anonymous asked:

On booktube lately I've seen a lot of book recs go like "I didn't enjoy this book and I thought it was badly written but it has A Diverse Character™" and that's why even as disabled, mentally ill lesbian I'm reluctant to read books that are recd "diversity before quality". I'd much rather read books described as "fantastic oh and it's also diverse" than "it's diverse which means you should totally ignore the weeak plot or you're a Bad Person".

Wtf thats a rly idiotic attitude. A shit book remains a shit book even if its diverse. Sounds like youre following too many non-marginalized people. I suggest unsubscribing and following folks like squibbles reads and ameriie.

spider-xan  asked:

Harry Potter!

1. I hate how shitty and racist the worldbuilding for the US-based wizarding world is.

2. I hate how Rowling has this “have the cake and eat it too” mentality in regards to disability, racism, and so on. 

3. I hate that she never explored Lily further. Instead, she’s entirely idolized as this beacon of purity to all the men of her life, even when she’s dead, and I just want to see Lily through her own eyes, at least in a short story or something. 

4. I hate how Rowling seems to think that Percy is in the wrong for not putting up with his family’s bullshit and that he deserved a better arc with dealing with his family. 

5. I have nothing against good characters showing cruel sides, it makes for interesting stories, but it feels like the cruel acts by the ‘good guys’ such as Hermione and the twins and so on are entirely justified in the narration and it feels hollow.

6. I hate how most of the romantic relationships developed. Especially rolled my eyes in regards to Tonks and Lupin.

7. While I like some of the tragic aspects to Snape, she could have given him a better origin story as to why he changed sides.

8. Cho Chang and Lavender Brown were treated unfairly by the Golden Trio.

9. Sometimes Ginny said things that crossed the line toward other characters, but, hey, she’s “cool and independent” right?

10. Always thought it was bullshit that Hogwarts is the only school for UK kids to attend. Like, please, that is so fucking boring. 

Things not to say to someone you love who has chronic or mental illness or disability

1. “I didn’t  sign up for this.” Whoa, that’s wild, because neither the fuck did I.

2. “I can’t be around you when you have flare-ups/symptoms, it’s too hard.” Thanks for the support and for making my illness about you.

3. “You’re not the only one in pain.” (This is a passive aggressive way of accusing us of being selfish for talking about or experiencing pain symptoms,)

4. “Good luck finding someone else willing to put up with you/take care of you.” Way to make me feel like a burden! Classic abuser speak.  

Here’s the question before the court: If police know they are dealing with a person with mental illness, and they use confrontational tactics that can agitate the person, are they violating the Americans with Disabilities Act?
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More Than Half of Those Killed by San Francisco Police Are Mentally Ill

I would also like to point out that most of the cases in the article are people of color (not always black) with mental disabilities who were killed by police. This is about police brutality and mental disability and racism. Together.

Dear Hollywood,

Stop making movies about people with disabilities “finding love against all odds” as if people with disabilities are unlikely to find love unless it’s in some “inspiring” story.  Our struggles are not your plot device.

So glad to hear that you have found condoms or a copper IUD to be the only type of birth control you need.

Also chuffed to know you don’t suffer from any mental or physical disorders or disabilities that may necessitate any medication because they can be really hard.

Similarly I am so excited to hear you earn enough each week to buy a cornucopia of fresh fruit and veggies, enough to last you through every meal.

That’s super.

My prescription pills aren’t pretty and colourful like yours, they don’t fill me up or taste very good at all but they do help correct my genetic neurotransmitter deficiency a bit. So that’s something.

But yeah, go on with your super inspired comparison of eating a banana to taking prescription medication. It’s not coming off as privileged or sanctimonious at all.

