mental disability

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anonymous asked:

I just failed an exam in one of my college classes and now i feel like dying. Have you ever felt this way? How the hell did you manage getting graduating college with mental disabilities?!!! Its so hard. Ive been struggling to get an Associates degree for 4 years now

I’ve felt like dying, for sure. I’ve attempted suicide a couple of times, I’ve been hospitalised (that was pointless and horrible). But I was really lucky that I’d finish 2 and a half years of my degree and only had the last 18 months when I had mental health issues. The first thing I’d say is take as much time as you need. That might be harder where you are. I was lucky to be in Scotland as Scottish people get to go to university for free if we stay in Scotland. So I could afford to take that time. But even within assignments, take your time. Have you tried talking to a college counsellor or going to a doctor? If you have something diagnosed you can use it to get extensions on particular assignments when you’re struggling with your issues. Do you have a support network around you? That’s so important. It can be friends, family members, even people on the internet. When you’re struggling it’s really crucial to feel like you have a support network you can go to for guidance or for a boost of self esteem. They can’t fix the problems but they can share tips or they can make you feel less alone about it. Remember that you’re obviously very bright if you managed to get in to college and failing doesn’t make you stupid or mean you’ll never get anywhere. It just means you might have to change the way you study or make the effort to talk to your lecturers. When I started on medication I found my whole way of studying changed. I had issues with concentrating and I found I had to adapt pretty quickly. I had always been smart and been able to pass exams with minimal preparation but now I had to start revising earlier because there would be days when I could only manage an hour of work. Sometimes you need to take a step back and think about why you failed. Were there areas you didn’t understand and need to spend more time on? Do you need a lecturer to explain something to you again? Do you need to change your study habits so you have more/less of a routine or you use notecards or you go to a different location? I’m not saying it’s your fault but mental health issues are so heavily interlinked with your brain chemistry that it isn’t just the obvious things that are influenced. Of course it makes you sad and reduces motivation but it also impacts on peripheral things like concentration and your reward processing. I think my advice would essentially be to take a break and have a bit of time to relax and prioritise yourself; then go and formally try to get support, whether it’s from your doctor or from a counsellor at the university; and then start looking at what you’ll need to work on to help you. Push for the best support you can get so if you need to demand your university does something to help you, don’t be afraid to ask. Good luck and do let me know how it goes! 

anonymous asked:

Hey Dave, I was hoping for some clarification; a post you reblogged seemed to suggest that mental illness shouldn't be described as cr*ppling. I wanted to make sure I wasn't interpreting that wrong, because I've never heard that before. I'll obviously respect that if it's the case, and stop using the term in that way, I was just a little confused. Thanks!

Yeah mental illness should not be described as crippling because that is a slur specific to physically disabled people; and even more specifically mobility impaired people.

“Debilitating mental illness” is better, and the term debilitating imo is better suited to describe a decline in physical abilities and day to day function regarding mental illness

So as a disabled and mentally ill person, able bodied people need to keep their hands off the term cripple/crippling

one of my classes is focusing on social movements and one of them is lgbt and another is for physical/mental disabilities and this is great cause i love it but also? but also! i am dying right now i am seeing a lot of bullshit right now and a lot of “people with autism” 😒

Here’s the question before the court: If police know they are dealing with a person with mental illness, and they use confrontational tactics that can agitate the person, are they violating the Americans with Disabilities Act?
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More Than Half of Those Killed by San Francisco Police Are Mentally Ill

I would also like to point out that most of the cases in the article are people of color (not always black) with mental disabilities who were killed by police. This is about police brutality and mental disability and racism. Together.

Dear Hollywood,

Stop making movies about people with disabilities “finding love against all odds” as if people with disabilities are unlikely to find love unless it’s in some “inspiring” story.  Our struggles are not your plot device.

So glad to hear that you have found condoms or a copper IUD to be the only type of birth control you need.

Also chuffed to know you don’t suffer from any mental or physical disorders or disabilities that may necessitate any medication because they can be really hard.

Similarly I am so excited to hear you earn enough each week to buy a cornucopia of fresh fruit and veggies, enough to last you through every meal.

That’s super.

My prescription pills aren’t pretty and colourful like yours, they don’t fill me up or taste very good at all but they do help correct my genetic neurotransmitter deficiency a bit. So that’s something.

But yeah, go on with your super inspired comparison of eating a banana to taking prescription medication. It’s not coming off as privileged or sanctimonious at all.

Originally posted by agitated-mind

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I don’t know how many people have heard of www.stickmancommunications.co.uk but they make great key ring cards that explain various medical conditions, mental illnesses and symptoms like sensory overload in simple and often humorous language.

Great if you have too many conditions to fit onto a traditional medical alert bracelet. They even sell lanyards so you can wear them round your neck.

I got the EDS, M.E., Fibro, Tummy Troubles, Sensory Overload, Joint Problems, Allergy and Emergency Contact cards :)

They also have various cards for Autistic Spectrum Conditions including Communication Cards.

