mental-clinic

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Name: Suzi
Age: 20
Country: United Kingdom

Hi! I’m 20 years old and from the United Kingdom. I grew up in the South of England, and have just finished the second year of my Psychology degree in Scotland. I love learning more about Psychology, and am hoping to pursue a career in mental health/clinical psychology. I also enjoy listening to musical soundtracks, cooking, baking, and playing with my pet cats. I’m open-minded and non-judgemental :)

Preferences: Would prefer a fellow university student! From anywhere with any gender identity :)

Hi, my name is Amber. I’m from New Orleans, and I’m currently in grad school studying to be a Clinical Mental Health Counselor. There is a great need for POC mental health practitioners, especially in New Orleans. My goal is to help remove the stigma associated with mental health in my community and provide adequate mental healthcare to my community and beyond!

Stages of Masters in Counseling

Interviee

Theories of Counseling - Psychopathology - Ethics Courses

Pre-practicum - Clinic Procedures - Basic Counseling Skills

Practicum

Self-care

Internship

Comprehensive exams

Graduation

Licensed Professional Counselors Board of Examiners is just like

After completing your hours for licensure

Just to clarify...
  • psychiatrist is a medical doctor (M.D.) who specializes in preventing, diagnosing, and treating mental illness. This is the person you would go to to get your prescription medication. 
  • psychologist has a doctoral degree (Ph.D., Psy.D., Ed.D.) in psychology. In the sense that most people think of psychologists, this is the person you would talk to in therapy; however, he or she does not prescribe mediation (except in a select few states). Psychologists hold a wide variety of other jobs though, including research positions, teaching positions, and working in hospital settings.
  • licensed mental health counselor has a master’s degree (M.A., M.S.) in psychology, counseling, or a related field. Many of these individuals provide counseling and psychotherapy. However, holding a master’s degree in psychology does not make one a psychologist. 
  • clinical social worker has at least a master’s degree (M.S.W.) in social work. They also can provide therapy, but also work in case management, advocacy, and hospital discharge planning. 
  • Further, there is a difference between counseling, which is typically provided by someone with a degree in counseling or social work, and psychotherapy, which is typically provided by someone with a degree in psychology, although the terms are commonly used interchangeably. 
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Hi, I’m Eliza, 22, and this is my mom’s dog who makes me feel calm. I have depression and anxiety, most likely the result of some pretty shitty things that happened as I was growing up, and I’m looking for therapy and a new psych doctor to help me figure out treatment once school finishes for the semester, as the mental health clinic at my school has been helping to diagnose and treat me. Some days are still really, really bad, but I’m coming to learn to recognize my symptoms and mental health patterns to help me get better and be kind to myself ❤

If I Could Do It All Over Again

Masterpost: {x}

Part: 1/16

Pairing: Hamliza

Inspiration: this drawing

Summary: After Alexander died, he realized the existence of reincarnation. While most didn’t believe in the possibility, Alexander was one of those special few who remembered everything in their past lives. Because of this, he spent almost all of his lives searching for his dear Eliza. As his lives went on, things began to seem hopeless, all until he runs into her one day in the most unexpected place.

Warning: throw up, mentions of mental illnesses, mentions of getting high

Word Count: 3,211

Dedication: @xaandiir bc theyre awesome

Tags: @bunny-yams , @ufo-pearl , @sullkid700 , @aswimmerlife , @nefarism , @mishaisakitten, @embershine0521@tellchickfilaimqueer

A/N: Just so you know, their last names are not the same, but they are the same people!


The flickering of the pesky fluorescent light filling Alexander’s office cubicle was enough to make him nauseous. The man thought he should’ve been used to the annoying source of light by now, but it was obvious that it didn’t make him feel too hot. He’d written persuasive letters to the office maintenance to fix the light several times, yet it always seemed to flicker.

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Aria is A - Full Theory :)

hey guys, so i tried convincing my friend how aria is A but it was really hard since there isn’t exactly one post joining all clues and theories about why she is A so i did it based on these 2 amazing blogs: aria-is-a-pll & killerariaisa. i know perhaps aria isn’t necessarily the big A, but i think she could be deeply involved in this in some way, because after everything i found, i know she HAS to be involved.

okay onto the point: i’d like to point out the cast and crew have already told us how there are no coincidences in rosewood, therefore every single thing might be a clue. YET i do understand some things are exaggerations which is why i wont mention these super elaborate and minimal details, i’ll be more broad. so i went through all of these blogs, it took me over a week and went through SO many posts and clues and here are my favourites. OKAY SO I KNOW THIS IS LONG BUT HOPEFULLY ITS WORTH IT AND ON SPECIFIC SCENES I ADDED A LOT OF PICTURES AND TRIED MAKING THIS INTERESTING.

