men like this exist

Men always say that as the defining compliment, don’t they? She’s a cool girl. Being the Cool Girl means I am a hot, brilliant, funny woman who adores football, poker, dirty jokes, and burping, who plays video games, drinks cheap beer, loves threesomes and anal sex, and jams hot dogs and hamburgers into her mouth like she’s hosting the world’s biggest culinary gang bang while somehow maintaining a size 2, because Cool Girls are above all hot. Hot and understanding. Cool Girls never get angry; they only smile in a chagrined, loving manner and let their men do whatever they want. Go ahead, shit on me, I don’t mind, I’m the Cool Girl.
Men actually think this girl exists. Maybe they’re fooled because so many women are willing to pretend to be this girl. For a long time Cool Girl offended me. I used to see men – friends, coworkers, strangers – giddy over these awful pretender women, and I’d want to sit these men down and calmly say: You are not dating a woman, you are dating a woman who has watched too many movies written by socially awkward men who’d like to believe that this kind of woman exists and might kiss them. I’d want to grab the poor guy by his lapels or messenger bag and say: The bitch doesn’t really love chili dogs that much – no one loves chili dogs that much! And the Cool Girls are even more pathetic: They’re not even pretending to be the woman they want to be, they’re pretending to be the woman a man wants them to be. Oh, and if you’re not a Cool Girl, I beg you not to believe that your man doesn’t want the Cool Girl. It may be a slightly different version – maybe he’s a vegetarian, so Cool Girl loves seitan and is great with dogs; or maybe he’s a hipster artist, so Cool Girl is a tattooed, bespectacled nerd who loves comics. There are variations to the window dressing, but believe me, he wants Cool Girl, who is basically the girl who likes every fucking thing he likes and doesn’t ever complain. (How do you know you’re not Cool Girl? Because he says things like: “I like strong women.” If he says that to you, he will at some point fuck someone else. Because “I like strong women” is code for “I hate strong women.”)
—  Gillian Flynn, Gone Girl
Stereotypical (6) second date

Bucky Barnes x reader AU (short series)

Notes: angst, mentions of abuse, swearing, flirting, fluff, Bucky is a hopeless romantic.

A/N: Second date with heartfelt conversations.

“So, you didn’t tell her where you’re taking her? Or should I say, how?” Steve snickers and rolls his eyes when he sees Bucky’s mischievous grin.

How I’m taking her? Really, the mouth on you, Rogers..” Bucky grins triumphantly when Steve’s cheeks turn pink and he rolls his eyes again.

“You know what I mean, jerk”

“Yeah, yeah, punk” Bucky snickers. “No, I haven’t told her that I’m picking her up on my motorcycle. But I told her to not bother with her hair and I texted her earlier to wear pants, just in case she was planning to wear a skirt or somethin’”

Steve snorts when Bucky makes a disappointed sigh.

“What?” he chuckles and takes a sip of his own drink, “I like her in skirts”

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The idea of “trans women” reduces womanhood to a set of misogynistic stereotypes about women.

The female body is not a stereotype. And there’s nothing negative about being a person who exists in a female body. There’s nothing wrong or bad or inferior about existing in a female body.

Existing in a female body doesn’t have to be defined by a set of misogynistic stereotypes–like having a nurturing personality, being sweet and sensitive, liking cute things, enjoying getting dressed up, etc..

Every woman, that is, every person who exists in a female body, should not find herself limited to a certain set of roles that men have assigned to her.

Women are rough and rugged, women are loud and assertive, women are wild and hairy and covered with scars, women can be anything and everything we want to be, and still be women.

But if womanhood was defined by existing in the female body, then these mentally ill men wouldn’t have their feelings validated!

No, trans women, just like all men, are invested in enabling patriarchy to exist. Without patriarchal gender roles, trans women have no way of claiming themselves to be women or marking themselves as women.

We all understand that if wlw can be chill and respectful around other women in miniskirts or tank tops or whatever then clothing obviously isn’t the problem… So why isn’t this common knowledge to everyone else?