Just ADHD Things
  • Re-reading a page twenty times in a row and still not retaining any information at all
  • Looking at a calendar and yelling “FUCK” 
  • Responding with laughter when someone asks you how your day was yesterday bc you literally dont remember 
  • Getting REALLY passionate about stuff and continuing to think about it well after the conversation has ended 
  • Having 30 minutes worth of homework but block out time for an entire day bc you know you’ll get distracted and it’ll end up taking that long
  • Getting lost in your hometown
  • Skipping the tutorials bc you wont be able to retain an information and then wondering why you don’t know how the game works
  • Wishing you had horse blinders so you could finally do your fucking homework
  • Being lowkey paralyzed when you have to decide what chore to do first
  • Trying to self medicate with caffeine in an attempt to help focus and just ending up jittery and panicked in addition to unfocused
  • :~) when :~) someone :~) makes :~) an :~) ADHD :~) joke
Chinese people didn’t see therapists. Spend $100 to tell a stranger your problems? Are you crazy? Why, yes, maybe I am. But I don’t know because my mom won’t give me the money to see a shrink. Western psychology and “seeing a therapist” (especially one that you have to pay megabucks by the hour to tell your secrets to) is still a completely foreign concept to people of my parents’ generation who believed seeing a therapist would prevent you from getting a job. And mind you, my parents were born in America.
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Comedian Kristina Wong, creator of the theater show “Wong Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest”

The article addresses both silence around mental illness in Chinese American communities and racism/centering of white cultural norms in U.S. psychiatry.

I can’t believe this needs to be said, but…

- Withholding medication from a disabled person is not a joke, it’s not a punishment, it’s abuse.

- Withholding mobility equipment from a disabled person is not a joke, it’s not a punishment, it’s abuse.

- Withholding stim toys, comfort items or similar from a disabled person is not a joke, it’s not a punishment, it’s abuse.

- Stopping a disabled person from using harmless routines or coping mechanism is not a joke, it’s not a punishment, it’s abuse.

Stop.

yesterday I went to see Finding Dory and it left me crying for almost the whole movie

  • Finding Dory is a movie about a mentally ill person who gets a happy ending that doesn’t involve getting “cured” or becoming “normal”
  • Dory is a mentally ill person who resolves her problems accepting her illness; she discovers that when she tries to do things the “normal” way (re: just trying to remember), it doesn’t work. But when she tries to do things her way (re: trying to deduce what she was doing, which is, accepting how her memory is), it does work!
  • There are other ill people (like Hank or Destiny) who get to be happy even though they don’t get “cured”. The movie also features a very well written panic attack and how it feels to live with memory issues. Also, it teaches neurotypical and able-bodied children, like Marlin, that mentally ill and disabled people are so much more than their disabilities, and that it’s perfectly possible to love them. This movie teaches them how mentally ill and disabled people are not broken or unlovable.
  • And Dory’s parents? They don’t force her to be normal, either. They don’t punish her for not being able to remember. No, they accommodate her: instead of forcing her to remember, instead of getting mad at her, they keep putting shells in line. And when she disappeared, they didn’t say “oh she must be gone forever because she always forgets everything”, they believed in her.
  • Finding Dory is a movie that teaches children that they can succeed in life, that they can be happy and have friends and be loved, not despite their illnesses and neurodivergences, but with them. They just have to keep swimming.

“Imagine if someone said that you weren’t really physically disabled.”

They do.

“Imagine if someone said that your inability to walk is in your head.”

They do.

“Imagine if your doctors didn’t believe you about your physical disability.”

They do.

"Imagine if people said that you don’t really need things like your wheelchair.”

THEY DO!

“Imagine if people treated people with physical disabilities like they treated people with mental disabilities.”

THEY DO!

STOP TRYING TO ERASE THE OBSTACLES FACED BY PEOPLE WITH PHYSICAL DISABILITIES JUST TO MAKE A POINT ABOUT MENTAL ONES!

“How can I support you?” is a question that works in almost every situation imaginable. It preempts judgement and assumptions while oozing humility. Often the person won’t have an immediate answer—likely because they aren’t used to being asked a question that’s about what they actually need as a unique human being. If they look stunned, I suggest something like: “It’s OK if you don’t have an answer or don’t need anything right now; the offer’s open for whenever. Just let me know.” And then use an emoji of some sort or make a face that conveys warmth so they know you mean it. (This could be a unicorn, the two señoritas dancing, or the smiling poo. Up to you.) 

*Here’s the fine print: you have to believe their answer, whatever it is. If they tell you they don’t need anything, you don’t get to push or pressure or demand they give you something to do so you feel less helpless. Remember, this isn’t about you.

There’s this ableist idea that the default is for people to have zero disabilities and mental illnesses. That’s why there’s a concept of there being “too many diagnoses” - because people totally assume there’s like, a Perfectly Normal Human to begin with and that that idealized body has zero brain issues or disabilities.

And that’s so wrong. That’s just as wrong as assuming non-intersex, cishet middle-class white guys are the Perfectly Normal Human of which everyone else is an imperfect copy.

We’re not made from a mould. We have endless variations and they aren’t divergence from some Perfectly Normal Copy, they’re literally the way life functions. There is no perfect copy. There are only variations, some of which have the privilege of being normalized.

But privileged people see themselves as the default, and “too many differences” can seem “made up” to them, because they’re not used to relating to people who are different. Unfortunately we mentally ill/disabled people absorb this idea too and it’s really hard to unlearn it when we’re stuck in a society that’s constantly reinforcing it.

We have to be gentle with ourselves and with each other and work on normalizing variations like mental illnesses, disabilities, etc., so the focus can be on meeting the needs of people who have them instead of just surviving ableism.