disclaimer: i came up with quite a few of these on my own but also got many from the blogs i mentioned above and eventually when i was too lazy to go watch the episode, i stole their pictures. anyways onto the actual point-

first of all, possible motifs:

- A’s big motif has NOT YET been shown but we’re supposed to sympathise with him/her/it/bitch but here are some suspicious things that lead me to believe aria might have a reason

- reasons aria might want to hurt the girls, ali kept threatening to expose her dad’s affair, forcing her to tell her mother (even though A got to her first) and aria is known to be really defensive and aggressive when it comes to her family (watch her conversation with ezra in 1x04, she gets really annoyed with him for assuming things about her family SHE LITERALLY STORMS OUT OF HIS HOUSE hating him because she says he called her a child BUT HE NEVER SAID ANYTHING LIKE THAT??!??!??!??! aria r u cray cray bc wtf bitch u dont leave some hot guy hanging alone bc u dont know how to handle ur shit)

- other than that, ali and aria had the weakest relationship in between the 5 of them: em and ali had an affair, ali “helped” hanna deal with her eating problems and kept spencer’s drug problems a secret… but aria? we know n o t h i n g on that friendship (other than the affair - which brings bad memories to aria) which again is sketchy af.

- we came to the consensus aria is a hella jealous person, am i right too right?

- also, whoever A is, they definitely have mental issues because they are doing such terrible things. aria was the only one of the girls who already had a mental record when she went to visit dr. sullivan (it is assumed, check this to understand why), she had already seen therapists before. also, we never know what she did in her one year in iceland, maybe she was in a mental clinic for all we know. and we already know mike deals with mental issues/anger problems and has to take medicine, and byron’s brother committed suicide and also had mental illness. i feel like aria might be like her family and have a mental problem, so many people have said she might have a double personality and it does make sense considering her family records. 

- credits to this post. it has come to our attention how the pig aria has is very important in some way??? even marlene king told us to beware of the pig so EH something’s up with lil piggy. it is known that pigs help people with mental disorders, or people going on with a lot of stress and stuff in their lives. if aria is A, she must have a mental disorder, right???

- travels to iceland right when ali disappears. if one of my besties dissapeared i would never flee the country (makes you look guilty to the police – need friend support. also, it dosent seem like she made any friends in iceland either, maybe she spent too much time alone… thinking, planing things like for example, being A)

- often seen texting or writing in her journal and we cannot see who she is texting or what she is writing about (pay attention to this, it happens, A LOT)

- always needs to know all of the girls’ secrets and gets easily freaked out when she realizes they haven’t told her something. (in episode 1, she was the one who brought up A with the other girls in ali’s funeral which made them discover they all got the texts, its almost as if she wanted all of them to find out about A and share it with each other)

- often see time gaps in scenes with aria where suddenly it’s nighttime and we don’t know what’s she’s been up to

- only liar who wasn’t visited by alison (she was only hallucinating — possibly has to do with their friendship that has something sketchy/wrong about it)

- aria regularly just magically shows up at the right time, perfect timing (example, saving spencer in the sauna/shower and to witness hanna eating the pig cupcakes)

- hasn’t always had her “friends” interest at heart (example she turned down jake’s offer to help with finding hanna’s mom an attorney, when she desperately needed one – also didn’t want mike to tell the truth about mona even if it was going to help hanna and ali to not go to jail)

- often very dubious when A is supposed to have done something to the girls (example when they were in rosewood and she didn’t realize that she wasn’t holding hanna’s hand but a statue’s hand)

- very often the one to lead the girls to find A clues in strange place (example, finding wren’s prescription pads in spence’s bag, finding the lipstick in spencer’s dresser or buying that snow globe from santa)

- lucy hale was the first person to be casted in pretty little liars. first person to be casted is THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON since everyone casted after them is basically MADE TO SURROUND THEM and they need to find the right person to match with her.. why around her????? because she’s the main chArActer????? (ye m8)

- not to mention, how would A know absolutely everything going on in the girls life if one of them wasn’t directly linked with him/her/it/bitch? i know they have minions and people working for them and ways to get information but EH this way kinda hAS TO BE ONE OF THE GIRLS *coff coff* aria

- “aria can’t be a she wouldn’t hurt herself” WELL MAYBE SHE ISN’T. like for example in episode A pins aria to the wall and steals mona’s laptop (i cba to find the episode rn im lazy) maybe that didn’t even happen. as marlene said, it all has to do with perspective. maybe she just used that as an excuse to say she lost mona’s laptop so she could have it for herself, it gives her access to the laptop and she can say A attacked her, but was anyone there to see that happening or is this just A, i mean, aria’s imagination? (picture below is not my picture)

- “Everyone will freak out because it’s so clearly in every episode,” he added, while laughing. “When it’s finally revealed, you could literally go back to season 1 and knowing who it is, you can be like, ‘Oh, wow. Whoa. This has been here all along, and I never noticed it,’ which is, I think, brilliant.” - Keegan Allen. THIS MEANS WE KNOW A, so all the theories of A being a character we have not known yet can’t be true, and also the way he speaks leads us to believe it is one of the main characters… ARIA MAYBE?

