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transgender terminology definitions!!!

hey, ive noticed that a lot of people out there seem to be kinda confused about some words the trans community uses, so ive decided to make a handy glossary of some of these terms :) enjoy!

Trans: A backpack line branded and distributed by Jansport.

FTM: An abbreviation for “(Come on), Feel The Millinoise,” a common alternate name for the 2005 album “Illinois” by Sufjan Stevens. We don’t know why the “M” is there, and it’s been a hot discussion topic within the trans community for years.

MTF: An abbreviation for “Ma, Tae Fuck?,” an exclamation commonly used by Scottish youth to their mothers in times of confusion or exasperation.

AFAB: An abbreviation for the slogan “All Firefighters Are Bastards,” a derivative of “All Cops Are Bastards/Bad.”

AMAB: An abbreviation for the slogan “All Mallcops Are Bastards.” See above.

Top/bottom surgery: A procedure undertaken by many trans people which removes the entire top or bottom half of their bodies.

Cis: A term for those who use messenger bags, tote bags, or purses to carry their belongings, as opposed to backpacks.

SRS: An abbreviation for the infamous feminist Reddit community/subreddit “ShitRedditSays,” found at /r/shitredditsays.

Passing: what when walk by person on side walk or street when they opposite dection

Lesson 16: Graveyards in Witchcraft - Part 2

By: Mama Bones

Live class date and time: 1/31/2017 at 4pm CST

A.) Legalities: I am ever the paralegal, so I’m going to include this section again. It will be similar to my last class, but I don’t want it to be overlooked or forgotten. Again, the graveyard I mainly work with borders my 3 acre property directly and is not regularly maintained. This allows to me to fudge some rules. HOWEVER- let me lay some groundwork legality clauses for the general witch:
         1.) Do not enter after dark. It is illegal in most states.
         2.) Do not bring glass into the cemetery
         3.) Do not light more than a tea/small votive/prayer candle and always hold the tea candle yourself (do not set on ground)
         4.) It’s best to not disclosure your craft to anyone asking what you’re doing. Just say you’re visiting (and wanted to honor your relative’s memory if a candle is lit)

         5.) ALWAYS do as an employee/pastor/policeman asks. Even if it may be technically legal and they’re just uncomfortable, it’s better to de-escalate the situation and leave. You can either come back at a different time or find a different graveyard.

          6.) Bring flowers to appear more normal! They also make great offerings!
          7.) Do not remove ANYTHING from a gravestone site. Ever. However, do feel free to dispose of obvious trash about the graveyard as a whole (soda cans, food wrappers, cigarette butts, etc.). It’s polite and the spirits will respect you for it.

 I begin by making sure I’m dressed appropriately for the weather. I like to spend at least an hour there, assuming I’m not interrupted and it’s important I don’t get too hot or too cold. 

I frequently bring a light jacket/hoodie in summer regardless though, because spirit work can bring down your temperature sensation in general regardless of the normal ambient degrees outside (i.e. communing with spirits makes you chilly).

I make sure I have all the supplies I’ll need.

I have a small messenger bag/purse I bring. I don’t recommend anything larger. Don’t bring a huge backpack- it’s suspicious. This items include:

           1.) My ritual/communing jewelry (including protective jewelry so I don’t get overwhelmed- protection is still important even when actively seeking out spirits)
           2.) My offerings (I like honey packets, pomegranate seeds, flowers, or a particular incense/oil blend I use for spirit work.)

           3.) A book (I love to read to spirits, especially the children)
           4.) My graveyard pad/blanket (I’ll be doing a tutorial on this soon, but basically it’s a small thicker blanket with discreet sigils and herbs sewn in to protect me and boost spirit communication. Protects my tush from the ground and my body from the spirits).

