Fall Fashion for Trans Guys Who May or May Not Still Be Closeted
In my opinion, Autumn is probably the best time to be a trans guy! Just look at what comes up when you search “men’s fall fashion!”
But why does this make me so happy? Because it instantly gets cold enough for big sweaters, long-sleeved plaid shirts, closed-toed shoes and long pants. And what’s more, the department stores carry this clothing in bulk.
But what if you’re not really out yet? What if you can’t sneak over to the boys’/men’s section while you’re clothes shopping with mom?
The most besterest thing about fall is you can find all these things also in the girls’/women’s section.
Some things that can be a closeted, dysphoric trans guy’s best friends during fall:
Boyfriend pants. I shit you not, they’re literally fitted like men’s pants. Buy them a size larger than you need and you’re instantly presenting as masculine, and make sure they’re not cuffed. The pockets are big, and if you can’t find them at walmart, the best brand I found is on wish.com by the store helen belli. They’re soft, inexpensive, durable, and arrive in about 2 weeks.
Button up white shirts. Women’s button up whites are easy enough to find, but they’re often fitted in the waist and have little boob-pockets. So what do you do?
Stick a vest or a nice sweater over it! Vests and sweaters are always available in stores during fall and winter. Buy some in different colors that make you feel more masculine. Maybe buy a size larger than you need if you feel self-conscious about the fit around your bust or waist area.
Large sweaters and sweatshirts! These were my life-saver in my youth. I would get the most neutral-looking ones (usually black or gray) and I would buy them two or three sizes too large. They would engulf me and give me a shapeless figure, which I loved. Worn with a pair of baggy pants, or cargo-shorts my brother outgrew, this outfit gave me a less-feminine appearance and helped make me feel more like myself.
Beanies and knitted scarves! Beanies. They’re good for attempting to tuck up your hair (bobby pins are your bffs in this case), or if you have a short cut they’re good at hiding it if mom likes to style your hair like a cute little pixie cut or with little clips and such before you leave for school. I never went anywhere without my beanie. And why scarves? I never liked them, but they can be used in different ways to hide a thin, feminine neckline or collar bones, or just because scarves look cool and keep you warm.
Socks and shoes? So, my sock choice was always meant to make my legs look more boyish. Now I like crazy socks. But if you’re looking for less femininity in your ankles, mid-length black or white athletic socks are good. And shoes are generally neutral, go for a pair of black or tan vans, or some kind of high tops or hiking boots, and you’re good to go!
Plaid. Enough said ;)
I hope this has helped, It is in no way intended to uphold gender roles, only to help those of us who wish to feel more comfortable in our own bodies.
They look so uncomfortable together. They were in love but closeted. They went on double dates or met at a theater, entering at different times and exiting out the fire exit so no one would see them together. It was impossible. They broke up.
“I always consider my job just as someone working in an office. Past 5 P.M., I lead my very own existence far from the cameras. It’s essential for an actor to clearly separate private life from work… essential for me, anyway.”
Straight popular comedians (such as Alec Baldwin and Stephen Colbert) just adore the idea of portraying disgusting, violent political figures as closeted gay men. It’s so funny, isn’t it, painting people who wish death and pain to us gays as being gay themselves? It’s almost as if straights didn’t want to deal with the concept of homophobia being still very much a thing that exists, and and tried to pin the fault of the horrible, horrible things that happen to us to gay people themselves. So much fun!!
To anyone who is in the closet,
You are still valid.
You are your gender.
Your sexuality and/or gender is not a phase.
You deserve to be happy.
Keep fighting for transitioning if that’s what you want.
In time you will get your name change.
Don’t let anyone get you down.
Talk to someone if you feel down in the dumps.
Make sure you eat three meals and drink plenty of water.
You are my brother/sister/sibling.
Stay strong and know that people won’t be able to imagine a world without you in it!
Closeted lesbians who have to pretend to like men, closeted lesbians who have boyfriends to keep their cover, closeted lesbians who can’t dress the way they want to, closeted lesbians who can’t transition and have to pretend to be men, and closeted lesbians who are closeted for their own physical safety are all good lesbians. I promise you one day it won’t have to be like this, and you’ll be able to be freely and authentically you, but until then, know that I am proud of you and that I love you. You are so strong and one day it won’t hurt like this anymore💖💖