- lastly, aria is writing a book in which the villain possibly wins, i’ll mention more about this later as well when she talks about the book but perhaps the book is an allusion to what she is doing to the girls???

lets talk about aria’s traits and how they are much like A’s (thanks to THIS post which i changed around a lil):

- artistic (we have seen a painting painted by A as well)

- great liar (been said multiple times, the girls all agreed she is the best liar out of all of them)

- good at sneaking around (like dating ezra)

- again, she is protective/hella defensive when it comes to her family (montgomery family has never been hurt as bad as the other liars’ families – i’ll go more into this later. and, as mentioned before, she seems like the kind of person who would do anything for her family – this could be part of the motif – all the girls suspected their families but aria really didn’t. she accuses melissa and etc but when it comes to the information garret risked his life to tell spencer about byron, she never even directly confronts him. really aria??? #baddaddy)

- violent tendencies and loses control sometimes (like trashing dad’s office after she found out he was having an affair and trashing ezra’s apartment after finding out he was the one having an affair with ali – wow aria someone doesn’t deal well with affairs?)

- mysterious (SO MUCH)

- knows how to hurt people (in 5x11, mona told aria: “you know right where to put the knife and you’re not afraid to twist it. alison underestimated you” bloODY HELL CAN U BE LESS DIRECT MONA??)

- vegetarian (we’ve never seen A eat meat)

- she likes to be in control (A is all about controlling everyone)

- loves music and plays the piano, and so does A

- loves photography much like A

- horror movies and B&W movies (A gets some inspiration from them and A likes black and white films too)

okay now i’m going to be citing some specific examples in chronological order:

1x01 - starting with the obvious, i started suspecting of aria in episode one simply because her name starts with A, which might sound ridiculous but hey what if A stands for aria and not alison. there are no coincidences in PLL, so why would they chose a name with a.. really? also, the liars and we have already come to the conclusion that A is a hell of a narcissist, so what better than sign stuff with your own name (while being discrete?)

1x01 - does this even need any explanations at all??????? they said they chose lucy’s because she is the one who did the SH better but its pretty obvIOUS SHE DIDNT (look at that its totally not centered. she has the worst shh ever, its totally to the right side. SORRY LUCY I LOVE YOU SO MUCH but u have to admit thats a terrible sh) so like why would they use it???? because perhaps aria is SHHHushing people because she has a s(hhhh)ecret? [rhetorical question - the answer is yes]

1x01 - we have been told the pilot is a important to understanding a lot of stuff and this conversation in between the girls might not mean anything but it might as well, i just find really interesting this is the first scene and what spencer says-

spencer: careful aria, take too much and you’ll tell us all your secrets

secrets???? spencer wtf r u talkin about??? i dont keep secrets?!?!??!?!! not like im threatening ali’s life or anything LOLOmskajhjfld

1x05 - aria was feeling down because of her argument with ezra and so she stayed home all day wearing A BLACK HOODIE. hm okay this wouldn’t be as suspicious since its just a black hoodie, but notice how it has a bunch of white paint sprayed all over it. and on the end of that episode it shows A opening a can of white paint to paint rosewood’s sign…. does this mean aria is a??? she was the one painting the sign?? she sure was alone all day, maybe not as home as the girls thought. (picture below is not my picture)

1x06 - we always get creepy A scenes on the end of every episode but in the end of this episode its simply mike and aria watching tv together.. hm.. suspicious? why…? is it showing A in another point of view maybe?

2x02 - in the hallway mona calls aria “hey, big A. wait up!” and aria looks back. wow thats interesting aria, my name is dominique and if someone called me “big D” i would never look back if i never heard that nickname before… right? well then i guess she did, notice how she even rolls her eyes once she hears mona say that. v interesting aria, v interesting.

2x25 - on this episode, they made a huge deal saying A was going to be unmasked but the only person who physically got unmasked was aria, which is very interesting. (not my pictures either)

and also, aria’s dress was SOO similar to the movie black swan, which is a film that deals with a mental disorder. could this have to do with the fact that maybe she was dealing with one? we’ve been told the outfit is important so this could be something really signifying her mental issues.

