I hope this doesn't offend you, but I'm curious, do you think cis bi women have more privilege or trans bi men? Or do you think it depends on what the latter passes as? I'm just asking as a bi person who is super confused on gender identity and if I do end up as one or the other and I have advantages over the other side I don't want to end up speaking over them.
i mean, i would say…typically yes ((edit: my double negatives are messing me up: i would say typically cis bi women benefit from privilege more than trans bi men))? but there’s so many issues, practically speaking, when you try to quantify or measure privilege that exists on different axes (not to mention the sheer numbers of axes that exist), and tbh it’s really not that useful to do so. it’s like that “how privileged are you” test that was floating around tumblr a couple of years ago. it basically solely exists to give people the moral high ground. if you’re worried about speaking over someone, it’s usually easier to just follow these simple tips:
- if you’re cis, don’t try to tell trans people what it means to be trans or what kind of oppression trans people ~*~actually~*~ face, or what trans friendly advocacy should look like
- similarly, if you’re a man, don’t do the above towards women
- this doesn’t mean “you can’t say anything ever about people of a marginalized group that you’re not a part of” it just means…do your best to listen to people who are actually a part of that group and amplify their voices. like, i sometimes get asked questions about trans issues that i, as a cis woman, am not qualified to answer, so i try to link to things trans people have posted on the subject
- it also doesn’t mean you can’t call people out for being shitty. as a cis bi woman, it’s my responsibility to listen to trans people when they say “hey bi advocacy / mainstream feminism / whatever is often transphobic because they do x, y, and z” and try to not do that
- but it does mean learning to respect other people’s spaces. like, a lot of the pushback i’ve gotten from the “bi girls are great” post fiasco is “bi women don’t deserve their own spaces or positivity because other groups are marginalized too” and that’s just??? patently false???
- like, yes, it’s your responsibility as an activist to strive for inclusive spaces so everyone who identifies as x. so, for example, it’s my responsibility to make sure that my bi girl positivity doesn’t systematically exclude trans girls, or woc. but just because there are people out there who are marginalized who are not bi girls, doesn’t mean that we can’t have advocacy directly for bi girls, u know?
anyways, i hope this makes sense, let me know if you need clarification.