           5.) Water bottle (talking and reading makes me thirsty)

           6.) Comfy shoes that are easy to slip on and off (you don’t have to take your shoes off at all for spirit work, but I like to as a sign of respect- like taking your shoes off when you go into a friends house. I only do it on my graveyard pad though- not at the entrance or anything)

           7.) My phone- not only for basic communicating in case of emergency, but also because I like to play music for the spirits sometimes. I make sure the songs I want to play are easily accessible.

I also make sure Zoe is ready, as I almost always bring her with me. She is leashed, although I tend not to hold it since she’s well-trained in recall.

           Note: Though I don’t recommend bringing pets unless you’re experienced with both spirits and your pet, I will say if you do bring a dog always have your dog on a leash in a graveyard and don’t let go unless you are alone and you are 100% confident in their recall/non-running away. Keep in mind Zoe is my familiar of 5 years and is comfortable with my graveyard work. She is not skittish in the interactions and is not rude to the spirits.

 When I first enter the graveyard, my first check is if anyone is there. 

Without Privacy: If someone is already in the graveyard, I will do a basic walk around the paths and graves (with Zoe leashed beside me) and do mental check-ins and communication. I may drop pomegranate seeds subtly, but I usually do not do any other offerings while other people are present. In my experience, the spirits understand and know I will bring something next time or wait for the person to leave and give my offerings then.

I will then find a spot to put down my graveyard pad (which just look like a smaller picnic blanket to the average eye). I have a favorite/regular spot in the graveyard by me. I am comfortable doing this even if other visitors are still there, as the spot I sit down isn’t directly atop a grave or anything. It’s a clearing under a tree. I’ll take my book out so I look like I’m just having a nice private read in the graveyard and not offending anyone. At this point, I’ll just read silently/mentally to the spirits (I let them look over my shoulder too if there’s pictures) if visitors do not leave. That’ll be the extent of what I do without privacy.

With Privacy: If the graveyard is empty, my visit is a bit different. I still walk around the path/graves first. This time however, I will verbally greet those I know, leave more substantial offerings and check for new spirits who would like to introduce themselves. I ignore ones that are being rude (they don’t try for long with me with my combo of already friendly spirits and Zoe backing me up). Zoe is loose during this and she does her own initial sweep of the gravestones, having different favorites than me.

After I greet and give the “presents” (offerings) I have, then I settle on my graveyard pad. I still have it under the tree. For a couple reasons. It’s polite, doesn’t show favoritism, and is easier to play off if a visitor does show up in the midst of my communing. Zoe usually settles down near me eventually, but frequently she does more checking around while I start the “activities” (she likes to check the graveyard border for energy and critter issues).

If there’s particular ritual work I have planned for this trip, I do that first. This includes, but is not limited to:
           1.) Ritually appointing new spirits for workings/property protection

           2.) Doing an Underworld astral travel with some of the spirits

           3.) Doing a devotional for Hades, Persephone, or Styx.

After that, it’s time for the bonding/fun activities! I break out the book and phone. I usually start with the book while the spirits are still more “focused” (their attention span is not great in my experience). I will do either a picture/children’s book or a chapter of a more all-ages book that we’ve been working through. I don’t bring anything too complex or “dry” (i.e. boring) as they lose interest quickly. Some titles I’ve found they enjoy:
           1.) The Graveyard Book by Neil Gaiman- yup, spirits love irony

           2.) Anything by Roald Dahl
           3.) Scary Stories to Tell in the Dark (or other silly yet ghost-y stories)- yup, they find them hilarious. I avoid darker scary/ghost stories since I work with a lot of young and child spirits. They don’t like things that are too dark.
           4.) The Velveteen Rabbit (this is a favorite of mine too)

 Then the music is broken out. I have no specific suggestions on this- it’s entirely personal to what you think will please your particular ghosties. I do a wide variety. Usually during this, the spirits will tell me things they think I need to hear or talk about something that bothers them. Zoe frequently romps around with the younger spirits at this point too. Sometimes I bring a ball or frisbee to amuse her and the children.

