microaggression

Confession:  During class where one of my teachers is a black woman with natural hair we started discussing hair again because that class is mostly girls. So the black girls who had natural hair were talking about it and explained it to the white girls who didn’t know what it was. I’m transitioning btw so my hair has a lot of relaxer still in it but i wear wigs and weaves too sometimes. After they explained it one of my white girl friends looked at me and goes “Wait if their hair is natural then that’s not even your real hair is it???!!!” I literally wanted to hit her. I was so embarrassed not because of my hair but because she put my business out there. You don’t see me calling her out for dying her hair blond and straightening it, but I guess she doesn’t think I deserve the same respect and privacy I give her. And its not even the first time she has made a comment about my hair that embarrassed me. I’m starting to think she does it out of jealousy because whenever someone says that they like my hair before I can even say thank you she’ll step in and go “That’s a weave” “It’s not really hers” “You can buy it for yourself from the store” and sometimes she’s even bold enough to pull it or try to snatch it out!!! Honestly I should have just written it off as white ignorance but for some reason it bothered me the whole day. And then my white friends wonder why I “treat them differently” from my black ones O_o 


“…whenever someone says that they like my hair before I can even say thank you she’ll step in and go “That’s a weave,” “It’s not really hers,” “You can buy it for yourself from the store,” and sometimes she’s even bold enough to pull it or try to snatch it out!!!”

😳 Ma’am. Why are you friends with her?! That’s not OK!! 

-Admin Kelcie

ifyougiveagirlapencil asked:

I would also like to add that the usage of "girl" is super insulting, to demean someone’s opinion. I am 20 and when i argued with my uncle over christmas he called me "a smart girl" whenever he would try and disagree with me. such as "_____, now your a smart girl, but __________" and he didn’t do it once, he preferenced every single sentence with it. It got really hard to hear tbh.

Yup, just like calling women ‘females’ is a form of dehumanization, calling adult women ‘girls’ is a form of infantilization.  Both are microaggressive language used to discredit and devalue women.

What bothers me is that after Day and Audrey got into it in the Have-Not room, they all supported her. Whether it was to Day’s face or just talking amongst themselves, they all said that Day was right to be mad and that they wish they would’ve spoken up as well. As for the Clay fight, multiple houseguests have also said that Day had the right to be angry at Clay for lying to her face.

And aside from those two situations, literally all we see is Day chilling with Jason around the house. But as soon as they decide that Day is the target, all of a sudden she’s so incredibly “scary” and “explosive” that she has to go?

I peep these microaggressions. I peep them.

god, i wouldn’t be able to be around that many yt people 24/7. you deal with the microaggressions outside and come home to a safe space. but then to have all of that happening in your living space as well? and then KNOWING that if you even brought it up you’d be looked at like you’re the crazy one and the one that’s pulling the “race card”? i’d go off in a couple of days.

anonymous asked:

This happens every damn season. Someone "fears" the black person in the house. I am so over it. Day knew that she was a target from the get go. I wish that black people would boycott the show and not sign up for season 18. No one else should go through this again for another season.

It’s a toxic environment to be locked in a house where you’re the only Black person surrounded by White people. The amount of lowkey microaggressions and stereotypes that are ingrained into American society are only intensified in these microcosmic environments. The same thing happened last season; I remember Victoria going on and on about how she’s scared Devin’s gonna kill her in her sleep with a pillow. 

It’s nothing new, it’s exactly why a Black person has never won Big Brother, and as long as Grodner continues to cast the way she does, it will never change.

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via Racialicious

I’ve spoken before at length about images used by instructors to accompany history lessons, and what they teach us about history versus what they don’t.

This leads to students given the impression that many different people of color somehow “showed up” just in time to be exploited by slavers and colonizers (think of how “First Contact” narratives are commonly the first mention on Native Americans in US History, or “Chinese Immigrants” show up in time to build railroads and then mysteriously disappear), and contribute to the misconception of a socially and racially isolated Europe in perpetuity.