I think this goes to show that in our culture lesbianism is seen less as a valid orientation and more as a sort of “performance art” for audiences of men. Like our attraction to other women doesn’t exist until there’s a camera or a man watching us… It explains how men can jerk off to “lesbian p*rn” but not support gay marriage. In our culture, “lesbian” doesn’t mean wanting to be with women in every sense of the word for the rest of your life, “lesbian” means being willing to do more things for male audiences.

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Cool Girls never get angry; they only smile in a chagrined, loving manner and let their men do whatever they want. Go ahead, shit on me, I don’t mind, I’m the Cool Girl. 

 Men actually think this girl exists. Maybe they’re fooled because so many women are willing to pretend to be this girl. For a long time Cool Girl offended me. I used to see men – friends, coworkers, strangers – giddy over these awful pretender women, and I’d want to sit these men down and calmly say: You are not dating a woman, you are dating a woman who has watched too many movies written by socially awkward men who’d like to believe that this kind of woman exists and might kiss them.

There’s a type of man who can’t stand a confident self assured woman, and yet it is always the same man who’ll look at a self-deprecating woman and be like ‘she’s fishing for compliments’. Like these men hate women so much, they can’t stand em existing any which way. That’s how you can tell he’s a misogynist without it needing to be blatant, from these little things you can see through their soul.

It started when, in his distress and desire to escape the Manor, his mother, and everything magical, Draco had started taking frequent, and increasingly random trips into Muggle London. At first, it was absolutely terrifying. He could write a comedy of errors on all his mishaps and faux pas.  But then, it became a thing that he did, just for his enjoyment. He’s never spoken to anyone about it, not even Greg.

On Friday nights he goes to the same gay club he practically stumbled into once when he was bored and looking for something to do. The first time he was there, he was overwhelmed. He didn’t know places existed where men like him could simply get drunk and fuck each other. He didn’t know about strobe lights, or DJs. He didn’t know how easy it was to get fucked. But he learned pretty fast.

On Wednesdays he goes to IKEA. He has no idea why, just that the place fascinates him. On Sundays he goes to the park. Any park. He wanders. He sits. He looks. Muggles still fascinate him. Occasionally they still frighten him. Not that he’d admit that to anyone.’
—  Just One of Those Things by Kedavranox

plsdontalktome  asked:

What actual rights are women denied in the west? As in by the law? Go ahead... You'll find that women have more rights than men in terms of law

*sighs* could you maybe search my tags first? You’d find about 5 other asks with this same question. I’m going to copy and paste this answer from another post I made. 

Theoretically, women are equal under the law. And yet, when you look at the numbers… 


Note: This is copied and pasted from this post.

You say rape culture doesn’t exist. And yet:

Next, this is copied and pasted from one of my own posts that I keep open to refute people like you. “Women hold power over men”. Let’s see:

  • 1 out of every 6 American women have experienced attempted or completed rape. This number is higher for certain demographics - for example, 1 in 3 indigenous/native American women will be raped in her lifetime.
  • This number is even higher for trans women (1 in 5)
  • Men are told they cannot be raped and their experiences are invalidated.
  • Being feminine is degrading in our society - hence, gendered slurs and statements
  • Many people (especially male senators in the GOP) think they have the right to control [what they perceive to be women]’s reproductive organs and dictate what they do with their bodies.
  • The Senate is only composed of 20% women.
  • A shit ton of people (including a lot of “feminists”) don’t consider trans women to be women.
  • Young men (and women) like Brock Turner still exist, and judges like Aaron Persky are still in office. The Brock Turner case was not an exception.
  • White women make 75% of what a white man makes for the same job, while black women make 63%, Latina women make 54%, and Asian women make 85%. Fucking President Obama himself acknowledged the wage gap. Don’t you come to me and say it doesn’t exist without adequate sources.
  • There are still trolls that attack me on Tumblr and Twitter, calling me slurs and threatening to rape me, simply for wanting equal rights. (Almost all other feminist blogs can attest to this). Sorry, but feminists aren’t the ones spewing rape and death threats.
  • Women are afraid to say no to unwanted advances because they could very well be hurt, but then they are criticized for “not being clear” and showing “mixed signals”.
  • People like Donald Trump can run for president and actually stand a chance at winning.
  • College students, when surveyed, said they believed that about 50% of rape allegations made were false, when really, the number is 2-8% - about the same as other crimes.
  • People still think it’s okay to catcall women. Street harassment is a problem that affects ALL women and it’s at the hands of men.
  • Young girls are forced into marriages worldwide (including in the United States!)
  • There are no regulations to ensure that sex workers are kept safe. Even if they choose to work in the sex industry (as opposed to being trafficked) they can still be assaulted or murdered, and they have no government protections.
  • Sex trafficking victims can actually be imprisoned themselves for prostitution.