Originally posted by agitated-mind

spoon theory: a low-spoons-friendly summary

it’s sort of ironic that the original article on spoon theory costs so many spoons to read, so i decided to write a brief summary for people who need it

  • spoon theory is an analogy
    • in it, spoons = energy
    • you get [x] number of spoons a day ([x] amount of energy), & doing things costs [x] number of spoons ([x] amount of energy)
    • for example, you get 10 spoons today; getting up costs 1, making food costs 2, making a phone call costs 2, watching a tv episode costs 2, etc
  • the purpose of spoon theory is to explain to abled/healthy people what being disabled/chronically ill is like, in a way they might find easier to understand
  • it highlights how little energy disabled/chronically ill people have when compared to abled healthy people, how much more energy things can cost, & how careful they have to be in prioritising what they spend that energy on
  • disabled/chronically ill people also use it as a way of talking about their energy levels
  • if you say “i’m low on spoons”, you’re not just saying you’re low on energy; you’re saying you’re low on energy because you’re disabled/chronically ill

here’s the link to the original article

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I don’t know how many people have heard of www.stickmancommunications.co.uk but they make great key ring cards that explain various medical conditions, mental illnesses and symptoms like sensory overload in simple and often humorous language.

Great if you have too many conditions to fit onto a traditional medical alert bracelet. They even sell lanyards so you can wear them round your neck.

I got the EDS, M.E., Fibro, Tummy Troubles, Sensory Overload, Joint Problems, Allergy and Emergency Contact cards :)

They also have various cards for Autistic Spectrum Conditions including Communication Cards.

I can’t believe this needs to be said, but…

- Withholding medication from a disabled person is not a joke, it’s not a punishment, it’s abuse.

- Withholding mobility equipment from a disabled person is not a joke, it’s not a punishment, it’s abuse.

- Withholding stim toys, comfort items or similar from a disabled person is not a joke, it’s not a punishment, it’s abuse.

- Stopping a disabled person from using harmless routines or coping mechanism is not a joke, it’s not a punishment, it’s abuse.

Stop.

Just ADHD Things
  • Re-reading a page twenty times in a row and still not retaining any information at all
  • Looking at a calendar and yelling “FUCK” 
  • Responding with laughter when someone asks you how your day was yesterday bc you literally dont remember 
  • Getting REALLY passionate about stuff and continuing to think about it well after the conversation has ended 
  • Having 30 minutes worth of homework but block out time for an entire day bc you know you’ll get distracted and it’ll end up taking that long
  • Getting lost in your hometown
  • Skipping the tutorials bc you wont be able to retain an information and then wondering why you don’t know how the game works
  • Wishing you had horse blinders so you could finally do your fucking homework
  • Being lowkey paralyzed when you have to decide what chore to do first
  • Trying to self medicate with caffeine in an attempt to help focus and just ending up jittery and panicked in addition to unfocused
  • :~) when :~) someone :~) makes :~) an :~) ADHD :~) joke
Chinese people didn’t see therapists. Spend $100 to tell a stranger your problems? Are you crazy? Why, yes, maybe I am. But I don’t know because my mom won’t give me the money to see a shrink. Western psychology and “seeing a therapist” (especially one that you have to pay megabucks by the hour to tell your secrets to) is still a completely foreign concept to people of my parents’ generation who believed seeing a therapist would prevent you from getting a job. And mind you, my parents were born in America.
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Comedian Kristina Wong, creator of the theater show “Wong Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest”

The article addresses both silence around mental illness in Chinese American communities and racism/centering of white cultural norms in U.S. psychiatry.

“Imagine if someone said that you weren’t really physically disabled.”

They do.

“Imagine if someone said that your inability to walk is in your head.”

They do.

“Imagine if your doctors didn’t believe you about your physical disability.”

They do.

"Imagine if people said that you don’t really need things like your wheelchair.”

THEY DO!

“Imagine if people treated people with physical disabilities like they treated people with mental disabilities.”

THEY DO!

STOP TRYING TO ERASE THE OBSTACLES FACED BY PEOPLE WITH PHYSICAL DISABILITIES JUST TO MAKE A POINT ABOUT MENTAL ONES!

“How can I support you?” is a question that works in almost every situation imaginable. It preempts judgement and assumptions while oozing humility. Often the person won’t have an immediate answer—likely because they aren’t used to being asked a question that’s about what they actually need as a unique human being. If they look stunned, I suggest something like: “It’s OK if you don’t have an answer or don’t need anything right now; the offer’s open for whenever. Just let me know.” And then use an emoji of some sort or make a face that conveys warmth so they know you mean it. (This could be a unicorn, the two señoritas dancing, or the smiling poo. Up to you.) 

*Here’s the fine print: you have to believe their answer, whatever it is. If they tell you they don’t need anything, you don’t get to push or pressure or demand they give you something to do so you feel less helpless. Remember, this isn’t about you.