Which of course leads to this phenomenon in popular media:

(from an episode of “Psych”)

As if merely stating the location and the time is a total justification for ubiquitous whiteness in casting. If you were actually interested in historical accuracy, it might be noted:

By the eighteenth century the black population in England, particularly in London, had indeed become a community, with a concern for joint action and solidarity. When in 1773, for example, two black men were confined to Bridewell prison for begging, more than 300 black people not only visited them but provided for their economic and emotional support. In the later eighteenth century there were black pubs, churches and community meeting places, changing the picture of isolated individual domestic servants and roving beggars on London streets to that of a thriving and structured black community.

Black London: Life before Emancipation, Gretchen Holbrook Gerzina. Rutgers University Press, 1995.

The problem here is that if the visual narrative shows a person of color, especially a Black individual, who is not being subjected to horrific violence, dehumanization, or is not literally a photograph of a dead body, it’s seen as an “exception” or “anomaly”. Note the tweet above that cites the use of lynching postcards, a terrifying example of how racist murders were not only common, but normalized.

I think that if these kinds of images are used as the only types of images from history students see of Black people, that is absolutely a form of racial aggression and even violence that has been embedded and institutionalized in American culture.

See Chimamanda Adichie’s powerful talk, The Danger of a Single Story:

It is impossible to talk about the single story without talking about power. There is a word, an Igbo word, that I think about whenever I think about the power structures of the world, and it is “nkali.” It’s a noun that loosely translates to “to be greater than another.” Like our economic and political worlds, stories too are defined by the principle of nkali: How they are told, who tells them, when they’re told, how many stories are told, are really dependent on power.

Power is the ability not just to tell the story of another person, but to make it the definitive story of that person. The Palestinian poet Mourid Barghouti writes that if you want to dispossess a people, the simplest way to do it is to tell their story and to start with, “secondly.”

If you are an educator, you hold a piece of that power.

It’s important to tell the truth about oppression, violence, and genocide in history. But beware of making that the only stories that are seen and heard.

Part of the point of Medievalpoc is to try and create a visual and textual narrative in which people of color can also enjoy history as playground, as a point of pride, as somewhere they can see themselves, ourselves, as something other than subjugated.

How can we foster educational environments where these topics can be discussed without putting the onus on students of color? Without making students who may already be “the only” one in their learning environment feel even more singled out?

Given my own experience in educational and professional spaces, I try to be more sensitive to what it feels like being “the only [insert your category here]” in class and to be more mindful of how the particular composition of the classroom can inflect a discussion.

In one of my classes, we were discussing the Travels of John Mandeville and its description of “Ethiopians” and discourses of blackness and beauty. There happened be only one black student in class that day, and as we approached this topic many of the classmates’ glances began to drift, as if on cue, toward this person…perhaps in anticipation that this student would soon speak up, or otherwise just to gauge her reaction; in any case, it was an unconscious and unspoken shift in the class dynamic that “singled out” the student in a way that obviously made her uncomfortable.

This student avoided eye contact with me as this was happening (clearly she did not want to be called upon) and, picking up on this weird classroom dynamic, I redirected the conversation by inserting myself in the moment. I said something to the effect that “as a nonwhite person I find these Eurocentric racial discourses cause me great discomfort. We obviously have both white and nonwhite people in this room, so what are some ways we can all approach reading this passage today?”

I found that at this point all the students felt they had more of a “way into” the discussion and there was no longer this perception that only one “type” of person bore the burden of responding to this passage. It was one way to give us all permission to openly acknowledge the many different bodies in class and to engage in a shared discussion.

Although I touched base with this particular student later about things in office hours and we had a productive conversation about this and made sure she hadn’t felt alienated, I don’t doubt that I could have done better—but I at least tried to “call out” a (subtle) shift in class behavior as it was happening and do something productive with it.

“Intersections: On Annoyances, Mistakes … and Possibilities” by Jonathan Hsy (The Medieval Middle)

We can do better.

We can do better.

theartofforgiveness asked:

What is micro aggression and do you know of any ways I can prevent myself from doing it?

Microaggression is a form of unintended discrimination. Psychiatrist and Harvard University professor Chester M. Pierce coined the word microaggression in 1970 to describe insults and dismissals he said he had regularly witnessed non-black Americans inflict on African Americans. In 1973, MIT economist Mary Roweextended the term to include similar aggressions directed at women; eventually, the term came to encompass the casual degradation of any socially marginalized group, such as poor people, disabled people and sexual minorities.

chescaleigh Shit White Girls Say To Black Girls video is an excellent example of various Microaggressions. Things you think are compliments could actually very well be interpreted as insults even though you had no ill intentions. 