Tag reads “#bc uh the aids crisis is what made the lgbt ‘community’ lmao”

Discourse level: blanketly accusing the group of people you disagree with for ignoring LGBTQ+ history while also ignoring the rights movements that existed before the AIDS crisis that formed the community…i.e. ignoring LGBTQ+ history.

Uhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Men always say that as the defining compliment, don’t they? She’s a cool girl. Being the Cool Girl means I am a hot, brilliant, funny woman who adores football, poker, dirty jokes, and burping, who plays video games, drinks cheap beer, loves threesomes and anal sex, and jams hot dogs and hamburgers into her mouth like she’s hosting the world’s biggest culinary gang bang while somehow maintaining a size 2, because Cool Girls are above all hot. Hot and understanding. Cool Girls never get angry; they only smile in a chagrined, loving manner and let their men do whatever they want. Go ahead, shit on me, I don’t mind, I’m the Cool Girl.

Men actually think this girl exists. Maybe they’re fooled because so many women are willing to pretend to be this girl. For a long time Cool Girl offended me. I used to see men – friends, coworkers, strangers – giddy over these awful pretender women, and I’d want to sit these men down and calmly say: You are not dating a woman, you are dating a woman who has watched too many movies written by socially awkward men who’d like to believe that this kind of woman exists and might kiss them. I’d want to grab the poor guy by his lapels or messenger bag and say: The bitch doesn’t really love chili dogs that much – no one loves chili dogs that much! And the Cool Girls are even more pathetic: They’re not even pretending to be the woman they want to be, they’re pretending to be the woman a man wants them to be. Oh, and if you’re not a Cool Girl, I beg you not to believe that your man doesn’t want the Cool Girl. It may be a slightly different version – maybe he’s a vegetarian, so Cool Girl loves seitan and is great with dogs; or maybe he’s a hipster artist, so Cool Girl is a tattooed, bespectacled nerd who loves comics. There are variations to the window dressing, but believe me, he wants Cool Girl, who is basically the girl who likes every fucking thing he likes and doesn’t ever complain. (How do you know you’re not Cool Girl? Because he says things like: “I like strong women.” If he says that to you, he will at some point fuck someone else. Because “I like strong women” is code for “I hate strong women.”)

headcanon/meta about christine and relationships :

okay angels i’ve been thinking about this a lot honestly and this is just a rant ? because i noticed christine ( as much as a lovable and kind person she is ) is very hard to actually love someone romantically. she has men who are her best friends and she immediately makes it as such no matter how good looking they are. which honestly is surprising to me considering who she is. she’s very forgiving , very compassionate , innocent and naive however when it comes to romance and people pursuing her ; christine immediately shuts it down ( if it’s not raoul and erik mind you this is her mind set apart from them ) however in the film , christine never once says i love you to either of the men. in final lair she does mouth it to raoul but , although its a wonderful addition , i don’t really count it ? seeing as she knew what she was going to do she wanted to give confirmation to raoul that she still cared for him and , expecting to stay with erik for the remainder of her life have raoul leave with knowing she did it to free him , not because of anything else. 

