anonymous asked:

almost all my friends have steady relationships, but i dont even like anyone. sometimes it frustrates me so much that i would give a chance to any guy who shows interest in me. all because i dont like being alone. sometimes i convince myself that maybe i was never meant to be with someone for the rest of my life. in any relationship ive had, i have given all I could but it is always the same old story. "you are a nice girl.. blahh blah, but you just arent the one for me." its getting tiring now.

Weeeelllll, this is interesting. First of all I’d like to say that alot of people are or have been in the same situation as you. People want something, someone even in their lives, so much that they are willing to do anything to get it. Majority of the things people do include: 

  • Being too available! (virtually meaning you drop anything and everything just for them)
  • Spending too much money on the person of interest.
  • Putting up with unacceptable behaviour. (Violence in the relationship for example)

Do you find yourself doing any of the above?? 

I understand that you are supposed to give in a relationship but you can’t be the only one who is giving. You said something in there about giving all that you have in every relationship and getting the same results… Are you starting to see what the common occurrence is here? Because I am. That is intended in a totally no offence way. I admire your efforts towards your previous relationships, I really do. But I just think you are taking the wrong approach on things. Don’t let it be all about them! People value things that come to easily and take it for granted. On another note, people won’t value you if you don’t value yourself! It takes two people to be in a relationship so important to give yourself prudently. That is not me encouraging you to play games. Just warning you to be careful. You don’t need to prove yourself to boys that you are the perfect person for them because you run around after then and do everything they want! That’s the way to be labled as “You just aren’t the one for me.” and I don’t think anyone would disagree with that. Think about if you really do need a relationship to be happy, if the answer is yes then the next question is what kind of relationship do you need to be happy? Know what you want then things will start falling into place. I can promise you that! There are 682,590,0000 people on earth. The chances are of you finding someone who gives as much as he gets are very high. But in the meantime, nothing should be stopping you from being happy on your own. Not everything is about relationships. Who cares if your friends are all in relationships. Live your life while you can still do what you want. I don’t know about anyone else but I certainly don’t like to be tied down. I’m still young and my guess is as good as anyone else’s that so are you. Embrace that whilst you can. The only thing that is stopping you from being happy without a man is yourself. That is the best I can come up with right now. I hope you take all that I have said into consideration, it would be a shame if you go out and continue to give your all only for it to be thrown back in your face. also megan do you have anything to say about this? I could be completely wrong in your opinion..

- Zara x