mens guide

Surviving Time With Toxic Family/Friends

• Be the light
• No ego
• No emotionally heavy convos
• Stay in your center
• Take nothing personal
• Inhale deep
• Exhale slow
• Focus on the good––only
• Send love and light through the entire space
• Come light
• Leave light
May the Force be with you. ✨  

–– Lalah Delia | VibrateHigherDaily

Phoenix's Big Binding Guide!

I’ve learned a lot about binding from my own research and experience, and I wanted to share that knowledge with all of you! Safe binding is really important, so please take this to heart, especially if you’re just starting to bind.

* Don’t bind improperly. Pretty simple, don’t use ace bandages, duct tape, or anything similar. Duct tape will irritate your skin terribly, possibly even removing a layer or two when you peel it off. Both ace and duct tape won’t allow for proper expansion of the lungs/ribcage when breathing and can lead to collapsed lungs and broken ribs, as well as potentially damaging breast tissue to the point where you may be ineligible for top surgery later in life.
* Don’t buy a cheap or low quality binder. In general, it’s a bad idea to buy a binder that costs less than $20.
* Don’t buy a binder from Amazon or Wish.
* Don’t buy a binder that is marketed to lesbians, tomboys, or cosplayers/stage performers.
* Don’t buy a binder from Les Love Boat, Les Lesbian, or T Kingdom. In general, these brands make low quality binders. Some trans people swear by T Kingdom, but I’ve heard from a lot of sources that their binders don’t bind well, are not high quality, and fall apart very quickly.
* Don’t buy a binder with clasps, Velcro, or zippers. There’s a good reason for this, trust me. Everyone I’ve ever known with these kinds of binders says they are uncomfortable or difficult to wear because they dig into the skin, they come undone easily, or both. Think about it, something that’s really tight against your skin having a metal or plastic piece on it is not going to be super comfortable.
* Read reviews on binders before you buy.
* Don’t wear a binder for more than 8 hours if at all avoidable. 10 hours is okay as long as you’re not doing it every day. 12 hours is pretty much the high high limit, but if you do wear a binder for 12 hours straight, try not to wear a binder for a couple days following. If you wear a binder for more than 12 hours, you will be in bad pain for days, trust me. You will bruise the muscles around your ribcage, and binding (and breathing) will hurt pretty bad. After more than 12 hours of continuous wear, I would recommend not binding for 5-7 days minimum.
* Don’t continue wearing a binder if you are in pain or having trouble breathing. I suggest keeping a sports bra with you when you’re binding so that you can change if you need to.
* If you’re uncomfortable, take breaks. Go to the bathroom, take it off for a couple minutes, then put it back on.
* Don’t exercise while binding. Even when you’re binding with an actual binder, your breathing will be restricted. Exercising while binding could potentially cause you to pass out due to lack of oxygen. The general rule is that if you’re doing activity that will cause you to breathe heavily, don’t bind.
* Don’t bind if you’re going to be doing any heavy lifting.
* Don’t sleep in a binder. This applies to naps too. I learned that the hard way. I originally thought that you shouldn’t sleep in your binder because you’d potentially be wearing it for more than 8 hours. The actual reason is that the pressure of the binder combined with the additional pressure of your body weight on the mattress/couch/floor/whatever means more risk of bruising, lung damage, breathing constriction, and rib fractures.
* Don’t wear a binder if you are sick with a respiratory illness. If you are coughing or having trouble breathing, binding can aggravate these issues.
* If you have severe asthma, ask your doctor if it is safe for you to bind, and if they say yes, be very careful when binding.
* Don’t expect a binder to get you completely flat. Especially if you have a larger chest, the odds of even the best binder getting you completely flat is slim to none. Binders will compress a little or a lot depending on the material they’re made of, and will likely smooth your chest, but unless you’re less than a B cup, you’re probably not going to be completely flat with a binder.
* Take your measurements before you buy. Just guessing your size or basing it on your t-shirt size is not a reliable indicator. Measure yourself according to the method in the sizing chart of the company you’re buying from and compare it to the chart. If you’re in between two sizes, round up (unless you’re really, really close to the lower size, I’m talking a small fraction of an inch).
* There are a couple of ways to bind without a binder. One is to stack sports bras. Try putting one on backward and one on forward (note: this only works with compression sports bras). Another method is to use shapewear like Spanx. Most shapewear is made out of the same material as a lot of binders (I know this is true of Spanx and Underworks binders because I’ve owned both of them). Take shapewear (the kind that’s like underwear and doesn’t have thigh portions) and cut a slit in the crotch part. You can then pull it on just like you would a normal binder. Generally, the size you would typically wear if you were wearing the shapewear as intended is the size you will need to bind with.
* There are two binder brands that you will generally hear recommended; they are Underworks and GC2B. I have bought binders from both. My first was from Underworks, and I was quickly dissatisfied with it. I then ordered a binder from GC2B, which I have found to be much more comfortable and to bind much more effectively. GC2B is generally a little cheaper than Underworks as well.
* Half vs. full binder: half binders are less hot and work just as well in the chest as a full binder. They occasionally will ride up and your breasts may hang out the bottom; in this case, you will find yourself compulsively pulling your binder down. A full binder has the added bonus of smoothing your hips. I’ve never owned a full binder, so I don’t know personally if they ride up or not. However, I have read that these can be really tight in the tummy area, especially if you’ve got some pudge there. Read reviews to help you make your decision.
* There are a lot of tutorials to make your own binder, and also shops online that make custom binders. These are good resources if you are unable to find a binder in your size. Just make sure you buy from a reputable shop, and again, read reviews.

