So we’re all on board with being anti-patriarchy. Anti-toxic masculinity. We all understand damage done to us by a world that grooms men to be destructive and aggressive. We understand creating spaces free from that force.
We do a disservice to *all* trans and non-binary people when our response to that is limited to the celebration and prioritization of women and the rejection and hatred of men.
What we create when this is the extent of our response is:
– a space where non-cis people are terrified of their own masculinity and their own relationship to male identity.
– a space where non-women are terrified of their own love for girls.
– a space where EVERYONE is terrified of their own love for boys.
– a space where in order to feel accepted or okay, people must define themselves as related to women.
– a space where in order to talk about gendered oppression, people must define themselves as related to women.
– a space where attraction only feels “wholesome” or “pure” or celebrated at all if it’s attraction between two girls.
– a space where non-binary people are forced to identify with the binary in order to participate in the queer community.
– a space where people’s goodness and badness, purity and toxicity, is measured by how much they look like a girl or like a boy.
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