I understand schools have dress codes and generally speaking I’m not against them. But requiring young women to photograph themselves, to then send that photograph in to a board where they will examine the hem, the back, the cleavage, to get a stamp of approval before they can attend prom is ridiculous.
Especially when you require nothing similar from the young men.
For a SCHOOL BOARD to nitpick and scrutinize and regulate a young woman’s body is wrong. When I put myself in that position I feel I’m not seen as a person but rather a body that needs to be concealed and judged. As something that has to be reviewed by a school board.
There are several things about this, that to me, put undue burden on these ladies and their parents.
First, the fact you have to take several pictures and then print them out, and submit them. It doesn’t seem huge, but as a parent I find that incredible tedious, a waste of time, not to mention infuriating.
Second, when are they supposed to take these pictures? Before or after they buy the dress? They’re required to send in pictures with a copy of a signed dress code before they can go to prom. So, do they buy a dress, which is usually unable to be returned, and hope it’s approved? Or do they wait to buy it and hope the dress is still there when they finally get approval. And if it’s not there then what? Start all over?
Third, and you see stories of this every year, girls who have big chests who are turned away from prom because they’re too revealing. Undoubtedly this rule is designed to “protect” them from getting to prom and not being able to get in. But if you deny their dress a week before, or at the door, you’re still humiliating that girl.
Not only does my second point apply to her, but also finding a dress for her that covers up like the board would want is a challenge.
Large chested girls have cleavage in clothes if they want to or not. A dress that one girl can wear with no cleavage will give another girl ample amounts.
Finding a dress to cover large breasts, especially in formal wear, and especially for a teenager, is terribly difficult. To get something that would work you might have to buy a specialty dress or get something altered… Both of which can cause the price to go sky high and not every parent can swing that. The alternative is an off the rack dress that shows their curves more or they can’t go because their parents can’t afford a custom dress.
Big girls have curves.
You can’t regulate that away.
Every girl deserves to feel beautiful at prom and not be subjugated to obsessive scrutiny over every inch of their body.
In the 1970s, Brazil was living under a military dictatorship. So when São Paulo’s biennial art exhibition happened in 1973, many artists were conflicted. French artist Fred Forest found a unique way to protest the censorship imposed by Brazil’s ruling junto. He organized a group of marchers to carry blank signs through the city. Any true dissidents or students would have been imprisoned and tortured. So Forest hired professional sandwich-board men as sign-carriers. They could not be held accountable for what that day’s sign said.
The press published the marchers’ route, and the public quickly understood. The blank signs were saying what no one could say. Although it was against the law for more than three people to congregate in the street, Forest’s march attracted nearly 2,000 followers, and onlookers showered them with ticker tape from their balconies. Forest himself was arrested quickly. But he was protected as a foreign artist, and after some hours of questioning, they let him go.
It’s a book from 1666, by Margaret Cavendish, the Duchess of Newcastle. She was an aristocrat, philosopher, poet, scientist, fiction-writer, and playwright; the book is considered one of the earliest pieces of science fiction. I can’t say it’s the first because I’m pretty sure Johannes Kepler’s Somnium, which takes place on the Moon, takes precedence. Somnium was written in 1608 and published in 1634. But it’s up there.
The story starts with a merchant falling for a lady and kidnapping her to avoid the problem or her father’s objections. This does not go over well with God and Nature, and the boat full of kidnappers and the lady gets blown into the extreme northern ocean, where all the men on board die of the terrible bitter cold. The lady survives, and is rescued by creatures walking over the polar ice who are
in shape like Bears, only they went upright as men; those Creatures coming near the Boat, catched hold of it with their Paws, that served them instead of hands;
And then they realize that she’s not going to handle the cold of their island very well, so they take her
into another Island of a warmer temper; in which were men like Foxes, only walking in an upright shape, who received their neighbours the Bear-men with great civility and Courtship, very much admiring this beauteous Lady;
And shortly thereafter
they came into an Island where there were Men which had heads, beaks and feathers, like wild-Geese, onely they went in an upright shape, like the Bear-men and Fox-men: their rumps they carried between their legs, their wings were of the same length with their Bodies, and their tails of an indifferent size, trailing after them like a Ladie’s Garment;
And that is the moment at which I realized THEY HAD FURRIES IN 1666.