Remember, safety is very important when binding, and you should always listen to your body. Happy binding!

sometimes harry puts his hands on his hips

alternatively titled: The Reason I Don’t Sleep At Night

look at this u can see his nipple how iconic

wow baby! pop ya hip! 

How To Flirt With Older Men: a guide by Harry Styles

his lil face he’s so cute what a little enraged duckling

look at his tummy and nipples fhkjhffncmsne 

s a s s 

remember 1d day lol he was so done 

he rly looks like a frog here but he’s cute (even his hand looks similar to  frogs? bye)

i honestly dont even know what this is but he’s working the duck lips and that stance?? only the Best Models can master

iconic amazing spectacular wonderful beautiful 

this isnt even in HD but you can tell he’s doing his Creepy Frog Stare and it’s so adorable i love him

anyways this post is really short but i hope u enjoyed this bc look at him he knows what he’s doing 

Muslim Culture

Muslim culture is having 85% of the mosque’s population at the hospital waiting room when your grandma has a heart attack. It’s when your uncle passes in a different country so everyone comes over to your house with food and condolences, even the family you’re having drama with.

Muslim culture is packed parking lots where old men are guiding traffic with their canes but actually making traffic slower because they stop each car to ask the driver how their family is. It’s when your car gets a flat tire for the first time and so everyone helps put on the spare.

Muslim culture is fighting over the bill at a restaurant and dropping off meat at the masjid with a sign marked “For anyone who needs a meal”.

Muslim culture is free henna nights the day before Eid and kids passing out candy the day of. It’s when the sweets that are being handed out are from Bosnia but also Benin and also Syria.

Muslim culture is so much more than what you see on the media. Muslim culture is definitely not perfect, but it’s also definitely not what we’ve been told to believe it is.


Olórin in the Gardens of Lórien. 

I kind of HC the Gardens of Lórien to be like the movie “What Dreams May Come,” they’re kind of surreal. I used my “Springtime in Arda” fluid painting as the background. 

“… though he loved the Elves, he walked among them unseen, or in form as one of them, and they did not know whence came the fair visions or the promptings of wisdom that he put into their hearts. In later days he was the friend of all the Children of Ilúvatar, and took pity on their sorrows; and those who listened to him awoke from despair and put away the imaginations of darkness.” Unfinished Tales, “The Istari.”

anonymous asked:

Hey, I'm pretty new to xmen, but Kurt is 1000% my fave. I was wondering which comics I should read to get more of his story! I love your blog too great stuff

Okay, first of all: there are too many books he appears in, so I just tried to list some important ones (and this not even close to listing everything!) And if you want to simply read books he is in, you really need to go through many team books.