3x02 - [emily says something about the night she was drugged and woke up by alison’s grave which was dug up and says it to the girls and aria instantly defends herself saying something v interesting]

aria: but honestly i don’t think you remember anything clearly from that night. when we picked you up you kept calling me arlene

WTFFFsdfdasdFHDSjkfaljkfhkAlsdhfksd. A = charles = feminine version of arlene = arlene = aria = A = fuCK

3x04 - when hanna tells aria she’s going to tell caleb about A it was all very sketchy, look at the convo:

hanna: so i decided to do it. my mom’s out, i’m gonna tell caleb tonight. i refuse to let A play this divide and conquer.

aria [with the surprised face above]: what time is he coming over?

hanna [she gets a text]: hey that’s probably him i’ll call you back

and right after it goes to this scene of aria which she looks guilty AF and hanna gets a text threatening her not to tell caleb about A. seriously aria can you make it any more obvious?

3x13 - dressed up as daisy bunchanan from the great gatsby on halloween. she is perceived as very innocent when in fact, under the surface, she is evil and stabs her friends in the back. aria is there a special motif behind your costume???? (picture below is not my picture)

3x17 - A helps aria. aria had been telling the girls how she really wanted to tell ezra that he had a son but she told maggie she wouldn’t. YET the next day spencer gets a text from “aria” saying they broke up because she told him about his son, and because of this provoking text spence confronts ezra and ends up telling him about the kid, assuming, of course, that he already knew. not even maggie is upset at aria since she knows aria didn’t tell him, and neither are the girls annoyed or surprised at her going behind maggie’s back or nothing of the kind. same thing happened when she was going to tell her mom about her father’s affair in season 1, but A told her mom before. these are meant to look like bad things revealing secrets but really its the exact opposite, they are HELPING aria, she didn’t have the courage and writing it anonymously takes the blame of her but still gets it out there, PLUS she can tell the girls she was harassed by A and make it seam like A was a bitch to her. ARIA UR A FUCKING GENIUS.

4x19 - EXTREMELY IMPORTANT. in this episode EZRA AND ARIA HAVE A REALLLLL interesting chat in which aria talks about the book she’s writing:

ezra: what are you thinking?

aria: you don’t wanna know

e: try me

a: im thinking that its sunday night and i still have a lot of homework to do

e: creative writing homework?

a: okay you are gonna like this one when i’m done. it started as this one thing and it just turned into something completely different.

e: how did that happen?

a: well i had this hero, but hero’s arent what they used to be anymore, so i got fascinated with the villain

e: does ur villain loose in the end?

a: not sure, sometimes the villains win *shrugs*

ezra: sometimes

WTF DID ARIA JUST TELL US SHE’S WRITING A BOOK IN WHICH A VILLAN WINS???!?!? i have heard this could be an allusion that the reason she is being A is she is writing a book about it n shit, it makes sense because so many times we see her writing things we have no idea what they are about. and look at aria’s face with a small smile when aria asks if the villain wins.

4x22 - also very important, one of the most interesting scenes in all of the show is when aria finds out about ezra’s true identity and how he used to have an affair with alison. aria is THE ONLY ONE who read the book and she BURNED ALL HIS RESEARCH. the liars were so into finding A and ezra was a lot closer than they were, if i were aria i would totally look at the research and see what he knows that we don’t, try and know more about A.. that is, if i wasn’t a.. of course. after she talks to him, in the beginning of 4x22 they all get together so she can explain about the ezra situation and the conversation goes exactly like this:

aria: he has a theory though

emily: and what is it?

aria: he thinks that one of us did it

spencer: you are kidding right

emily: well know we know its a work of fiction

spencer: which one of us is he trying to pin it on?

aria: i didn’t get that far

spencer: you didn’t think to ask?

aria: why? [FOR FUCKS SAKE ARIA BECAUSE EZRA DID YEARS OF RESEARCH AND WE NEED HIS HELP IN AN EDUCATED GUESS MAYBE, JUST FUCKING MAYBE U FUCKING RETARD YES WE WANNA KNOW] we know that that’s not true

OK THIS CONVERSATION IS SO SOSOSOSOOS SKETCHY. RIGHT AFTER THIS ARIA COMPLETELY CHANGES THE SUBJECT, they accuse ezra of being A and she immediately defends him and starts talking about how he used them and how she was hurt (notice that like about 1 episode after they’re already together again!! if someone was using me to write a book on my missing best friend WHY WOULD I EVEN WANT TO LOOK THEM IN THE EYE AGAIN?!??!! oh wait. i wouldn’t) liKE WTF can u be less discrete about not wanting to talk about it???? by completely changing subject she NEVER TELLS US WHO EZRA SUSPECTS. which leads us to believe that he suspected of her. ezra found out aria was a, YET since he is in love with her, he joined the A team. now they cover up for each other. #relationshipgoals later they (ezra + aria) just say ezra had a suspicion on ms. dilaurentis but we know that he had a suspicion on one of the girls. perhaps so into his research he found out ms.d was the one who burried ali and so aria and him decided to just pin it on her.

