men-with-EDs

i’m concerned about boys with mental illnesses and eating disorders and abusive relationships and sexual assault survivor stories and self-harming tendencies who never get the attention or care or help they need because all of those things “don’t happen to men” or because “all men are horrible monsters” and i just wanna say if you’re a boy and you’re struggling with something hard, your gender doesn’t diminish or dismiss your struggles or make them any less significant or difficult and i love you and i’m here for you

  • In the United States, one in every nine black children has an incarcerated parent. On Sunday, many of those fathers are coming home.
  • For Father’s Day, rapper Jay Z pledged to bail dads out of jail who can’t afford to do it themselves, giving money to organizations that did the same for mothers last Mother’s Day. 
  • Jay Z, whose given name is Shawn Carter, wrote about the over-incarceration of African-American men in an op-ed for TIME, pointing a finger at the exploitative bail-bond industry and its predatory lending. Read more. (6/18/17, 10:05 AM)

do you have that one lyric where you have to mentally prepare yourself and when it comes on you’re still and quiet and just let it wash over you and you know that everything will be alright

General Washington seldom smiles, I never saw him laugh but once, it was after the preliminaries of peace were signed, and at a yankee story told by Dr. Thomas. The doctor being invited to dine at head quarters, one of the aids requested the general’s permission for him to repeat the dialogue between two New England men who had visit ed the French camp. In doing this he repeated quaint speeches and remarks in a manner so inimitably ludicrous that no one but his Excellency could contain his gravity. At length he added, “what, said Jonathan, do you think Chambeau’s soldiers call a hat? the tarnation fools, they call it a chappeau, why, and be darn’d to them, can’t they call it a hat and adone with it.” The general could no longer refrain, he burst into a fit of laughter. There is not perhaps another man who can boast of exciting laughter in General Washington.
—  A military journal during the American revolutionary war, from 1775 to 1783 By James Thacher

let’s go on an adventure ☼ listen here

25 inexplicably happy songs for a road trip, late-night cruising, dancing in your PJ’s, etc etc.

san francisco- the mowgli’s // weekend- neon trees // electric love- børns // dreaming- smallpools // tongue tied- grouplove // drive by- train // radioactive- marina & the diamonds // tear in my heart- twenty one pilots // sun- two door cinema club // escape (the piña colada song)- rupert holmes // different colors- walk the moon // super love- dami im // oceans- coasts // safe and sound- capital cities // we come running- youngblood hawke // thunderstruck- owl city // tokyo (vampires & wolves)- the wombats // the sound- the 1975 // i wanna get better-  bleachers // mountain sound- of monsters and men // kick drum heart- the avett brothers // sing- ed sheeran // i know what you did last summer- shawn mendes & camila cabello // adventure of a lifetime- coldplay // take a walk- passion pit // cake by the ocean- dnce // text me in the morning- neon trees // boom clap- charli xcx // collar full- panic! at the disco // come and get your love- redbone // closer- the chainsmokers // kamikaze- mø // how to be a heartbreaker- marina & the diamonds // flaws- bastille // infinitesimal- mother mother

THE HEIDI HANSEN PLAYLIST

[ FOR WHEN IT ALL FEELS SO SMALL ]

1. Sloom - Of Monsters and Men // 2. Tenerife Sea - Ed Sheeran // 3. Manhattan - Sara Bareilles // 4. Gone - Kina Grannis // 5. Skinny Love - Birdy // 6. Listen People - Herman’s Hermits // 7. Strawberry Wine - Deana Carter // 8. Landslide - Fleetwood Mac // 9. Fast Car - Tracy Chapman // 10. Mess Is Mine - Vance Joy // 11. Cherry Wine (Live) - Hozier // 12. Desperado - Eagles // 13. Wildflowers - Tom Petty // 14. Naked as We Came - Iron & Wine // 15. How Do I Live - LeAnn Rimes // 16. Holding You - Jim and The Povolos // 17. Wild Child - Enya // 18. Tell Me How - Paramore // 19. You Win, I Win, We Lose - Kenny Chesney // 20. How to Save a Life - The Fray

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The playlist also plays on my homepage!
(If an ad starts playing, ignore it. The song will play after the ad.)

anonymous asked:

Men with ED stop having sex. Women for whom sex is painful are expected to keep performing, but nobody ever tells men who can't have an orgasm to "be there for their partners" and "just enjoy the closeness"

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Title: Consequences

Pairing: Victor Zsasz x Reader x Ed Nygma

Summary: Ed told you there would be consequences. He didn’t mention exactly what they were though. (Shout out to @ruffles-the-fluffalo for requesting this glorious idea)

Warnings: I have a thing with calling Ed ‘Sir’ and ‘Mr. Nygma’ so sue me. I also really love when he talks dirty apparently. And Zsasz calling Reader ‘kitten’. All kinks ahoy, matey. There’s biting, blood (mentioned), hair pulling, slapping, anal sex, blowjobs. Everything is consensual though. Mostly. There’s literally no fluff in this at all. Just really rough fucking.

Originally posted by rainovermyhead

Originally posted by cobblepotvaleska

     When you agreed to work for Oswald Cobblepot you had no idea that also meant you would be working for Ed Nygma. And with Victor Zsasz. You’d heard so many stories of those three men. So many terrifying, awful stories. If you’re being perfectly honest with yourself- and anyone really- that’s why you accepted the offer so quickly. That part of a person’s brain that tells them “danger, run” never really developed in you. Sure, you would run. But it would always be towards the danger rather than away. The three most powerful and horrible men in Gotham would be your bosses and coworker. How exciting is that?

     Apparently the appropriate answer is ‘not at all’ if the glares from your best friend are any indication. You wake up, she glares. Go to work, she glares. Retell a riddle Mr. Nygma made you figure out, she glares. Show her the way Zsasz brushed against you in the hallway, she glares. The only time she isn’t completely disgusted by your job is when you talk about the mayor. She quickly becomes attentive and responsive. It would be adorable if it wasn’t so annoying. Sometimes you wonder if you should hint to Oswald he’s garnered a lot of female attention. A lot of positive female attention. Even if he doesn’t want to pursue any of them romantically he can always find a way to work the predicament to his advantage.

     You think about it all day at work, tapping your pencil against your desk while your mind wanders to how exactly you would approach the subject. Mayor Cobblepot is a very… temperamental man. You don’t want to lose your job for suggesting something he takes the wrong way.

     A loud thud pulls you from your thoughts. Ed is standing in front of your desk, arms crossed, tired expression on his face. He gestures to the files he lovingly and gently threw down in front of you, saying, “Have all of this reviewed by the end of the day.”

     “What? There’s no way!” And there really isn’t. The stack of papers are thicker than your thighs.

     “This isn’t an option. Oswald needs it by tomorrow.” Ed starts to walk away, tossing one last comment over his shoulder with what seems like practiced ease. “If you’re unable to perform the task satisfactorily there will be consequences.”

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one of the most frustrating and imo obnoxious things about men with ed or other hard on related issues is that–like men in general–they only have one understanding of physical pleasure and they will make themselves and you miserable trying to get hard instead of just relaxing and enjoying themselves in other ways (that could also potentially lead to orgasm).

it’s literally throwing money away (from their side, i’m not wasting it on mine) and they’re so fucking blinkered and willfully ignorant and angry.