The easy part, Nightcrawler series:

- Nightcrawler (1985-1986) - 4 issue
- Nightcrawler Vol 2 (2002-2002)- 4 issue
- Nightcrawler Vol 3 (2004-2006) - 12 issue
- Nightcrawler Vol 4 (2014-2015) - 12 issue

- X-Men: Manifest Destiny Nightcrawler #1 (May, 2009)
- X-Men Origins: Nightcrawler #1 (May, 2010)


Some important appearance/story from the beginning until now:

- Uncanny X-Men: start with his first appearance in Giant-Size X-Men #1 (1975) but I’d say read UXM of 80’s.
(AND/OR read Classic X-Men, which is a reprint of uncanny issues, but with new panels/stories!
-Classic X-Men #1-45,
-X-Men Classic #46-110)

- Excalibur (1988-1998) - a must

(After Excalibur he’s in Uncanny X-Men again - from 1998, so you can continue here )

- in 2003 he gets an origin story ‘Draco’ in Uncanny X-Men by Chuck Austen (but you need to know, it’s one of the most hated X-Men stories. For reasons.)
Chuck Austen’s run on UXM: #410-441, and Draco: #428-434 (2003)
(And before Chuck Austen, the priest story happend.)

- Uncanny X-Men by Chris Claremont from #444 (2004) (better story, good art)

- X-Men: Second Coming related books (2010) - (he dies here)

- Amazing X-Men (2014) 19 issues (resurrected) - a must
( the last solo series begins in 2014 too)

- Extraordinary X-Men (2015) -  (it’s not the best Nightcrawler story again…)

- X-Men Gold - current X-book  - (it’s ok so far)


Significant Issues: (by marvel universe wiki)

Killed foster brother (X-Men Annual #4, 1980);
first joined X-Men (Giant-Size X-Men #1, 1975);
first used image inducer (Classic X-Men #4, 1986);
first blended with shadows (X-Men #102, 1976);
first encountered Mystique (X-Men #141, 1981);
injured by Marauders (Uncanny X-Men #211, 1986);
co-founded Excalibur (Excalibur: The Sword is Drawn, 1988);
regained full powers (Excalibur #37, 1991);
formed N-Men (Excalibur #45, 1991);
learned Mystique is mother (X-Men Unlimited #4, 1994);
rejoined X-Men (Uncanny X-Men #360/X-Men #80, 1998);
first seen studying for priesthood (X-Men #100, 2000);
first encountered Supreme Pontiff (Uncanny X-Men #400, 2001);
quit priesthood (Uncanny X-Men #419, 2003);
learned Azazel is father (Uncanny X-Men #432, 2003);
died (X-Force #26, 2010)


A few issues I can think of and recommend:

(there’s definitely much more!)

- Amazing Spider-man 161 & 162  (1976)
- Guardians Team-Up #6 (2015)
- Deadpool/Spider-Man  #14 (2016)
- Deadpool (2012) #27 (wedding)
- Nation X #1 (2009) - (road trip)
- Wolverine (2003) #6 - (I don’t need to say anything here :D)
- Axis revolution #2
- Classic X-Men #4 - The Big Dare!
- Male Bonding (Marvel Comics Presents, #101 - 108) (with Wolverine)
- Wolverine weapon X #16 (2009)
- Death of Wolverine: Life after Logan (2014)
- Moon Girl and Devil Dinosaur #17 (2017)
- Exiles #28-30 (2001) - (meets his daughter from another universe)
- Bizarre adventue  #27 (1981) (mentioned in his first solo series)
- What If? Vol 2 #98 (if Mystique had raised Kurt)
- Uncanny X-Men #204


A comic made exclusively for the movie: X-Men 2 (2003):

X-Men 2: Nightcrawler - Official Movie Prequel


Alternate univers Kurt

(this is not in order)

- Kurt Darkholme / Age of Apocalypse Nightcrawler (Killer version of Nightcrawler):
Uncanny X-Force Vol 1 ,
X-Termination 1 & 2,
Age of Apocalypse Vol 1,
Astonishing X-Men Vol 3

- Kurt Waggoner (Kid version of Nightcrawler):
X-Treme X-Men Vol 2
Astonishhing X-Men Vol 3


And lastly here’s another longer list of important issues about Kurt that are worth a read:


I hope it helps. If anyone wants to add something to the list, please do!
I might’ve made mistakes; in that case let me know.