anyways here is a pic to keep u guys entertained and bc hanna is literally me during all of this aria bullshit excuse to not say all ezra knows, because trust me, ezra kNOWS (A lot)

5x04 - marlene king said “key lime pie. that’s a big spoiler, key lime pie!” what i found from this post is that in 2x12 is the first time we hear about pie when mona/toby get that pie in the dinner in which toby is called, pretty eyes. anyways im going to jump this part you can read about it on that blog post, and cut to the point. pie is only mentioned again in 5x06, when aria is checking her email and there is an email from pie@ptmalls.com telling her about some upcoming pie promotion. in the next episode (5x05) aria brings ezra some pie from “paula’s π ” shop. and they say:

ezra - you stopped by paula’s?

aria - that’s key lime

ezra - why pie?

aria - why not pie?

hM convo’s about key lime pie after we heard thats a big deal?? looking suspicious dearies. (picture below is not my picture)

5x04 - from this same episode other than the pie email (which you can see on the screenshot) there is something v suspicious, an email from harvey…… fence install?!??!?!?! it says "i would like to go over the material options available for the fence project we have been d[iscussing]” do U MEAN ELECTRIC FENCE??????? do u mean the fence surrounding the girls by the end of the season on A’s dollhouse?? WHAT FENCE PROJECT WOULD ARIA BE WORKING ON?!?!??! btw electric fence would probably be ur best material option aria! but i think u figured that our yourself, right A? i mean.. aria!

(picture below is not my picture)

5x07 - I THINK EDDIE LAMB ALREADY KNEW ARIA GUYS maybe from when she went to radley to visit bethany on the reading program??? they had this convo in 5x07 which again is hella sketchy, look:

eddie: hey there. you are the new volunteer?

[she nods and immediately looks away]

eddie: i mangled it didn’t i?

aria: what

eddie: your name. on the badge.

aria: oh, no you got it right. [looks away again… REALLY ARIA? i thought u were the loving and caring one y u bein such a bitch??? thought y'all needed to GET CLOSE TO E.LAMB???]

eddie: did you volunteer for the reading program last year?

aria: nah no this is my first time here.

eddie: i feel like we met before

aria [looks hella worried]: i dont think so

NOW LOOK AT THE FACIAL EXPRESSIONS WHEN HE TALKS TO HER, SHE LOOKS WEIRD.

when she says she didnt volunteer last year this is his face, he arches up his eye brows which is a surprised kind of reaction, as if he didn’t believe her.. look. and then after he leaves aria does a sketchy face, again. aria my dear i love you so much but u rlly gottta stop with ur sketchy faces if u dont want me to suspect of u dearie.

and right after this weird convo eddie disappears. LITERALLY DISAPPEARS. GONE. suspicious timing much? notice that the exact same thing happened to mona. she found out aria was the one who killed shana and BOOM killed/gone too! someone’s trying to cover their tracks and keep people’s mouth shut heh?

5x08 - when aria is trying to find out about bethany when she is working at radley she talks to this one girl who was bethany’s friend and who has her sketchbook, idk the girls name but they had a V WEIRD CONVO.

girl who idk the name: why you so into this sketchbook? was she a friend of yours

aria: no i never met her

NOW THE THING ABOUT THIS SCENE IS ARIA’S RESPONSE. her body language. when she says she never met bethany, she avoids eye contact and looks down, (sign #1 of lying) then TURNS AROUND to avoid even seeing the girl at all (sign #2??) and she even crosses her arms (its said that when people lie they cover vulnerable parts…. her boobs maybe? LOL sign #3 here) so MAYBE SHE DID KNOW BETHANY. why else would she volunteer at radley?? so whatever she found out she could see if she wanted or not to tell the girls perhaps??? i think bethany is a big part of the A mystery and i think aria might actually know her since she looks like she’s lying this scene.

5x09 - hanna is being framed by A to look like she was hitting on zack because A left a note in his pocket flirting pretending to be hanna. since he was living in aria’s house it would have been very easy for her to put it in his pocket. she was already mad at hanna because she told sidney that the girls were in NY when shana was killed, and since aria killed her, she is VERY worried this information will come out. and also again, A is HELPING aria because its making her mom get rid of a cheater, and if it were A.. she’d most likely let the relationship flow and to later see ella, and consequently aria, get hurt… AM I RIGHT?

