How to Leave the Past Behind

When you’re feeling overwhelmed with your sadness and loss, it’s hard to believe that your life will ever change, or you’ll ever be able to smile or laugh again. But the truth is you will – it won’t always be this bad – and there are things you can do help move on with your life:

1. Decide to face your pain. An unresolved past never really goes away. You may think you have buried your anger and pain but the hurt is still there and it will surface later on. If you don’t face what happened, and the feelings it unleashed, you will end up being ruled by your subconscious mind. So try and find the courage to revisit all the pain.  

2. Accept there’s nothing you can do to change the past. What’s happened has happened, and what’s done is done. There’s nothing you can do to turn back the hands of time, or to rewrite the story so the ending’s happier. But you can change how you think, and you can start over again, and build a different future that’s not poisoned by the past.

3. Be grateful for the good times. There’s usually something good that you can be thankful for. You don’t have to pretend that everything was bad – or write off any good times and happy memories.

4. Consciously let go and set your focus on the future - Don’t let the baggage, or the failures of the past, affect your identity or self esteem. You are NOT what you did, or how you acted previously. You’re not just a product of what happened to you. You are valuable, unique and you have so much to give. You’re the author of your future; you control your destiny.   

5. Remove your past from your future. We all have a tendency to think that the past will morph into our future – and become our lot in life. But that doesn’t have to happen. The future’s a blank page. You can change your expectations – and work towards those goals. Instead, look hard for the exceptions – the times when things went right – and notice what you did that resulted in success. You still have those same strengths, skills and great qualities.

6. Be realistic and take small steps at first. You can’t snap your fingers - and find that life has changed. Accept it will take time, and you will still have some bad days – but if you keep on going then the past will lose its grip.

I Won't Mind (DEMO)
  • I Won't Mind (DEMO)
  • Zayn Malik

I Won’t Mind (Lyrics) [download]

Don’t look around ‘cause love is blind
And darling right now I can’t see you
I’m feeling proud so without a doubt
I can feel you

’Cause we are who we are
When no one’s watching.
And right from the start
You know I got you
Yeah you know I got you

I won’t mind
Even though I know you
You’ll never be mine (x2)

Never be mine (x2)

We messed around until we found the one thing
We said we could never ever live without
I’m not allowed to talk about it
But I gotta tell you

’Cause we are who we are
When no one’s watching
And right from the start
You know I got you
Yeah you know I got you

I won’t mind
Even though I know you
You’ll never be mine (x2)

Never be mine (x2)

Emotional Abuse Is Real

By Jennie

I grew up in a very religious environment. I went to church every Sunday, and there was practice for a lot of things, like saying no at a party, or things like that. At the same time, there was always this talk about becoming a wife and a mother, and it was just a given that these were the roles you were meant to take on.

I used to sit and puzzle in my room–how would I fall in love with someone? How would someone fall in love with me? I just didn’t understand it, because I was so guarded about my emotions, and felt like–how would anyone even ever get to know the real me?

Then I went off to a religious college, where everyone around me was dating and getting married. My sister had always said that she thought I would be one of those people to get married young, and I felt a bit of weird pressure to live up to that as well.

So I started to go around, wondering who I was going to marry, wondering how I would meet them. I was so scared it wouldn’t happen that I just kind of convinced myself about the first guy who came along who seemed like he would.

He sounded good in theory. When we were just friends, he used to be charming, and tell interesting stories, and talk about the outlandish romantic gestures he would give to his wife.

I had already decided I was going to marry him before we started dating, so I didn’t even assess anything that was happening while we were dating. Didn’t take note of the fact that when my engagement ring was apparently “lost” in the mail, and when he proposed to me by just sitting next to me in the stairwell of the airport, rather than doing anything to make me feel special.

I didn’t take notice, because I was too scared of my own worth, and honestly did not think there was anyone else out there for me, and that I would be a failure if I didn’t get with him.

We got married, and he mainly paid no attention to me. He would only really talk to me through instant messages, even though we lived in the same house. And through that, he manipulated me, into distancing myself from my sister, into thinking I was causing him to starve, and into thinking that I was failing, always keeping his approval away, so that I was constantly trying to earn it.

