Don't feel bad for caring about you!
  • You are allowed to terminate your relationship with toxic family members.
  • You are allowed to walk away from people who hurt you.
  • You are allowed to be angry, selfish and unforgiving.
  • You don't owe anyone an explanation for taking care of yourself!!

I remember that when I was 8 I had dinner at a friend’s house with both of our families. Her mum put some peanuts and cashews on the table as appetizers. I had never eaten cashews before and they tasted like heaven. I asked my friend what was their name and she was surprised I didn’t know. Then she told me “they’re yummy but each cashew becomes 2 centimeters on your butt” and laughed. Then I laughed as well and ate on, but “cashew” became a bad word in my head. Cash=fat. It was the first and last time I had cashews.

This morning I ate cashews (and an apple). No, my butt is not larger. No, it’s not going to be larger in a few days. No, cashews don’t make people’s butts larger. Cashews make people happier because they’re fucking yummy and from today I’m going to eat cashews every time I crave them.

Cashews don’t ruin lives.
Eating disorders do.

Thank You

I just want to thank everyone who has followed me. I know it isn’t a huge number, but it means so so much to me. I love to help people, I love making people feel loved, and I love communicating with you guys. At the end of the day, we are all just people wanting to improve how we view ourselves and the world around us. We all just want to feel loved and like we matter. And we do matter. We are loved. Thanks so much again. I hope you’re all doing well and your day has been going great and if it isn’t, I hope it turns out to be an amazing day for you all.

There is still some time to start again. There is still some time for love to find you. It’s not too late. You’re not alone. It’s okay –whatever you need and however long it takes- its okay. It’s okay. If you feel too much, there’s still a place for you here. If you feel too much, don’t go. There is still some time
—   Jamie Tworkowski, If You Feel Too Much: Thoughts on Things Found and Lost and Hoped For

Just because your friends are driving, doesn’t mean you have to rush and get your permit/license

Just because you’re a senior doesn’t mean you have to have a bunch of colleges picked out or even an idea of what you want your occupation to be. It is okay to change careers and grow and learn.

Just because you’re 18 doesn’t mean you have to smoke cigarettes and drink alcohol, do what makes you comfortable and what you know is right.

Just because your friends are going out of state for college doesn’t mean you have to. You can chose a community college close to home if you like. It’s your choice.

Just because someone else is at a different level in their life doesn’t mean you have to match or beat them. Nothing is a competition. Work on yourself and for yourself. Don’t compare your success or failures to others’. Just be you, and continue trying your hardest.

You’re not your day that went wrong.
You’re not your relationship.
You’re not your abusive ex.
You’re not your shitty job.
You’re not your appearence.
You’re not this bad phase.
You’re not the insecurity they caused you.
You’re not those things they say you are.
You are a beautiful soul and you don’t need people telling you otherwise. Everything will be fine.
It’ll pass. Let’s be strong ♡