5x14 - this one is pretty self explanatory again, credits go to (x):

5x21 - we have come to the conclusion A is all-knowing BUT when spence was in london there was no way A sent a minion with her. as soon as spence calls aria and tells her she found the blood, aria gets an a text. how would A know spencer had found the blood on her bag if aria is the only one who knew? as soon as she leaves the phone with aria she gets this text… ERHM how would A know??

5x21 - another sketchy thing happens when they visit cyrus in the hospital and he writes something down, which aria says is “carjack” and hides the note with her barely giving hanna a chance to see it, only later the paper falls of her pocket and hanna actually gets to see it and says its “varjack”and look at aria’s face in the second picture when the paper falls of her pocket.

5x23 - the liars get the brilliant idea (thank god spencer) to text varjak’s number since he/she hasn’t been picking up the calls and instead of replying back, varjak calls aria…. excuse me what???? why t f would u call aria varjack???????? how do u even have her number? perhAPS U HAVE MATTERS TO DISCUSS????? and aria never picked up the phone, probably/maybe because if he/she heard her voice they would start speaking about things she definitely didnt want to get discovered. it makes sense right?????? so she never picks up the phone so varjack understands its not safe to talk and puts on a creepy french song. IT MAKES SENSE RIGHT??? pls tell me im not crazy this makes sense right?

5x23 - got these screenshots from this post but really, why is aria SO WEIRD in 5x23??? aria and ems go to mona’s house but no one picks up the door and aria gives up and suggests they should go shopping?!?!?! excuse me aria ur two best friends are sitting in jail and you wanna go shopping?! YOU DONT EVEN SHOP.. LIKE EVER??

??????????????????????????????????

5x24 - aria did not want mike to say the truth about how he knew mona faked her death which would get ali and hanna out of prison and not get them into as much trouble as they were on. it already didnt make some sense because that could have been information that could have gotten ali out of jail, or got the police into digging more instead of believing they found the killer. she said she was protecting him because he could have been charged for not saying this information before BUT aria should totally prioritise the truth, specially because mike would be charged with A LOT less than ali or hanna, and as i read somewhere, it seems like she might be protecting A. right after comes the package with the tongue that she made mike get and open it, its like mike was supposed to see the package (since it creeped him out) but it was meant for her so like its like aria made it on purpose so that he would see everything… also, she probably tipped off the prosecution about this in order to damage jason’s credibility, since she’s the only one who would have benefits in doing so. #sneakysneaky

5x25 - lastly, one of the official pictures promo pictures for season 5 finale you can clearly see how focused the light is in AM…. aria montgomery maybe?? [again, rhetorical question!!!!] and the fact that there is a < and 3 on top of the AM letters actually make me think it stands for aria because aria is known to be the caring one and <3 means heart so… caring… heart….? ARIA again. #allroadsleadtoaria

anyways if you read this u the real MVP, haha. congrats.. really. i have never ever written this much… ever. so yeah, let me know what you guys think and if you found another suspicious thing on aria since i’d love to know! thanks for reading,

- D (more known as domi)

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1) 4th Man Out (trailer) This one takes the cake. Adam is turning 24 and this pushes him to finally tell his best friends about his sexuality. Things don’t go as originally planned. He struggles to find a real relationship and gets caught up in one of his best relationships which causes turmoil for their group. The film nails the humor they use and the dynamics of their friend group meshes really well. The actors were perfect for their roles and it all just comes together really well which shines through. Currently on Netflix.

2) Those People (trailer) This one almost got number one as it is that amazing. Charlie is single and one of the main reasons for this seems to be his best friend Sebastian who he can’t quite get over. Sebastian can be self destructive so when someone takes a liking to Charlie that behavior shines through. A destructive love triangle at its finest. They really nail the ending and the relationships within their quirky circle makes you feel like you’re getting an inside peek into something special. The cast in this film was phenomenal as well. Worth the watch if you ever get the chance.

3) Tomorrow (trailer)(short) This follows two friends on their adventures for New Years eve. At the party everyone finds someone to kiss at the stroke of midnight and the two friends aren’t where they thought they’d be. It’s a really cute story with great actors. The actual short gets taken down a lot and re-uploaded so the link might go down eventually for the actual short.

4) Blue Neighborhood (short series) So this is the music trilogy by Troye Sivan, and as it is music not everyone will like it. If you don’t, look past that and just pay attention to the story. The story follows two young friends who grow up together and end up in a complicated relationship. One of them has a horrible / abusive dad that plays a background role in their story. I may be biased because I love the music but the story is portrayed with amazing cinematic effect. 

5) The Last Time I Saw Richard (short) One reason this made the list is because it has such a unique story that not many gay themed shorts cover well. A young guy in a mental health clinic gets assigned a new roommate. They have a rough start and learn about each others demons. This one had really good effects for how they did the story and I love creepy / horror -esque themes.