 Then I just clean everything up, making sure I’m not leaving anything behind I don’t intend to. I’ll sort of meander my way out of the graveyard slowly and give the shyer spirits a chance to ask me something quietly/alone that they were unsure of during the more group communing.

 Once I get home, I run a hot shower or bath with cleansing herbs/oil and give myself a thorough cleaning, asking for Styx’s blessing in making sure no shade residue/miasma remains on me or in my house.

 Then I eat. It’s important to consume something of nutritional value after doing spirit work.

Any questions?

KCON Tips (≧◡≦)

Whether you’re going to KCON in Toronto or KCON LA/NY later this summer, you may find these tips helpful! So, bookmark this page and come back when the glorious time comes!

General tips:

  • Pack light: if possible, bring a small backpack. Only bring essentials: wallet, ticket, water, and super small snacks. I brought a purse to KCON and it was the biggest nightmare when I was waiting for the Got7 runway show. I had to turn it into a crossbody because it was hurting my shoulder. NO PURSES/MESSENGER BAGS. JUST BRING A BACKPACK, YOU’LL THANK ME LATER.
  • Free stuff? TAKE IT. KCON brings in a lot of venders who are trying to get their name out there so if they offer you free items in exchange for playing their game, do it. It’s good PR for them, if people see a long line for a certain booth, and you get free stuff!!!!
  • Meet and greet with a mystery guest? SIGN UP FOR IT. I made the mistake of passing up a random meet & greet sign up because I thought the meet & greet would be with the smaller artists like Zion.T and Crush, rather than Got7, Block B, or Monsta X. It turned out to be Got7 and I was devastated, but I was able to get some interaction with them on their way into the booth and on their way out.
  • Bring a portable charger/wall charger. While you’re going to have the time of your life and you think you may not need your phone, you’re wrong. You’re going to want to record everything and meet up with voucher traders. Trust me on this one. You can also cool down (if you easily get hot walking around) in one of the movie screenings upstairs.

Fan engagement:

  • If you just want to grab a glimpse of your favorite group, go ahead and buy a fan engagement pass off someone. If you’re like me and you’re easily discouraged by the ‘so close, but so far’ tease, don’t do it. In the fan engagements, there is a fence that separates hi-touch pass holders and audience pass holders. If you just want a glimpse of noona/oppa before the concert, go for this.
  • If you want something more personal AND WORTH IT, buy a hi-touch pass off someone. People can AND WILL sell the hi-touch pass anywhere from $100 to $300, especially if it’s a well-known group because they know fans will buy it. But if you really think about it… how often does your ultimate bias group come to KCON? Not often. If you want the once in a lifetime (or for maybe for the next 5 years) opportunity to touch their hand and look into their eyes, do it.
  • Keep in mind. At least at KCON LA, since it takes place in August (a super hot month) and they’re trying to get as many people as they can into an artist engagement, if you’re audience, you WILL be waiting in the blistering heat. The hi-touch pass holders got to stand in the shade (I’m still salty about it). But there are far more audience pass holders than hi-touch, so it’s an understandable way to get everyone lined up somehow.


  • It’s very likely you’ll see your bias group walking around the convention, so keep on the look out! Got7 walked out from behind a curtained area every time they needed to enter the convention, so when I was standing by the Running Man booth, positioned in the back, I was able to see them then. Soyou made an appearance at one of the beauty booths. Roy Kim came out to a booth as well. CHECK YOUR PROGRAM SCHEDULES.
  • You’re gonna get hungry from fangirling all day, take the snacks they offer you. Whoever’s sponsoring the event, play their games– they always have goodies!!!
  • They sell posters, CDs, and general merch if you’re looking to go home with something!


