Pain is part of the deal. If you don’t walk into the second half of your own life, it is you who do not want it.

Remember this: no one can keep you from the second half of life except yourself. Nothing can inhibit your second journey except your own lack of courage, patience, and imagination. Your second journey is all yours to walk or to avoid. My conviction is that some falling apart of the first journey is necessary for this to happen, so do not waste a moment of time lamenting poor parenting, lost jobs, failed relationships, physical handicaps, gender identity, economic poverty, or even the tragedy of any kind of abuse. Pain is part of the deal. If you don’t walk into the second half of your own life, it is you who do not want it.

– Richard Rohr: Adapted from "Falling Upward: A Spirituality for the Two Halves of Life”

8 Ways You Can Survive — And Thrive In — Midlife
One secret to midlife happiness is being a rookie at something. Trying new things and failing keeps you robust. Also, to revive a midlife marriage, mix things up: Hike, go dancing or set out in an RV.

After two years of research and more than 400 interviews about midlife, former NPR reporter Barb Bradley Hagerty received dozens of insights about how to live well in the middle years. We’ve distilled them here, with a little context. And, by the way, these ideas work well for people on both sides of the midlife divide.

Just 21% of women agree “I trust the health information I find online”

While consumers are avid seekers of online information about health, this doesn’t mean they necessarily believe what they find. In the Yahoo!/Digitas Health survey, just 21 percent of the midlife women agreed strongly that “I trust the health info I find online.” Given consumers’ cautious attitude toward the health-related material they find online, marketers must make forthright transparency a priority in the material they present in that venue.

Farrrrrk me, it's been one of those days today

My brain’s going haywire. Major midlife going on! (and yes, I’m allowed to refer to a 19 year old slight breakdown/bout of uncertainty as a midlife, as I have cystic fibrosis and this probs is actually the middle of my life - if not later. aha)…


Thoughts of all shapes and sizes have crossed my mind today. I just don’t know what to do to improve my life really… might be a temporary thing due to being stuck in this fucking loony bin… might not. I can’t get the images of my dreams of late out of my mind. I’ve become borderline obsessed with thinking way too far into the future which is freaking me out and stressing me out in equal measures, especially when I refer back to today and my current situation. I don’t know if what I’m doing is right, I don’t know if people and places and things I do and things I don’t are right AND I don’t know how to know. I don’t even know how to explain it to anyone properly.

Just going crazy. Somebody save me? And tell me that everything is going to be ok? It’s not dreadful now, I just feel unfulfilled y'know? There’s nothing worse than an empty life, because that’s just an existence. I want to know what I’m living for, who I’m living for, where I’m living to head towards, y'know?

Fuck me I need to just chill out. Finding that an impossible task.

"LIfe At 22"

Is this what they call a mid life crises? I think so …. Its funny how us people don’t really have it bad at all but put our mindset that we need more. I’m deffinatly guilty of it, I’m man enough to say it. I just feel like I was put on this place we all call earth to be someone or something, I just don"t know what it is yet. I need to figure it out soon because I’m running out of time with each air I inhale. I’m not depress more worried. I love my family and friends I just want to take care of them already completly & i believe i can if i put my mind into it but i have way to much distractions. Girls, parties, popurlarity and so on..This might look all over the place but its a relief for my mind at least temporary..

To be continue….

“Life At 22”

These are coast redwoods (Sequoia sempervirens) in Humboldt Redwoods State Park, California. The park is home to the largest continuous block of old-growth redwood forest left on the planet- with some 10,000 acres.

The alluvial flats along its creeks and rivers are prime redwood habitats. The mix of rich soils, water, and fog rolling in from the ocean have produced the planet’s tallest forest. Of the 180 known redwoods greater than 350 feet, more than 130 grow here.

Coastal redwoods can be up to 379 feet (115.5 m) in height (without the roots) and up to 26 feet (7.9 m) in diameter at breast height.

Research now shows that the older such trees get, the more wood they put on- nice to see even trees go through a midlife spread.


Photograph by Michael Nichols, National Geographic