What drew me away from calling myself a radfem is that some of you are so delusional and crazy about political purity at times. Like, while i personally support separatism and female-only communes, those are a) not a reality and b) only one option, it wouldn’t be something all women would want to live in. Like, there would still be men, there would still be women who live with men, there would be het couples with kids, there will be fathers, men would still make up half the population, they’re horrible misogynistic beasts but they’re not going away, all we can hope for is to create a society in which male children are educated to be better people (I believe feminists having control of the school/educational system and of media would do wonders for the world tbh), to end oppressive gender norms that make them be that. We taught many of them to accept women voting and driving and taking jobs, they can be tamed to be better. We can’t just shut ourselves into all female comunes and leave the other women outside at the hands of male violence. A true end to patriarchy comes with changing the values which are taught in society which would create decent men who are a lot less violent. It’s not an ideal approach, it’s not satisfying, i’m angry and I hate them too but we have to be realistic, we have to strive for accomplishable goals, not perfect utopies.
I dunno if anyone elaborated on the IBS thing, but it's not anything like uncontrollable diarrhea. My mom has it, actually- she has to avoid certain foods because, yes, it can give her the runs or else really bad stomachaches. But it's not like uncontrollable. It almost killed her as a baby, since she lived in Cuba and it's always been hard to find good, available doctors. I'm not giving you hate- I just wanted to explain IBS to you and that anon since I don't really find IBS to be funny. : /