays/anniversary?”

“When will you get to see each other again?”

We loved with a love that was more than love
—  Edgar Allan Poe
Distance can make you feel all different types of emotions. I don’t think i ever felt so hurt yet so numb at the same time. I can be emotionless and distant in the morning and by night time I’m crying myself to sleep from missing him so much. I’m tired, tired all the time. Tired from being away from him, tired from missing him, tired from staying up late at night, tired from constantly worrying about him, tired from this loneliness, tired of feeling hot and cold about this whole situation. I’m with him but it’s as if I’m not with him,.i have him but it feels like I don’t. It’s kind of sad when you get use to it, use to not having that person around, use to not talking to them for days and finally when you think you are used to walking around like an empty shell, you get to see them, and they spark everything up 10x more then before and the world is no longer gray but different shades of colors..but once again you are forced to say goodbye and this time the pain is far more worse than it was last time. But you know in the end it’s worth it. Everything you’ve been through for them, is worth it.
Unofficial “Milso” Playlist

I’ve seen multiple “milso” playlist and they are all old & usually only one genre. I’m only sharing one that I made. Its a list of relatable of songs that I listen to when I’m in that funk. This is also probably good for Long Distance Relationships in general! Bolded ones are personal favorites!

  1. Willow Smith : Drowning
  2. Gym Class Heroes : Back Home
  3. Beyonce : At Last
  4. Bryson Tiller : Exchange  
  5. Carina Round : For Everything a Reason 
  6. Ciara : Jackie (for when you need a boost)
  7. Daniela Andrade : Thinkin Bout You
  8. Daughter : Numbers
  9. Edward Sharpe & The Magnetic Zeros : Home
  10. Florence & The Machines : Over The Love
  11. India Arie : The Truth
  12. Jaden Smith : PCH 
  13. Janine & The Mixtape : Hold Me
  14. Jhene Aiko : W.A.Y.S. & Promises & For My Brother 
  15. Lana Del Rey : The Man I Love 
  16. Lauryn Hill : Can’t Take My Eyes Off of You
  17. Mac Miller : Objects In The Mirror
  18. Miguel : Pussy Is Mine / Coffee / Simple
  19. Moldy Peaches : Anyone Else But You
  20. Paramore : My Hero / The Only Exception
  21. Rihanna : Stay / We Found Love
  22. Roy Orbison : In Dreams
  23. J.Cole : Hello
So I understand long distance is hard. It really is. But I don’t understand why people breakup because they “can’t handle the distance”. Personally I’d rather not see him for months with limited communication, than the rest of my life without him at all. Just saying.