  • If you’re blessed with the opportunity to be face to face with your ultimate bias, smile at them kindly and say hello like a normal person. DON’T SCREAM WHILE THEY’RE LOOKING AT YOU. Scream when they’re gone and out of ear shot. After I was acknowledged, I fell to the ground and bellowed “YESSSSSSSS”– but will Got7 ever know? Nope.
  • KNOW YOUR IDOLS’ NAME/STAGE-NAME/PROPER PRONUNCIATION. You’d be surprised how many times Jinyoung was called “jay-are”. When I called him “Junior” he had such a bright smile on his face. Even Yugyeom managed to say “hi” back when I greeted him. It’ll make their day… and yours ;)
  • Check out the schedule in the booklet at KCON for any possible special guest appearances. That’s how people found out about Roy Kim, Soyou, and Got7 appearances. 


  • food trucks will most likely be there, but they’re pricey!!!
  • bring snacks or play some games at the convention to get free snacks!


  • At KCON LA, each ticket package came with benefits (hi touch passes, audience passes, red carpet passes, etc.). It’s very unlikely you’re going to get the pass for your bias group (unless you have crazy good luck), so you’re going to have to trade/sell/buy.
  • A few weeks before the convention, look on facebook to see if anyone’s started a “KCON VOUCHER TRADE GROUP”. Someone will eventually begin a group chat on kakaotalk, and on the day of, everyone can state what they have and what they’re willing to trade/sell for. 
  • Sometimes you can bargain, depending who you’re talking to. Eventually people will want to just get it off their hands and will sell it for as low as $5 or just give it away. 
  • But don’t rely on group chats, talk to the people at convention! Odds are they’re looking to trade for something as well! I had a Shinhwa engagement pass and I didn’t even have a ticket for the day of their concert– luckily, while I was buying a Monsta X pass, the group of ahjummas next to us wanted Shinhwa but had a Got7– LETS JUST SAY IT WAS MY LUCKY DAY.

Ticket Pricing:

  • If you’ve never been to KCON before, this past summer they did a two-day deal. Because the concerts were broken up into two days and maybe if your favorite groups were on separate days, they made tickets available for two-days at discounted prices (rather than buying each day separately). Prices ranged from $800 (basically ultimate VIP experience), $450 the second cheapest and so on. Individual days cost: $400 (for the VIP experience), $250, $200 (what I got), $150, $100, and $75. 
  • My ticket came with: P2 check-in (a little faster check in than the lesser check-in lines), 1 red carpet opportunity, 2 hi-touch opportunities, 2 guaranteed fan engagement audience passes, and a swag bag. 
  • I found my ticket to be quite worth it in respects to where I sat. I had a perfect view of the stage. The whole thing with passes though was stressful, but fun at the same time. The best part of my day had nothing to do with where I was seated (seeing got7 at the convention portion), but I don’t regret where I sat!
  • KCON has been constantly improving every year so everything might be different this time around!!!!

If you have any more questions/concerns about KCON, feel free to message me! They should be updating their website in a couple months, maybe by May or June, the ticket/artist info will be up! You can also follow @KCONUSA on twitter for updates :-) Best of luck!!!!!

Like, most people realize that if they’re going out to eat or drink, they need to tip. For some reason, some people don’t understand that for people they demand do heavy lifting and other manual labor for them. When you’re paying $350-2000 a night for a hotel room, you can afford to toss something to those people. Here’s the list of things it’s always cool not to tip for if you don’t want to:

  • opening the door for you
  • getting one light bag (backpack, shopping bag, messenger bag, purse, briefcase, camera bag, what have you) or coat out of storage
  • escorting you into storage to retrieve something from your bag without taking the whole thing with you
  • hailing a cab when it’s not shift change or a weekend night (sometimes it takes ten or fifteen minutes at those times to get one), raining/snowing, or cold/windy
  • end of list

If I bring your bags to your room, you should tip. If I store or retrieve your bags, you should tip. If I load up a cab for you or get your car out of valet and load it for you, you should tip. If you move rooms and I come up and move your shit between floors, you should tip. If someone sends you a package or flowers and I have to bring it up, especially if it’s heavy, you should tip. How much you should tip depends on how much effort is involved, but if you don’t tip at all, you’re a piece of shit and I hope your life is miserable.