in all i ask of you christine seeks out protection and guidance , she wants confirmation that raoul does love her which is why she repeats ‘ say you love me ‘ over and over but not i love you because the man who she did care for and thought was her angel turned out to be a lie, her world literally shattered before her eyes and now she doesn’t know what to believe and how to believe freely as she once did. then at the end she repeats again : you’ll guard me and you’ll guide me. but thats another meta tbh but point is , she doesn’t actually voice that she loves him but her need to be protected and guided in her time of fear and confusion.

considering christine had wonderful familial/platonic relationships with men more than woman. i headcanon her mother died during childbirth so her examples of love mostly revolve around her father and raoul who were both very positive then erik who honestly i headcanon was positive as well before it all went downhill and erik was you know an asshole but. christine can love easily but not fall in love easily. she’s very guarded and introverted as is but even more so when it comes to relationships. her example of woman is madame giry who , although in the movie was a good mother figure , is still walking down that line of both mentor , stern ballet instructor and guardian. so it isn’t really pure motherly affection. meg is her sister practically whom she loves with her entire heart but the other ballet rats and other women are envious and bully her. which explains why christine latches onto meg so much.

both men also have a connection with her father , which is sadly something that she will never truly accept. that her father is gone and the best for her is to move on but with both men they revive memories involving him ( raoul ) or are entirely connected to him as in sent by him and the passion for music she once shared with him ( erik ) cause although christine knows of the betrayal and all that ; erik will always be her angel of music. 

so tldr : christine takes romantic love very seriously , she does not pursue romantic relationships aside from the two men in canon because shes more focused on what’s going on with her life and career ; herself per say. it’s either she makes them her close friend or she just shies away completely. and i do believe christine opened up to raoul because one : was her childhood sweetheart. he is her best friend. he is , aside from meg and he is so easy to fall in love with. he is loving and warm and reminds her of good memories hence her line : turn my head with talk of summertime in AIOY. summertime is the time they were children and at her father’s house by the sea. christine in my portrayal loves Erik but she is still unsure of who he is , only that there is good in him. their dynamic is very powerful but it is still very difficult.

  • Some guy: ur such a cool girl :-)
  • Me: Men always say that as the defining compliment, don’t they? She’s a cool girl. Being the Cool Girl means I am a hot, brilliant, funny woman who adores football, poker, dirty jokes, and burping, who plays video games, drinks cheap beer, loves threesomes and anal sex, and jams hot dogs and hamburgers into her mouth like she’s hosting the world’s biggest culinary gang bang while somehow maintaining a size 2, because Cool Girls are above all hot. Hot and understanding. Cool Girls never get angry; they only smile in a chagrined, loving manner and let their men do whatever they want. Go ahead, shit on me, I don’t mind, I’m the Cool Girl. Men actually think this girl exists. Maybe they’re fooled because so many women are willing to pretend to be this girl. For a long time Cool Girl offended me. I used to see men – friends, coworkers, strangers – giddy over these awful pretender women, and I’d want to sit these men down and calmly say, You are not dating a woman, you are dating a woman who has watched too many movies written by socially awkward men who’d like to believe that this kind of woman exists and might kiss them. I’d want to grab the poor guy by his lapels or messenger bag and say: The bitch doesn’t really love chili dogs that much – no one loves chili dogs that much! And the Cool Girls are even more pathetic: They’re not even pretending to be the woman they want to be, they’re pretending to be the woman a man wants them to be. Oh, and if you’re not a Cool Girl, I beg you not to believe that your man doesn’t want the Cool Girl. It may be a slightly different version – maybe he’s a vegetarian, so Cool Girl loves seitan and is great with dogs; or maybe he’s a hipster artist, so Cool Girl is a tattooed, bespectacled nerd who loves comics. There are variations to the window dressing, but believe me, he wants Cool Girl, who is basically the girl who likes every fucking thing he likes and doesn’t ever complain. (How do you know you’re not Cool Girl? Because he says things like: “I like strong women.” If he says that to you, he will at some point fuck someone else. Because “I like strong women” is code for “I hate strong women.”)