I added a bunch of new fics to my fic recs page and here are some that I really liked:

Project Conventus by @gentledirkly

Despite Dirk’s fondness for physical affection, Todd finds that intimacy is a very confusing matter in the early days of their relationship.

This is part of an AU series where Dirk stays w/ the CIA until he’s 32, but it works as a standalone. It features copious amounts of kissing, awkward conversations, some sexy times and is just really good to read.

Firearms Proficiency 101 by @nekosmuse​ 

I can’t believe you took me to your private shooting range on our first date. That is so punk.

Pretty much what it says on the tin.

Farah and Amanda go on a date. Farah thinks Amanda is adorable and Amanda thinks Farah is hot. There’s anxiety, the smell of gunpowder and flowers, and awkward flirting. I love it.

Electric Ghost Rhino by @lavellington​  

Dirk and Todd are not co-dependent, exactly. They’ve just had a rough couple of weeks.

This is like pure fluff. Seriously, it has everything I love: sharing a bed, long hugs, surprise birthday parties, risotto, rice cookers. Read it, you won’t regret it. 

you will soothe my worried looks by @hippocampers

Amanda is leaning against the wall, grin unfitting for the parking lot of a mental health clinic. “Pizza?”

“So I’m just here to pay for your food?”

Amanda grins, nudging their shoulders together. “Basically.”

Farah rolls her eyes, but smiles nonetheless.

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Farah sees a therapist. It’s a strange journey, but not one she needs to take alone.

Very nice, accurate depiction of anxiety and therapy. Also A+ characterization. Has a wonderfully supportive Amanda. Short and sweet.

When’s your birthday? by @everythingremainsconnected

In which Todd realises he doesn’t know when Dirk’s birthday is, and unsurprisingly some angst ensues.

Fluff, angst and fluff again. Dirk gets a sunburn. There are neck kisses and supportive boyfriends.

where the falling angels meet the rising apes by cosmicocean 

The thing sweeps its scythe and straightens. It must sense eyes on it, because it turns it’s head and looks right at Svlad. It is a skull’s face, grinning and bleached. Svlad stares. It tilts it’s head, like it’s watching a particularly fascinating documentary, or a cat attempting to catch a laser pointer created dot.


AH, it says. It’s mouth doesn’t move, but Svlad hears it’s voice all the same, resonating deep and forever. INTERESTING.

A story of Death and the boy who could see him, through the years.

This is a sort of crossover with Discworld and Good Omens. I’ve never read any of the Discworld books (I want to tho) and I followed along just fine so don’t let that scare you off. This is over 20k of nice backstory, character development, a fair bit of plot and just general great writing. I think it’s the longest fic in the DGHDA AO3 tag right now, and it’s well worth the read. 

Anyways, these are only a few of the great fics out there, but I hope you enjoy them!

10 Things I Wish Clients Knew Before Starting Therapy

I realized as I started to write this list that I could probably put way more than 10 things on it, so maybe there will be a part 2 eventually. Your suggestions/additions are very welcome! Of course, clients are very different from one another, but in general, here are some things I wish clients knew before they started therapy. (Credit to the anon who suggested doing this list!)

