men's rights

you know what i fucking hate?

99% of the time if a man starts crying or talking about their valid feelings, people will deny it and tell them to suck it up, and it’s “no big deal”. i hate that men’s feelings will be denied and overlooked in most situations. feelings and physical pain, people somehow think that women are the only ones allowed to be depressed, the only ones to be sad. even families of males everywhere dismiss their feelings because of the stereotype of the “macho man”.

right now, imagine something you didn’t like happened. someone no one really likes. imagine if your significant other hit you in public, and someone/multiple people saw it. they’d most likely confront them, yeah? well, switch that around, and imagine you’re a male for the day. your female significant other abuses you in public, hits you, throws their drink in your face, yells at you, calls you names, things that wouldn’t necessarily be acceptable if it was reversed.

the likely situation is that people watching will not give two shits about it, and they might even pull out their phone and record it. imagine that happening, you being humiliated, hit, and degraded by some girl who thinks that’s just fine, that you just automatically don’t feel pain, because you’re a boy. people laughing and cheering her on, recording it, taking no concern whatsoever because they automatically think that you did something wrong, and that’s why she’s “standing up” to you. pretty fucking sucky, huh?

imagine you’re at the doctor, and you’re about 16. you’re getting your blood drawn, you don’t want to look at it, you look away, and you start crying because it feels weird. your mom/dad starts consoling you and comforting you, because you’re in pain and you feel uncomfy, right? the nurse/doctor starts comforting you as well, because they see you’re not happy and they want to be nice.

switch that around, you’re a boy, you’re the same age. you start crying. your parents say “stop crying, don’t be a baby” and the doctors just start laughing. your sibling pulls out their phone and starts recording you, because you’re being “so dramatic” and you’re acting like such a pussy, right? you finish, the needle is out, and your family makes fun of you the whole way back home, and your sibling posts the video they just took on facebook.

boys, you’re allowed to be sad. you’re allowed to have feelings. you should be able to stand up for yourself, you can make a good argument.

your feelings matter.

I just ran across a rage post about “men’s reproductive rights” and honestly I’m just confused, I mean been a while since middle school health, but I seem to remember the way it goes is a man has an orgasm and a woman has a baby, that is to say the ladies do all the reproducing, so what reproductive rights can a man have? Or is this 100% a Men’s Rights bullshit code word about owning a woman’s uterus?

Shout out to guys who are insecure about their dick.

Shoutout to guys who love themselves for how they were born.

Shoutout to guys because the size of your dick does not dictate your masculinity or your attraction.

Shoutout to guys who have been told their entire lives they weren’t good enough, not big enough.

Shoutout to men who have always been presented with only two options, the model body or the chubby body.

Shoutout to guys who have escaped abusive relationships and know they’re worth better.

Shoutout to guys who have/are experiencing sexism.

Shoutout to guys who’s problems are belittled and are simply told to “man up.”

Shoutout to guys who don’t know how to express themselves because of stigma around showing emotion and being “masculine.”

Shoutout to guys, because you don’t hear it enough and we all need positivity at the end of the day 😉

One of the reasons why Manuary is so important:

One of my friends was in love with a girl for a long time. Now they are in a relationship and he’s so happy. He wants to buy her roses, always talks about how wonderful and beautiful she is and treats her like a queen. It’s so sweet to see how much he loves her.

But then New Year’s Eve happened. It was planned that he spends his night with a friend but it changed last minute and he spent it with his best friend. When his girlfriend asked where he was on NYE, he told her about it, realized he hadn’t told her and apologized for not informing her earlier. She went completely nuts. Said he lied to her and that you always have to tell your girlfriend where you’re going. He apologized and asked if she could forgive him and she just answered “we’ll see”. She guilt-tripped him to the point he was almost crying and said shit about himself so maybe she could forgive him. He asked me what to do, I told him to ask her why it was so important to her to know where exactly he was and why she’s so upset now. Her answer? “You don’t know? Think about it 👐” He’s so afraid she’ll dump him for simply forgetting to tell her immediately that his plans changed.

Girls, don’t do this shit to your partners, especially when they apologized a THOUSAND TIMES. It can happen. Stress can distract you. They can’t always tell where they’re going. And if they ask why it upset you so much so they know what to do and what to avoid, fucking tell them and stop being so shitty. Being afraid of losing him? Having so low self-esteem that you’re afraid he maybe lied to you to not spend time with you? Or because he may cheat on you? No. Excuse. Tell him about your fears. Be honest and not a fucking controll-freak.

Guys, don’t let girls do this to you. Don’t let them guilt-trip you into thinking you’re a horrible person for not telling them immediately where you’re going. And if they dump you for this mistake, they weren’t worthy your time.

I’ve seen a huge amount of girls who are like this and they went from controll-freak to abuser. Of course not everyone is like this but they exist. It’s not okay to do this shit to your partner. And we need to teach men that they don’t have to put up with a woman like that.

I had no idea but apparently it's international mens day, ya'll get out there and celebrate

Here’s a quick rant- it makes me really mad that men’s rights is just about opposing feminism and mocking women’s rights. Instead of talking about toxic masculinity or the pressure on men to sleep with a lot of girls or something, MRA activists just make fun of women. They aren’t actually their for men. They don’t care about teaching men how to oppose patriarchal structures. So men’s rights has become a joke movement just to mock feminism -_-

As Ruth Bader Ginsburg, quoting a California judicial opinion, told the Supreme Court in 1971, “the pedestal upon which women have been placed has all too often, upon closer inspection, been revealed as a cage.” When we declare that men will always be brutes and women can only shrug from on high, we engage in what President George W. Bush once called the soft bigotry of low expectations.