I wish I could say I eventually left him, but apparently he lost interest, mainly because I wasn’t paying all my attention to him anymore, and started to have other things in my life, since he would spend absolutely no time with me.

And when he left, I felt free, and came to myself, and just felt so good. I realized how good it is to be alone, that I really loved myself, why should I be afraid of only having myself? I began to heal, and the way I felt was that I was being deprogrammed. I realized that he had been emotionally abusing and neglecting me, and through hints from how he said he dealt with other people, I began to realize he was on the sociopath spectrum, if not a full-blown sociopath.

But my sister didn’t believe me, and my parents didn’t seem to care that much about it. My sister had him over for Christmas the next year with his new girlfriend. When it came down to the crunch, my sister said the reason she doesn’t believe me is because I have no proof. That has been harder to get over for me than the abuse itself.

What I want to tell everyone is that the emotional abuse you experience is real, and that I believe you. You don’t have to be raped to be taken advantage of, and even if your family or friends don’t understand that. I do. When you get yourself out of that situation, that freedom you feel is real, because the binds of emotional manipulation change what you do, and they suppress the real you. And also know, you are not alone. You are never alone. Those who turn their backs on you when you need them are not worth it.

And to those of you who think you need a partner to be valid, just know that you are so much better on your own than to be with someone who doesn’t respect and care for you. I wish someone would have told me that.

- Jennie, age 28

Good Girls
  • Good Girls
  • 5 Seconds of Summer
  • 5 Seconds of Summer (Deluxe)

Good Girls - 5 Seconds of Summer 

[This song is off of their first self-titled album which is set to be available for pre-order on May 14 (in AUS).]

If you’re in the 5sos fam you’ve probably only heard the live version of this song and usually, like most live songs, it isn’t understandable, but we have finally gotten the original studio version! Can we just take a minute (or five) to hear how good they sound? The drumming is on point, lets not forget the bass and guitar. Literally, this is more than I expected! 

mikey owned this song so hard. his solo and his commentary parts are ofF THE CHARTS! calum sounds so cute when he says “styoo-dent” baBE. luke and the do dodo do do’s ayy werk et and the few seconds Ashton sings between Lukes do do do’s is panty-dropping worthy fuck i love this band so much

but were still sleeping like were lovers | a bagginshield fanmix


kiss me – ed sheeran
let her go – passenger
in my veins – andrew belle
say something – a great big world (ft. christina aguilera)
dust to dust – the civil wars
dear fellow traveler – sea wolf
still – daughter
once – brad caleb kane
all of me – john legend
lakehouse – of monsters and men
all i want – kodaline
like a mountain – timber timbre
here with me – robert koch (ft. susie suh)

listen ]

Simone Biles is a GODDESS

If you don’t agree or don’t know who that is, I will gladly help you out and introduce you to the bubbly but badass gymnast

that has an obsession with Zac Efron

Yes that is a leotard with ZAC EFRONS FACE ON IT

She is The most dominant athlete in the world in any sport both genders and you can fight me on this

LOOK AT ALL THOSE MEDALS!! She has won the past 3 All-Around World Championships and is the only person to do that 

By the way she’s 19 

she’s 4′ freaking 8″ and still gets more height on her vaults than most men


!!!punk follow train!!!

Hey guys! 

So I had an idea to do a little follow train so that all of us cool punk kids could follow each other *shrug* So here’s how this works :

  1. look at the list below and see if any of your favorite bands are listed
  2. reblog the post and hashtag your top 3 faves
  3. go see who reblogged the post and follow all the cutie!
  4. be cool and listen to your faves

so here’s the list (feel free to msg me to add any)

  • bring me the horizon
  • sleeping with sirens
  • pierce the veil
  • of mice & men
  • all time low
  • a day to remember
  • black veil brides
  • as it is
  • asking alexandria
  • blessthefall
  • crown the empire
  • falling in reverse
  • escape the fate
  • mayday parade
  • my chemical romance
  • memphis may fire
  • new years day
  • slipknot
  • woe, is me

thanks guys, be nice and follow everyone! lets create a fuckin’ army!