  1. Your therapist is not your friend. You and your therapist should have an important, close relationship, but it’s the not the same as a friendship. This is a good thing! (See #7). You want your therapist to be able to see you and your treatment as objectively as possible while being caring and empathetic about you as a person. This will help you two work successfully together. It’s okay if it takes time to figure out how your particular relationship will work, and if it is different from one therapeutic relationship to the next. 
  2. Start and work through treatment with the end in mind. Ideally, therapy should not last forever- you should begin with a goal or goals (see #3) and you and your therapist should figure out how to achieve those goals so that you no longer need treatment. Your therapist will probably check in about how close you are getting to these goals, and may set a timeline at the beginning of therapy or partway in. This is normal. We like our clients, we want to continue seeing them, but treatment is successful when they don’t have to see us anymore. 
  3. Goals are essential to successful treatment. Some clients would like to come in and do a “weekly review” sort of thing, or a “crisis of the week” sort of thing. The problem with this is that it doesn’t help them achieve a goal or improve their lives, it mostly just passes the time and maybe provides some social support. We’re not really doing our jobs when this is all that happens. That’s why goals- short and/or long-term- are essential. 
  4. There are infinite worthy goals. There are lots of things that are worthy of being a therapy goal. I usually group them into three categories: goals related to decreasing your distress (for example: decreasing anxiety), goals related to increasing your functioning (for example: having better social skills), and goals related to increasing meaningfulness (for example: pursuing hobbies, existential questions).  
  5. Structure is also essential. If a client has great goals, but they continue to come in with a crisis of the week, or are constantly distracted throughout session, it’s often hard to get things accomplished. Although it isn’t necessary to only discuss the therapy goal(s) 100% of the time (and sometimes it’s necessary to halt things due to crisis), it is important to have some kind of structure of make sure that treatment is progressing. Lots of different kinds of structures can be used (from almost nothing, to agendas, to manuals) depending on your needs. 
  6. Your therapist is not being mean to you when they enforce boundaries. Boundaries are necessary, to uphold professional ethics, protect the therapist and their family/loved ones, protect the mental health field, protect the agency the therapist works for, protect other clients, and most importantly, to protect you. It isn’t random, and it isn’t a punishment. We do our very best to be both professional and have a sincere relationship with you.  
  7. Your therapist is not judging you. Here’s the thing- you really are a special and unique person, with your own backstory. But as therapists, we have heard some weird and terrible things (it’s unlikely you’re going to top the list, for better or worse). It is our job to listen to those things and not judge. Since we’re not our client’s friend, we’re not thinking about judgement, we’re thinking about how to help, or how impressed we are that you trusted us enough to share, and so on. We’re in your corner. 
  8. The therapeutic relationship is important- and not off-limits to discuss. I always make such a big deal about the therapeutic relationship, and it is because it matters so much to client outcome. So pay attention to it. It’s okay to care about how things are in the interaction and relationship with your therapist. And if you are confused, or upset, or concerned, or pissed off, talk about it with your therapist. You are not doing anything wrong- this is key to the success of your treatment. 
  9. It’s okay to question and disagree with your therapist. Clients sometimes think that therapists are untouchable– sort of all knowing experts. It’s true that therapists are trained in specific things, and hopefully know how to do the things they need to do to help you accomplish what you want to in therapy. But this does not mean they know everything about you or will not mess up (we don’t and we will). So ask questions. Get more information. If you disagree, speak up. A good therapist is comfortable discussing the process and being wrong. 
  10. It’s okay to find a new therapist, but make sure you think about why you are doing it. If you do not like your therapist, it is okay to look for a new one. But- “therapist shopping” is sometimes frowned upon because we worry that you are looking for a therapist who will tell you what you want to hear about something, and a good therapist is willing to challenge their clients- which means their clients will sometimes be pissed off and uncomfortable. This means a good therapist is sometimes not the one who makes you feel warm and fuzzy all the time. So, find a new therapist if you do not like yours, but think carefully about why you are doing it. Make sure you work with someone who helps you reach your goals. (That’s why you’re there, right?) 

Its normal for them to be bratty. Let them learn.

Tell me this.

Have you ever met a kid that has a full understanding of war, love, loss, grattiude, emotions or any other thing that you’d expect a person over the age of, lets say 15, should have a complete or semi-complete understanding of? 

No? 

Yeah that’s because they’re kids. And sometimes, kids can be really shitty people due to not fully understanding the situation(at hand/others are in ).

 Its the adult’s job to make sure that they do understand the weight of things like these and to make sure they turn out to be decent adults. Kids interact with other people to learn, grow and understand. They don’t start out as teachers, preachers or philosophers.

We can’t really judge young characters the way we would judge teenagers or adults. Kids have to be given room to grow and change. Which is why we can’t judge any of the new generation characters like we would post time skip konoha 11.

Because I’m not sure if anyone remembers (it could be nostalgia fogging up the bad things), before the Chuunin exam arc. The main cast, Naruto, Sakura and Sasuke, were, guess what, pretty shitty people. 

Naruto was a giantic bumbling idiot who didn’t think half the time.

 Sakura didn’t understand her team mates at all and complained about and orphan to another orphan, she came off as being vain and obnoxious.

 Sasuke was incredibly rude and disrespectful to his superiors(not addressing them with honorifics), acted coldly towards his team members at a time and he had a type of superiority complex (not to mention how unfriendly he was to Naruto, especially in the academy) 

But they grew.

Naruto learnt how to lead and think before acting, he’s weirdly smart, friendly and sociable. And people look up to him like an icon, a beakcon of hope.

Sakura grew an understanding of her team mates and opened a mental health clinic for orphans. She learnt how to be stronger and less vain. She is alot more thoughtful now.

Sasuke (after having sense beaten into him, literally) is respectful, considerate and humble. Infact he’s a guide to other characters(Boruto) and helps him grow. A true testament to how much he’s changed.

They were bratty as kids, but had people to guide them to become better people. The same hold through for the next gen kids. 

Its all right for them to say or do bad things, because they learn from their mistakes. They’re still kids and we shouldn’t see them as adults. Let their character learn before mindlessly bashing them like they’re adults and acting like they should’ve known better.