I suggest watching part 1 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ylPUzxpIBe0

and part 2 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YnwqECbNm4Y

They’re really short videos but they cover a lot of good microaggressions. 

Stephanie, 19, Boston, MA


“My language? Excuse me? I am pretty sure that I am speaking the same English language as you are.

My coworker said this to me recently while we were on our shift. He said this to try to be funny, but as you can tell from my face, I was not amused. A similar incident happened to me in 5th grade. Hearing something like this from a fellow classmate at 10 years old made me embarrassed and ashamed to be Asian at all. I was afraid of being laughed at so I hid from my friends and classmates when I had to speak to my parents in my native tongue. It has been almost 10 years since that incident. I have grown to be proud of my Asian American identity and I no longer take this kind of ignorance from anybody.”

I remember how frustrated I always felt at the game Guess Who as a little girl because the lack of representation of my gender actually affected my ability to win.  Choosing a woman as my character essentially meant I’d lose.  Out of the 24 faces, only 5 were women (and only one was a black woman), which of course made their race and gender their primary and immediate identifiers.  Picking the black woman meant someone could guess your character in two tries.  Whereas the men, while not diverse in skin color, were diverse in their style and facial features and encouraged players to view them in more ways than just their apparent gender.  It always felt like a game that, as a little girl, I was MEANT to lose.

thegloss.com
When Men Are Too Emotional To Have A Rational Argument

“I wish to dispel the notion that women are “more emotional.” I don’t think we are. I think that the emotions women stereotypically express are what men call “emotions,” and the emotions that men typically express are somehow considered by men to be something else.

This is incorrect. Anger? EMOTION. Hate? EMOTION. Resorting to violence? EMOTIONAL OUTBURST. An irrational need to be correct when all the evidence is against you? Pretty sure that’s an emotion. Resorting to shouting really loudly when you don’t like the other person’s point of view? That’s called “being too emotional to engage in a rational discussion.”

Not only do I think men are at least as emotional as women, I think that these stereotypically male emotions are more damaging to rational dialogue than are stereotypically female emotions. A hurt, crying person can still listen, think, and speak. A shouting, angry person? That person is crapping all over meaningful discourse.”

(Image description: Tao from the Kpop group EXO turns to Kai, a darker skinned member of the group, and tells him: “This one (Kai) is darker than me, do you know?”)

This is the moment, which I was in the audience to witness, that prompted my first post on this topic and subsequent response to people denying that it is colorist.

Also, although you can’t see in this gif, Kai did not understand Tao at the time (even as you see him smiling here) and had to have this translated for him after the fact. 

The people defending this as okay and “just a joke” don’t realize that this is a classic colorist microaggression that can have devastating and long lasting impacts on a person’s self perception and potentially make them self-loathing as well. It is not okay, it is oppressive and it should not be tolerated, and saying otherwise normalizes oppressive microaggressions like this which clearly state to the dark-skinned individuals in question that they are out of sync with what is societally deemed normal and correct vis-a-vis the established standard of beauty. They’re just too dark, and that’s what makes them funny and the butt of “jokes” like this, which subtly (and sometimes unconsciously on the part of the perpetrators) reinforce power dynamics by which the lighter skinned individual asserts their privilege and superiority toward the darker skinned one and reassert their position in the colorist hierarchy that values light skin over dark as well.

It’s wrong and is not okay. End of story.

Trigger warning for racial bigotry: On race and cosplay

[Image description: an anon ask sent to the tumblr weaboostories reads, “When you said that one shouldn’t be limited to their skin tone when cosplaying, what if their race is just completely off the mark? I saw a black kid cosplaying Roxas one year at my local con; is that still acceptable? He did it pretty well; homemade costume was good enough, keyblade, good wig, the whole bit, but just the whole black thing kind of killed it. Thoughts?” The admin of weaboostories replies: “It’s people like you that make thousands of minorities afraid to like anime, cosplaying, manga, and other facets of Japanese culture. Please unfollow me.”]

I just loved the admin’s response so much I had to make this rebloggable. The whole situation manages to be enraging, because of the ignorant anon, and uplifting at the same time, because of the admin putting her foot down.